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| strivinsista |
| 05/04/03 at 23:45:11 |
| bismillah Assalaamalaikum wa rahmatullah LOWERING GAZE !!!! its soooooo hard !!!!! u don't no how hard it is !!! i mean especially guys with beard!!!!! i don't want a sin ...... ever since i moved here i lost most of my iman :( ... i really wanna be a good person ..... its sooooo hard!!! please help....i hate canada alreay i'm too bz in school n don't have time to read books ... :( n e lecturing going around in markham area of canada ?!?! |
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| paula |
| 05/05/03 at 02:37:10 |
| [slm][size=2][font=Book Antiqua][color=Navy] There is sooo much sadness across the board today :'( .... all the posts are sad... and I just feel silly.... you know I get to feeling silly when I'm weak.... haha..... the rest of the time I'm ....... I just realized Jannah doesn't have a face for "serious"...... :-) that's about as serious as it gets :-* Do you have to be in Canada very long ?? Have you been there long? I really feel for you sister...... I just read a wonderful post on a webpage that a sister (American) stated she was headed out of States for some Clarification time.... I can relate with that one... How long have you been in Canada.... I know for many people that I have met they have said that their impressions here are so different once they have arrived and had to filter through our society. Stressful..... & hard on the deen. Well, I know it's not too helpful..... just chatting with you biding time for someone more helpful to come along. And trying to get this silliness out of me..... it's really annoying btw: I like that skirt... how'd you do that ?? haha..... want to joke with you... say I saw you in the health club :o surprised me...... thought to *lower my gaze* ...... grab your hand...... & pull you back out of the club.....lol....just joking.... cute post though (lowering your gaze) [/color][/font][/size] [wlm] |
| 05/05/03 at 02:57:30 |
| paula |
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| strivinsista |
| 05/05/03 at 14:31:47 |
| Do you have to be in Canada very long ?? yeah till we get our citizenship >:( Have you been there long? 3 months january 27 I really feel for you sister...... please do but its not enough I just read a wonderful post on a webpage that a sister (American) stated she was headed out of States for some Clarification time.... I can relate with that one... How long have you been in Canada.... I know for many people that I have met they have said that their impressions here are so different once they have arrived and had to filter through our society. Stressful..... & hard on the deen. hmmmm very stressful i ran away from my house yesterday trying to get away from my problems will cut n paste it out of my dairy some times today when i'm feeling better Well, I know it's not too helpful..... just chatting with you biding time for someone more helpful to come along. And trying to get this silliness out of me..... it's really annoying lol its not annoying n the skirt its a "jilbaab" :$ |
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| strivinsista |
| 05/05/03 at 14:33:15 |
| i did sumthing bad today i ran away from my house for 2 hours ... my brother started crying he was like how am i suppose to tell ammi ... i was seriously gonna take 2 whole days but i didn't want to get arrested n stuff cuz am 18 n accounted to my own deeds now ... n e wayz ... my brother had yelled at me n i started crying ... u no am an artist n i took art for 7 years and more he was like do ur sisters homework n i was like i don't no how n he yelled he was like go to ur room so i went to my room started crying *slammin the door* so then i was like tha's it ... i took my purse ... wear my jilbaab n hijab n left ... my brother ran up to the door b4 i did hhe was like where are u going n i was like out n he sed out wear ... n i sed out he couldn't stand on the door n e longer so he sat down on the stairs .... with a sad face ... i walked to the park ... n jus sat there ... crying listenin to quran ... n this lady with the hijab was like u ok n i was like yeah am ok alhumdulillah ... i then remembered how much trouble my brother gonna be if my parents got home ... so i tried to get home b4 they did ... n like well they were home ... mom was like "dude never go out with out any grown up's permission as a girl am not letting u go out walking ALONE" ah got in trouble oh well.... mom sed its ok cuz as living in canada we got bunch of problems going on ... |
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| Kathy |
| 05/06/03 at 08:37:19 |
| [slm] Your mom called you a dude? Were you and your brother able to talk calmly about what happened? |
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| Maliha |
| 05/06/03 at 08:53:29 |
| [slm] awwww..i feel for you sis :( I went through the same thing of moving *countries* half way across the world, from the warm comforts of a tropical island, surrounded with Muslims and Masajids to the cold grasps of the U.S. I was 17 then, too young to hold my fort, too old to assimilate easily. The culture was completely different, the people might have as well been aliens, and the wonderful calls of the adhans and lulling sounds of waves were replaced by a dark oblivious void that made me want to dissappear. Houston to Canada doesn't sound too bad honestly... the culture is pretty much the same...its just adjusting to the nuances of a different environment. I am definitely not trying to belittle your struggles, I am just kinda trying to give you hope (in a roundabout way)...I got over my homesickness, and sometimes I even identify with this society as being home to a certain extent. It took me about six months of constant crying every night, and another six months of resentment, depression, and fervent duahs of waking up miraculously in the softness of Mombasa's breeze... Alhamdullillah, after I stopped being resentful and started really looking at the good things this place had to offer, I found a lot. I grew a whole lot, learned in ways I still can not conceive, and loved my experiences here...believe it or not, even away from the beautiful adhans, hijaabs, and spiritual warmth of an Islamically populated society, I actually became stronger in my deen! Find a Masjid near you, and start forming good relationships with sisters around you, read a lot, make dhikr, and you'll notice your imaan will rise naturally. Lowering the gaze is not hard :P If you notice someone just turn away and say "Audhu Billah" sometimes we can't control the first gaze, but the minute you gain consciousness deliberately turn your eyes. Try to focus less on people when you are walking...like look at the ground, or around..or something..i think that helps. Anywayz, you are in my duahs..and no matter how hard it seems right now, you'll get used to it, trust me INshaallah. Also, don't be soo hard on your family...I am sure they are all dealing with transistional issues too, use them as your support and know that you are very fortunate to even have a family that cares about you, close to you. Take care sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| paula |
| 05/06/03 at 22:13:51 |
| [slm] [size=2][font=Verdana][color=Navy] [quote]I really feel for you sister...... please do but its not enough[/quote] :'( ..... I know [quote]n the skirt its a "jilbaab" :$ [/quote] (smile)...... I stand corrected :-[ You know what I was thinking though.... thought you should share that icon with all of us sisters & we could all post it together ...... oh wouldn't that be a site..... like "sisters united" .... what a visions that gives :o...... Do you think everyone would go along with it :D... lol.... probably not huh ? :P ..... Have no doubt though Sister.... your age isn't an easy one no matter where in the world you are, or what issues in life are taking place. A time that increased knowledge is ever so necessary, and yet emotional needs are at the forefront. Keeping you in my prayers here too.... I know it won't be so easy.. but try to stay strong. What is the expression...... "that, that doesn't kill you, makes you stronger ?? " [/color][/font][/size] [wlm] |
| 05/06/03 at 22:17:30 |
| paula |
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| theOriginal |
| 05/07/03 at 04:07:46 |
| [slm] Strivinsista...You should like join foundation's halaqas. I don't know if the same people hold them, as was the case when I was in high school...but it's fun, and we used to get to talk about all sorts of quarky stuff that I never imagined I could discuss...It's a very good outlet, plus it gives you an activity to do on weekends. Toronto's not all that bad. (Markham has issues...SARS, for example) If anything, when I get back to Canada, you can join our university halaqas. Really amazing sisters, mashaAllah. Sometimes they WERE held at my house, although that won't be the case anymore..but ..I'm sure we could accomadate you :D Cheer up...what high school do you go to? I know people in almost every high school in Markham...some of them are ..umm.. teachers ;) but anyway...i just want you to CHEER up. |
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| strivinsista |
| 05/07/03 at 19:00:44 |
| bismillah Assalaamalaykum not comfortable giving out wut school i go to .... :$ u can PM insha'allah.... nooo mom didn't call me a dude... me n my brother don't fight a lot... but he doesn't no how to draw well tha's what he think.... i think he draws good masha'allah *i ate 2 much* (opens belt n makes it loose) no one gives halaqa here i mean there is this thing called YM young muslim sisters .... i don't like it n never will. its all about politics i was depressed for 6 months .... as the hadith says : "who ever seeks position should not get a position." everyone gathered around to vote for the people in the shura and the next president .... it happened to be me. one of the girl got mad and told her father that i don't no how to teach and stuff... n then her father got mad told the local group that to have the voting thing again ... everyone voted it happened to be me AGAIN.... the girl told her father so her father called the headquaters again saying this is not good .... so they lied and said that i didn't become the president.... and when it was time to vote for the shura everyone wanted me in there so they wrote my name in it... it was the presidents duty to call me and tell me that i'm in da shura ... rather she called me when ONE OF THE SHURA MEMBER left the town ... i told her i don't want to be in this fitnah and i left the group.... she wanted girls who wear HIJAB ONLY ... the point is that u want to encourage MUSLIM girls to come to islam ... not the girls who LOVE islam already. and thats me i can teach girls who don't wear hijab... ok so the FIRST DAY when she came to teach in OH SUBHANALLAH !!! WHAT WAS SHE WEARING !!!!! THERE WAS NO DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ME AND HER !!!!! when i come to class .... i wear GREY JILBAAB , PURSE , AND HI HEELS SHOES , AND HIJAB IN A FASHIONED WAY !!..... and tha's what happened i was already in class ... as the president ARRIVING LATE .... the girls were like there goes "*insert my name* with her high heels" and i was like " i'm right here" so when the president arrived ... one of the girl sed " hey sis she looks like u *giggles* " and i responded " hahaha very funny *Roll my eyes*" another sister didn't no that i wasn't teaching so she looks at me and says " hey sis u not teaching" and i was like "i'm not the president" she was like " what ? ur kiddin.... ur not teaching" and i was like " nope" and the girl who WANNA BE ME was like " can we start" and i was like " no, you no it everyone Voted for me but ur a little 15 years old broke the SUNNAH " and the class was like: " calm down " and so 3/4 of the class left saying if " sister *insert my name* is not teaching i don't want to stay" these GIRLS WERE FORCED TO COME TO CLASS .....and they went home telling their parents that " strivin_sista is not teaching n e more so i'm not going" the parents got angry they called several grown ups who were incharge of the girls program that their daughters are not coming cuz of this and this ... do something.... and they couldn't do any thing.... n e wayz in strivin sista's WANNA BEs class were 5 girls no one wanted to come.... right when i was leaving this town she called me and asked me if i want to be in the shura ... cuz my friend called her saying i'm leaving the town. so i decided i'm going to learn individually if any one wants to learn from me they are going to learn correctly islamically.... i can be fun but when there is time to be serious i am .... well sometimes depends how i feel |
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| SA84 |
| 06/04/03 at 18:50:08 |
| [slm] hey i know how u feel. i felt like that when i first moved to canada too, actually sometimes i still feel like that, its really hard when there is such a big change in ur life... anyways, i live around the markham area and JustOne is right, there are halaqas even now in the Islamic Foundatin (the Nugget Mosque) and they're pretty cool, like i've been to a couple of them and what the girls do there is that they play in the gym first for like an hour and then they hold a halaqa for an hour where u can discuss whatever is going on and study a surah and stuff. and plus they are planning more cool things for the summer too like going to wonderland, inshallah. i'm sure u'll enjoy it :) markham is pretty huge so depending on where u live, there are probably lots of local classes going on too. like in our building, this auntie teaches 3 times a week and if u want, i can give u more info on it and if u dont live too far away, maybe u can come there too. when u move to a new place, u really have to search cause its like so hard when u dont know anyone and u have to get adjusted to the school system and everything too. like i thought canada was similar to america and in a way it is, but then again its not...so i understand what ure going through, but right now u just need to have lots of patience because it takes time. inshallah, i'll pray things get better for you :) walaikum assalam |
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