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| Mothers of Teenagers - Any here??? |
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| Halima |
| 02/06/03 at 04:36:36 |
| Asalaam Alaikum Sisters, I am wondering if there any of you if with teenage kids! If there are, I would like to share something experiences and also learn from your experiences which might me a great help. I am a single mother of two boys (one will be 16 on April 7 and the other will be 12.5 at the same time). I have to admitt though that I do not have too much trouble with them yet, but I would very much appreciate sharing of experiences. Not publicly maybe if anyone feels so but I do not mind. My assumption (though I know better than to assume as it makes an [i](bleep)[/i] out of u and me) is that there might be more junior sisters here than seniours. Forgive me in advance sisters. Wasalaam. Halima |
| 02/06/03 at 08:36:32 |
| Kathy |
| Re: Mothers of Teenagers - Any here??? |
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| Caraj |
| 02/09/03 at 16:30:26 |
| Mine aren't teenagers anymore but I've been through that stage. Some advice, never say anything you aren't willing to back up. If you say no drivers lisc without a specific GPA level (grades) then stick to it. Make them responsable now for their actions, don't bail them out. If they break something make them actually earn the money to fix or replace it. Required them to write thank you notes no matter if they are 12 or 16. This teaches them to appreciate things and last do not buy them their first car. I did for my first but not my second and I never heard the end of it but the one who bought his was more careful with his and appreciated it more I think. Little things like making them responsable, charging gas money for driving them to work even if it's only $5 a week which we know doesn't fill up the tank but a little helps teach things cost. Using lines like: 'I'm your mother not theirs' :D and 'Because I'm the mamma thats why' ;D and 'life is just not fair' :-/ are totally acceptable responses ;) and if they ever threaten to call the authorities on you for disapline, offer them a drive to the police dept :D I was driving my son to his work and he was 19 and a full time student and lived at home. Has a good job. One day while driving him to work he was sassing me, I warned him and he kept it up. I don't know what happened ;) I think the kid had a magnet in his cheek and my hand was metal cause all of a sudden my hand was strongly and quickly drawn to his cute and sassy little face ;) he threatened after work he would go report me, I told him lets do it now and proceeded in the turn lane to go downtown to the police dept ::) He jumped out of the car and ran to work and I never heard another thing about it again. |
| 02/09/03 at 16:37:04 |
| Caraj |
| Re: Mothers of Teenagers - Any here??? |
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| Halima |
| 02/10/03 at 01:58:37 |
| Jizakallahu Khayr Sis Caraj! This is the best advise I have had so far. And Shukran Jaziran for taking the time to reply and replying sincerely and honestly. One thing that works for me is that I live in a country where a Kid CAN NOT report a parent. Parental discpline is everything here, ALHAMDU LILLAH. I will keep the all good pointers you have given me. Once again, SHUKRAN Sis. Halima |
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