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| BUSHRA |
| 01/10/02 at 08:12:11 |
| [slm] I was just curious if anyone at this board has toddlers or kids who have just started school/nursery/kindergarten etc or are expecting new baby arrival? How do u cope with young children , dou find it hard , fulfilling , satisfying? My son will be turning 5 this august and my daughter 2 in march,INSHALLAH and lately it seems everything's happening too fast, I can barely keep up with them. just wondering if anyone else felt the same way. BUSHRA. |
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| Dawn |
| 01/11/02 at 08:28:37 |
| Bushra, I am the proud (and exhausted) mother of an 11 month old daughter. I have discovered that, while I love my daughter dearly, infancy is not my favorite stage of childhood. The first six months were, for me, very hard, as the amount of interaction was quite limited. The older she gets, and the more capable she gets in communicating, the easier it is getting. I know some women revel in the early stage of child development, but I found it totally mind numbing -- lots to keep the hands busy, little to challenge the intellect. I was bored out of my mind and was climbing the walls. It is getting better, but I still find myself restless, more often than not. It may sound funny, but I am looking forward to the time when I can "barely keep up with her". I guess I am just learning patience, whether I want to or not. Dawn |
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| MorningStar |
| 01/11/02 at 12:00:26 |
| Sister Bushra, I know exactly where you're coming from! My son is going to be 5 in May (inshallah) and our second child is due in July (inshallah). I am also currently working full time, so yes I do sometimes find it very difficult to cope! Pre-schoolers as you know, can be very demanding. I find that Hasan has so much energy, even at the end of the day. I get tired just watching him, sometimes it's almost as though he's still got an invisible umbilical cord attached to me and is zapping my energy from me :-) Having said all that though, I wouldn't be without him for the world! It's great teaching him knew things, taking him to new places, watching his eyes light up when he's praised for doing something good, his cheeky smile...and even putting up with his occasional temper tantrums and stubborn-ness! I find what works for me is to try and maintain some sort of routine, especially during the week when I'm at work and my son is at nursery, (although it's easier said than done). On Sunday mornings, I usually make a couple of curries and spend most of the morning in the kitchen. I like to take Hasan in the kitchen with me, and he normally sits at the table, coloring, painting, reading or whatever we decide to do that morning. We normally have Islamic songs on in the background and I find it's a nice time to talk to him, occasionally he even helps me out with the cooking! Bushra, I also find it difficult to cope with Hasan at times, but then I think about how lucky I am to be a mother at all. I have to keep reminding myself to enjoy his childhood, because kids just grow up too quickly these days... Take care and enjoy your kids while they are still young... :-) Sabiha |
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| tq |
| 01/11/02 at 14:46:29 |
| Assalamo elikuim Life – what life :) ? “How do u cope with young children , dou find it hard , fulfilling , satisfying? “ Actually all three of the above . My younger one will be 5 in May too, Inshallah – older one is seven. Time passes so fast I keep asking them how have they become so big !! Mashallah as they are growing, it is getting hard to keep up with them . Mashallah my older one helps me a lot – younger one is another story :), but Alahmdullah he likes to copy his bhai Jan (big brother) and so tries to act big. I also try to cook on the weekend but still there are so many things to do everyday in the evening (dinner, packing lunches, homework etc etc) it looks like I am always doing something. What I usually do is when I am cooking etc in the evening my older one sits and does his homework and younger one plays around(read “ makes mess” ). My kids love mixing stuff so whenever I am baking brownies, cookies (which is almost everyweek) they do most of the work :) (three cheers for Betty Crocker!!) . In the night when I put them to bed, we have what we call “Hamara(Our) Time” that is the time when me and my older one do nothing but just talk for 25-30 minutes while the younger one usually jumps on us :) Life is sure very busy with them but it is worth it :) and you know what i woudlnt even know what to do with free time if i have now(OK this was joke , i wouldnt mind having free time :)) Wasalam tq |
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| BUSHRA |
| 01/12/02 at 18:52:57 |
| [SLM] JAZAKULLAH to all for their replies. Its nice to hear from mothers going through with pretty much what I am. For me the favorite stage of infancy is newborns to about 15 -18 months and then everything starts with a boom. Weaning them off bottles ,pacifiers , potty training and of course their is my favorite trying to feed them a decent meal apart from the healthy supply of ribena spills , juice spills and oh more ribena spills.(lol) But it is at the same time incredibly rewarding , I love talking and interacting with my kids, doing rhymes and their favorite stories. My son has also recently started reading his qaida (arabic alphabets for quran) which is my current challenge. Anybody with useful tips on how to? Also I have recently weaned my daughter off her pacifier and want to start potty training. well thats all my mommy stuff, BUSHRA. |
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| BroHanif |
| 01/13/02 at 12:29:04 |
| AWW, A post froma dad. Last night the little monste sorry my daughter kept me awake till 2am in the morning. And she's only 6 months. Man its hard, but all good fun. salaams Hanif |
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| Rehana |
| 01/14/02 at 04:39:48 |
| [slm] My daughter is 7 and my son completed 3, Alhumdulillah :) I found the experiences with both to be different. Whilst my daughter kept us up for most of 3 months, my son slept day and night for most of the first 4 months! [color=green][i]You do realise, that this could be a dangerous thread hey ;-D - I mean, once you get parents talking about their kids, there is NO END!! (just kidding!) 8-);) [/color][/i] [slm] |
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| princess |
| 01/15/02 at 00:12:00 |
| as'salaamualikum ;-D aw man :) mashAllah, i didn't know we had soo many parents on this board :) and i had no idea brohanif was a daddy-o :o but mabrook to u all :) i don't have any kids (yet ;)), lekin i have little neice and nephews..(they r 8, 6, and almost 4 ;-D) and [i]they[/i] r soo grown up..it blows my mind :) but alhamdulillah..can't keep them contained in a small box forever..:) (believe me, i've tried ;)) |
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| Hania |
| 01/15/02 at 05:09:02 |
| [quote]AWW, A post froma dad. Last night the little monste sorry my daughter kept me awake till 2am in the morning. And she's only 6 months. Man its hard, but all good fun. salaams Hanif[/quote] 'Daughter, Father, Hanif?' 'Hanif a father?............Father, Daughter?' Okay I'm composed now I have the image in my head and comprehend. Wait one last one, 'Hanif a father!?' With all that talk about Bagpuss I thought Hanif was in his teens! Boy did that one fly over my head! Brother Hanif why do you want a Bagpuss when you have a cute little Bagpuss of your own mashallah. Cries,eats,poos and sleeps all without battery operation! :) For all the crying she does I bet her one smile, her one kiss, her little fingers against your cheek make your heart beat faster :) |
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| BroHanif |
| 01/15/02 at 13:41:32 |
| AWW, Abufatimah= father of Fatimah, I thought this was clear, some of you need some lessonz in Arabic. :) [quote]Brother Hanif why do you want a Bagpuss when you have a cute little Bagpuss of your own mashallah[/quote] Who said it was for me ? Its for Fatimah, but I will share with her many treasured moments. By the way Sis Hania me and Fatimah are still waiting for bagpus from you. [quote]For all the crying she does I bet her one smile, her one kiss, her little fingers against your cheek make your heart beat faster[/quote] Yeep, she certainly does... but above all, makes me very grateful to my parents for the love and support they gave me over the years. Thank you Allah for providing me with this love and happiness. Salaams Hanif |
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