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| Tell the Truth |
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| SistaFidDeen |
| 02/14/02 at 20:36:05 |
| As Salaamu Alaikum Wr Wb So how much does physical appearance matter to you. For yourself and your spouse? Would you honestly marry someone (or think you would) who was basically not very good looking and the equivalent of "ugly" in the western views? Please reply, InshaAllah. As Salaamu Alaikum Wr Wb |
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| ABD |
| 02/14/02 at 21:56:50 |
| [slm] To be honest, outer appearence matters to me, but very little. When I was younger, I used to focus on physical appearence more, but now as I'm growing, wAlhamdulillah, I'm looking more into the spirit of the person rather than the outer appearence. There are some bro's who have a nice outer appearence but they are weak in their deen (from what it shows on the outside), but there are some bro's who are considered "ugly" by Western standards, but Masha'Allah are good Muslims (again, from what it seems on the outside, meaning their actions, etc) But myself, I look more at the level of Iman of a brother and their spirit, what kind of a person they are, and of course their actions. But it wouldn't hurt if they had a nice outer appearence ;) Just my two cents... [wlm] Betul |
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| SaadZ |
| 02/15/02 at 14:20:28 |
| salaams, im yung i guess but attraction is important to me. but looks in the sense of conventional good looks are not for me. i dont go for the "model type". to me, one's actions and personality reflect upon their looks. one could be "ugly" but have this wonderful personality and it makes them attractive to me and vice versa. one could be "beautifully handsome" but just have that personality that doesnt click causing them to be less or even unattractive to me. I dont know its a package to me, and i cant really go like hmmm 50/50 with me because they reflect upon eachother to such an extent. i hope i make sense, i have a tendency to speak in one long run on sentence. :) salaams saadia |
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| Seeker |
| 02/15/02 at 23:56:15 |
| [slm] I was actually thinking about this as I walked the hallways of my school. Sure there are many nice looking guys, but what does it amount to if there is no deen? A face is beautified by actions pleasing Allah. You may walk by guy and say, "hmm he's kinda [some word of admiration..], but then you turn around, and he's hangin off of some girl. When I see actions like this of our "beautiful" western men, I think twice about saying someone's good looking or not. Someone begins to look attractive to me when they lower their gaze or show humility. I think physical attraction comes after you marry someone for their deen. A society bent on indulging and consumerism cannot detect really beauty if it walked right by. Allah (swt) has given us guidelines and descriptions of what beauty is. A person/society that does not follow these guidelines cannot determine who is beautiful or who isn't. ( I feel like I've talked about this before, but it's all good. ooh yes, in mujaahid's post I think on the ideal man? something like that) ok that's all :) [wlm] |
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| ABD |
| 02/16/02 at 01:34:51 |
| [slm] Nicely put Seeker, Masha'Allah. [wlm] Betul |
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