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| Raindrops |
| 03/25/03 at 16:36:24 |
| [slm] I will be having a baby next month Inshallah :).......since this is my first pregnancy and I don't have any friends or family nearby :( .....it will only be my husband and me..... I need all the advice that you can give me about what to do after the delivery .....like..... 1) What foods to eat. 2) What not to eat. 3) What precautions to take. 4) Tips of all sorts. 5) in short the whole works ;D . I would be especially grateful if you can tell me what worked for you and what I absolutely should'nt do. JazakAllah :-* :-* :-* |
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| Kathy |
| 03/31/03 at 09:32:21 |
| [quote author=Myst link=board=sis;num=1048628184;start=0#0 date=03/25/03 at 16:36:24] [slm] 1) What foods to eat. [/quote] Make sure you eat lots of roughage... corn on the cob works,,,when all else fails! Lots of calcium...especially if you are breastfeeding. Lots of water! Same foods. Except try to eat healthier if you are nursing. Also keep taking your prenatals, if doc says it is ok. [quote] 2) What not to eat.[/quote] Many babies do not like the tast of cabbages, broccoli or onions in their mothers milk. Also stay away from the caffeine! [quote]3) What precautions to take.[/quote] Make sure your hubby knows the signs and understands Post Partum Depression. Read up on Baby safety tips. Crib, home, clothes etc... [quote]4) Tips of all sorts.[/quote] Go to the bookstore and buy a good baby book. It will educate you in so many ways. Also, being a Muslim, read up on what to do once the baby is born. Akeekah, dates, Kaleemah, charity + shaving the head, etc... |
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| M.F. |
| 04/01/03 at 09:45:57 |
| Assalamu alaikum Myst, I IM'd you cause I'm expecting a baby in about a month too :) Not much support here either.... :( but al hamdu lillah my sister and her baby will be here :) I'm sure the baby will be a lot of help ;) I've been trying to read up on different websites but there's so much information. Here's what stuck with me: Baby Blues (hormone levels dropping over night cause wierd symptoms like crying for no reason and so on) caring for the umbilical cord, apparently you have to wipe it with alcohol at every diaper change, with a q-tip your hair will fall out (a lot of it anyway) but it'll grow back. anything that gives you gas or constipation will do the same to the baby you need 500 extra calories a day when you're breastfeeding!! even more calcium than now. Your milk won't come in till about day 3 but don't worry, subhan Allah the baby's just fine till then with just the collostrum. You absolutely shouldn't put the baby to sleep any way but on his or her back. You have to make sure they're not too hot or too cold, they can't regulate their own temperature for a while. (I'm not sure how long). Don't be too strick about feeding times, the baby will let you know when it's hungry. There's a book called "The Girlfriends Guide to the First Year with a Baby" or something like that. It's probably good. I read the "GF's Guide to Pregnancy," and it was funny and very honest, but you should probably also get more technical books like Dr. Sears' books. I wish I could get those but living over here I'll have to wait till someone travels to the US. Kathy.... mmmmmm corn on the cob!!!!! |
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| BrKhalid |
| 04/01/03 at 10:12:09 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) Hang on in my experience your husband will also need help, if not more!!! ;) But seriously make sure your husband knows the drill when the big day actually arrives and he has some idea of what to expect the first few days after birth. And make sure he knows how to change the baby’s diapers. I’m sorry but you’re not a real father unless you’ve gotten “your hands dirty” so to speak ;-) InshaAllah all will go well and Allah will grant you a healthy, pious child ;-) |
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| Dawn |
| 04/01/03 at 15:02:34 |
| [slm] As for the Baby Blues, I've seen it happen to some women, but I don't think it happens universally. I had no problems in this direction. So don't get worried if you don't get them, either. ;) And some of your hair will probably fall out, but it might not do it right away. Mine waited nearly three months after the birth to fall out, and then I was momentarily worried I was going bald or something. I had always heard that you lose hair, but I wasn't prepared for [i]how much[/i] I lost. But it grew back in again, eventually. My experience in the extra calories is to eat when you are hungry. At first I tried to just add those 500 extra calories, but I was always hungry. I guess I needed a good more than 500 extra calories when I was breastfeeding, but then my daughter was/is a really, really good eater. And Kathy sure is right about the roughage. One surprise I found out about all those late night feedings and diaper changes (and I had a child who didn't really sleep through the night till she was over a year old) was that so long as you are breastfeeding, those interruptions are easier to take. Perhaps when we breastfeed, our bodies are producing hormones or something which make interrupted and insufficient sleep easier to deal with. (What say the doctors in the house?) So, don't be surprised if (should he also get up to help you with some of these middle of the night affairs) your hubby is more tired than you are. |
| 04/01/03 at 15:03:51 |
| Dawn |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 04/01/03 at 17:15:20 |
| the only thing i thought was kinda weird was when I brought the baby in the house for the 1st time. I thought, now where am i supposed to put this thing , in the middle of the living room, the play room or his room after that it was a piece of cake (well not really), but it is the best experience that can happen to you guys as a couple. The only advice I have if you are active is you have to make a much greater effort to stay active. It is so easy to become much more placid in your personal life, like when the baby goes through a spell of not sleeping for a week at a time and you experience it also, then you are constantly searching to catch up on sleep. You have to make the effort to stay in shape. i used mtn bike 6 days a week and play volleyball and those days are long gone. Now when I put the last one to bed , i immediately leave for a run. If I am not dressed for it or I even sit for 2 min I don't do it. Anyways, just a little advice for the guy. Also, just in case anyone wants to know, I am the proud dad of the 2 most handsome boys in the Madina (or anywhere else for that matter). |
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| Muneerah134 |
| 04/01/03 at 18:04:41 |
| [slm] - Rest before you go in. The last month I worked twice as hard as normal (felt I had loads to do) and was exhausted by the time I delivered. Get as much rest between now and delivery as possible. - Drink lots and lots of water. - Don't be surprised at how tired you are after you deliver. Trust your body to tell you how much to do or not to do. - My hormone levels dropped so low, I had someone around me around the clock for about three weeks. The Baby Blues slammed me so bad they were very worried about me. Alhamdullilah, it went as fast as it came. - Trust your instincts. And do what feels right. - In the beginning, sleep when the baby sleeps, do things when you can and don't try to do too much. (I guess you can tell I really wore myself out, cleaning, etc. ;D) Oh, and like Kathy said, stay away from cabbage and caffiene. May Allah bless you with a healthy new Muslim. Enjoy the time with the little one, they grow up so fast. :-) Muneerah [] |
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| panjul |
| 04/01/03 at 18:47:21 |
| [slm] My aunt had a baby and she was so small i was afraid to pick her up. but her daddy was even more nervous, he refused to pick her up afraid he was going to drop her! I thought that was weird..now what was weird when my aunt did place the baby in his lap, he froze. Just froze and stared at it. Then my aunt took it away. :) he got used to it slowly and after two weeks he was ok. Mike you have twins? I have nightmares about having twins, of course i'm exaggerating but you get the point. I don't ever, ever, ever want to have twins, one baby's enough to take care of. no, i'm not pregnant but i guess i will be one day. |
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| bhaloo |
| 04/01/03 at 20:32:51 |
| [quote author=mike aka ltcorpest2 link=board=sis;num=1048628184;start=0#5 date=04/01/03 at 17:15:20]Also, just in case anyone wants to know, I am the proud dad of the 2 most handsome boys in the Madina (or anywhere else for that matter).[/quote] Your Bro Hanif's and Br. Khalid's father? ??? |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 04/02/03 at 00:15:21 |
| [slm] Sister Myst Congratulations/Mabruk/Mubarak for the wonderful news (if i havent wished you already) May Allah (swt) make everything easy for you. Ameen. I checked out some links for you: http://www.themuslimwoman.com/offspring/ - this is a whole section on offspring, it will tell you supplications to say before and after arrival of the baby. It also talks about the giving adhan to the baby. http://www.themodernreligion.com/index2.html - Go to the left section of the site and click on family, it gives alot of useful information http://www.uh.edu/campus/msa/articles/new/newborn.html - manners of welcoming the new born baby. http://www.islamonline.net/completesearch/english/Display.asp?page=1&hTitle=pregnancy&health=1 Â - These are the search results I did on pregnacy on Islam online. There were 30 records found, you can read whatever interests you, insh'Allah New! http://members.tripod.com/worldupdates/contentstable/id16.htm --This website wouldnt open the other day but it has alot of useful information also. Hope this helps insh'Allah. Take care and again Im very happy for you. your sister [quote]Your Bro Hanif's and Br. Khalid's father? [/quote] hehe that made me laugh, thanx |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 04/02/03 at 16:24:10 |
| Mike you have twins? I have nightmares about having twins, of course i'm exaggerating but you get the point. I don't ever, ever, ever want to have twins, one baby's enough to take care of. Panjul, yes i do (kind sorta). They are 22 months apart. I'll wait and see who is on top of things to figure it out. |
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| Maliha |
| 04/02/03 at 16:37:56 |
| [slm] Digressing from the topic... but i kinda think it will be fun to have twins. I always wished I was one ::) So maybe I would vicariously live my dream through my twins' lives :P If Allah wills I would love to have a big family Inshaallah :-* I am fortunate that my hubby doesn't mind either...I guess we'll just wait and see 8) Sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 04/02/03 at 19:28:49 |
| Posted by: Maliha Posted on: Today at 4:37pm Digressing from the topic... but i kinda think it will be fun to have twins. I really wanted twins and was kinda hoping for trips, but oh well. Maliha, didnt want to take a chance with the quiz? I guess i just gave a clue. |
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| panjul |
| 04/02/03 at 22:23:27 |
| I really wanted twins and was kinda hoping for trips, but oh well. hoping for triplets? :o i mean children are a blessing and all. but pls. God one at a time! I don't want to be shocked and awed by twins or tiplets *shudders at the thought of having trips for herself* |
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| Dawn |
| 04/03/03 at 05:18:55 |
| [slm] [quote author=mike aka ltcorpest2 link=board=sis;num=1048628184;start=0#10 date=04/02/03 at 16:24:10]They are 22 months apart. I'll wait and see who is on top of things to figure it out.[/quote] [quote]I really wanted twins and was kinda hoping for trips, but oh well. [/quote] I am soooo envious! I was hoping for twins too (though I wasn't ready for triplets!), but I was [i]ecstatic[/i] with the one we were blessed with. But we don't have a shot at "later". Not unless we do the whole thing over again, and I don't think I am ready for that yet. <<sigh>> :( :( |
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| BrKhalid |
| 04/03/03 at 05:45:01 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) [quote]hoping for triplets? i mean children are a blessing and all. but pls. God one at a time! I don't want to be shocked and awed by twins or tiplets *shudders at the thought of having trips for herself*[/quote] Okay this story is for Sr panjul and her fear of having triplets ;-) It is not unheard of that mothers after giving birth to twins find that they give birth to a third child as well!!! The third child sometimes isn’t picked up on any scans because it is hidden behind the other two children. Hence on any one scan, you’ll only see two children although not necessarily the same two each time. Does that make you feel better panjul? ;) And before anyone asks me how I know this stuff, my brother and sister in law are expecting twins in a couple of months so I’m a quasi twin expert ;-) |
| 04/03/03 at 05:45:38 |
| BrKhalid |
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