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| Secrets of the Heart? |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/19/02 at 02:53:45 |
| salam and good day to all Someone I know told me about her past relation with someone dear to her before I get to know her. Since I know her, she seems like a good and honest person. The thing is she told me not so good things about that person like telling lies which was reasons why she ended their relation. I have never meet,talk or know this person personally and I must say I only learned about his personality from the stories she told me. Because I think/see her as a good and honest person, I somehow believe he is as what she told me and has been thinking that he is a bad person and she did the right thing to cut the relation. Recently she told that the person contacted and asked her forgiveness. He wished that she could give him another chance since she is not attached to anyone yet. They were already talking about marriage before she cut the relation. She showed me the letter wrote by the person and I kinda told her he was telling lies again. I said so based on the stories happened between them (as she told) and the things he wrote in the letter. There seemed to be contradiction between her words and his since if based on her stories and his letter. Insha allah I will be going my for Hajj early next year. In one of the Hajj courses there was a talk on purification of the heart. What bothered my mind was the speaker talked about us judging our brother and sister. He said we are all Slaves of Allah Subhanahu Wata'ala so only Allah has the right to judge his Slaves. Just because we think we are honest and doing good deeds does not mean we are more superior than other human being for Allah knows the secret of each hearts and we do not. What crossed my mind was I have been judging that guy based on my friend stories and her perceptions on him while I have never really know him in person. True, she seems like a good and honest person to me but should I judged him based on her stories only and furthermore I even told her that he was lying in his letter and she agreed. Perhaps despite of his lies to her in the past he really cares a great deal about her. He could be serious in asking for another chance to build a family with her and I judged he was not honest about that. He could even have reasons to lie to her maybe not to make fun of her but was afraid of losing her. How could I know what was he thinking when he lied to her for those are secrets of his heart. For all that I know now, I could have done injustice to him by judging. I could have at least listen stories from both sides before making judgement based on one side no matter how good and honest that person is. |
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