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| siddiqui |
| 01/27/03 at 13:53:44 |
| [slm] These days life has become kind of bland (alhamdullilah min kulli haal) Lost intersts in most of the things and feel a sense of directionlessness I know the avenues leading out of this quagmire but dont seem motivated CONSISTENTLY enough (been lazy through out my life) to take them actually I seem to be happy at the way things are going ( Or am I? ) No Iam not clinicaly depressed, All I know is time is running out and I have miles to go before I sleep Wondering if its just me or the whole world is feeling this way ( AH! wishful thinking ;) ) [wlm] |
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| Rameeza |
| 01/27/03 at 16:44:42 |
| [wlm] I am sure that you are not alone in your state, but do you really mean it when you say that you 'have been lazy through out my life'? I usually cycle. I have a very long energetic phase and I wear myself out and then I go through a down phase. Usually, very hard to get up after I have hit that down phase. Have you tried taking some time for yourself and reflecting on your life? Usually helps me when I hit that downer. Plus, excercise really helps. Do you run or walk? I have noticed that excercising outside in the sun helps more than being closeted in your room. It helps the mind and the body. Maybe you could drag a friend too :) In my case, excercise is my excuse for 'alone time' so I dont call anyone. But everyone is different. Try it out. I think that you need to lift your spirits before you can get motivated etc. Even going to a great mentally stimuylating Halaqa helps! something to get the juices flowing to your head. :) Good luck!!! If you need to talk you can write to me. But for now, have a pepsi [I would usually offer coke but this site only has pepsi so it will have to do] [] [] [] [] [] [] |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 01/27/03 at 18:07:33 |
| Rameeza, I like your style. Even the coke thing Although kinda getting away from that and drinking watered down Gatorade. I think the toughest thing is having 2 little ones, you work all day and then get home and spend time with your kids then after you put them to bed you are worn out. So now I have made it a commitment that as soon as the last one goes down I go for a run. If I do not get my excercise I feel depressed and out of energy. Also a trip into the mtns by yourself does a huge amount of good. |
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| sofia |
| 01/27/03 at 20:07:56 |
| [quote]Also a trip into the mtns by yourself does a huge amount of good[/quote] That's actually what Prophet Muhammad (s) used to do (before/during the 1st revelation. Not to say that we'll receive "revelations" from God if we meditate on some mtn, since he was the *seal* of the prophets). He mainly did so to get away from the ills of society and contemplate on God/His creation. I'm not sure if I understood your original post, bro siddiqui, but getting away from manmade things every once in a while and surrounding one's self with Allah's creation does things that are hard to describe (if you're in the northeast, that's kind of tough to do these days - so the obvious, "do some dhikr" comes to mind. Doing dhikr surrounded by nature, even better). Allahu A'lim. |
| NS |
| 01/27/03 at 20:09:15 |
| sofia |
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| jannah |
| 01/28/03 at 04:46:16 |
| [wlm] It's probably the winter blues. Around here every time you go outside it's in single digit temperatures ice and walls of FEET of snow everywhere. I couldn't even go up someone's drive today... so sad. Anyone else notice how the weather affects our psychology. This is the time to ask ourselves this most important philosophical scientific question: WHY THE HECK DO WE LIVE IN THE NORTHEAST?! I think we should all move en masse.. including bro mokhtar to southern florida.. key west... ............how bout it... we can sip our [] in peace and wear our 8) and read our book on [saw] on the beach under the :-* |
| 01/28/03 at 04:47:13 |
| jannah |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 01/28/03 at 10:42:29 |
| Jannah, florida? it is as flat as a pancake. Southern California update it is 74 today. and forthose silly enough to want a bit of winter they can ski about 1 hr away |
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| siddiqui |
| 01/28/03 at 17:56:10 |
| [slm] Actually I seem to enjoy the winter my room is as hot as an oven so i keep my window open just a little bit though :-/ Iam usually out without a jacket ,people think Iam kind of crazy or a polar bear :D though now a days Iam forced to wear it once in a while just for the peoples sake ;D but I still stubbornly refuse to wear gloves and a cap (wear the cap only when my hair is dishevelled :D ) even if my fingers kind of freeze guess just the blues guys hope they dont last for a life time please pray for me and enjoy a [] [wlm] |
| 01/28/03 at 18:01:31 |
| siddiqui |
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| Rameeza |
| 01/30/03 at 10:11:50 |
| [slm] Hey I agree! I actually like winter and am the only one amongst my friends who sometimes needs the ac on in my car! I shut off the vents in my room cause the rest of the house is soo hot! I think its the lack of sunshine though that causes the blues. But hanging out, outside, even though its kind of cold helps. The mountain idea sounds soo good right now. :-[ Actually it sounds good once a month! heh heh heh I wish! ;D Good luck kicking the blues bro! [] [] [] [] [] [] R |
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| bhaloo |
| 01/30/03 at 21:09:30 |
| [slm] I've been feeling lazy, I don't know what it is. I have no idea what this winter-blues phenomena is that Jannah is talking about, it was a typical mid 70s Southern California day. :) Maybe there is just sadness and frustration with what Bush and the rest of his evil empire are doing? ??? |
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| Tesseract |
| 01/31/03 at 00:01:11 |
| Assalamu 'alaikum wa Rahmatullah, SubhanAllah! U guys are talking medicine. Not only diagnosis, but treatment too :). Check this out: [url]http://www.nmha.org/infoctr/factsheets/27.cfm[/url] Wassalam. p.s: Bro. siddiqui, u should be knowing it :). |
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| Rameeza |
| 01/31/03 at 12:02:15 |
| [slm] WOW now I am a head case? ha ha ha ha I knew that a while ago. But I agree about the going outs ide and spending time in the sunlight etc. I actually make it a habit to let as much sunshine as possible into my house. The sunshine really helps! I even read sitting on the ledge next to my window. r |
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| siddiqui |
| 02/04/03 at 22:41:04 |
| [slm] Jazakallah humul khair for the support and advice Iam feeling much better now alhamdullilah [wlm] |
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| paula |
| 02/05/03 at 02:17:31 |
| ;-) siddiqui [slm] since you opened the door here........ and even though your feeling better.....Alhamdu lillah.....may I add something....Bi'ithnillah "Miles to go before I sleep...................." when I registered here not to long ago...... and I caught out of the corner of my eye.... that statement under your icon in a message...... I just about fell out of my chair..... that statement means something me...... no joke...It must to you too or you wouldn't have placed it there....... and then....... again....... placed it in this post. I've been feeling your blues here lately myself too...... hmm I don't know.... it's a mix a pure true happiness and a deep deep sadness all in one.... I know it will pass......... Insha Allah ....... maybe there are some prayers out there for me too......... but I can say I've appreciated the community spirit here....... it's pretty comforting. Even if you are feeling better...... I'll still be praying for your success and happiness............ [wlm] |
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| jannah |
| 02/06/03 at 06:06:33 |
| What to Say at Times of Grief, Concern, and Sadness At times of distress the Messenger of Allah (SAW) would say: "La ilaha illa allahu al-atheemu al-haleemu, la ilaha illa allahu rabbul ar shil-atheemi, la ilaha illa allahu rabbus-samawati wa rabbul-ar thi wa rabbul-ar shil-kareem" (Agreed Upon by Bukhari and Muslim) The English meaning is: There is no ilah except Allah the Magnificent, The Forbearing. There is no ilah except Allah Lord of the Magnificent Throne. There is no ilah except Allah Lord of the Heavens, Lord of the Earth, and Lord of the Noble Throne. It is reported of the Prophet (SAW) that if something distressed him he would say: "Ya hayyu ya qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astagheeth" (At Tirmidhi) The English meaning is: O' Living (a life not followed by death), O Sustainer, in your Mercy I plead for rescue Abu Bakr (RA) stated that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said "The supplications of the distressed are: "Allahumma rah mataka ar joo, fala takilnee ila naf see tar fata ay nin, wa as lih lee sha'nee kullahu, la ilaha illa an t" (Abu Dawud) The English meaning is: O' my ilah it is your Mercy that I beseech, so do not entrust me to myself for even a twinkle of an eye, and correct for me all my affairs, there is no ilah other than You. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to Asma bint Umaysin: "Shall I not teach you a few words which you can say when you are distressed - or at the time of distress - "Allahu allahu rabbee la ush riku bihi shay an" (Abu Dawud) The English meaning is: Allah, Allah my Lord I associate not with Him a thing. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "The petition of Thin-Noon (Jonah) which he petitioned with when he was inside the whale: "La ilaha illah an ta, sub hanaka innee kun tu minath-thalimeen" (At-Tirmithi) The English meaning is: There is no ilah except You, Glorified are Thee, I have been one of the unjust. "No Muslim ever supplicated Allah with this supplication in any matter at all, except that Allah answered his supplication" (At-Tirmithi) It is reported of the Prophet (SAW) that he said: "No preoccupying concern, or sadness inflicts a bondservant whereupon he says: "Allahumma innee ab duka, wab nu ab dika, wab nu amatika, nasiyatee biyadika, mathin fiyya huk muka, ad lun fiyya qatha'uka, as aluka bikulli is min huwalaka, sammay ta bihi naf saka, aw an zal tahu fee kitabika, aw allamtahu ahadan min khal qika, aw is ta thar ta bihi fee il mil ghay bi in daka, an taj a'la al-qur ana rabee'a, qal bee, wa noora sawdree, wa jala'a huz nee, wa thahaba hammee" (Ahmad and Ibn Hibban) The English meaning is: O' my ilah I am your bondservant, son of your bondsman, and son of your bondwoman. My forelock is in your Hands; your judgement is continuously being carried out upon me; your sentence upon me is juste. I ask You with every name that is yours, with which You have named yourself, brought down in your book, taught to one of your creation, or have preferred for Yourself in the hidden knoweldge, with You; that You make the Quran the spring of my heart, and the light of my chest, and the despellation of my sadness, and deportation of my (preoccupying) concern. ...except that Allah would dispel his concern and his sadness, and would replace it with ease and relaxation for him." (Ahmad and Ibn Hibban) |
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| paula |
| 02/12/03 at 19:20:33 |
| [slm] :-* JazakAllahu khair ............... Subhaanallah :-* [size=3][i]La Illaha Illah Allah..............Alhamdu lillah[/i][/size] Is my happiness showing again (smile)...... "Allahu Akbar" ... Allahu Akbar! Allahu Akbar! Allahu Akbar! [wlm] |
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