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| Kathy |
| 08/14/02 at 19:31:47 |
| [slm] A got a phone call from a woman who heard a talk given by our Dawah center. She was very interested in Islam and would like to meet me to ask a few questions. So I go prepared for all the usual "newly learning Islam,"making dua to Allah swt to untie my tongue and be a positive role Muslim. We meet, hug and her first question was: I am almost ready to accept Islam. I am in a wonderful marriage with 4 kids. What happens to him and us? Ya Allah, I never get the easy ones! |
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| It_Dont_Matter |
| 08/14/02 at 21:42:12 |
| [slm] You're right! That question was a biggie! Please inform us of what happens. :-) P.S. It could help her if she knew all the great rewards that await her plus that if she made du'aa, maybe Allah (swt) would guide her husband and children as well, insha-Allah! |
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| momineqbal |
| 08/15/02 at 01:18:45 |
| [slm], I think there is an opinion of Sheikh Abdullah Bin Bayyah and others on this. You might want to look up on it. I am not sure of the exact opinion but there was provision for leniency on this matter. Eqbal |
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| UmmWafi |
| 09/16/02 at 00:45:47 |
| [slm] Uhhh not capable of thinking now (fever and all) but just wanna let u know that my thoughts are with u. Will try to respond when brain is functioning. Wassalam |
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| sofia |
| 09/16/02 at 11:10:44 |
| As-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullah, Kathy! I'm nooooo scholar, just heard this question come up a lot during certain lectures or Q/A sessions. The answer most scholars have given so far (Allahu'alim), is that the issue of taking the shahada (and be considered as a Muslim on the D of J) far outweighs the issue of living with a non-Muslim husband/family. Of course, the emphasis has to be made that her husband should be invited towards Islam as well, in order to remain her husband, but the first issue is a matter of belief (ie, Muslim or not), while the second is a matter of haraam/halaal (ie, still a Muslim). Not sure if that made complete sense, but Allahu'Alim, may Allah make it easy for her and others like her. Hope she got to speak with someone about this, iA. Let us know what happened to her, insha'Allah. :) |
| 09/16/02 at 11:28:00 |
| sofia |
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| Abd_al-Rashid |
| 09/16/02 at 11:13:44 |
| [slm] Tell her it is ok to take shahadah, as a matter of fact to do it ASAP since we are not promised tomorrow. There is a difference of opinion regarding what happens to her marriage. Some scholars have said it's ok to stay married in the hope that he will also become Muslim, but if after a certain period he shows no interest or is hostile to Islam, she must leave him. Others have said as soon as she becomes Muslim her iddah begins and if in the 3 months he does not accept Islam, they are divorced at the end of the iddah. I'll ask and get clarification insha'allah. [wlm] |
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| Kathy |
| 09/21/02 at 20:25:34 |
| [slm] I had given her the various thoughts of scholars in regard to her marriage, knowing that i was accountable for my words of advice. The points I addressed was 1. The historical hadith of women reverting and not being sent back to their husbands in war. 2. Duas for her husband to be accepting Islam. 3. The iddah period. 4. The just plain incompatability of a wife and a non- Muslim husband regarding marital rights during mensus+ fasting, the problems caused at the wife's lack of participation in foods, holidays, parties and eventual different plains of thoughts, goals and lifestyles. However, I stressed at the end to first get straight with Allah swt and accept Islam as she has the knowledge and will too be held accountable. I told her to worry and study more on tauheed and the rest will follow. I gave her the story of Ibrahim and how he had to go against his family as she has realized this struggle will also be hers. Masha Allah it did not scare her away :o and she came to the new Dawah Center for a woman's meeting last week with her daughter who is 14. I have told her about this site... we will just have to wait and see if she comes, but alas, she does not have a computer and uses her fathers when she visits. |
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| Kathy |
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| Caveat |
| 01/10/03 at 22:22:28 |
| [slm] It also helps to be on a good Islamic Mailing list, for non-muslims and New muslims as well as your average Muslims (they don't know much either). Best mailing list i've seen is this one: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/aajooba |
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| Sarah |
| 01/11/03 at 20:10:47 |
| This website has good information for those interested in Islam, and presents nice articles for those who are not sure if they want to become Muslims or not. Please go to: http://www.islamworld.net |
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| Julia |
| 01/11/03 at 23:47:18 |
| Bismillah Arrahman Arraheem, Dear Kathy, I can't help but feel Allah (SWT) gave you this difficult and delicate task becuase you are worthy to handle it. Maybe you could print the replies to your querry, so your friend could see them. You can give her the following reply if you like. Dear Sister, thinking of becoming a Muslim: First, May Allah guide you and protect you. You may want to visit several sites on a wonderful woman, Aminah Assilmi, and how her life unfolded after she converted to Islam. See http://thetruereligion.org/aminah.htm and http://www.welcome-back.org/profile/aminah1.shtml These tell the wonderful and poignant story of a former Southern Baptist who embraced Islam and almost lost everything, only to be granted so much more, by Allah (SWT). She spoke at our mosque during this past Ramadan and everyone was impressed. She is truly a great lady, and a great Muslim who loves Allah and the prophet and all of humanity. (Mashallah) May Allah bless you. Take shahada when you are ready. Do not wait for the perfect time. As the sister who helped me said, "Now is better than one moment from now." But of course, you should be ready of your own accord. May Allah guide you and bless you. Talk to your husband, and do not hide your feelings from him. Pray for Allah (SWT) to help you explain your feelings about Islam to him. Maybe it is good to empahsis the common points between Islam and Christianity (if he is Christian). More later. A new sister in Islam, Julia To Kathy, Hope this helps. Does your friend know about this website? That could be the best dawah, and would help share your burden. |
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