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Disapointed....
Bismillah23
04/29/03 at 16:33:47
[slm] everyone

I find myself disapointed with myself at times... for instance when i read a hadith, or books on how a muslim should be, what is right, what is wrong, etc. i understand it, but when certain situations arise, i find myself forgetting what i read and i find myself repenting.  allhamdullilah i dont do major sins, im talking about sometimes thinking incorrectly about things, or getting upset if someone says something to me. i know when u get upset mohammad  [saw] said to sit down, if it doesnt help lie down. it seems that these come to mind AFTER the fact. and i feel humiliated infront of allah swt. i want to inshallah do more good things so that i dont face allah swt in complete humiliation (saying in the quran verse "some faces will be vexed that day and some will be shinning") does anyone feel like that at times? please find me in your prayers that allah swt gives me guidance and makes me stand firmly in the right path inshallah. as well as other muslims.
ameen

Re: Disapointed....
Ameeraana
04/29/03 at 16:59:23
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  Oh yes, I know exactly how you feel.  This is part of our jihad--the fight to stay on the right path--and it is a battle!!  I find myself getting upset and later thinking about what I could have done that was better.   Even some girls at my work who know I am trying, will see me tense up and tell me to go pray.   It has a calming affect.  I know what you are feeling, girl,  just try to keep reminding yourself--when you get upset try saying stuff like, "Oudhi Billahi min ashaytani rageem" .  This helps me sometimes--if I remember to say it!!  Its hard...but all you can do is try--I try a little bit at a time...

Ameera
Re: Disapointed....
paula
04/29/03 at 18:10:05
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–Ameen. Sister, I’m hearing you here.
This I’ve pondered a few times.  I thought maybe a few good things come out of this one… a trial that teaches us the appreciation of  Sabr …[/color][color=green] Surely the patient will be paid their wages in full without reckoning." [Qur’an 39:10] [/color][color=black]As well as a trial that teaches us that our only dependance ,acceptance, & appreciation should be in Allah(swt).  Do you know what I’m trying to say… all other things are in vain.  For instance we think to argue our point with someone and then feel so embarrassed in front of Allah(swt) as if we needed to argue for His sake. You know the one I catch myself all the time.. “bad thoughts(judgements)”… you actually helped me with that one(I’m not joking)…with one of your first posts here… now every time I am somewhere in my day and think a bad thought about something… I easily remember it’s Satan’s attempt (thanks to your post & contemplation)… Alhamdu lillah … It’s been easier to catch myself and ask myself what I think I’m doing by trying to judge what is only Allah’s to judge. All-Seer, All-knower, All-Wise.

I found floating through this board my personal quote of inspiration that hit the center of my heart so many many years ago (It’s the strongest quote for me I know). When I wish to connect my heart to Allah(swt) and leave the feelings of this world behind….. this quote dose it, it always has:  

“the journey is long…….. with miles to go before I sleep”

Madina’s Robert Frost Version:[/color][color=green]Forests are lovely dark and deep but i've got promises to keep and miles to go before i sleep[/color]
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04/29/03 at 22:48:43
paula
Re: Disapointed....
Bismillah23
04/30/03 at 01:37:16
[slm] everyone

its almost 1030pm tonight, i feel at times that im going to have a panic attack. i worry so much that allah swt god for bid ISNT going to forgive me. i keep repenting, and i get soooo scared.

also, when i do a good deed, i know allah swt is watching me, and sometimes i dont know why im thinking to myself 'hmmm, i wonder what he's thinking or what he's saying about my good deed'  i dont know if this is right thing to think or not? :(  i dont want to be a 'proud' muslim, if u know what i mean. to show off; etc. i only want to do things to win allah swts attention and for him to forgive me and to make him happy.. i just need his help

Ameera sis, jazakallahu khairen for your post; i DO feel like im going on my own "jihad" to stand firmly. i really do not want to say/do the wrong things to upset allah swt, i want him to love me and to forgive me of my sins, as iam a sinner. i just want to do whats right. im scared of the grave, im scared of the day of judgement, im scared that allah swt might tell me i have to go to hell. and im scared i will be without my husband, my family on the day of judgement god for bid.  allah, i dont even want to think about that!

a story comes to mind...

there was a mullah (imam) who was steadfast in prayers, the quran, etc. one night it was really windy and there was a prostatute who lived across the street from this man, (or was it next door to him?) anyhow, that night that it was really windy, the screen door to her home kept opening and shutting. the imam thought to himself "another guy in, another guy out" he thought that there was men going in and out of her home when in fact the woman was asleep and it was the wind. the imam ended up going to hell for his false assumption, and the woman going to paradise.

do you see? sometimes i infact make asumptions, maybe not to that degree, but when im going out or something to my family's home, i have my hijab on, and they dont wear hijabs, and when i leave i think 'o they were staring at me, they think im trying to show off' or i think 'why dont they have hijabs on'?


one good ayat or verse i like to keep saying in my head is "La illaha illala mohammad erasullilah" OR " lahawla wala quwata illa billa" i love these verses, mashallah their wonderful.  "there is no might nor power except with allah"   ((it reminds me that shaitaans strategy is weak as allah swt has said in the quran))



i also hope allah swt makes this test easy for me and as for you ameera sis and simply sister and for everyone else who is going through this, or other tests... inshallah we will all pass...sabr.....
Re: Disapointed....
momineqbal
04/30/03 at 02:35:13
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One of the scholars who I like to listen to said, "When you do a good deed, don't be in slightest of doubt about Allah accepting them from you. If He had not to accept it and reward you for it He wouldn't have given you the ability / taufeeq to do it in the first place!".

Re: Disapointed....
jaihoon
04/30/03 at 07:06:43
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One of the scholars who I like to listen to said, "When you do a good deed, don't be in slightest of doubt about Allah accepting them from you. If He had not to accept it and reward you for it He wouldn't have given you the ability / taufeeq to do it in the first place!".

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Subhanallah! Allahumma taqabbal minna!
Re: Disapointed....
bhaloo
04/30/03 at 09:02:06
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[quote author=Bismillah23 link=board=madrasa;num=1051644834;start=0#3 date=04/30/03 at 01:37:16]  i worry so much that allah swt god for bid ISNT going to forgive me. i keep repenting, and i get soooo scared.
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This is from Sheikh Munajjid's book, I want to repent, but...

The guiding principle for us Muslims is to refer to the Qur’aan and Sunnah when we look for rulings, solutions and remedies. When we refer this matter to the Qur’aan, we find that Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “Say: ‘O My slaves who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allaah, verily Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. And turn in repentance and in obedience with true faith to your Lord and submit to Him…” [al-Zumar 39:53-54].

This is the answer to this particular problem. The matter is quite clear and needs no further explanation.

The feeling that one’s sins are too great to be forgiven by Allaah stems from a number of factors:

The absence of certain faith on the part of the slave in the vastness of Allaah’s mercy

A lack of faith in the ability of Allaah to forgive all sins

Weakness in one aspect of the heart’s action, namely hope

Failure to understand the effect of repentance in wiping out sins

We will answer all these points here:

It is sufficient to quote the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning): “… and My Mercy embraces all things…” [al-A’raaf 7:156]

It is sufficient to quote the saheeh hadeeth qudsi: “Allaah says: “Whoever knows that I am able to forgive all sins, I shall forgive him, and I shall not mind, so long as he does not associate anything with Me.’” (Reported by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, and by al-Haakim; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4330). This refers to when the slave meets his Lord in the Hereafter.

This may be remedied by referring to the hadeeth qudsi: “ ‘O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and put your hope in Me, I will forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky, and you were to ask me for forgiveness, I will forgive you and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with sins nearly the size of the earth, and you were to meet Me not associating anything with Me, then I would bring you forgiveness nearly the size of (the earth).’” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4338'.

It is sufficient to quote the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “The one who repents from his sin is like the one who did not sin in the first place.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah; Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3008'.

For those who find it hard to comprehend how Allaah may forgive such an accumulation of sin, we quote the following hadeeth:

Abu Sa’eed Sa’d ibn Maalik ibn Sinaan al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There was among the people who came before you a man who killed ninety-nine people. Then he asked about the most knowledgeable person on earth, and was directed to a hermit, so he went to him, told him that he had killed ninety-nine people, and asked if he could be forgiven. The hermit said, ‘No,’ so he killed him, thus completing one hundred. Then he asked about the most knowledgeable person on earth and was directed to a scholar. He told him that he had killed one hundred people, and asked whether he could be forgiven. The scholar said, ‘Yes, what could possibly come between you and repentance? Go to such-and-such a town, for in it there are people who worship Allaah. Go and worship with them, and do not go back to your own town, for it is a bad place.” So the man set off, but when he was halfway there, the angel of death came to him, and the angels of mercy and the angels of wrath began to argue over him. The angels of mercy said: ‘He had repented and was seeking Allaah.’ The angels of wrath said: ‘He never did any good thing.’ An angel in human form came to them, and they asked him to decide the matter. He said: ‘Measure the distance between the two lands (his home town and the town he was headed for), and whichever of the two he is closest to is the one to which he belongs.’ So they measured the distance, and found that he was closer to the town for which he had been headed, so the angels of mercy took him.” (Agreed upon). According to a report in al-Saheeh: “The righteous town was a hand-span closer, so he was counted as one of its people.” According to another report in al-Saheeh: “Allaah commanded (the evil town) to move away, and (the righteous town) to move closer, and said: ‘Measure the distance between them,’ and they found him to be a hand-span closer to the righteous town, so he was forgiven.”

What then can come between a person and repentance? Do you think that your sins are any greater than the sins of this man, whose repentance Allaah accepted? So why despair? The matter is even greater than this. Think about the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who invoke not any other god along with Allaah, nor kill such life as Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse – and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. The torment shall be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; except those who repent and believe, and do righteous deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” [al-Furqaan 25:68-70].

Stop and think about that phrase: “… Allaah will change their sins into good deeds…” [al-Furqaan 25:70]. This will explain to you the immense grace and favour of Allaah. The scholars have defined this change as being of two types:

Changing bad characteristics into good ones, so that shirk is changed into true faith, fornication into chastity, lies into truthfulness, treachery into trustworthiness, etc.

Changing evil deeds that one has committed into good deeds on the Day of Resurrection. Think about the words “…Allaah will change their sins into good deeds…”. It does not say that one bad deed will be exchanged for a good deed (of equal weight). It could be less, the same, or more, in number or in weight. It will depend on the sincerity of the one who repents. Can you imagine any greater favour than this? See how this divine generosity is further explained in the following hadeeth:

‘Abd al-Rahmaan ibn Jubayr reported from Abu Taweel Shatb al-Mamdood that he came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) [another report states that a very old man whose eyebrows had fallen over his eyes (i.e., he had sunken eyes) came and stood before the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) supporting himself with a stick] and said: “What do you think of a man who has committed every sin, not leaving out any sin, major or minor [according to another report: if his sins were to be divided among all the people of the world, they would destroy them]. Can such a man repent?” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked, “Have you become Muslim?” He said: “I bear witness that there is no god except Allaah and that you are the messenger of Allaah.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do good deeds and keep away from evil deeds, and Allaah will turn them all into good deeds for you.” He asked, “What about my acts of treachery and immorality?” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Yes, (those too).” The man said, “Allaahu akbar (Allaah is most great)!” and kept glorifying Allaah until he was out of sight.

(Al-Haythami said: a similar version was reported by al-Tabaraani and al-Bazzaar. The men of al-Bazzaar’s isnaad are the men of saheeh apart from Muhammad ibn Haaroon Abi Nasheetah, who is thiqah. Al-Majma’ 1/36. Al-Mundhiri said in al-Targheeb: its isnaad is jayyid qawiy, 4/113. Ibn Hajar said in al-Isaabah 4/149 that it meets the conditions of saheeh.)

At this point the one who is seeking to repent may ask: “When I was astray and not even praying, which meant I was beyond the pale of Islam, I did do some good deeds. Will I be rewarded for these deeds after I repent, or are they lost in the wind?”

The answer to this question may be found in the following hadeeth: ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr reported that Hakeem ibn Hizaam told him that he said to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “O Messenger of Allaah, do you think that I will be rewarded for the (good) things like giving charity, freeing slaves and upholding family ties that I did during the Jaahiliyyah (days of ignorance before Islam)?” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “You became Muslim because of the good that you had already done.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari).

These sins will be forgiven, these evil deeds will be turned into good deeds, and these good deeds that were done during the days of jaahiliyyah will still count in your favour after you repent. What more could anyone possibly want?
04/30/03 at 09:03:48
bhaloo
Re: Disapointed....
Bismillah23
04/30/03 at 19:03:14
[slm] everyone!

JAZAKALLAHU KHAIREN to everyone who Allah swt has helped to help me with this matter!  Allhamdullilah i feel so much better! ive been reading the Quran, and with reading the posts, and praying, allhamdullilah allah has helped me! allahu Akbar, allah swt is truly rahmaan e raheem

here is another verse from the Quran that helped me allhamdullilah...

its from Suurah Tauba sec 16 line 129

Hasbee Allahu, La illa ha illa Huwa alayhe Tawakal tu wahuwa rabul Harshay Alazim
"Allah is sufficeint for me, none is to be worshiped except He. I put my turst in Him, and he is the lord of the supreme Throne"

Allahu Akbar

May allah swt guide us all in the right path, and help us to not deviate from the truth after he has guided us.  

Ameen!
Re: Disapointed....
Ameeraana
04/30/03 at 19:30:37
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 [color=Blue] I too am afraid of the grave and Judgement Day.  It scares me all the time and in my prayers I keep asking for forgiveness.  I just keep setting many goals for me... like right now.. my goal is to my choice of words--especially when getting angry--I have gotten much better--and also all the "talking" the girls at work do...I am trying hard to just stay neutral around them and not do any backbiting...which is difficult at times because they do sometimes talk about certain co-workers who aren't very good team players with us.  But I try and everytime I join in their conversations I feel so guilty.  I am working on it, though.   But, these are just small small goals and I have so so many more. [/color]  

  [color=Red]I love reading the Qur'an and I don't know if any of you experience this but I find myself overwhelmed with emotion and cry as I read sometimes.  I can't explain it... it just happens.  The more I read the stronger I believe and when I am regularly reading it is easier for me to fight with myself to stay on the right path.  I really do find that when I am not regularly reading the Qur'an its easier to stray a bit....  The Qur'an is the greatest reminder that I need to put my trust in Allah and ask for his guidance to keep me from sinning.  I love to read about Prophet Muhammad (salallehi wa salaam) and I just admire him so much for his strength, faith, and humility.  It is awesome.  He is our greatest example.[/color]

Ameera
Re: Disapointed....
paula
05/01/03 at 12:18:35
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[quote]I love reading the Qur'an and I don't know if any of you experience this but I find myself overwhelmed with emotion and cry as I read sometimes.  I can't explain it... it just happens[/quote] me too....... I could never explain it..... what could be more inspiring or more consoling:

…… So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
[1] Have We not expanded thee thy breast?
[2] And removed from thee thy burden
[3] The which did gall thy back?
[4] And raised high the esteem (in which) thou (art held)?
[5] So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief:
[6] Verily, with every difficulty there is relief.
[7] Therefore, when thou art free (from thine immediate task), still labour hard,
[8] And to thy Lord turn (all) thy attention

--- Qur’an 94:1-8

Allahu Alkbar
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Re: Disapointed....
sofia
05/01/03 at 12:52:03
As-salaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah,
Mashaa'Allah, may we all cry for the sake of Allah!  :) or rather  :'(

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (S) said, "Seven will be shaded by God on the Day of Resurrection when there will be no shade except His Shade. (They will be): a just ruler, a youth who has been brought up in the worship of God, one who remembers God in seclusion and his eyes are then flooded with tears, one whose heart is attached to mosques, two who love each other for God's Sake, a man who is called by a charming lady of noble birth to commit illegal sexual intercourse with her, and he says, 'I fear God,' and one who gives in charity so secretly that his left hand does not know what his right hand has given." [Saheeh Bukhaari]

And mashaa'Allah, it's even a good sign to feel "dissappointed" in ourselves in relation to pleasing God, but don't despair in His mercy and/or forgiveness. 'Eeman is not meant to be constant, so we have to work at it.

There was a man who once came to the Prophet, complaining of a troubled heart/'eeman. The Prophet (S) asked him: "Is it [the pain] here?", pointinc to his chest. The man said: "Yes." The Prophet (S) told him, "That is eemaan." (better yet, if someone could actually find this hadith and who reported it, that'd be grrreat, since I may be remembering it wrong).

Here's an interesting excerpt from [url=http://www.islaam.com/books/iman6.doc]Weakness of Faith[/url] by Shaikh Munajjid:

[color=blue]...the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Faith wears out in the heart of any one of you just as clothes wear out, so ask Allaah to renew the faith in your hearts.” (Reported by al-Haakim in al-Mustadrak, 1/4; see also al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 1585. Al-Haythami said in Majma’ al-Zawaa’id, 1/52, “It was reported by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer and its isnaad is saheeh.”) [/color]

05/01/03 at 12:53:21
sofia
Re: Disapointed....
Bismillah23
05/04/03 at 16:32:24
[slm] everyone

I hope you guys are all in the best of health and faith.....

im dissapointed in myself again... ive been reading some more posts here on this message board and mashallah it amazes me at how you everyone on this board is so... whats the word im trying to look for here? im so frustrated at myself. allhamdullilah im trying, i really am. i think my problem is that im comparing myself with others. i feel like im this big (   ) and compared to some others on this board they are this big (                                                                                                                                                                                









)  even bigger than that.  i hope inshallah i get to where you guys are. i would love for my iman and my faith to be increased, and i want to be thest best muslim, so that allah swt is pleased with me... pls remember me and other muslims in your prayers who are in the same boat..
Re: Disapointed....
AbdulJalil
05/04/03 at 17:18:55
Assalamu Alaikum

Reflections on Tazkiya and Self-Development  


Your Mission: To be a Mumin & a Mujahid
 

Having taken the first step and resolved to attain Paradise, you may ask yourself, what does Allah require from me in order for me to succeed?
 
What Allah requires of you, in Quranic vocabulary, is for you to be a Mumin and Mujahid. A Mumin is one who is true and firm in his faith in God. A Mujahid is one who strives his utmost, with all the means at his disposal, to gain God's pleasure. If you are a Mumin and a Mujahid, Allah will assist you to rise to higher stations both in this world and in the Hereafter.
 
You now have a mission: to become a Mumin and Mujahid. As you embark upon this mission you may come to feel that your knowledge of Islam is somewhat limited or perhaps that you are unable to attain those heights of submission and purification that you desire or others expect of you. This is only natural. You must not, however, allow these feelings of personal shortcomings to undermine your efforts to practice Islam. Remember, Islam is a state of becoming not a state of being! Each day you must strive to improve and better yourself- and you will improve.
 
Principle of Gradualism:
 
Tazkiya or this program for self-improvement that you now find yourself in, is a process that unfolds itself step by step. You cannot expect to change yourself all at once.The Prophet (peace be upon him) was always aware of this when he was dealing with his companions. This gradual process of change is also clearly reflected in the manner in which the Quran was revealed over a period of 23 years. In all your efforts towards becoming a better believer, you must bear in mind this principle of gradualism, otherwise you may try to attain the impossible, and when you do not achieve it, you may become frustrated.
 
Once you have committed yourself to Allah, all that you have must be spent in His way. This is the ideal. Ideals, however, are always difficult to achieve- and this you must understand and accept. Ideals are always to be pursued; if they are easily and always achievable, they can hardly remain as ideals. It is the seeking and striving to spend all our efforts in the way of Allah that his known as Jihad and alternatively, in this instance, as Tazkiya.
 
[Taken from "In the Early Hours" by Ustadh Khurram Murad (Rahimahullah), edited by Riza Mohammed]

Also, remember these ahadith:

Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet said, "...Do (good) deeds which are within your capacity (without being overtaxed) as Allah does not get tired (of giving rewards) but (surely) you will get tired, and the best deed (act of Worship) in the sight of Allah is that which is done regularly." Sahih Bukhari: Volume 1, Book 2, Number 41.

“The acts most pleasing to Allah are those which are done continuously, even if they are small.” [Recorded by Imam Muslim]








Re: Disapointed....
Ameeraana
05/04/03 at 23:08:29
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 Sister Bismillah23, don't be too hard on yourself.  I do little things everyday pretty much where in the end I am telling myself how I could have handled a situation better or used better words or how I should have held more patience, etc.... -- and it happens almost everyday!!  There are lots of people here whom I admire, but you have to also know that they are not perfect either.  Sure, they may have more qualities you wish to attain but thats just it, to attain it you have to give yourself time.  It is a good start that you are recognizing what you don't like that you are doing.  It is the first step in bettering  yourself.  :)  
 
Ameera
Re: Disapointed....
Bismillah23
05/05/03 at 00:49:20
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jazakallahu khairen sis ameera, and abdul jalil bro... i have to take things one day at a time, allah swt allhamdullilah knows how i feel, and inshallah i will have patience, i know that allah will help his servants who ask for his help, inshallah i just want to do better. as many muslims do. ameen

wasalam
Re: Disapointed....
paula
05/05/03 at 01:27:09
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You know Sister...... I liked this hadith:

Narrated Abu Huraira:
That he heard Allah's Apostle saying, "While a lady was nursing her child, a rider passed by and she said, 'O Allah! Don't let my child die till he becomes like this (rider).' The child said, 'O Allah! Don't make me like him,' and then returned to her breast. (After a while) they passed by a lady who was being pulled and teased (by the people). The child's mother said, 'O Allah! Do not make my child like her.' The child said, 'O Allah! Make me like her.' Then he said, 'As for the rider, he is an infidel, while the lady is accused of illegal sexual intercourse (falsely) and she says: Allah is sufficient for me (He knows the truth)."
Sahih Bukhari Vol. 4, Bk. 56, # 672

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I believe what you're feeling is really normal sister.... didn't you say in the beginning of your posts here that you reverted, or started practicing Islam with dedication again recently?  I think what you are feeling is like a cleansing process..... similar to what a body goes through with detoxification of any element that is harmful in the system?  That might sound kind of silly, and I don't have alot of Islamic literature to back it up.  But it sounds like what is happening....... Allahu Alam... Just keep forging through sister....It might seem dark but with the submission..... and Sabr...... the light will start to shine...... Insha Allah

You know.... I had this lightbulb moment one day..... gave me a visual for the issue at hand...... I said that Allah(swt) created me...... I must be how he wants me to be.... and if I'm not accepting of myself then it's like saying a bad thing to him for my creation.... that scared me. ( I don't want to do that definitely)  On the other token, yes I want to strive to be the best I can for him.  But the best I can, is going to be individual, it's going to be ME, it's not going to be the example another has set. It's going to be only what Allah(swt) has placed in me and at my disposal.  And I need to strive to make the most.... very most of what he gave me... how he created me.  

Love you Sister..... just hang in there.... keep increasing the knowledge and practicing submission...... and don't be too hard on yourself.... Allah(swt) I believe will hold us accountable to what we are capable of and no more.... and he must have an enduring love for You... He created You... Mashaa Allah
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05/05/03 at 02:44:45
paula
Re: Disapointed....
Bismillah23
05/05/03 at 21:21:00
[slm] simply sister


jazakallahu khairen for taking the time to respond to my post, i really appreciatte it. :) Everyday for me is different. yes, your right, im starting to really practice my religion to the fullest, or atleast try the best i can inshallah so that allah swt forgives me and guides me to the right path. inshallah i will get better, ive realized that words from others helps, because its from allah swt, but only he can take my burden away allhamdullilah...... just keep me in your prayers if u can or if u remember, and i wil keep you in mine as well.....


[wlm] sis
Re: Disapointed....
ahmeth
05/06/03 at 01:55:07
[slm] Its not easy, everyone (i mean ppl of my home not board ppl) say do that or  that. It doesnt work... There is a saying..." If you never eat (taste)Honey you cant know how sweet honey is, even I told you its so sweet" Is psychology not an ilm in Islam? Is there no islamschoolars they are pscyhologists ? I read everday day Quran and do my salah make dhzikr, I trust to Allah swt and belive we are on test in this life. But what is wrong with me I suffer.Why is my mood my strive for living islam is so low for life? We are helpless, I experiment there is no an human to help you if you are realy in troble, only you can pray to Allah swt and beig to him and The rest is empty...And if you beginn to think, you will go to hell (jahannam) because you are not so mumin or muminah, this is much to lose your life will....I only hope Allahs rahmat for me in Ackheerat, with His judge I will be lose...brother in Ad Deenul-Islam [wlm]
05/06/03 at 02:01:19
ahmeth
Re: Disapointed....
paula
05/06/03 at 21:24:40
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Bi'ithnillah ....
[quote]..." If you never eat (taste) Honey you cant know how sweet honey is, even if I told you it is so sweet" [/quote]
… wow you said it there Brother Ahmeth.. beautiful.. Subhan Allah. This idea of perception/reality is such a hard one.  It reminds me how I describe things often when speaking with especially the teenage/adolescent ones around.  They are so precious at this age.  When you see the realities start to open up for them, and they start to enjoy the depths of thinking. They start to play with and enjoy abstract concepts.  And yet they struggle with identity & where they fit in this wide world. All too often though, they are ‘consciously’ struggling for this world opposed to Jannah… Allahu Alam

I always bring the visual of a two year old (something they can perceive)… look at that two year old and how they interact with their surroundings.  They know only what they have come in contact with and cannot perceive things in the same manner as you or I. I often remind them, just be careful when you yourself feel you finally KNOW… We are all still growing…There is always more… and what feels like reality for us (is what we have experienced and can perceive) another will take their views (based on their experiences)…. Neither one has to be or is necessarily wrong… only Allah (swt) himself is All-Seer, All-Knower. I enjoy how the youth respond because they are so full of energy.
 
The sadness I truly pray for though…. Is that more children may have the strengthening support they need for Allah (swt). I see the beauty of this world & All of Allah’s creation.  How everything was created in such a beautiful realm. Masha’Allah. Yet I also see the most important element missing.  The ‘consciousness’ of Allah (swt) himself. The respect for his position. The respect for ours…. Allahu Alam

[quote] there is not a human to help you if you are really in trouble [/quote]
….Here you said it again… Subhan Allah… such a hard one …  how we get tested to understand, that the only trust we can place in anything, is in Allah(swt) himself.  How we crave to hold onto this world and the things we can touch for security.  How we have been advised, those tangibles shall disappear.
 
Our Lord! We have sinned against ourselves, and unless You grant us forgiveness and bestow Your mercy upon us, we shall most certainly be lost! (7:23) …  “La Ilaha Illa Allah”
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05/06/03 at 21:42:58
paula
Re: Disapointed....
paula
05/06/03 at 21:37:54
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Bi'ithnillah ....Thought to share these verses too, because of their beauty & strength.
They are truly inspiring…. [i]Alhamdu lillah[/i] :[/color][color=Navy]

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[255] Allah! There is no god but He, the Living, the Self-subsisting, Eternal. No slumber can seize Him nor sleep. His are all things in the heavens and on earth. Who is there can intercede in His presence except as He permitteth? He knoweth what (appeareth to His creatures as) Before or After or Behind them. Nor shall they compass aught of His knowledge except as He willeth. His Throne doth extend over the heavens and the earth, and He feeleth no fatigue in guarding and preserving them for He is the Most High, the Supreme (in glory).

[256] Let there be no compulsion in religion: Truth stands out clear from Error: whoever rejects Evil and believes in Allah hath grasped the most trustworthy hand-hold, that never breaks. And Allah heareth and knoweth all things.

[257] Allah is the protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light. Of those who reject faith the patrons are the Evil Ones: from light they will lead them forth into the depths of darkness. They will be Companions of the Fire, to dwell therein (forever).

-- Qur’an 2:255-257

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[54] Your Guardian-Lord is Allah, Who created the heavens and the earth in six Days, then He established Himself on the Throne (of authority): He draweth the night as a veil o'er the day, each seeking the other in rapid succession: He created the sun, the moon, and the stars, (all) governed by laws under His Command. Is it not His to create and to govern? Blessed be Allah, the Cherisher and Sustainer of the Worlds!

-- Qur’an 7:54

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Re: Disapointed....
ahmeth
05/06/03 at 23:47:31
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Bi'ithnillah ....
… wow you said it there Brother Ahmeth.. beautiful.. [/quote]
For understand what I mean with this, if you never feel bad, sad or had any worrys. And your days are lose and your brain still in thinking without a way and no one understand you or cant understand you. You dont know whom you are to go and talk and share. ..So you can say i can feel your thought but you cant know 100% exactly how is it. Someone says often  , I understand you I know or I feel it. That was with honey example.  But thank you you are trying to write... There must be a way in islam to get better about this issues but no one is expert here i guess. Everyone is still busy with own business. I posted some non islamic forums about these topic but without succes...  [wlm]
Re: Disapointed....
paula
05/07/03 at 00:42:41
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[size=2][font=Verdana][color=Navy]oh I got you Brother... I'm hearing what you're saying here.  It's interesting too that just a few days ago I came accross someone as well that just didn't agree with this kind of point.... they said... well yes you can relate if you've lived the experience.  Well, whenever is the experience exactly the same? (there are always elements that are different).  And then people start assuming in their minds... "" I have been in that kind of position.... so therefore I can start to make some judgements or believe I undertand fully"". Well, not necessarily... you need to be careful, it can start to be deceptive. I agree with you too much.  

btw: not wanting to distort your posts..or take from them. Just wanted to express agreeance here with it. I'm also elaited at the moment that you stated it ...Here I was the other day, on my own with the idea... well that was okay too..Subhan Allah.

Jazak Allahu Khairan...And very sorry as well that I made another point out of your Beautiful expression above very thankful.

[quote]There must be a way in islam to get better about this issues but no one is expert here i guess.Everyone is still busy with own business[/quote].... maybe someone here has some helpful wisdom ...... Insha Allah

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05/11/03 at 21:44:28
paula
Re: Disapointed....
ahmeth
05/11/03 at 16:56:35
[quote author=Simply_Sister link=board=madrasa;num=1051644834;start=15#21 date=05/07/03 at 00:42:41].... maybe someone here has some helpful wisdom ...... Insha Allah

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There is no help 4 me...I noticed that, with my experiments...I pray Allah swt HE dont take my Iman and let me die as muslim. while I'm in trobles... JAK for wishes for dua..[wlm]


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