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| I feel so trapped |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/07/03 at 22:01:34 |
| As'SalaamuAlaikum I feel so trapped,and lonely mostly always. I just live day by day and cry myself to sleep every night. I am not married but have 2 many responsibilities. I feel behind in school and there is nothing for me in the future. I feel like im in a cage and I cant get out... Im not sure what to ask but any way you can help me will be nice. |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| Mulla |
| 05/08/03 at 01:51:43 |
| This is what is "life" for most people.... Talk to Allah in ur private , converse with Allah as if he was right there ,tell HIM about ur feelings and make friendship with Allah open ur heart to Him! when ever u can, in ur imagination.... Inshallah He is listening....I can give u personal guarantee on this, and I am sure all the others in here can as well...... Such is life my dear friend, (sigh) such is life.... inn mal usri , wal usr,,,,, soon its going to be downhill and u will have fun, inshallah, just talk to Him! Mulla! |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| Bismillah23 |
| 05/08/03 at 02:07:06 |
| [slm] i know how you feel, listen to mulla he is right. talk to allah swt, you feel inshallah feel better, he listens to you, rely on him to ease your pain/frustration. its hard to feel the way you do, but inshallah he will help you through it... |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| paula |
| 05/08/03 at 03:31:59 |
| [slm][size=2][font=Verdana][color=Black] ........ Insha Allah [center] Allah hath not promised Skies always blue, Flower-strewn pathways All our lives through. Allah hath not promised Sun without rain, Joy without sorrow, Peace without pain. But Allah hath promised Strength for the day, Rest for the labor, Light for the way Grace for the trials, Help from above, Unfailing sympathy Undying love . . . ALLAH LET ME LAUGH AGAIN, BUT NEVER LET ME FORGET THAT I CRIED -- Author Unknown [/center] [/color][/font][/size] |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| Maliha |
| 05/08/03 at 08:14:50 |
| [slm] Anon, I have felt that way before, I have "been there" :( The thing is everytime I fall short in my ibadah or completely abandon my worship and focus on Allah, then I am bound to feel that way. The soul communicates to us, through our emotions. When the soul is at rest, then our whole being is illuminated, we gain clarity, vision, energy to do more and manifest this beauty inside us. How does the heart gain that stillness? Only through the Remembrance of Allah. It's so simple, and fortunately or unfortunately for us, there is no short cuts around it. You have to come back to the main point of your very existence here on earth. Why are you alive? We are here to worship Allah only, and to be preoccupied with anything else is a betrayal of every blessing Allah has given us through which we could get closer to Him. My dear, once you come to this conclusion, then everything else becomes easy Inshaallah. All your scattered senses will be gathered, your struggles unified, your being consolidated, and your vision clarified. Recognize the Sublime Onness of Allah, and never for once doubt that you are here simply to strive to get closer to Him. Alhamdullillah for Islam, we are *not* left to our own devices. We don't have to scamper around in the darkness of oblivion trying to find "ourselves", our "destiny", "purpose" or whatever other vain pursuits people preoccupy themselves with. We have guidance Alhamdullillah, and the essence of this Divine Guidance lies in the Quran. Please take some time out to really study the Quran. If you have read the Translation move on to study the Tafsir. Take some time *each* day to read even a little passage and *reflect* on it, and what it means to you and your life. Take the time to fully comprehend the Mercy of Allah, what He has bestowed you with, and let that gratefulness seep into your heart. Translate that energy into righteous deeds that will bring you a step closer to Him. Remember *always* that you are *not* alone. Your striving to come closer to Allah will be met with numerous blessings, trials, and guidance that will envelope your being, and lead you Mercifully all the way to Jannah (Amin). It is in the company of good people that our spirits draw their inspiration from. Find a Masjid near you, search for good Muslims/Muslimahs to keep company of, to learn with, to commune, to share, to struggle and to grow. Go to weekly halaqas, join the board, get to know other people on this path and develop your lifelong companions who will assist you along the way Inshaallah. Alhamdullillah through His Mercy you recognize the state you are in, and through His Grace you feel the weight of your conscience. Please listen to yourself, and let the Light of Allah guide you. May He protect you from the evil of your soul, the whispering of shaytaan, and madness of this society. Your sis in Struggle, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
| 05/08/03 at 08:15:56 |
| Maliha |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/08/03 at 22:30:55 |
| Anon, I can certainly relate. You have not mentioned what is making you feel trapped. School? Lifestyle? I'll share this with you. I was crying literally 8 to 10 times a day. No joke. I was so depressed I could hardly get out of the house. My children are grown, married and gone. My husband is never home. Actually or 24 months of marriage I have only been with him maybe 7 or 8 months. I was so sad and so lonely and I still am. My family is very critical, judgemental and not at all close. I had a relative staying with me who was quite mean and rude to me on a daily bases. (To me in my own home) To give you an example, the week before I left I called my mother in tears, told her I was at my witts end, missed my husband, had problems with her sister and was at the end of my rope. I needed someone to talk to. This was a Sunday afternoon and I asked if I could come talk to her. She said Not tonight. I asked her if I could please just stop by after church for just a few minutes she said no. This is how my family is. 4 days a week she is at church but could not spare 20 mins in a week for her daughter. Anyway, I had to jump start myself and take control over the situation. Prayer, reflection and action. Ask Allah for strength to over come and ask for his direction/guidance as to what part of the situation you are contributing to. I wish you well with your situation. I didn't mean to bore you with mine, I have changed my situation and only wished to share it with you so you don't feel alone. Crying and feeling lonely is an awful feeling. I know you'll pull through, it will be tough but you can do it. Sounds like you also have a full plate. Remember it is just like eatting, one cannot swallow the whole plate, you must tackle it one spoonful at a time. |
| Re: I feel so trapped |
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| paula |
| 05/09/03 at 08:31:01 |
| [slm][size=2][font=Bookman Old Style][color=green] Bi'ithnillah ........ [center]A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared. He sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could, and it could go no further. So the man decided to help the butterfly. He took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings. The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. What the man, in his kindness and haste, did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were Allah's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon. Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If Allah (swt) allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. We could never fly![/color][color=black] * At times life is Constricting, Stifling, & Dark .. not unlike the cocoon * Praise Allah(swt) during these moments of darkenss without despair[/color] ------------------------------------[/center] [color=green]Al-Qābid: The Constrictor & Al-Bāsit: The Expander are two Attributes (Names) of Allah(swt) ...... also consider this sisters contributing article on knowledge [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=library;action=display;num=1052341300]CLICK[/url]...... " We shall show them Our Signs upon the horizons & [u]within themselves [/u]until it is clear to them that it is the Real (the Truth). Doth not thy Lord suffice, since He is Witness over all things." (Qur'an 41:53). [center]La Ilaha Illa Allah[/center] [/color][/font][/size] [wlm] |
| 05/11/03 at 21:48:54 |
| paula |
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