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Why do ladies grrrrumble?
jaihoon
02/23/03 at 04:18:31
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With all due respect... i have never been to able to understand why they do it?

Screaming is understandable, bearable... but grumbling... ufff  :o
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
BroHanif
02/23/03 at 05:41:33
Salaams

baffles me as well,  its something in the genes and I think when the full moon occurs they go overboard...
Its good that you've brought this up, I hope theres no full moon tonight otherwise your done for Jaihoon.

Salaams
Hanif
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
eleanor
02/23/03 at 10:39:43
:o

what's this? Two brothers barging in and dissing the sisters!!

Very brave, very courageous... but oh dear...very very un-thought through!!!

My opinion? Women do not grumble! Men grumble, like an old volcano. Muttering and complaining and never getting to the point. Complaining about everything except that what is truly bothering them.
Women may nag or whine or even moan but never ever grumble!!!!
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
sista
02/23/03 at 18:55:49
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Hmm...been wondering about this recently actually...especially in the light of hadiths like:

It is narrated on the authority of 'Abdullah b. Umar that the Messenger of Allah  [saw] observed:

O womenfolk, you should give charity and ask much forgiveness for I saw you in bulk amongst the dwellers of Hell. A wise lady among them said: Why is it, Messenger of Allah  [saw], that our folk is in bulk in Hell? Upon this the Holy Prophet  [saw] observed: You curse too much and are ungrateful to your spouses.

(Muslim)


And also

Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah's Apostle [saw] as saying:

He who believes in Allah and the Hereafter, if he witnesses any matter he should talk in good terms about it or keep quiet. Act kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards women.

(Muslim)


Are we really more given to complain than men? Why? Mayhap it's difficult for me to understand since the men are more given to complain in my family - my father always says that women never get to the point...they expect a man to know everything that's in their minds and be at their beck and call etc etc etc...except that this argument is usually an indirect complaint that dinner's not on the table... :D

Having said that, I honestly wonder about us females - a friend of mine observed recently:

"You know, guys just get angry and punch it out...then they're ok.  But [i]women[/i]..." She pulled a face, "Our tongues are deadlier than their fists - we gossip and backbite and complain, we carry on way after we've wreaked our revenge, and we never seem to get the negative feelings out of our system!"  Then she raised her hands in a fast, clawing gesture. "Meeow! Catfight!"

I pondered this for a long time....and then came to the conclusion that there are easier things to understand...like nailing water to a tree...

[wlm]
02/23/03 at 18:59:04
sista
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
flyboy_nz
02/25/03 at 06:03:40
[quote]I pondered this for a long time....and then came to the conclusion that there are easier things to understand...like nailing water to a tree...  

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vaa vaa!! well said Sis...maan this looks worse than I thought!! even the women don't understand women and here I was thinkin that I might have a shot at it :o

your post would certainly get my vote for the "most profound post award"  ;)

[wlm],
;-)Ahmed
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
hiJabeeThug
02/25/03 at 20:49:54

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its GENES ???? i don't think sooo !!!! me i YELL A LOT .... well its a habit ... since i talk/yell in english ma granny say in urdu "  eh english ain't a good language do all people talk like that"

i yell cuz people like to bother me .. like my sister she'll pull my hair n run away... my brother botherin me saying ..... am teachin u  patience another reason i yell is NO CUZ OF GENES !!!!!

there is a hadith i duno the exact words

womens are like RIBS handle them with care if u bend it it will break n if u straighten it ... i forgot da rest inshallah when i find it
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
sister2sister
02/25/03 at 23:49:10
Salaam to all

I don't grumble, I threaten ;D

YSII :-)
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
WhatDFish
02/26/03 at 10:29:05
Women nag. period. :P


right brothers??
02/26/03 at 10:30:25
WhatDFish
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Sabr
02/26/03 at 12:54:00
Who grumbles!! ~ ::)(and she grumbles silently ..y do they think we grumble ,,,, those bros ..hmm ,,,, don't they knw its a good way to vent friustration ..we don't grumble we just talk 2 ourselves..would they rather us cry?..and we cry 4 everything  :'(   )


;D ;D
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Duha
02/27/03 at 21:06:20
WHY DO MEN SNORE? ;D
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
theOriginal
02/27/03 at 21:47:50
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Is it just me, or is marriage beginning to look like a bleak and gloomy scenario?  

Everywhere, everyone is complaining about their spouses.  

As for why we grumble...would you men ever know how we felt if we didn't engrain it into you every 3 seconds.  I know it takes me an average of 34 tries to get my brother to just HEAR me.  Now, please don't generalize that all women exaggerrate.  I promise, it's just me.

Wasalaam.
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
BrKhalid
02/28/03 at 05:20:22
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

[quote]Act kindly towards woman, for woman is created from a rib, and the most crooked part of the rib is its top. If you attempt to straighten it, you will break it, and if you leave it, its crookedness will remain there. So act kindly towards women[/quote]


Isn’t this hadith indicative of a woman’s sensitive nature as compared to man?

As we all know women are equal to men but our natures are different. ;-)


[quote]Is it just me, or is marriage beginning to look like a bleak and gloomy scenario?[/quote]


Now now….it’s not all grumbling and snoring!!


There’s the soiled diapers to look forward to as well ;)
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
dirt
03/06/03 at 06:50:21
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Feh, women NEED to be emotional and sensitive.  I mean, if a men squeezed out children the world population would plummet.

A woman screams and yells, sometimes for hours, through a painful process called childbirth.  After this child causes her unspeakable pain and agony how does she treat this little one?  She has nothing but unconditional love for the bugger.  She stays awake late at night feeding the tike every few hours, rocking, holding, playing, etc etc.  

Shoooooooot.  If men had to have kids.....one would be enough.  After a man goes through something like that he takes precautions to prevent it from happening again.  Yet women.....a lot of them actually want MORE!!!

Unbelievable really.  But such is the Greatness of Allah SWT.  

Yeah....they do nag though.  It gets old.....stop it......seriously.

[wlm]

Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
SisterHania
03/07/03 at 10:38:19
Women grumble more when our husbands ignore us. Plus when you're trapped in the house 24-7 with nothing but young children for company it add's to the madness and heightens the grumbling.

When you're single and independant life's easy. When you have to share it with someone, you have to comprise on the way matters are done. Leads to grumbling.

Plus you're forgetting to mention PMT, that really increases grumbling.
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
BrKhalid
03/07/03 at 10:41:24
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-)

[quote]Plus you're forgetting to mention PMT, that really increases grumbling[/quote]

I was wondering when someone was going to bring that up ;-)


Nice to see you back Sr Hania ;-)
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Kathy
03/07/03 at 20:12:54
[quote author=Bulwark of Islam link=board=bro;num=1046016092;start=15#15 date=03/07/03 at 14:20:26] Pardon my ignorance here please, but what's "PMT"?[/quote]

Post Marital Tension :-/
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
BroHanif
03/08/03 at 12:27:02
Salaams,

[quote]Pardon my ignorance here please, but what's "PMT"? [/quote]

I thought it meant Pre Marrige Tension, and then after marrige
Post Married Tension!(of course generated only by the women folk)

Salaams

Hanif
NS
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Emerald
03/26/03 at 01:09:31
I'm posting a little late I believe but I couldn't help it. Just needed to say this thread gave the most laughs! :-/ :'( :-/ :'( :-/ :'( :-/ :'(
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
sista
04/01/03 at 21:30:14
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Does She Complain? [img]http://mazeguy.tripod.com/animated/yo-yo.gif[/img]

Does she complain that her depth exceeds
The modest length of your dearest deeds?
Does she conspire to whisper rank and low,
That your most wanton rhythm is too slow?

Does she protest that your erudition
Be more agile than sublime position?
Does she denounce with vitriolic spice
Your laying down so soon the sweetest price?

Does she decry with bitter, angry prose
Your entrance swift into deep repose?
If she does, give her this thought to savor:
Love's noble pleasure loses its flavor
When thus sentenced to suffer hard labor.  

[wlm]
04/01/03 at 21:30:57
sista
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Dude
04/02/03 at 14:37:11
"Women- you can't live with 'em...pass the beernuts."
-Norm Peterson, [i]Cheers![/i]

;D
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
strivinsista
04/09/03 at 19:58:40
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wuts with u GUYS !!! why care bout ladies !!<-- wanted to say this forever we grumble .... well i grumble cuz my brothers annoy me really annoy me !! so stop annoying ur sisters !! tha's why we grumble. f ur wife grumble don't give her roses tha's only for one dollar get sumfin more expensive don't be cheap .... n then ur wifes will stop grumblin.
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Dude
04/10/03 at 11:43:35
[quote]"Women- you can't live with 'em...pass the beernuts."
-Norm Peterson, Cheers![/quote]






;D
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
al-tawbah
04/11/03 at 11:16:19
asalamu alaikum

i don't think that grumbling is limited to women.    many men do as well.    some people are just grumblers, just as some epople are pretty much upbeat.

i do, however, believe that in general, women tend to be more emotional than men.

allah*swt* created the heart of women differently than that of men.    yet those differences complement each other, hence we are to be partners.

wasalaam
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
UmmWafi
04/11/03 at 11:40:13

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[quote author=dirt link=board=bro;num=1046016092;start=0#12 date=03/06/03 at 06:50:21] [slm]
A woman screams and yells, sometimes for hours, through a painful process called childbirth.  After this child causes her unspeakable pain and agony how does she treat this little one?  She has nothing but unconditional love for the bugger.  She stays awake late at night feeding the tike every few hours, rocking, holding, playing, etc etc.  
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Hmmm...I had to spend 16 hours in labour when I was delivering my 1st child.  My contractions, according to the good doctor "were hard and close".  Alhamdulillah, I did not once shout or yell or scream.  I was busy reciting du'as and surahs and asking forgiveness from my husband whose fingers were nearly broken by my grip.

My elder child is 6 1/2 years old and even at this tender age he has unwittingly caused a few twinges of pain in my heart.  Like the time when he was cross and tired after a football game and he refused to be hugged by me in front of his cousins cos he was embarrassed.  Like the time he sulked because I won't buy him a gameboy and he muttered that I don't love him anymore.  Like the time I toiled over stove cooking his fave dish and he ate only few spoonfuls cos the one at the foodstall tasted better.  The list goes on.  Still, the love I bear him remains true and strong since the first time I heard his first heartbeat till now.  The same goes for my daughter.  She will always be the most beautiful lil girl in the whole wide world.  And I, I will always be their mother, even if I don't cook chicken rice as good as the one they like.  Even if I refuse to buy them games and even if I insist on hugging them in public.  The mother who went with zero sleep when either one fall sick.  The mother who keeps her heartbreak hidden at every parting so that her children do not share her sorrows.  The mother who willingly walk over broken glasses carrying her infants so that they are safe from harm.  The mother who risked her life to bring them into this world and who will ensure that they live those lives to the fullest.

And the father ?  They understand and appreciate the need to support the mother and listen to her heart even if they think its grumble.

Wassalam.  
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
al-tawbah
04/11/03 at 11:45:56
masha allah

very well put, sister umm wafi
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Dude
04/12/03 at 17:46:58
[quote]The mother who willingly walk over broken glasses carrying her infants so that they are safe from harm.  The mother who risked her life to bring them into this world and who will ensure that they live those lives to the fullest.
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Reminds me of my dearest Mum...bless her soul.

[i]Sniffle.[/i]

Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Rameeza
05/23/03 at 10:46:50
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First I have to hand it to sister Ummwafi for bringing tears to my eyes and reminding me of my mom.  :'( :'( :'( :'(
Now getting back to the thread let me tell you about women who DON'T grumble! If you could only read our thoughts when you do something stupid and we smile pleasantly at you, it would make you scream and run and hug that grumbling woman who is atleast, letting you know that you are not in her favored list at the moment.  :-X It is a form of venting for her but it helps you a great deal, for it lets you guys know your current standing in her mind. Since most men are quite, mm shall I say "slow" ??? mm ya slow ;D at getting wind of most situations in their personal lives, its great for them if a woman DOES grumble to drill it into their heads that all is not well.
The alternative is to get a very pleasant woman who on reaching the end of her patience with you leaves a "goodbye" note signed with a smily face on the fridge! tata ! cherio! Toodloo!!!  :-/ ;D :-/ ;D
Plus even the women who do grumble are cutting you a lot of slack before they do so, so be grateful brothers! Be very grateful.!
BTW sisters! My friends and I, at work, were coming up with words that described trouble for women and they all started with 'men'. Like MENopause, MENstruation, MENtal illness etc.  [] [] [] [] []
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Yasmeena
05/26/03 at 00:45:43
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As to the side dissssssssss, why do women nag, or the comment that women just nag, right brothers ...

We nag because our husbands procrastinate!  ALL THE TIME!!!!!!!

RIGHT SISTERS????   :) :) :)

I think I will have one or two now.   []  []  []

Yasmeena

P. S.

My husband is biting his tongue right about now!!

He asked me, "and your point IS???"

[wlm]
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Nomi
05/26/03 at 07:54:57
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There is an ayah of the Noble Qur'an that says that "Humans are daef (weak)"

Ladies have their problems, we men have ours, life isn't perfect we'll have to live with the beauty and problems of it. Yes, we should strive for betterment but again few things are hard to change like i've been trying hard to convince ladies (mehram) around me not to grumble and yell but its of no use till yet :) ... soon inshAllah :) try try again... and if its a lady.. try again and so on :).. j/k..

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I thought it meant Pre Marrige Tension, and then after marrige  
Post Married Tension!(of course generated only by the women folk)
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Uncle Hanif: i would have joined you again but lets make it easier on our sisters this time :) :)

Seriously speaking, i think ladies are more receptive than men, most of them are innocent/sensitive and they give in if things are told to them with proper reasoning, mashAllah

Asim Zafar
PS: nice image next to your nick strivinsista :) keep it up sis
05/26/03 at 09:23:34
Nomi
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
samr
05/26/03 at 13:21:00
[quote author=UmmWafi link=board=bro;num=1046016092;start=15#23 date=04/11/03 at 11:40:13]
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Hmmm...I had to spend 16 hours in labour when I was delivering my 1st child.  My contractions, according to the good doctor "were hard and close".  Alhamdulillah, I did not once shout or yell or scream.  I was busy reciting du'as and surahs and asking forgiveness from my husband whose fingers were nearly broken by my grip.

My elder child is 6 1/2 years old and even at this tender age he has unwittingly caused a few twinges of pain in my heart.  Like the time when
And the father ?  They understand and appreciate the need to support the mother and listen to her heart even if they think its grumble.

Wassalam.  
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bsmlahh

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:'(  i beagn dropping tears in the end of the text  :'(

In mine age  1 _  :u can allmost see how the mother see hers child ok ok nat see but can see and imagen with out a problemo at the same time i can imagen or see the way the child see his pherents thats cool alhamdulillah we don got any seriosly problem in ouer familia.
by the way when am srill here i wanne say that
the 2women and man talk " Isnt that good because because male and female schould live together in peac so the children get balensed male and female behaivior. I ahve seen when a kid get more female behaivior or else
i mean havn't u all seen it in the west ()I live in sweden and i have seen aloot around here() if i were in saudiarabia or kuait or IRAQ the mother land i mean any arabic land i wouldent belive how parents  here change partners and liveing 2gether with oute been marrid its a tootaly childhood the parents is living in i mean they change partners and sometimes 2 girls live 2gether and they WANT 2 ADOPT KIDS and the kids here is nat what u expect  now am getting very far i dont like 2 continu But alhamdu li Rabb al 3alemeen  made some rool that we schould follwo.

and am happi abat that REALLY HAPPI  ::)  :)  ;)  ;)  :)  ???
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
SwordOfAllah
06/10/03 at 23:17:06
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{Y u talkin bout weman grumbling...............well i bet u right now they have the questions"Y do men get strrrresed out so much"? on there Akhwat Cafe, n there writing weird comments bout u guys}

 hahahaha, well, anyways, in the same time.....i agree w/ u guys, they do grummble alot, but believe me its for the good of it......they do it for ur sake...... ;)
*wat was the cause for there grummbling, sum other gender had to piss them off or sumthing........ :P..........but still i agree w/ all u guys bout this unheard of topic...


 [wlm]
Sword Of Allah
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
muahmed
06/12/03 at 19:51:39
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Women can grumble, nag, scream, meoww, scratch, bite, tug, push, kick...... and a lot more if they want, because we can't live without them.

What is the use of complaining when no matter what we say about women at the end of the day we will want them.

The only great tragedy that we can complain about is their knowing that!
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
theOriginal
06/16/03 at 08:58:56
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Are you still complaining about us complaining?

Jeez...this thread is like what? FOUR months old....

I have just realized why the bros think the Ikhwan is more interesting...they just have a longer attention span than we do....

I mean we're still discussing hijaab colors, but at least we think of NEW and EXCITING titles to label the SAME topics.  

Anyway, I still stick to my previous statement:

Women HAVE to grumble....because MEN don't listen.

(When in doubt, blame the man.  ;D )

Wasalaam.
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
bhaloo
06/16/03 at 09:29:51
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[quote author=JustOne link=board=bro;num=1046016092;start=30#32 date=06/16/03 at 08:58:56] I have just realized why the bros think the Ikhwan is more interesting...they just have a longer attention span than we do....[/quote]

Actually sisters Panjul and Strivinsista said they thought the Ikhwan Folder was more interesting.  :)   Now that Mr. Bean is gone, is there anyone that can save the Akhwat folder? ???
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
al-tawbah
06/16/03 at 09:57:30
asalamu alaikum

i have a question for the sisters.

if a man is alone in a forest and he speaks, but there is no woman to hear him, ..... is he still wrong?
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
theOriginal
06/16/03 at 10:18:01
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[quote]if a man is alone in a forest and he speaks, but there is no woman to hear him, ..... is he still wrong? [/quote]

Ahahahahahah.  

Dude, that was funny.  Yes, he is wrong by default.  If there was a woman present to tell him that he was right, then MAYYYYBE he would be right.  But to be on the safer side, he's wrong.

Wasalaam.
Re: Why do ladies grrrrumble?
Lil_Sista
06/21/03 at 03:39:24
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well that's nature if we ladies grumble......that's the way we are,bros! but u think that u guys dont grumble(or even worse)???!!!!!  ;)  u better find out what makes us grumble instead of complaining.....rite,sistas? we dont grumble without any reasons  []

peace out!  :-)

Ki Ki


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