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| Anonymous |
| 01/30/02 at 19:30:46 |
| Assalamu'alaikum, In my job, I came across a brother who does not mind whether a sister wears a hijab or not, when considering her for a wife. Rather, he prefers that she doesn't wear one. What can you make out of such a brother? I know that there are practising brothers who won't mind having non-hijabis as wives, but to prefer non-hijabis? I don't want to jump to conclusions or pre-judge him. He may have his reasons (ie. past experience, background). Brothers, can you help me out with this? I have heavy feeling of introducing potential sisters to him, even though those sisters are non-hijabis. Allahua'lam. ~Learning Matchmaker~ |
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| Kashif |
| 01/30/02 at 19:55:41 |
| assalaamu alaikum Curious. Did you ask why he prefers non-hijabis? |
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| Anik |
| 01/31/02 at 00:20:07 |
| asalaamu alaikum, Just like how some sisters have a hard time putting on hijab and getting over the societal pressure, some brothers experience this also, directly with hijab. We often think its only a sisters' thing to have to build up strength... but its also a brothers thing as well. Its gone through together. Some brothers have different expectations and level of taqwa. asalamu alaikum. abdullah,. |
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| mujaahid |
| 01/31/02 at 14:59:39 |
| Assalaamu-alaikum One reason is he may want a wife who will look "good on his arm", and he may feel that a Hijabi wont look good. Thats a Possible reason. But i dont understand why he wants a non-hijabi. I LOVE women in hijab, they look so beautiful and classy! |
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| Anonymous |
| 01/31/02 at 16:56:34 |
| Br Kashif, I did. He said it's just a matter of preference. Thanks a bunch. I really appreciate this. |
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| isra |
| 01/31/02 at 17:22:42 |
| [quote]Assalamu'alaikum, He may have his reasons (ie. past experience, background). . Allahua'lam. ~Learning Matchmaker~ [/quote] As Salamu Alaikum. I cant image any reason in this situation for him. He doesnt like hijab .Maybe I'm wrong. Wassalamu Alaikum |
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| siddiqui |
| 01/31/02 at 23:38:26 |
| assalam alikum May allah swt guide him and all of us towards the straight path Ameen |
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| AyeshaZ |
| 02/05/02 at 12:27:26 |
Asalamu Alykum, Yeah, this particular scenerio is very common in the part of community , where I live. The preconcieved notion of that women in Hijab are less educated or less in other ways. Whatever way they articulate it but SubhanAllah the other day a couple friends of mine and myself were looking at some Isna matrimonials add, yikes they are sooo funny and one of the adds had, only non-hijabs should respond or somthing like that. So anways as Sh.Humza says "Things don't change until perspectives change". I would suggest educating the brother and the opening comes from Allah(swt) inshaAllah May Allah open his heart. and this is a similar case of when some sisters don't want to get married to brothers who grow beards and wear Kuffis. Wallahu Alam JazakumAllahu Khair |
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| isra |
| 02/08/02 at 00:14:12 |
[quote] Asalamu Alykum, and this is a similar case of when some sisters don't want to get married to brothers who grow beards and wear Kuffis. Wallahu Alam JazakumAllahu Khair [/quote] As Salamu Alaikum...This is not similar for me. Hijab is fardz. Wassalamu Alaikum |
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| AyeshaZ |
| 02/08/02 at 19:28:56 |
Asalamu Alykum Wa RahmatuAllah, I know hijab is fardh :) :) jazakumAllahu khair |
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| ABD |
| 02/14/02 at 01:06:48 |
| [slm] I agree with br. isra and sr. Ayesha Z b/c hijab is fardh. I think it'similar to the case where sisters don't want to get married to a bro with beard, but not on the same level, b/c this bro doesn't mind getting married to a hijabi. To tell you the truth, I'm stuck on this and I really don't know if you should inform the bro of any sisters. Maybe an imam or a scholar can help on that subject. just my two cents... [wlm] Betul |
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