Advice needed in giving dawah to the sisters and brothers

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Advice needed in giving dawah to the sisters and brothers
BroHanif
02/03/02 at 18:54:14
Aww,

At work I come in contact with a quite a few people, especially over the phone and by the very nature of my work.
I get on well you could say with some people and sometimes I feel a little guilty that me being a muslim should at least give them some sort of dawah, yet I don't want to come across so strong.

A problem is some people that I talk to are women, now I generally don't have a problem with that, however, I'm always a bit sceptical that perhaps shaitan will cause a whisper in my heart and from something which is positive may turn into something ugly.
Both me and my friend agree that ones best form of dawah is ones character, yet what I'm scared of is I want to be known as somebody who can be relied upon and trusted rather than somebody who becomes a close friend. Because I think no two opposite human partners, man and woman can ever be friends without having any sexual inclinations towards each other at any time, am I talking sense ?

Does anyone have any pointers on how to give dawah at work, especially in relation to how it should be given to the opposite sex ?

I'd love advice from anyone, make my brain tick.

Salaams

Hanif
Re: Advice needed in giving dawah to the sisters and brothers
MalikShabazz
02/03/02 at 23:13:27
one great way is to lower your gaze and make it clear that you HAVE to do so

this has been a zonker in my school, ever since i started lowering my gaze

all these girls saying "it's so weird... so you can't look at girls?"

and then you can explain islam's position toward sexuality, etc.

and inshaAllah move on from there

and Allah knows best

all the best

was salam
Re: Advice needed in giving dawah to the sisters and brothers
zanfaz
02/04/02 at 03:47:08
[slm]

Why don't you forward a 'feel-good' article about islam to your colleagues. As to avoid looking forcing on them, just include some of your other friends also in the list of people.

wassalam
Faizan
Re: Advice needed in giving dawah to the sisters and brothers
M.F.
02/04/02 at 14:07:56
Assalamu alaikum,
This is just my advice not based on any experience, but I say if you're afraid that the shaytan will come in the way of your giving da'wa (and of course he'll do his best to!!) then just stay away from it.  Leave giving da'wa to women for the women, and just focus your attention on the men.  
As for your general relationship with the women you come into contact with, there's no doubt that you have a huge responsibility: if you're the only Muslim they know, they'll completely form their opinion of Muslim men based on you.  So like you said it's very important to be of good character and to show it!  But... just feel out your own limits and keep to them.  And most probably once the women know what the limits are they'll keep to them as well.  They don't have to think of you as someone they can rely on, as long as they think of you as someone who treats them with respect.
Am I making any sense at all?


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