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| Age Difference? |
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| Anonymous |
| 01/15/02 at 16:18:30 |
| Assalamualaikum:) What do you guys think is the maximum age difference between a husband and wife. Would any of you brothers marry a sister much younger than you. Would any of the sisters marry a younger brother than them? |
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| Ruqqayah |
| 01/15/02 at 16:33:20 |
| slm I think i would marry someone a couple of years younger than me....but more than that? Hey....im only 21 NOT a cradle snatcher! heheheh ;) wlm |
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| eleanor |
| 01/16/02 at 06:26:57 |
| slm The first answer to this is always that the husband is the Amir of the household, someone to guide the family, and therefore it follows that a few more years experience are better, so as to help him make decisions and be comfortable with his authority. However, we need to look no further than Muhammad, Rasulullah, as an example for us to follow. His first wife, Khadija, was a good bit older than him, and his wife, Aysha, was a lot younger than him. So what's the lesson to be learned? There is no fixed recommendation in Islam, which dictates the age gap between husband and wife. Whatever works best for you, go for it. As people get older, the age gap closes. There is a lot of difference between a 25 year old and a 15 year old, in terms of maturity; but once they are 35 and 25 it's closed somewhat, and as time goes on, there is really no difference anymore. We have happy examples on this board from both sides, Alhamdulillah. As for me personally? My husband is 8 years older than me. It works for us. I'm not sure if I would marry a younger guy, but you really can't tell until you've met and discovered how you relate to each other. I hope this wasn't too confusing...just my merry ramble as usual. We had a thread on this before, maybe the Mafia de la Link connection can hook you up there? 8-) wasalaam eleanor |
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| Anik |
| 01/17/02 at 01:17:56 |
| asalamau alikum, Actually, my wife is older than I am, but the funny thing is, she had always assumed that I was "naturally her age" because we are in the same year at university lol and I didn't say anything lol In fact, when she found out, she flipped and by that time (before we were married) it wound't have made a difference about us getting married. And as well, when people make fun of me, I just say its sunnah to be maried to an older woman ;) just like Rasool Allah SAW and Hadrat Khadija RA. Apparently, statistically some of the best marriages are ones with age gaps in between them. Though it must have taken a man like the Prophet SAW (and that's up there) to marry a mature woman while he was a young adult. asalamau alaikum. abdullah,. |
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| se7en |
| 01/19/02 at 23:38:53 |
as salaamu alaykum, we had a discussion on this before [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa&action=display&num=2295]here[/url]. wasalaam :) |
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