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| In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| Anonymous |
| 02/07/03 at 05:25:10 |
| Can anybody tell me what to do if I am in love with a muslim girl but i am not muslim myself. Can i tell her or would this be upsetting for her. I dont know how she feels about me but I do sense something. |
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| Kathy |
| 02/07/03 at 07:22:42 |
| [slm] Tell her father... [i](than duck and run....)[/i] A Muslim girl can only marry a Muslim guy. So yes, it would bother her...so don't tell her... until you study Islam and find its truth and become a Muslim. Then you can tell her father ([i]but you won't have to duck.... );)[/i] |
| 02/07/03 at 07:23:58 |
| Kathy |
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| theLordshandmaiden |
| 02/07/03 at 09:20:55 |
| Pray and ask God if it is His will for you and this young lady to marry. If it is the will of God then His will be done. Read Proverbs 3:5-6 |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| BroHanif |
| 02/08/03 at 02:49:33 |
| Would you marry her since she is a Muslim or are you going to marry her for her beauty or other features ? |
| NS |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| bhaloo |
| 02/08/03 at 02:59:39 |
| [slm] It is completely forbidden for a Muslim girl to marry a non-Muslim (kafir), there is no marriage at all, and this is mentioned in the Quran, The evidence for that is the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al‑Mushrikoon till they believe (in Allaah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikoon) invite you to the Fire, but Allaah invites (you) to Paradise and forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember” [al-Baqarah 2:221] |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| Kathy |
| 02/08/03 at 08:51:51 |
| Dear Anon, Just Wondering... When the brother, above, posted the Islamic proof for a Muslim woman not being allowed to marry you, a non- Muslim, using our holy book as the law: What did you think? |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| theOriginal |
| 02/08/03 at 09:30:14 |
| Hey, I'm sorry I have to say this...but I strongly disagree with you even mentioning to her that you are "in love with" her. 'Upsetting' is hardly the word. SF. |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| Emerald |
| 02/08/03 at 13:33:01 |
| You know love can be such a big word. Why do you think you love her?......Just to leave the topic a moment, this is why there is NO mixing of the sexes in Islam! Not because Islam is harsh because it's not but because Allah (swt) knows the weaknesses of man's heart and He wants us to first not have our hearts broken AND second so it does not lead us to sin.......If you love her because of an attraction due to her faith, you may actually be intrigued by the faith more than the girl. It happens. I'm assuming men find it attractive because the Muslim woman is so mysterious because of her covering or maybe because of her dedication to her faith. Anyways, if that's the case look into the religion - not that I'm trying to convert you. Otherwise, stay away from her cause she in no way marry a guy of a different faith. And no DON'T DON'T tell her how you feel cause if she felt the same way you could be leading her to do something forbidden in Islam. If you do that, you will not only be selfish but you'll also just prove that your love was merely physical. |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| BroHanif |
| 02/08/03 at 13:41:03 |
| Nicely put sis Emerald, I do think that a guy can fall in love with a practising Muslimah. Salaams Hanif |
| NS |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| jannah |
| 02/10/03 at 02:37:29 |
| peace, for some reason I was thinking about this thread last night and I think I'd have to disagree with everyone ;) I think honesty is the best policy and if you feel something about someone you should tell them. I don't think people should carry around crushes or love for someone hidden for any time periods. I think if you tell someone it clears the air. Sometimes things you don't know about the person come out like the person is engaged/married, does not think of you like that at all, etc. And then you can accept that and move on. In a Muslim environment if you liked someone you would find out from friends/family if she was available, shared ur feelings, was willing to look into marriage etc. But the thing is because you are not Muslim, you won't be able to marry her and there is no dating in Islam, so I'm not sure if there would be a point to telling her you care for her? It also puts her in an awkward position because she obviously can't have a relationship with you and probably does not want to hurt your feelings. So... in the end I see you probably emailing her telling her you have feelings for her and she emailing back saying she's flattered but she's not willing to return those feelings because of her family, religion etc etc. So then perhaps both of you can move on after that? Personally if there was some nonMuslim guy who thought he was 'in love' with me, I wouldn't like to continue interacting with him without knowing and without explaining how things are to him. anyway just my .00002 1/2 pesos |
| 02/10/03 at 02:41:27 |
| jannah |
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| Rameeza |
| 02/10/03 at 11:15:36 |
| [slm] I have to say that I agree with Jannah. I have had this happen and it really helps me, because now I am more careful even with others. I think that sometimes people feel attracted to us, whom we would not have thought in this manner and we are surprised. So knowing helps to put them out of their mysery and helps us in being more careful with them. Plus, if declaring your feelings lead the gal 'to sin' then she should reflect on the strength of her Imaan [Faith through conviction and knowledge]. We have all kinds of temptations and our Imaan keeps us from succumbing to them. Insha Allah this will lead the girl to become a better muslim. Let me just directly and bluntly admit to you that I hope it does make you read and may we all be given the chance to wish you salaams [] [] [] [] []as a brother, soon. Ameen! |
| Re: In love with a Muslim girl... |
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| theOriginal |
| 02/10/03 at 12:22:47 |
| [slm] Oh come on...you have control over NO ONE but yourself, if that. Being on the unrequited end of unrequited love is bad enough, try being on the requited end. That would royally bite. I mean, okay so if you tell someone you like them, and they go "ohhh well sorry I don't like you back..." that might hurt for like 2-3 days MAX...but if someone says to you"ohh I like you.." and you really don't like them back....You're in deep, choppy, shark-infested waters, with no lifeboat, gulping sea-water at every breath. (Wow I'm liking that imagery.) Now, of course, the girl being muslim..and the guy not being muslim...we're assuming in every normal scenario, the feelings are not mutual, correct? So why put yourself through that ordeal? Furthermore, why subject someone ELSE through that ordeal, and have that bearing forever on your conscience. (I gotta say it: the opportunity cost is just too great.) I say, be selfish, take care of your feelings, and L E T G O. SF. (Has strong, undeserved opinions...and is working on refraining from voicing them.) |
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| siddiqui |
| 02/10/03 at 12:29:11 |
| [slm] I agree with sr jannah, I think presonally it would apply to muslims too If one is interested in someone( for MARRIGE and NOT A FLING) its best to email them and ask them if their opinion ( just one email not cyber court ship) and if both are intersted they can approach their respected families and say This is the person I want to get married too period. If they arent intersted they move on to what ever Allah swt has kept in store for them But if one is interested and dosent divulge those feelings to the 'person of interest' directly and rather goes first to the family who send over the proposal then there is tons of confusion for the other person who really dosent know who the proposal is coming from person/family , why is it coming for ( sake of allah swt/cultural/educationa/financial /family) and is left wondering why me? and usually the situation is lost to whimsical ideas, family pressures and peer follies. Allah knows best [wlm] |
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| SuperHiMY |
| 02/10/03 at 12:37:51 |
| You know, If a muslim brother somehow from a distance jumped into love with a non-muslim woman, Would this thread, the discussion as it has played out so far, be the same? Dear Anonymous, I do hope you re-post here what you have decided. Even if what you end up doing goes against what everyone here has posted. Who knows, you might even give this muslim woman the url to these messages and that may make it easier for you to sorta tell her more about how you arrived at telling her what you wanna tell her... eh? Anyway, Just remember, whether you're muslim or Christian or Atheist: [i] Cupid makes you Stupid .[/i] <Begin Homer Simpson Voice> [i] Lousy Stupid Cupid. [/i] <End Homer Simpson Voice> |
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| paula |
| 02/10/03 at 18:42:38 |
| [slm] [size=2] :-* You guys are all wonderful here. Are there any bad responses....... everyone of these are great!! :-)Kathy I smiled too much !! Of course this is only only only my opinion or thought here.... I hope nobody takes it any more than just an opinion......... Insha Allah: [hr] I am agreeing with Jannah too......... Honesty and Truth..... seem to be a real key in life and the right way of life, when applied to any circumstance. I think so often fear,imagination, and misinterpretations keep us from addressing things in truth and honesty. How many situations can we think of when we face it with directness and truth..... it offers help. (to both ends). :-)Rameeza gave some good hypotheticals on this. When it comes to the issue of love and emotions though..... it seems that things get progressed and imaginations, and fears can start to take over making things ever more complicated. (oh, how often I'm thankful I was born female and not male... with all respect to the men and the difficulty they carry) ...... Yah Allah I would say though...... (in talking about true love for her)........ in that respect keep in mind always what is best for her (or any woman). When we truly love anyone we only want what is "best" for them. These rules addressed here were not just some family ideas..... they were commands sent from Allah(God). ((Islam is so great on that token... it makes things easier on us.)) The "best" for her is to keep those commands. And if under any token she is not keeping them herself........ it is "best" if you encourage her to the right way.(we are all human and humanistic, it's great when we have support to stay on track). What is more beautiful than that. Just the fact you are here asking this question is showing you have some true and honest concern and respect for her. Then we are back to the point that you are not Muslim and cannot marry....... Allah(God) gave this command for a reason. Allah(God) is all knower all wise, we should trust in that.... she knows this and trusts in this already if she is Muslim. Hmmmmm..... of course personally at this point.... I would put the subject of Love aside and invite you to explore Islam and your journey in life, because your happiness your future and all effects will be dependant upon you primarily (your the core to that). If you don't feel comfortable of course that is your call, only you have those answers. Think about is some. Even if you found a woman in life and you didn't have Islam in the middle you can make up anything you both agree to. But you cannot fight the true law of nature if that is how you may look at it. And you will be living trials any time your personal feelings are out of sink with what you have no control over. ((Islam makes it easier...... Allahu Akbar)) This can be applied to love as well as every other issue in life. I wish you happiness ........ May Allah(God) bless you in your journey.[/size] [wlm] |
| 02/10/03 at 21:16:01 |
| paula |
| Don't DO IT |
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| Maliha |
| 02/11/03 at 08:08:52 |
| [slm] Okay I can't seem to keep my mouth shut..but Anon please, please disregard all the advice to let her know..and do both yourselves a favor...DON'T TELL HER. I think people have an ideal perception of reality. The ideal is you tell the woman, she is a strong Muslimah who will Inshaallah tell you its against her religion and then try to distance herself from you. Reality may be quite different. You may tell her, and she thinks "aww how sweet". And she might be tempted into first "innocently" chatting with you, and then move on into haraam stuff. The point is the temptation is there..so please don't make things hard for her faith by telling her and tempting her into doing something she is *not* supposed to do. The best case scenario is that she will distance herself from you (which is what you should be doing anywayz...do distance yourself from her and study the element that attracts you to her..which hopefully is her character..which will lead you to studying Islaam and May Allah guide you). The worst case scenario is that you will pull her away from her deen/faith, which will result in a host of other issues, self esteem, guilt, etc and you'll mess both yourselves up. If your attraction is based on looks, then lower your gaze brother and don't even bother. So please, again please, don't tell her anything. Sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| theOriginal |
| 02/11/03 at 10:15:14 |
| [slm] heh...funny...that's what I've been trying to say all along...sis Maliha you da best :) SF. |
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| Tesseract |
| 02/11/03 at 22:53:24 |
| Assalamu 'alaikum wa Rahmatullah, [quote]Nicely put sis Emerald, I do think that a guy can fall in love with a practising Muslimah. [/quote] Ok, uncle Hanif, u gotta explain this bro. of urs (me:)), how can a guy 'fall in love' with a PRACTICING Muslimah. A practicing Muslimah ( and Muslim as well) is supposed not to allow herself/himself to fall into situations which can lead to falling in love with another Muslimah/Muslim, let alone a Non-Muslim. 'Liking' somebody is totally a different thing, but 'falling in love' is a situation that comes after a long enough time of exposure to each other. Liking for someone can be due to several reasons, maybe due to someone's character, maybe beauty, anything but that is always a point where u can control ur feelings if u want to control it. But, if one lets himself/herself loose on it, take advancements to further the case of this likeness, then it can lead to 'falling in love'. U get my point? This is 'my' understanding of 'liking' someone and 'falling in love' with someone. So, basically my point is that if the situation reaches a point where a guy falls in love with a Muslimah, I would partially blame the Muslimah for letting the other Mulim/Non-Muslim guy come so close to her that he developed these feelings, and this is not true only for a Muslimah, but this same philosophy is applicable for Muslim guys as well (i-e a Muslimah/Non-Muslimah falling in love with a Muslim guy). [quote]I dont know how she feels about me but I do sense something. [/quote] U note that what Anon. has written. He "feels" something. That feeling of his can be a wrong perception of her actions, and this is where the difference comes between a "practicing" Muslimah and a "non-practicing" Muslimah that she is very careful of her actions by following the Islamic guidelines so that there is no chance of even perceiving her actions wrongly. But, please, these all are my own thoughts and they definitely can be wrong. So, enlighten me with ur views. I am more than willing to hear them. :) Wallahu Ta'ala A'lam. Wassalam. |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 02/12/03 at 01:50:43 |
| [slm] (Peace be to you) When I started reading some of the replies, I began to get worried..then I read Maliha's post and felt happy ;D I completely agree with her. Islamically we are to to keep our sins to ourself...neone know the hadith... (lying is even aloud if it can affect our relationship with our spouses! in Islam) This may tempt the girl to sin and cause a real dilemma for her (even though you think it wont, it will. feelings are just the beginning... once you open the door to that... you start wanting more and then u end up opening the door to sin. We dont know how strong her faith is and these are weaknesses of the heart. The best thing to do is keep quiet and if you are interested in her then learn about her religion. Usually if you are interested in someone you want to learn about their likes/dislikes. Gain the satisfaction that you became knowledgable in the religion and move on. Tobe able to move on and resist your feelings for the better takes alot of courage. And that is the person whom I call a Real Man ;) Take Care and God Bless [quote][/quote]So, basically my point is that if the situation reaches a point where a guy falls in love with a Muslimah, I would partially blame the Muslimah for letting the other Mulim/Non-Muslim guy come so close to her that he developed these feelings, and this is not true only for a Muslimah, but this same philosophy is applicable for Muslim guys as well (i-e a Muslimah/Non-Muslimah falling in love with a Muslim guy).[quote][/quote] Tesseract I agree with you here.. but noone is perfect. A practicing Muslim and muslima can spend much time on msa activites.. this way they have to talk and eventually they talk some more.. and love can just happen.... just an example/thought |
| 02/12/03 at 01:53:17 |
| a_Silver_Rose |
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| BroHanif |
| 02/12/03 at 14:04:21 |
| Bro Tesserect, My understanding is as follows, lets talk about the real world and not something that is perhaps a bit harder to attain, maybe utopian. What I mean is you see a practicing Muslimah, this person works in the same office or is in the same uni/town/ on same Muslim Student Work whatever. You ponder long and hard what your wants are, does one want the delicious fruits of the hearafter or does s/he want heartache and sexual urge for a few days of this life ? What are your goals in life ? You want to avoid sin, yet be happy Islamically you therefore decide you need a partner, marrige is a team. You know this Muslimah her way of practicing Islaam really makes you happy, complete reliance on Allah you hear, the pondering of death and Islaam as her way of life. Strong on all fronts, done quite a lot for deen, top character and above all she's single. Do these qualities not attract you ?. True it may be sometime before you find such hooris, you may find out over a period of months or years. We all have goals and aspirations to what we want, perhaps this Muslimah you already know she's single. Directly you challenge your nafs every day about not looking into this too much, yet you've started to maybe like her in an Islamic sense, you keep your gaze down and thoughts away from sin, but the more you hear about her way of life the more it makes sense to you that its what you want. And who knows by the time her parents come and see your family, you know what answer your going to give, because your in .... this article may help you ... http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=bro;action=display;num=1044611136 I leave it to your Islaamic thought, let me know if it makes sense. Hanif p.s. the above post does not indicate in any way that we should all start dating the MSA brothers and sisters!. Hanif |
| NS |
| 02/12/03 at 14:07:25 |
| BroHanif |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 02/12/03 at 19:36:55 |
| [slm] I am going to add to what I wrote at the end of my post. This is a true life experience. This Brother was the MSA president and this Sister was the Secretary. I will tell you that this Sister is very very close to me and she had never ever done anything Islamically wrong. Mash'Allah she was and still is the role model to our community. She is also personally my role model. She is a very strong headed,smart woman, and pious, Mash'Allah. She never dated... well this brother and sister have to communicate ofcourse to set up activities. Well one day he called her as usual for the program but told her that he liked her. She didnt think she was beautiful or anything as nonone ever asked her out, (although i think she is very pretty, she just didnt know). She was shocked and didnt really understand what he was saying. So her freind told her that "he likes you girl!" Then slowly they started talking more and more. She thought it was ok because they were not ever alone or doing nething very wrong. And ofcourse she was amused that he liked her. He is a good brother and religious. Slowly she fell in love with him. I think it went on for a yr...maybe..more.. He asked his parents and they rejected just because she was born and raised in US and his parents had a bius although Mash'Allah she was I bet more pious then any of those girls in the Muslim country. He just agreed to what his parents said because he didnt want to cause any trouble, as he said he caused alot of trouble in his childhood. But what about her??? Its hard for me to forgive to this day. she just accepted it and was ofcourse broken hearted. So you see the man made a mistake tellling her, her feelings. He should of asked his parents as soon as he realized he liked her..instead of talking to her more. Ofcourse she shouldnt have talked.. but she thought Mash'Allah he is a good guy. And you see these are the weaknesses of the heart. I only related this experience to tell you all something. Even if the man is a pious Muslim, it doesnt matter. I am goin to erase this soon just to save her dignity but I had to tell the story unwillingly. The only thing about being pious Muslims is that the faith remains strong and you know that Allah (swt) knows best. So it is easier to move on. And you just remain stronger please reflect your sister |
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| humble_muslim |
| 02/12/03 at 23:44:08 |
| AA Apologies if anyone is offended by this tone, but to me this is a clear cut situation ... Anonymous, please stay away from this girl until you decide to become a muslim. You are in serious danger of really messing up her life, if not your own. It will NEVER work out unless you become muslim, so give up on ANY thoughts that something might happen. It is just impossible : a muslim girl CANNOT marry a non-muslim boy. This is not a racist or sexist thing, but a clear order from Allah SWT. I'm sorry to say that I find a lot of the advice given to you in this thread rather immature and misleading (apologies if I offend anyone again), but I'm a little bit older than most of the guys/gals here, and have also been married for over 10 years. I hope and pray that Allah SWT guides you to the path of Islam, but unless you want to cause serious problems for this girl, please stay away. |
| NS |
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| Rameeza |
| 02/13/03 at 16:30:22 |
| [slm] It seems like most people want the sister, not to be told. Plus some feel that it is her fault to have gotten into a situation that lead this poor guy to fall for her. Now comes my confusion.. ??? ??? ??? ??? ??? If he does not tell her either, and she is quite blind to his thoughts, how will she ever learn and distance herself and use this knowledge to be more careful in the future? Plus, I have even met gals who have had admirers just by being in college, not even having too many intereactions with the men. Should these women stop college , since this behavior is leading to men getting attracted to them? or should they learn that there are men that might be interested and learn how to deal with these thing when they come up? See, we have to live in this world, and as much as we would like it to be, it is not a perfect world. WE have to learn to turn it around to suite our faith and culture. This means fortifying our faith and Imaan, not telling others how to be around us, but being the way we have to be, regardless of others. As an analogy, it would be great if satan were not tempting us at every step, but the fact remains that he is. The only solution is strengthning ourselves against him. Same deal here. This chap can tell her or not but some other fellow will. WHich ever way she will be tested. I pray that she is strong, and that is all anyone can do. :) Well, I'd like to go a little further and pray that this man WILL accept Islam. With or without this gal! Ameen. [] |
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| se7en |
| 02/15/03 at 00:20:32 |
| after some discussion with various people [jazakam Allahu khayran for your insight :)], I'm putting my post back up.. slightly edited. hope it's of benefit inshaAllah. --- as salaamu alaykum / peace, brutha man anonymous, you are the one who knows your situation best, but what I can tell you is that, in terms of what Islam teaches, a man and woman do not engage or even approach a romantic relationship unless the end goal is marriage. This is to preserve intimacy, both spiritual and physical, for the person to whom you're bonded to in marriage - marriage being the ultimate relationship of trust, responsibility, love, and commitment. Honestly, as a Muslim girl, if a non-Muslim guy came up to me and told me that he liked me or was in love with me, I wouldn't get upset or angry or anything like that, but I would just let him know that this type of relationship is not one I'd be able to pursue. If you do decide to let her know and this happens in your case, don't take it to mean that the chica dislikes or has rejected *you*; it would go for anyone that approached her in the same way, because those are her principles and the ethics she stands by. And on your part, it would show mucho maturity, strength, and respect for her, if you honored this decision. for the rest of y'all, I'm really suprised that some feel they have the right to tell someone how they feel. I don't think this is the way you should treat a person who confides their feelings in you, and wants to know the right way of going about doing things. At the very least, if a guy has the decency to *come and ask* what the appropriate behavior here is, you should let him know what the deal is, instead of taking out your shotgun :P Also, the Qur'an says that no person bears the burden of another. I really take serious issue with requesting that a non-Muslim abide by the teachings of Islam, due to our own personal weaknesses or inclinations. We should fortify and strengthen ourselves and our brothers and sisters, instead of pleading with those outside the fold to have mercy on us. If you want to prevent your child from eating candy, I don't think the solution is to ask your local grocery store to stop selling M&M's. It'd be very nice if he did, but the grocer is under no obligation to make sure your child is listening to the rules at home; and your child can just find another grocer, or another chocolate. On another note, I don't think you guys have talked to too many practicing Muslimahs if you think that they've never been approached by a non-Muslim guy who liked or was in love with her. It's foolish to think that simply because a sis is practicing, and covers, and keeps a level of respect and dignity between her and the opposite sex, that someone would not be attracted to her. Haven't we heard on this very message board about guys who find hijab feminine, graceful, and beautiful? My sociology professor once told me that he found niqaab "erotic". So this idea is not by any means farfetched, and if you think it is, I suggest you ask a practicing Muslimah about it :P Nor is it always the case that the sister did something to lead the guy on; emotions can build in one person but not in the other. Many Muslimahs have experienced this, and have had to come up with diplomatic ways of telling a guy that she is not interested or willing to have such a relationship. My point is that attraction and chemistry happen, and these can lead to deeper emotions, even if the interaction is kept to a minimum. The key is for this attraction to be restricted and directed towards ways that are permissible and beneficial. I know of many cases in which a non-Muslim developed feelings for a Muslim, sought out more knowledge about Islam, and actually took the shahada, and then pursued a relationship that was proper and halal. wAllahu a'lam wasalaamu alaykum |
| 02/15/03 at 00:24:27 |
| se7en |
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| Barr |
| 02/15/03 at 01:06:54 |
| Assalamu'alaikum :) Dear anon, When I first read your post... I think it is very sweet and respectful of you to ask us about this. There are not many men, who would be very much concerned on the adab (ettiquette/ conduct/ ethics) when they feel for someone whom they like,.... I've known of some, who would just say out, their feelings, without pondering over the responsibility that comes with it. The same thing goes with love . It is a very powerful emotion with a deep meaning, that rises from a person's heart placed there by God. Sometimes, there are other emotions that dress themselves up as love, and that is where we have to be sure wot we are truly feeling. Just as there various definitions, of the same thing.. Islam has its own definition of love, and the responsibility that comes with that emotion which influences our actions. There are many advises that are given in this thread.. and at the end of the day, it is your choice to do with wot you feel inside, no matter how many strong voices there are here. We do not know how this girl will react, if such emotions are being told. Many of us feel protective and may sound as such... though I hope you do not feel as if we are dictating you on wot to do. But this feeling of protectiveness also arises out of love, so that this sister of ours, would always keep her honour safe. I hope I dont' sound as if you are out to steal it... please forgive me if I do.... I think se7en says it best, mashaAllah... that marriage being the ultimate relationship of trust, responsibility, love, and commitment. And that guides us, on how we would want to pursue someone whom we would want to give our trust, responsibilty, commitment and love. And if this is wot you truly, want.. then the next step that you may want to look into is Islam. To me and many sisters... our love to a man is so sacred... it wouldn't just be given to any man... except to the Muslim man whom we marry. And that is perhaps, wot the Muslim girl, whom U have feelings towards feel as well. I pray that you would ponder over many points in this thread, made by very concerned brothers and sisters. And I hope God will guide you to find the right decision to make. Allahua'lam (Allah knows best) |
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| Nafisa |
| 02/15/03 at 11:06:35 |
| [slm] I don't know about Anon, but i have learnt so much by reading this thread. Se7en talks a lot of sense but I understand ppl's concern of not wanting feelings to be shared in case the sis does get tempted. I hope Inshallah, the situation works out for both parties and that there isn't too much heartbreak. |
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