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| How to be a good wife |
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| ann |
| 12/14/02 at 16:36:31 |
| It sad to say, but my parents ( my mom) never taught me how to be a good wife. I have been married for 2 years and it seems like I am not doing everything right. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to be a good wife or any good books that I could read on the subject. Also if anyone has any dua's that you know of on having more pateince with your husband and kids. Thank for your help :-* salam ann |
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| Kathy |
| 12/14/02 at 20:07:30 |
| [slm] What exactly are you doing wrong? Need more details! |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 12/18/02 at 21:34:23 |
| [slm] Dear Sister, I deeply reccomend you to go to the advice section on www.everymuslim.com( you have to scroll down there). There is beautiful advice. Also go to www.themuslimwoman.com in the marriage section and there is this most beautiful advice that insh'Allah i intend to practise when i get married (pray for me plz) called "His before yours" here is the link: http://www.themuslimwoman.com/marriage/hisbeforeyours.htm there is also more advice in islamworld.net on marriage section .....just browse. Sister its nice to know you would like be a better wife/mother I hope to God that your husband also wishes to be a better husband/father. There is also advice for men in these sites. Hope they help Your Sister |
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| Barr |
| 12/19/02 at 01:10:16 |
| Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullah [quote]Show him as much honour and respect as you can, and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation.[/quote] The quote above is from the website "His before Yours" above. I'm not so sure about the statement and agree with him as much as you can, so that he will enjoy your companionship and conversation As much as I disagree with being a disagreeable person, I'm not sure what kind of consultation (shura) and a great conversation would be if a wife keeps on agreeing with her husband as much as she can. If there r any points of disagreement, then deal with it amicably and observe the adab of disagreements with hikmah. Allahua'lam... perhaps there r other views. |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 12/19/02 at 13:46:01 |
| [slm] My Dear Sister , you know the reason I really like that advice is because it gives a reason to why you should act this way towards your husband. "Agree with him as [u][/u] ." So my sister this means dont agree blindly, but dont disagree for no reason either. He is your hubby and you are his wifee:) so both should agree to things are apropiate and this makes the other happy. This advice is to a daughter and the woman is so correct (may Allah reward her) when she says "be like a servant to him and he will be like a servant to you" The Qur'an says to repel a bad act with a good one..and the enemy will become a close friend. Alhumdulilah. If you continuously give he will give back...and giving and sacrificing leads to a happy marriage. Just remember this is all for the sake of Allah first, and then you will do everything with pleasure. |
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