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| Wanted: Married Men for Single Saudi Women |
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| jaihoon |
| 02/23/03 at 10:35:06 |
| Wanted: Married Men for Single Saudi Women Omayma Al-Salakh, Arab News Staff RIYADH, 23 February 2003 — Despite the variety of marriages that exist in the Kingdom — from weekend to secret marriages — hundreds of thousands of young women remain single. And many of them are now prepared to marry men who are already married and have children. Al-Hafof, 27, who is beautiful and has a forceful personality, says she would not mind marrying a married man, provided she would be his last wife. “I can handle a married man even if he has had three wives before me. But I couldn’t stand it if he married another woman after me,” she told Sayidaty, a sister publication of Arab News. Earning a good salary in a government department, Majdah, 25, says she does not mind being a second, third or even fourth wife. “I’m not married, so I’m forced to live with my father, my brother and his wife and kids in the family house. I can’t make any decision about my own life in this situation.” Things can become tense, she explains. “It bothers my father a lot if he sees me sitting there because it reminds him that I’m still unmarried. He’s always criticizing me and trying to limit my freedom. It’s always, ‘Don’t talk to this person, don’t be late.’ I’m ready to say yes to the first man who comes along.” Noof thinks differently. “I think a man who marries more than once is weak, even if he’s financially capable and prepared to treat his wives equally. I don’t mind being a second, third or fourth wife as long as I’m in control. A smart woman knows how to make her husband think only about her and forget the other women.” A first wife, Hala married her cousin 15 years ago. “He told me that he loved children very much, so in 12 years I gave birth to 10 children. He was so happy about them. People were surprised by the way he loved his children. He always tried to make them happy. But two years ago, he told me he would marry another woman because I wasn’t taking proper care of him. Despite all my efforts to stop him, he married her.” Hala concedes that he treated her and the new wife equally. Then, after about a year, he started to spend more time with her in his first home. “He couldn’t get used to the silence in the other home. Sometimes I feel sorry for the other woman, but it’s her fault. She knew he was married with kids.” For Haya, 27, a beautiful, rich woman, the main issue is becoming a mother. “I have no illusions. I think I’ve reached an age where I’ll probably only find a married man. Most men want to marry young women. I want to cet married to satisfy the maternal instinct in me. I don’t need a man to support me — thank God I have enough money and my family is well-known. All I want is to have lots of children.” She does, however, expect a husband to treat her fairly. “He can divide his days between us,” she says, adding a note of caution: “I’ll make sure that there is a huge financial penalty in case he wants to divorce me.” Like these women, Sooad, a wealthy 32-year-old, is realistic about her reasons for marrying, in her case a man with four daughters and three sons. “I met him during a flight and we talked a little. After that, he called me to tell me more about himself. He felt he was living a bad life with his wife, who left the servants to do all the work and never took care of him. He felt neglected, so asked me to marry him. I said ‘yes’ on the spot. If I hadn’t accepted him, someone else would — probably a foreigner.” |
| Re: Wanted: Married Men for Single Saudi Women |
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| Tesseract |
| 02/23/03 at 17:45:35 |
| Assalamu 'alaikum, [quote] Despite the variety of marriages that exist in the Kingdom — from weekend to secret marriages [/quote] WEEKEND marriage? what's that? :o Don't tell me it means they don't have anything else to do on weekends, so they go get married :D [quote]Al-Hafof, 27, who is beautiful and has a forceful personality, says she would not mind marrying a married man, provided she would be his last wife. “I can handle a married man even if he has had three wives before me. But I couldn’t stand it if he married another woman after me,” she told Sayidaty, a sister publication of Arab News. [/quote] What's up with this one? She thinks she knows a lot of male psychology, huh? Can marry a man who has 3 wives before her but doesn't want him to marry anymore after her. Doesn't really make sense ::) But who knows, maybe she knows the Saudi men's psychology. :P [quote]“He told me that he loved children very much, so in 12 years I gave birth to 10 children.[/quote] Man! Give the woman a life. 10 children in 12 years, SubhanAllah. I didn't know loving children could also mean one can start acting like a bacterium (Bacteria can multiply every 20 minutes) [quote]He felt he was living a bad life with his wife, who left the servants to do all the work and never took care of him. He felt neglected, so asked me to marry him.[/quote] Makes me think how wealth can be a problem too. Why don't these people learn to give away money to poor countries in charity? This is what happens when husband and wife (or either one of them) fail to understand each others' emotions no matter how many luxuries of life u have around urself. Wallahu A'alm. Wassalam. |
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