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| wardah |
| 05/18/03 at 09:16:04 |
[slm] me and my cousin were revising for our religious studies exam which is tommorow! :o (please make Duaa for me) under the topic of funerals.. and i was just wondering, you know when a husband passes away, the women has a mourning period..and if its vice versa, the wife passes away..does the husband mourn for her too? [wlm] |
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| bhaloo |
| 05/18/03 at 09:21:02 |
| [slm] I believe it was Abu Hanifah who got married (or maybe it was proposed) after the funeral on his way home, he didn't want to be alone when he died. (I'm fairly certain it was him, I have to check the reference). |
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| Kathy |
| 05/18/03 at 13:03:01 |
| [slm] Recently I did a bit of studying about this and did not come accross any stipulation for men. If someone has it..Please share! |
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| Barr |
| 05/18/03 at 20:49:59 |
| [wlm] [quote]I believe it was Abu Hanifah who got married (or maybe it was proposed) after the funeral on his way home, he didn't want to be alone when he died. (I'm fairly certain it was him, I have to check the reference). [/quote] I've heard something like that. This 'Alim, was asked why he got married soon after his wife died, and he said that Allah loves for His servants to meet Him married. Hence, he would like to die married. I will check again my sources, inshaAllah. I'll get back on the mourning period, but somehow I feel it may be misconstrued as the iddah period? Shukran Wassalam |
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| asap |
| 05/19/03 at 07:52:25 |
| [slm] It should be the same as for everyone (brothers/sisters/sons/parents etc May Allah preserve them!), i.e., 3 days. [color=Blue] Volume 1, Book 6, Number 310: Narrated Um-'Atiya: We were forbidden to mourn for a dead person for more than three days except in the case of a husband for whom mourning was allowed for four months and ten days. (During that time) we were not allowed to put ko,hl (Antimony eye power) in our eyes or to use perfumes or to put on colored clothes except a dress made of 'Asb (a kind of Yemen cloth, very coarse and rough). We were allowed very light perfumes at the time of taking a bath after menses and also we were forbidden to go with the funeral procession . [/color] Also, it is not a stipulation rather a maximum allowed wherein those grieving can outwardly show their grief. Sure, the loved ones remain in our hearts. As for women it is directly related to their [i]iddah[/i]. If I remember it correctly a widow can be shown interest in her (for marriage) subtly but not explicitly during this period. wa-salam asap. |
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