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| Yasmeena |
| 05/12/03 at 16:37:19 |
| [slm] I just had a visit from a non-Muslim friend . We have been friends for almost 3 years. When I embraced Islam last year I told her about it and we have been having interfaith discussions ever since. She is one of my Da'wah projects (?). My friend, Judy, has been going through a really tough time lately, actually the past 8 months or so. :( Her husband is in the U.S. Coast Guard and spends a lot of time out to sea. She has 3 children, 2 of which have disabilities. The oldest is 7 and he is slowly going blind. The youngest is 3 and she has heart problems. She copes with this on a daily basis. I am her local mom, friend, confidant, etc since her parents are across the country in New York. Her husband, while out to sea last year, had an affair with a female ship mate which ended up with the birth of a baby girl. >:( Since that time, Judy has had to go through a terrible time of her husband not knowing which way he wants to go. Sometimes he loves Judy and wants to stay together and at other times he wants a divorce. I have watched her go from a strong, self-assertive woman to a wimp (her words today). A little over 2 months ago he told her that he was filing for a legal separation and needed her signature. As it turns out it was for a dissolution of marriage leaving her with nothing, not even her children. :'( She found this out this morning when she picked up what she thought was her copy of the legal separation. It was in fact his copy with a different cover page for dissolution of marriage. >:( :o >:( ??? >:( She went to a lawyer immediately! :) He told her that she is entitled to her children and support. When she came over to vent and seek advice I was shocked to see the deterioration of her usual happy, strong personality. Both my husband and I have been through similar situations in the past, being cheated on by spouses, so she knew we would listen and not judge her. We told her to get the lawyer retained before the dissolution is final in less than 2 weeks. She is entitled to at the very least, under Washington State Law, her children, the house, a car and enough money to pay the bills, feed and clothe them, and have military health insurance for the children. She is in such a mess physically and emotionally that I want to cry. :'( :'( :'( She is like a daughter to me, being 2 years younger than my own daughter. All I can do is pray that Allah ta 'ala will use the situation for good. Insha Allah, this is the catalist that brings her to Islam and the love of Allah ta 'ala. Please my brothers and sisters, perform dua for Judy and her children and for my husband and I that we can correctly advise her and be here for her at any hour she needs us. Yasmeena :-) [wlm] |
| Re: Requesting Dua |
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| Mulla |
| 05/12/03 at 17:05:48 |
| [slm] Ask her to come into the folds of Islam and lean on the support of Real Lord of mankind......... Consolation of souls is only in the hands of Allah the Father and Lord of Creation..(father=rab)... Tell her this as well that Allah is not only khaliq(creator) of things, but, he is the creator of conditions as well and these conditions of life are like clouds which come and go..... What she is going thru will be over soon.........Inshallah.... I will personally make dua to Allah that grant her Islam and Allahs support thru out her life.......... Plus Yasmeena sister you stay in there for her as you are , thats really the sunnah of our Master Mohammad of Arabia the prohpet for the broken hearts........Thats the real thing..... Plus you should make dua for me cause Allah listens to duas of people like you who are actually doing something practically............. Mulla! |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 05/12/03 at 17:17:12 |
| [slm] May Allah (Swt) reward you for being there for her! Im sure that means alot to her and is helping her alot. May Allah (swt) show her the str8 path and bring only peace and happiness in her life. with love and time this will pass also, insh'Allah |
| 05/13/03 at 15:43:16 |
| a_Silver_Rose |
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| IMuslim_4Ever |
| 05/13/03 at 11:25:15 |
| [slm] May Allah(swt) Guide her toward the Right Path Inshallah i will pray for her and you my sister. May you find words to calm her down... do pray for her, its the best thing to do. :) Below are some duaa i found... 1. Allahumma allif baina qullu baina wa aslih dhata bainina wahdina subuulas-salami wanjjina minadh-dhulumati ilannuur (O Allah! Cause Love between our hearts, and improve our mutual relations and guide us to the paths of peace and security; taking us out of darkness, and guided towards the Light (of faith)) 2. اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْلَنَا وَ لِلْمُؤْمِنِيْنَ وَ الْمُؤْمِنتَ وَ اَصْلِحْهُمْ وَ اَصْلِحْذَاتْ بَيْنِهِمْ وَ اَلِّفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوْبِهِمْ وَ اجْعَلْ فِىْ قُلُوْبِهِمُ الاِيْمَانَ وَ الْحِكْمَةَ وَ انْصُرْهِمْ عَلى عَدُوِّكَ وَ عَدُوِّهِمْ Allahumma aghfir lana, wa lil mu'miniia, wal-mu'minaati, wa aslih-hum, wa salih dhati bayynihim, wa allif baina quluubihim, waj'al fi quluubi-himul imaana wal hikmata, wa-nsurhum 'ala' 'aduw-wika wa 'aduwwihim (O Allah! Forgive us, and the believing men and women, and remove their faults, and cause peace and love among their hearts, and infuse into their hearts a firm faith and wisdom, and let them be victorious over Your enemies and their enemies.) 3. بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ وَ بَارَكَ عَلَيْكَ، وَ خَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا، وَرَزَقَكَ اللَّهُ مِثْلَهُ، وَ اَجْزَلَ ثَوَابَكَ BarakAllahu laka wa baaraka 'alaiyka, wa jazakAllahu khairan, wa razaqakal-Llahu mithlahu, wa ajzala thawaabaka (May Allah Bless you, and shower His Blessings upon you, and May Allah reward you and bestow upon you its like, and Reward you abundantly) 4. يَهْدِيكُمُ اللَّهُ وَ يُصلِحُ بَالَكُمْ Yahdikumullah, wa yuslihu baalakum. (May Allah Guide you, and set your affairs in order) ********************************************************* Hope i helped somehow. ma salaama اللَّهُمََّ اَحْيِنِىْ مُسْلِمًا وَّ اَمِتْنِىْ مُسْلِمًا Allahumma ahyini Musliman wa amitinī Musliman (O Allah! Let me live as a true Muslim, and cause me to die as a true Muslim.) |
| Re: Requesting Dua |
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| IMuslim_4Ever |
| 05/13/03 at 16:22:50 |
| [slm] لِلْمُؤْمْمُؤْمِن oopppsss!!! Thos were suppose to be arabic writing...it didn't work cuz i replied ur post from school... sorry... [wlm] |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/14/03 at 02:49:38 |
| Hi, this is Caraj, The one who can't post the regular way at the pc she is using I just wanted to confirm Washington State is great about support matters. It is ashame this gal signed something without reading it totally, page by page and unless she has a really good lawyer she may have just signed everything away. I hope and pray what she signed is not going to be binding. Yasmeena, I didn't realize anyone on the boards were in Washington State, would you please send me a private message, I am trying to meet sisters in my area. I hope you are blessed and rewarded for your kindness to this young lady. |
| 05/14/03 at 21:18:14 |
| bhaloo |
| Re: Requesting Dua |
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| Yasmeena |
| 06/13/03 at 01:33:52 |
| [slm] :o :o :o :o :o :o Judy was just visiting us and when she got home to her own apartment after her "husband" filed for divorce and made her move out, left her a message on her answering machine (while she was here). In his message he wanted to"forgive" HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! For what?????????????????? Excuse ME!?!?! He is the one who fathered a child, while married to Judy, while out to sea on a U.S. Coast Guard Cutter!?!?!?! >:( >:( >:( >:( Judy is young enough to be my daughter, but is a friend also. I am really upset for her :'( :'( She really needs prayer before she does something REALLY STUPID!! She is non-Muslim but I have been doing Da'wah with her. To her way of thinking, if her Christian God can let this happen, how can Islam help her? How do I answer her questions to help her "see" the need for Allah ta'ala? Yasmeena [wlm] |
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| jannah |
| 06/24/03 at 07:18:11 |
| [quote]if her Christian God can let this happen,[/quote] [slm] what exactly does God have to do with someone committing adultery?? please let her know she is in our prayers.. and that we sympathize with her misfortune but hope she doesn't blame God for it... |
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