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| Needs Help!!! [love bf/gf] |
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| Anonymous |
| 04/27/03 at 03:53:43 |
| Salam Alaikum (All Praises Too Allah Swt) I have a problem that many people might have out there(girls or boys)..I have this problem..but i dont really know how 2 say it becouse it might sound stupid..or something like that so i am just gonna come out and ask!...Lets Say that u like a guy a lot and ur mother dont think that this perosn is really good 4 u for many reasons!..but u think that he his perfect for u becosue he loves u and u think u love him back!..But what should i do about my mother..i love her and i dont wanna hurt her and i know that in islam u arent supposed 2 have a boyfriend girlfriend think and i feel bad about that....but what ur heart feels u cannot change and insha'Allah Allah(swt) will help me...but i wanna know what any of u people think becouse u seem 2 know a lot that is why i decided 2 write this and try 2 get some help..........someone help!!!!!! Salam Alaikum |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 04/27/03 at 22:22:39 |
| [wlm] You can chek out 'original problem' http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=sis;action=display;num=1051396537 There are link in there I posted which has links in there :) Hope it helps inshAllah. May Allah (swt) do what is best for you your sister |
| Re: Needs Help!!! [love bf/gf] |
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| Raafi |
| 04/29/03 at 22:09:41 |
| there are about twenty infractions that you are breaking first off, how did you ever get close enough to this boy to form some type of romantic interest? secondly, if your mother thinks he is a bum, there is a good chance she is right (though she may not be) but she knows you better than you know yourself, she took care of you and raised you into this world, what kind of gratitude is that for you to show your mother when you are developing feelings for a boy she disapproves of? third, you better start thinking about tomorrow and not just today, you are having fleeting feelings (which we all get) and you are allowing your feelings to carry you into haram thoughts, which usually lead to haram actions the mere fact you even refer to this guy as your boyfriend is a shocker Allah says, do not come NEAR zinaa, look up what that means lastly, go to someone who will give you good advice, not oprah advice www.islam-qa.com May Allah make this easy for you |
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| se7en |
| 05/01/03 at 13:52:44 |
| as salaamu alaykum, Hm.. how old are you sis? You're right, it's hard to change the way you feel in your heart.. but usually your heart is affected by your senses.. meaning, what you do with your eyes, your ears, your limbs, what you spend your time doing and what you spend your time thinking about, all affect what is going on in your heart. If you *really* like this guy, you should try to make your relationship with him halal, by thinking about marriage. If you are too young for that, or you don't like him *that* much.. then you should really think about changing what you are doing with your senses, because that is what's affecting your heart. May Allah incline your heart towards khayr :) wasalaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah :-) PS - bro Raafi, Islam Q & A offers fatawa, not 'advice'. Sometimes people need to be treated with empathy and compassion, moreso than a simple run through of the fiqh. |
| 05/01/03 at 13:57:29 |
| se7en |
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