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| Abu_Hamza |
| 10/03/02 at 00:44:34 |
| [slm] What is the best book or audio series that you have *ever* come across on the topic of Marriage in Islam? Ideally, the resource would deal with both pre-marital and post-marital issues (i.e. purpose of marriage, relations between the genders, looking for a spouse - how to look and what to look for, engagements, nikaah, marriage contracts, relations between husband and wife - how to make each other happy, the necessary ingredients of a successful/happy marriage, raising children, etc). If you could add a few comments about the resource that you would recommend, rather than simply mentioning its title, it would be more helpful. Jazaakum Allaahu Khairan :) Abu Hamza |
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| muslimah853 |
| 10/03/02 at 23:30:59 |
| [slm] The audio set, "Gender Relations" by Shaykh Abdullah Adhami. It is a 6 tape set which deals with many of the topics that you outline above, and is much more than simply a "these are the rights and obligations of spouses." Because marriage is about so much more than that. It discusses in some detail the language used in the Qur'an and sunnah regarding these matters, and how that reflects the ideals that we are supposed to be trying to live up to. There is discussion of some controversial/misunderstood ayat and hadith relating to these issues, and contains alot of practical advice on what Islamic marriage is supposed to be on a spiritual level. Anyone who has had the opportunity to hear Shaykh Adhami knows that he is absolutely phenomenal on gender/marriage issues. I could go on and on, but you only asked for a *few* words :) Shaykh Hamza Yusuf taught a class last term at the Zaytuna Institute on marriage and family issues, and those sessions have just been released by Alhambra Productions. I haven't had the opportunity to listen to those yet, but I'm sure they're good as well. [wlm] |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/04/02 at 07:14:44 |
| as-salaamu alaikum I didn't think that the "Gender Relations" set by Abdullah Adhami was as good as people had made it out to be.. but its still worth hearing. And i don't think that there is a single resource which covers marriage and all its aspects in sufficient depth, so you'll have to glean your information from several sources. Two of the best that i've found are "The Muslim Marriage Guide" by R W Masood, and the marriage pages on www.soundvision.com |
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| AbdulBasir |
| 10/05/02 at 00:48:35 |
| [slm] Gender Relations has been discussed before, and it is great but it doesn't fit your whole criteria that you listed above in that it only covers really post-marital issues and only certain aspects at that (albeit excellently though). Hamza Yusuf's new series is a noble effort but it also does not fit your criteria. One thing that does fit your criteria in my opinion is a series that is sort of forgotten these days, the Islamic Teachings series by Jamal Badawi from his TV show about 20 years ago. This series, which is about 12 volumes of audio tapes, covers a variety of topics, from basic Muslim beliefs, to the social and economic systems of Islam, Seerah, Ulum-ul-Qur'an and comparitive religion. It covers everything that was listed in the social system section and the great thing about this series as a whole is that it is remarkably comprehensive yet concise, flawlessly organized and to the point, with meticulous cross-referencing from the Qur'an and Sunnah for every topic discussed. The entire series as a whole is a gem, even it is sort of forgotten these days with all the high tech fancy CD's and all now. Over ten years ago it was this series that began and facilitated my own discovery of Islam. And when I think of it, and I never did until you asked this question just now Abu Hamza, the series remains the best series I have ever come across in my own limited experience on many topics. May Allah reward Dr. Badawi and all those who played a role in making the series. [slm]:) |
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| jannah |
| 10/05/02 at 01:48:34 |
| [wlm] Thanx for the reminder AbdulBasir. Dr. Jamal Badawi is just awesome one of my heros from the early days. I heard him about 3/4 years ago in the Crystal Ballroom in Chicago (scene of the Fugitive final act) talking about how MSA (which later turned into ISNA) started and how they used to travel from city to city with a group of bros just to meet other Muslims. Did you know he takes nothing and never has for his tapes/books. That's why his books are usually much lower priced than others and usually available free in places, it's all for the sake of Dawah... Anyways you can listen to the above mentioned series on islam.org. Check it out everyone :) http://islamicity.com/multimedia/radio/ch200/ |
| 10/05/02 at 01:50:27 |
| jannah |
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| Anonymous |
| 10/15/02 at 03:34:23 |
| [slm] Muhammad al-Jibaly's marriage series (3 volumes) are very good, everything is divided into the exact categories you were asking about, easy to read, everything is sourced and all topics covered. A 4th volume just came out about new born children. ---- Volume 1 covers the importance and advantages of marriage, selecting a spouse, the courting process, the marriage contract, celebrating the wedding, waleemah, forbidden marriages, and more. Provides a practical procedure for performing a marriage contract, and includes a sample marriage certificate. Volume 2 covers a number of different aspects in marriage, including human sexuality, Islamic etiquettes of intimacy, prohibited acts of intimacy, ghusl, the 'awrah, zina', birth control, indecent acts, and more. Volume 3 covers the obligations of the two spouses, the wife's rights, and the husband's rights. Contains biographies of the Mothers of the Believers, paints a very realistic picture from the life of the Prophet (pbuh) with his wives, and presents a complete discussion of the hadeeth of Ummar Zar'. Volume 4 is about Newborn babies. www.islamicbookstore.com |
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| Nazia |
| 11/01/02 at 10:32:39 |
| slm, [quote]Two of the best that i've found are "The Muslim Marriage Guide" by R W Masood[/quote] I read this before I got married, and I have to admit, it was kind of embarassing. It more deals with stuff AFTER marriage, so while that may be important, it may not be exactly what you're looking for... On a side note, the imam at our masjid actually performs pre-marital counseling for all couples who's nikah he performs. I've heard great things about it. It's not like "counseling" as in you go in and find things to complain about, but more like, he just asks you some questions that will actually make you think about issues that normally arrise post marriage. (ie, financial, in-laws, etc), and he also wants the expectations of both parties to be known so that there are minimal surprises. Anyways, our Imam is awesome Masha'Allah :) (Mohammad Majid for those in the D.C area) He also does this counseling via e-mail if anyone is interested. Alright, Take Care, Wassalam, Nazia |
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| Barr |
| 11/02/02 at 10:55:23 |
| Assalamu'alaikum :-) I've yet to listen to this.. but this looks interesting. click here ====> [url=http://astrolabepictures.com/astrolabe/arrm.html]The Rights and Responsibilities of Marriage by Hamza Yusuf[/url] But so far, I like "Tranquil Hearts" best, alhamdulillah..., though I think I'll be uncovering better resources soon, inshaAllah. So, I'll keep U updated, inshaallah. Here's some a sample chapter from "Tranquil Hearts" that's available on-line. click here ====> [url=http://www1.muis.gov.sg/fdd/garden/divorce1.html]Divorce and its Consequneces[/url] click here ====> [url=http://www1.muis.gov.sg/fdd/garden/sex1.html]Sexual Relationship in Islam[/url] Topics in this book includes: Islam - The Way to Tranquil Hearts ~ The Basic Message of the prophets Marraige & Faith ~ Marriage in Islam Marriage in Practice ~ The Muslim Wedding ~Rights and Obligations of Husband and Wife ~Responsibility of Family Resources ~Divorce and its COnsequences Family Relationhsip and Character Development ~Sexual Relationship in Islam ~Adjustment and Decision Making ~Relationship between Husband and Wife ~Parenthood and Family Planning But if you prefer a more fiqhi munakahat kind of books, than, I won't recommend "Tranquil Hearts". Maybe se7en and the other Albany mafia can give a brief review? If you're looking into these resources to organise a course or some other community projects, please feel free to contact me, if you'd like some other inputs. InshaAllah, we can share resources and experiences. Allahua'lam :-) |
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| Barr |
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| Caveat |
| 01/13/03 at 10:21:30 |
| [slm] I wouldn't read too much of Hamza Yosuf's material. He is a Sufi. Other books mentioned however are good. One by Maqsood is good, and the 3 vols are good. [wlm] |
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| M.F. |
| 01/13/03 at 10:52:48 |
| [quote author=Caveat link=board=kabob;num=1033620274;start=0#8 date=01/13/03 at 10:21:30] [slm] I wouldn't read too much of Hamza Yosuf's material. He is a Sufi. [wlm][/quote] Assalamu alaikum That doesn't invalidate everything he says , and isn't reason enough not to read his material. It's benefitted a lot of people because of its clarity and logic. If you find "sufi" stuff mixed in just take it out and get the best out of it. I don't want to make a debate out of it, but it doesn't seem right to disregard all the good someone's done because he's been categorized one way or another. No one's perfect, and with all, take the good, leave out the bad. |
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| Abu_Hamza |
| 01/13/03 at 22:10:20 |
| [slm] [quote author=Caveat link=board=kabob;num=1033620274;start=0#8 date=01/13/03 at 10:21:30] [slm] I wouldn't read too much of Hamza Yosuf's material. He is a Sufi. Other books mentioned however are good. One by Maqsood is good, and the 3 vols are good. [wlm][/quote] Imam al-Junaid (the master of the "sober" sufis), Abu Haamid al-Ghazali, and Abdul Qadir al-Jeelani were sufis too - all of them praised and quoted frequently in the books of Ibn al-Qayyim (see Ighathatul Lahfaan, Madaarij al-Saalikeen, etc.), Ibn Taymiyyah (see Majmoo' al Fataawa, vol. 11), Ibn Qudaamah (see Minhaaj al-Qaasideen), and other scholars of their caliber (may Allah bestowy His Mercy on all of them). Should we shun away all of their books also because they were mutasawwifoon (aka sufis)? Please read Ibn Taymiyyah's discourses on tasawwuf, found in *many* books written by him (ex. "Friends of Allah, Friends of Shaytaan," and "Servitude" in English) to learn its truth, and please do not generalize all tasawwuf and sufis to be evil and deviant. Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh. |
| 01/13/03 at 22:14:14 |
| Abu_Hamza |
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| jannah |
| 01/13/03 at 22:43:46 |
| Please you guys.. the topic of sufism vs salafism etc etc is banned. So take it offline. |
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