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How Long???
amina555
02/03/02 at 11:33:38
Asalamu Alaikum,

How long do you think a sister should get to know a brother before she marries him?  How do you know you are marrying the right one?

Jazak Allahu Khair
Your sister
Amina
Re: How Long???
kiwi25
02/03/02 at 21:45:41
salam,

it depends on the sister amina

how would i know if he is the one?

salatul istikhara is the ONLY and BEST way to go....
so if i get a negative answer, i wont have to wait at all cause the answer is no, if i get a positive answer, then maybe up to 6 months....

wasalam
nouha:)
Re: How Long???
kareema
02/04/02 at 01:43:33
Have to agree with the Istikhara thing, I was engaged for a year and it didn't help me find out about my spouse(it was also mostly long-distance). Some people, I expect will need a shorter time, their true personalities and intents are revealed rather quickly, others are more of the private types, so to gain their confidence can take a while.
Also, it depends on the quality of the time you have together, I didn't have much quality when I talked to my intended, mostly it was about the latest movie and stuff.

I did do Istikhara, for seven days in a row, but I was just left confused and wondering, sometimes I thought I got a negative feeling but I wasn't sure. I wonder what the cause of that was? I thought I did it correctly, I looked up the exact hadith which it is explained.

If you get a positive instikhara, I would say wait 3 months of quality time.


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