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A_Stranger
04/13/03 at 12:30:07
[size=4]‘Don’t Be Sad [i](‘Laa Tahzan’)[/i]
– Shaykh ‘Aa`idh bin ‘Abdullaah Al-Qarnee
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Allah has asked us not be sad. He says:

“So do not become weak [against your enemy], nor be sad…” Surah Al-Imran - Ayah 139.

“And grieve not over them, and be not distressed because of what they plot.” Surah An-Nahl - Ayah127.

“Be not sad, surely Allah is with us.” Surah At-Taubah - Ayah 40.

We are informed in the following verse about the believers that:

“…upon such shall come no fear, nor shall they grieve.” Surah Al-Baqarah - Ayah 38.

Sadness enervates the spirit’s will to action, paralysing the body into inactivity. The secret of this is that sadness prevents one from action instead of compelling one towards it. The heart benefits nothing through grief. The most beloved thing to the Devil is to make the worshipper sad in order to prevent him from continuing on his path. Allah says:

“Secret counsels [conspiracies] are only from Shaytaan (Satan), in order that he may cause grief to the believers.” Surah Al-Mujadilah – Ayah 10.

In the following hadith, the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam said:

“In a company of three, it is forbidden for two to hold secret counsel while excluding the third, as this will be a cause of sadness for him.”

Contrary to what some believe (those who have an extreme ascetic bent), the believer should not seek out sadness, because sadness is a harmful element that afflicts the soul. The Muslim must repel sadness, fighting it in any way that is permissible in our Religion. There is no real benefit in sadness; the Prophet Muhammad Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam sought refuge from it in the following supplication:

“O’ Allah, I seek refuge in you from anxiety and grief.”

Grief is coupled with anxiety in this hadith. The difference between the two is that if a bad feeling that pervades the heart is related to what is going to happen in the future, then it is anxiety. And if the cause of this feeling concerns the past, then it is grief. Both of them weaken the heart, causing inactivity and a decrease in will power.

04/16/03 at 18:21:53
A_Stranger
Re: Don't Be Sad
theOriginal
04/13/03 at 16:54:08
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:'(  :'(  :'(

Those are tears of joy.  Such an uplifting article.  I think I need to spread it to everyone.  This part:

[quote]Contrary to what some believe (those who have an extreme ascetic bent), the believer should not seek out sadness, because sadness is a harmful element that afflicts the soul.[/quote]

:'(  :'(  :'(

So there IS hope for pessimists like me.  (Yes, the glass is half empty...in my case it is also dirty, chipped, and cracked.  And that doesn't look like water in there....ewwww I'm not drinking that.    ;)  )

Wasalaam.
Re: Don't Be Sad
A_Stranger
04/16/03 at 18:20:30
[size=4]Repel Boredom From Your Life[/size]

The person who lives a life of repetition and routine will almost inevitably become a victim of boredom, especially since the human being by his very nature tires from a lack of change. For this reason Allah gave us variety in times and places, in food and drink - diversity in the many forms of creation: night and day, valley and mountain, white and black, hot and cold, shade and sun, sweet and sour. Allah mentioned this diversity in His book:

“There comes forth from their bellies, a drink of varying colour.” Surah An-Nahl – Ayah 69.

“...And date-palms, growing out two or three from a single stem root, or otherwise…” Surah Ar-Ra’d – Ayah 4.

“And crops of different shape and taste [its fruits and its seeds] and olives, and pomegranates, similar [in kind] and different [in taste].” Surah Al-An’am – Ayah 141.

“And among the mountains are streaks white and red, of varying colours…” Surah Fatir – Ayah 27.

“And so are the days [good and not so good], We give to men by turns.” Surah Al-Imran Ayah 140.

Al-Ma’moon would alternate between reading, standing, sitting, or lying, and he said:

[i]“The soul is ever so prone to boredom.”[/i]

“Those who remember Allah [always, and in prayers] standing, sitting and lying down on their sides...” Surah Al-Imran – Ayah 191.

Were you to contemplate the different kinds of worship, you would find wonder at its variety and diversity. There are deeds of the heart, of the tongue, of the limbs, and of wealth, by spending it for a good cause. The prayer, alms-giving, fasting, pilgrimages to Makkah, fighting in the way of Allah - these are only some examples of worship. The prayer involves standing, bowing, prostrating, and sitting. If you desire relaxation, vitality, and continued productivity, then bring diversity into your work, your reading, and your daily life. In terms of reading, for example, read a broad range of topics: the Qur’an, its explanation, the biography of the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam and his Companions, hadith, Islamic jurisprudence, history, literature, books of general knowledge, and so forth. Distribute your time between worship and between enjoying what is lawful, from visiting friends, entertaining guests, playing sports, or going on excursions: you will find yourself to be a lively and bright person, because the soul delights in variety and things that are new.


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Details Taken From – “Don’t Be Sad” by Shaykh 'Aa`idh Al-Qarnee.
Re: Don't Be Sad
siddiqui
04/16/03 at 18:47:25
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Want to share a poem sent to me by  a sister
Jazakallh khair

kashti toofan se  
nikal sakti hai,  
shama bujh ke  
bhi jal sakti hai,  
mayus na ho  
irade na badal,  
kismat kisi bhi,  
waqat badul sakti hai

[wlm]
kashti toofan se  
nikal sakti hai,  

A boat stuck in the storm can still be rescued anytime

shama bujh ke  
bhi jal sakti hai,

A lamp that has been extinguished can still be relit anytime

mayus na ho  
Dont be sad

irade na badal,  
Dont change your plans

kismat kisi bhi,  
waqat badul sakti hai
Your qadar/destiny can change any time
04/16/03 at 23:29:06
siddiqui
Re: Don't Be Sad
Emerald
04/20/03 at 01:55:55
It was truly comforting to read you words "A Stranger".
Before the war started I made a little vow to myself not watch the news so that it won't effect me in a wrong way. I knew that if I saw what was happening to Muslims there, I would have a hate grow inside me against those who were harming them. But it was so hard to resist. I had to listen to the radio and hear the news and what I feared happened. There was alot of anger and sadness building up inside me that one day while listening to this obvious racist and thick-headed jerk on the radio, bashing Muslims and Islam, I broke out in tears. For the first time I felt as if the whole world was out to get us and that no place was safe - not even this so called "land of the free".
It's still hard to resist watching the news but I think that maybe, insha-Allah, this is what will make us wake up and realize that we need to unite as a whole. The thing I pray for to see before I die, is the day when Islam will become greater than it is today and when all those who spoke lies against it will be uncovered for what they really are - hateful monsters.
Re: Don't Be Sad
A_Stranger
04/25/03 at 14:03:44
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BarakAllaahu feekum for the replies. I'd just like to reiterate these are excerpts taken from the book 'Laa Tahzan' or 'Don't be Sad' by Shaykh 'Aa`idh bin 'Abdullaah al-Qarnee. :)

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[size=3]Do not be sad – everything will occur according to pre-ordainment.[/size]

Everything occurs according to pre-ordainment and according to what has been decreed. Such is the belief of Muslims, the followers of the Prophet Muhammad. And nothing happens in the Universe except through Allah’s Knowledge, Permission, and Divine Plan.

“No calamity befalls on the earth or in yourselves but is inscribed in the Book of Decrees – [Al-Lauh Al-Mahfoodh], before We bring it into existence. Verily, that is easy for Allah.” Surah Al-Hadeed – Ayah 49.

“We have created all things with Qadar [Divine Pre-ordainments].” Surah Al-Qamar – Ayah 49.

“And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear; hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to the patient ones.” Surah Al-Baqarah – Ayah 155.

It is narrated that the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam said:

[color=Green]“Wonderful is the affair of the believer! His affairs in their entirety are good for him: if good befalls him, he is thankful and that is good for him. And if harm befalls him, he is patient, and that is good for him. And this (prosperous state of being) is only for the believer.”[/color]

In another authentic hadith, the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam said:

[color=Green]“If you ask, then ask of Allah, and if you seek help, then seek it from Allah. And know that if the whole of the nation were to rally together in order to bring benefit to you in anything, they would not benefit you except with that which Allah has written for you. And if they were to gather together in order to inflict harm upon you with something, they would not harm you except with that which Allah has written upon you. The pens have been raised and the pages are dried.”[/color]
Re: Don't Be Sad
A_Stranger
05/16/03 at 14:45:33
[size=3]Do Not Be Sad - Grieve Not Over Unworthy Things[/size]

By being unconcerned by trifles, you display a virtue that will bring you happiness, for the one who is lofty in his aims is engrossed only with concern for the Hereafter.

One of or pious predecessors advised one of his brothers:

[i]“Have one concern only: the concern of meeting Allah, that of standing in front of Him, that of the Hereafter.”[/i]

[color=Purple]“That Day shall you be brought to Judgement, not a secret of you will be hidden.”[/color]Surah Al-Haqqah – Ayah 18.

There is not a single worry or concern whose significance is not diminished by comparison with that of the Hereafter. What are the worries of this life? They are status, prestige, fame, income, wealth, mansions, and children. They are nothing when compared to the accountability before Allah!

Allah describes His enemies, the hypocrites, by saying:

[color=Purple]“While another party was thinking about themselves [as how to save their own selves, ignoring the others and the Prophet] and thought wrongly of Allah…”[/color] Surah Al-Imran – Ayah 154.

Their concerns are for themselves, their stomachs and their lusts; they know nothing of higher motives.

When the people pledged allegiance to the Prophet Sallalahu Alayhi Wasalam under the tree, one of the hypocrites left hastily in search of his red camel, which had strayed. He said, “For me to find my camel is much more beloved than your ceremony of pledging allegiance.”

It has been reported in a hadith: [color=Green]“All of you have been forgiven, except the owner of the red camel.”[/color]
05/19/03 at 07:27:52
A_Stranger
Re: Don't Be Sad
A_Stranger
05/16/03 at 14:56:37
By the way (should've said this at da start), if you want more of this, join the mailing list where every week, an excerpt from the book "Laa Tahzan" or [Eng trans.] "Don't Be Sad" by Shaykh Aa`idh Al-Qarnee is posted.

[center][url]http://www.islaam.ws/reminder/[/url][/center]

;D

Wa Salaamun 'alaykum.
Re: Don't Be Sad
Noor
05/17/03 at 07:52:41
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[QUOTE]I'd just like to reiterate these are excerpts taken from the book 'Laa Tahzan' or 'Don't be Sad' by Shaykh 'Aa`idh bin 'Abdullaah al-Qarnee [/quote]

I love listening to Shaykh Ai'dh alQarnee...mashaAllah his lectures in Arabic are just excellent..for those who have "Iqra" tv channel and can understand arabic, his programme "Rawa'i min asSeerah"  is a must watch.

Brother Stranger, do u know if the entire book has been translated to English?

wassalam alaikum
Re: Don't Be Sad
A_Stranger
05/17/03 at 08:38:18
[quote author=Noor link=board=special;num=1050251407;start=0#8 date=05/17/03 at 07:52:41] [slm]

I love listening to Shaykh Ai'dh alQarnee...mashaAllah his lectures in Arabic are just excellent..for those who have "Iqra" tv channel and can understand arabic, his programme "Rawa'i min asSeerah"  is a must watch.

Brother Stranger, do u know if the entire book has been translated to English?

wassalam alaikum[/quote]

[wlm] ,
Yeah, the talks are excellent. I only watched it once...I forgot what day that programme comes on...?

Yes, the entire book's been translated into English. You can get the English version of the book from 'House Of Knowledge' if you're in the UK. I'm not sure if you can get it online.
Some more of the Shaykh's articles can be read here: [url]http://www.islaam.com/Scholar.aspx?id=14[/url] .
Some of the lectures in Arabic can be heard here: [url]http://www.saaid.net/Warathah/qarni/[/url] .

Was-salaam.

Ps. I'm a sista :)

Re: Don't Be Sad
paula
06/03/03 at 01:41:00
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I've been missing the board for a few days  :'( ..... oh but life is life & some things take priority.....:-*

[quote]A_Stranger Wrote: By the way (should've said this at da start), if you want more of this, join the mailing list where every week, an excerpt from the book "Laa Tahzan" or [Eng trans.] "Don't Be Sad" by Shaykh Aa`idh Al-Qarnee is posted.
http://www.islaam.ws/reminder/
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Jazak Allahu Khairan our Madina Stranger ... I've really been enjoying these daily inspirations... thought to post another one here today:

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I pray that this reaches you in the best of health and Eeman.

The full title for this section is: ‘Do Not Be Sad - Select For Yourself That Which Allah Has Chosen For You.’[list]
[*]Stand if He causes you to stand and sit if He orders you to sit. Show patience if He has made you to be poor and be thankful if He makes you to be rich. These are necessary parts of the declaration, ‘I am pleased with Allah as the Lord, with Islam as the Religion, and Muhammad as the Messenger.’[/list]
A poet said representing the All-High (Allah):[list]
[*]“Do not weave a plan for yourself, the people with plans are destroyed, be contented with Our decree, We are worthier to plan for you than you yourself.”[/list]
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