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| How 2 explain hijab to young children? |
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| Sabr |
| 11/21/02 at 10:10:30 |
| [slm] I am faced with a dilemma ! ...How can 1 explain hijab to young children ages 3-5, whose mother and sisters don't wear it !! :([color=Red][/color] They keep asking .."Miss how come u wear d hijaab and my mom is muslima and she doesn't "? what do I say 2 them....please help... :-/ sis sabr [wlm] |
| Re: How 2 explain hijab to young children? |
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| Kathy |
| 11/22/02 at 07:54:41 |
| [slm] " Well honey, Muslimahs are supposed to, so maybe your Mom is not ready to wear one, yet." |
| Re: How 2 explain hijab to young children? |
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| Sabr |
| 11/22/02 at 10:24:29 |
| Thanx Cathy ,,,,thats a good reply ,,,,, :) :-* Don't know y i did not think of it before!!!!.....i just kept avoiding the question!! |
| 11/22/02 at 10:33:15 |
| Sabr |
| Re: How 2 explain hijab to young children? |
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| EMILY |
| 11/22/02 at 13:47:50 |
| Salaamu Alykum! I am having somewhat of the same problem. I wear hijab but to try and get my five year old to wear it is like pulling teeth! Her father and I are no longer together and he is not a Muslim and does not want her to wear it or pray or do anything that has to do with being a Muslim. I just became Muslim in May of this year and am finding this is that this is just one of the many dilemmas to deal with Alhuduallah! Masalaama |
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| Saffiyah |
| 11/22/02 at 14:42:52 |
| [slm] [move]:-X Welcome Sr Emily to the boards :-X[/move] Congratulations on becoming a Muslim :-X I was so happy to read this! I ask Allah to help u through ur struggles and tests that you will face, and that He keep ur eeman strong, ameen. I just wanted to offer sum advice in reply to ur dilemma with ur daughter. As she is quite young, I dont think u have to worry about her wearing hijaab and praying, although if she wishes to do it and pray with u, then this shouldn't be discouraged (My niece likes copying the actions of prayer when we pray eg she lies completly on the floor when doing the sujood...its funny :D) Neway...as she is quite young..she'll probably want to imitate what you do, so if you wear hijab and pray, she will want to imitate that. But if she is forced to do, this may push her away and not do it at all. It isnt compulsory for her to do it until she is at the age of puberty. I can understand that it may be hard, especially if her father doesnt wish for her to follow this path...but inshaAllah, make dua and give her time and explain why you pray and wear hijab and this may help her. Plz forgive me if I have offended you in any way..and i hope you are able to deal with the dilemma that face u. Remember, Allah (SWT) does not give us a burden which is more then we can handle. Have patience and make dua. If u have further questions or problems, there are many brother and sisters on this board who will be willing to help, inshaAllah Take care Wasalam |
| Re: How 2 explain hijab to young children? |
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| oneway2paradise |
| 11/23/02 at 16:39:44 |
| [slm] For sister Emily, Congratulations on being Muslim!! Just to let you know, we begin teaching the children to pray at age 7 and spank them for not praying at age 10. Of course when they are younger than that, it's ok to try and include them and they will begin to imitate you like the other sister said. But don't mention how much they don't do. Praise her for every little thing like, "oh wow, you did so good, you stood next to me quietly for the first rakah. I am so proud. I bet tomorrow you can do it even longer." This was advice from a Muslim couple who wrote a book called "Parenting in the West." I would highly recommend it. They did a seminar at our masjid. The following quesitons you don't have to answer for us, just think about it. How much involvement does you ex-husband have in your daughter's life. Can he take some kind of legal action against you for trying to raise your daughter as a Muslim? I don't know what can happen with the way things are now. Have you attended a local masjid? Are there any Islamic schools where you can enroll your daughter? Or even a Sunday School program at the masjid? Try meeting other Muslim women with children. Spend time with them and let your daughter be around them as much as possible. Insha Allah, she will want to be like them. Talk about Allah in a positive way. Talk about Islam in a positive way. [slm] Amber :-) |
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| EMILY |
| 11/25/02 at 18:30:03 |
| Asalaamu Alykum! Where can I find a copy of that book? Also in the area I live in we do not have only but one masjid and the others that are not in my area are kinda of out of reach for me. I do not drive so I take the bus I could look into some classes for the both of us. I don't think their Dad would even think about it he never signed their birth certificate so he does not have to my right s to them as far as the state is concerned. As far as schools there is one in the state of Washington (Seattle) and it is expensive!!! Thank you so much for your advice. Take care. Masalaama, Emily |
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| oneway2paradise |
| 11/26/02 at 01:37:17 |
| [slm] Emily: I sent you a private message because I know some sisters in your location, so make sure you read that, insha Allah. I want to post information about the book because someone else might want to know. You can go to the Astrolabe website at [url]www.islamicmedia.com [/url] Then just go to the books section or do a search. Again, it's called Parenting in the West. Masha Allah, the authors are very kind people and have experience with their children. People kept asking them how they did it so they decided to write a book and do seminars for other people. They even teach a class at the Islamic American University. It's a correspondence course so you can study from home. [slm] |
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