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| Kathy |
| 01/29/03 at 09:08:13 |
| [slm] I was reading an embarrassing moment and thought of this concern I have. Most of you, with Muslim Families probably don't deal with this, but reverts do: Alot of the time when there is a gathering someone will inevitably say to my[i](good looking ;))[/i] son "Do you have a girlfriend?" Now, I know they are jesting, probing, conversating.... It is always an awkward moment and a tough dawah type topic. Any good one-liners? |
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| Road2Jannah |
| 01/29/03 at 20:24:50 |
| tell them sorryyyy he is taken ... by his mama lol one liner hmmmmmmm this is tough, i really cant think of anything that would also be dawah related at the same time. maybe you can say:" my boy is already in love, in love with islam that is... ";) tho i dont know if its appropriate, maybe to just break the ice for the real dawah talk. |
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| Barr |
| 01/30/03 at 05:47:58 |
| Wa'alaikumussalam warahmatullahj [quote]Most of you, with Muslim Families probably don't deal with this, but reverts do: [/quote] Hmm.. not in this region. You'd be surprised :( OK.. how about this... Auntie A: "Awww.. look at him, such a fine young man!...Do you have a girlfriend, Ali?" :) Ali: Naaah, I'll just have a wife, thanks ;D Ok, ok.. kinda lame... I dunno. [] Wassalam |
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| Kathy |
| 01/30/03 at 08:15:52 |
| [slm] The reason it is a tough dawah topic is because once you mention that Ali won't date or have girfriends it becomes a very alien idea to those growing up in a dating world. Immediately people dive into their screwed up "philosophy" of dating, marriage and relationships. Unless they have a solid base of fitra, in this case meaning the right way, it is almost too difficult of a conversation to talk about Islam. Sure it is great for an hour talk, hense why I m looking for a short couple of lines. |
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| kingzdaughter1 |
| 01/30/03 at 09:11:58 |
| you can do what my dad used to do when I was asked ''do you have a boyfriend?'' when I was younger: reply [In all seriousness, mind you] ''my daughter is only interested in food and [insert fav brand of soft drink which I am hopelessly addicted- I will not type its name because the mere typing of it brings me a high... ;D] - she does not think about boys...'' you can tell my love for junk food and drinks was causing my dad a lot of concern... ::) anyway, I digress... In Western society those who are not into dating are seen as outside the norm. Even young kids are seen as 'cute' when they are attracted to other children. My father saw nothing 'cute' in the thought of me being with a boy at 12. Recalling *many* experiences, saying 'we don't believe in dating' will instantly bring on a barrage of questions, comments and 'well that's just wrong' responses. Be ready for it though- it comes with the territory and there's no way of escaping it, sorry. :( I reassure you, even if the perfect one liner is posted (and I'm looking forward to reading the replies!) and you use it, you will end up in loooooong conversations on this topic. KD ;D |
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| M.F. |
| 01/31/03 at 05:41:24 |
| Assalamu alaikum I don't necessarily see this particular moment as being a good da'wa opportunity unless you REALLY know your stuff about why we don't date because for a lot of westerners dating is the only way you can choose your mate... Anyway, if I were in a situation like that, I'd probably just say something like "no", or "even if he was going to date, he's a bit young right now don't you think?" I dont' think that'll raise too many questions about not dating because they'll see that yes, he is too young, and a conversation about dating isn't appropriate right now. Plus the questions are directed to Ali, and it's too complicated for him at this point in his life to try to explain why "Musims don't date". A simple "no" should be all he has to say. |
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| eleanor |
| 01/31/03 at 06:27:55 |
| [slm] how about "no I am Muslim"... period |
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| Kathy |
| 01/31/03 at 08:28:37 |
| [slm] By our culture it is true that we (Westerners) think and say that they are too young to date. But our actions say otherwise. At Ali's school they have a dance twice a year! Yes a dance, with dj's, decorations and food! The ages in his school are between 5 and 10! All the parents-[i] notice I said parents[/i]- talk about is what dress their daughter is wearing and which boy will ask which girl. My neighbor told me that some of the girls actually had on makeup! :P At the PTA meeting... when I opposed this... sure enough I was a stanger in a strange land... :-) |
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| wafa |
| 02/03/03 at 07:22:23 |
| :-[ " Still looking for some MUSLIMA" ;D |
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| Masuma |
| 02/04/03 at 07:20:10 |
| [quote author=wafa link=board=sis;num=1043849293;start=0#8 date=02/03/03 at 07:22:23] :-[ " Still looking for some MUSLIMA" ;D[/quote] :-/ :-/ :-/ :-/ :-/ :-/ :-/ |
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| Masuma |
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| ummrashid1 |
| 02/06/03 at 00:59:06 |
| Assalamu'alaykum Kathy! Just wondering if Ali would like a reeeeal life Muslima :-) to make friends with...Actually my daughter's 7 and would be thrilled to bits to have an e-pal...she's been after my life to let her join one of those e-mail clubs but I haven't relented (YET) I'd much rather she made friends with Muslims rather than consorting with kids like "mafiosi" and "netcracker" on clubs....Tell me what u think.... |
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| Kathy |
| 02/06/03 at 08:45:54 |
| [slm] I have not introduced him to this world, either. Let me think about it. - meaning no disrespect to you.... |
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| Masuma |
| 02/08/03 at 09:16:10 |
| [quote author=ummrashid1 link=board=sis;num=1043849293;start=0#10 date=02/06/03 at 00:59:06]Assalamu'alaykum Kathy! Just wondering if Ali would like a reeeeal life Muslima :-) to make friends with...Actually my daughter's 7 and would be thrilled to bits to have an e-pal...she's been after my life to let her join one of those e-mail clubs but I haven't relented (YET) I'd much rather she made friends with Muslims rather than consorting with kids like "mafiosi" and "netcracker" on clubs....Tell me what u think.... [/quote] husH!!!!!!!!!!! Do you need to know the "meanings" of REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEL Muslima...... :'( I guess Yes :'( |
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