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| Muslims mass mariage in Rajasthan |
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| Kashif |
| 01/12/02 at 21:39:26 |
| Mass marriage for Rajasthan Muslims By the BBC's Narayan Bareth in Jaipur Marriage is a costly affair in India - but Muslims in the western state of Rajasthan have found a way out. Parents are now turning to the idea of mass marriages where many couples tie the knot under the same roof at the same time. Such ceremonies are organised by community groups and they help parents spread the cost. The Muslim Shah community organised such a ceremony on Sunday in the state capital, Jaipur. Fifty-six couples took their vows at the same time. Cost effective Marriages are a costly affair for an ordinary family in Rajasthan as it involves dowry, gifts traditionally bestowed upon the groom by the bride's family. But it was an emotional moment for Zahira Bano as she saw her two daughters getting married on Sunday. "My two daughters got married at the mass marriage ceremony known as Izatamai Shadi and we only spent 15,000 rupees", she said. If I had organised the marriage myself, it would have cost me at least 100,000 rupees'', a delighted Ms Bano said. One of the organisers of the event, Chaman Shah, says there is no pomp and show in such marriages. Islamic laws He said the organisers charge only about 10,000 rupees for one marriage. But they also give a sum of 8,000 rupees each to the newlyweds and some ornaments to begin their new life. This was the sixth mass marriage in the Shah community in the past few years. A religious scholar of the community, Sayeed Masoom Ali Shah, said such marriages do adhere to Islamic laws. One of the grooms, Mohammed Rafiq, said mass marriages were useful in saving money and time. "I am happy to have got married at this ceremony", he said. A father of one of the grooms, Haji Mohammed Salim, said rather than spending huge amounts of money on marriages, it could be used for educational and other purposes. The giving or receiving of dowry - usually money or gifts - is illegal in India and is punishable under Indian law. But the practice remains widespread in both rural and urban India. http://news.bbc.co.uk/hi/english/world/south_asia/newsid_1750000/1750769. |
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| Re: Muslims mass mariage in Rajasthan |
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| akbalkhan |
| 01/13/02 at 23:02:42 |
| As Salamu ALayka, I do not know what this is all about, but I say, if you can't swing it, don't do it. All that money wasted on big mahr and entertaining guests, it sounds like those families could have something better to do with their money, like help feed the poor in the community, or save it for hard times ahead with these new couples. What's the precedent for doing this besides an unquenchable desire to make marriages mirror the brew haha of the kafir? Isn't there something in the traditions about not making a bigger production of the marriage ceremony than is beyond your means? Regards, Qamar Akbal Kaan |
| Re: Muslims mass mariage in Rajasthan |
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| amal |
| 01/13/02 at 23:19:39 |
| slm, [quote] gifts traditionally bestowed upon the groom by the bride's family. [/quote] :o :o Shouldn't it be the other way round??? [quote] The giving or receiving of dowry - usually money or gifts - is illegal in India and is punishable under Indian law. [/quote] Illegal??? Why??? |
| Re: Muslims mass mariage in Rajasthan |
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| Anik |
| 01/13/02 at 23:58:49 |
| aslaamu alaikum, because fathers started to sell their daughters, or grooms who get presents would marry, divorce then marry, divorce and accumulate wealth. The girl turned into a sort of one-time cash cow for lower income families.. Girls got exploited... see, it wasn';t mahr, it was dowry. Mahr in ISlam is the girl keeps it for herself, what is outlawed is probably the buyign and selling of girls. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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| Kashif |
| 01/14/02 at 18:50:38 |
| assalaamu alaikum I think this was an excellent idea, alhumdulillah. The sky-high costs of marriage, owing to exorbitant mahr demands and high ceremony costs in many parts of the Muslim world can, and too often does lead to the youth falling into sin and all sorts of incorrect behaviour. I think that parents should be proactive in getting their children married at a young age, and since marriage costs are one of the barriers to this happening, whatever helps break this down is a good idea. Kashif Wa Salaam |
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| Re: Muslims mass mariage in Rajasthan |
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| zanfaz |
| 01/15/02 at 01:34:14 |
| [slm] sis Amal, [quote] gifts traditionally bestowed upon the groom by the bride's family. Shouldn't it be the other way round [/quote] yes, it should be the other way around. But sadly, even in muslims marriages, the mahr is usually a small amount, say, from 1000 rupees to 20,000 rupees ( 1 dollor = about 45 rupees) but dowry is generally huge. In most of the societies, a dowry from the bride's side to the groom's side is a norm. The dowry generally consists of cash, jewellery, electronic items such as TV's, refrigerator, washing machine, kitchen utensils, etc. In some societies, the groom's side does come up with an explicit demand before marriage. And in some, it has just become a custom. Even if the groom's side does not come up with demand, a dowry is expected according to the status of the bride's family. Many girls here remain unmarried coz their family is not able to arrange the dowry. [quote] The giving or receiving of dowry - usually money or gifts - is illegal in India and is punishable under Indian law. Illegal Why ??? [/quote] When you read newspapers, reports of dowry deaths are quite common. Husband kills wife coz she did not bring enough dowry. Mother-in-law lits up daugter-in-law because of dowry. These incidents are quite common here in india. Though, most of these incidents involve hindus, there are many that involves muslims also. Though there are various laws against dowry, the percentage of dowry related incidents reported to the law agencies are very low. The giving of dowry from the bride's family to the groom has come from hindu culture. The muslims have taken it from them and have made it a custom here. wassalam Faizan |
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