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| Caraj |
| 01/19/03 at 12:42:52 |
| This is soooo cool and I am so excited, I'm going to be a grandma, I realize this is kind of a young city, I'm wondering if there are any Grandmas in the city? :) I have questions for both grandma and Grandkids ??? if you all don't mind helping me out. For grandmas,,, As a new grandma to be what advice would you offer? For all the Grandkids in the room (We all have or have had grandparents.) 1) What is the most memerable thing about your grandparents? 2) Tell me your most memerable time spent with a grandparent and what was the thing any one of your grandparents taught you that you remember most and /or really stuck with you and made a difference in your life? 3) If you didn't have a chance to know your grandparents, what would you have liked from a grandparent if you could dream up the best grandparent? :-/ Questions :-/ Questions :-/ I already started a journal last night for the baby, I wrote and told the baby I had just found out about it and how I was feeling. telling the baby how love and welcomed it is. Today I will tell the baby in this journal about it's parents. How proud I am of them both and maybe throw in a few things about the baby's father when he was little ;D I'll keep this up so when he or she is a teen or adult I'll give them this journal to read. Just a few sentences here and there every so often. During her pregnacy and the childs birth and the child growing up. Gosh!!!!!!!! I'm going to be a Grandma!!!!!!!!!!! |
| 01/19/03 at 12:46:03 |
| Caraj |
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| hiJabeeThug |
| 01/19/03 at 20:03:39 |
| In the name of Allah the most merciful the beneficent assalamalaiakum wa rahmatullah here is an advice...... if the child want something say a barbie .... and mom says no ... the Granny HAVE TO SAY YES .... unlike my granny ... she be like bakwaas hai ... meaning its ' useless.. give ur grandkids lots of stuff so the da parents will get angry ... ALWAYS REMEMBER TO PUT THE PERSONS NAME ON IT ... cuz parents be like ..... since u have this already ..... i'll keep it and give it to some one as a pwesent .... ok yeah .... tha's bout it Inshallah u'll be an AWESOME granny .... as for me am only 17 i got years to be a granny walaiakum asslam wa rahmatullah |
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| panjul |
| 01/19/03 at 23:48:40 |
| [slm] I received more love from my father's parents than my mother's parents. My grandma passed away some years ago. May Allah grant her in His Mercy and His Beautiful Gardens. Ameen. My grandma spoiled me. Everything I demanded I got. If I wasn't getting my way with my paretns, i would run to my grandparents who would convince my parents to let me do whatever i wanted to do. :) Even now if I get into an argumen with my parents and i'm not getting anywhere with it. I pick up the phone and call my grandpa and let him talk to my parents. :) I miss him so much. |
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| Aurora |
| 01/19/03 at 23:55:26 |
| Just give them lots and lots of love, and just 'be there' for them whenever you can...be a friend not just 'an elder' :) |
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| M.F. |
| 01/20/03 at 07:40:58 |
| Congrats Cara !! :-* Great news! I think the journal idea is just GREAT!!! As for your place in all this, I have to disagree with the other ppl who said give the child what they want even if the parents disagree. You have to respect their wishes beefore anything, otherwise they won't even let you near the baby! I mean that's generally how it is with American families. In other parts of the world grandparents overrule the parents :) I think the best advice so far is just to be there for the baby, and the parents if they need it. I'm sure you're going to be getting a lot of phone calls with questions and requests for advice. My mom became a gramma when my sister had her baby, and her role is basically to play with the baby if they come over, offer to babysit when my sister needs to do something, and buy stuff for the baby (that the parents approve or even need). You can do all this and still spoil the baby without ruining the relationship with the parents. :) Best of all worlds :) |
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| Sabr |
| 01/20/03 at 11:12:30 |
| [slm] congrats ....grandma to be ;) Their r so many cherishing momemts i had with my grandparents ...but 1 distinct memory of my gradfather was him teaching me -la illaha illah la Muhammad ur rasoolal lah . Inshalalh sis u will be a good gradmother ...u've already strated with the journal idea...thats pretty kewl :-* [slm] |
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