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| A_Stranger |
| 05/21/03 at 15:29:54 |
| http://www.mansoorah.com/amanah/maysoon.html Long but def. worth the read. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [color=Pink][center][font=Verdana][size=3]"All Gazes at the Luncheon Fell to the Floor"[/font][/size] [i]part of a series of short stories from "The Chronicles of Al Fulanah" by: Aish Hadhaa[/i][/center][/color] Dahlia, a woman in her late 20's, had recently been widowed. During her iddah a man showed interest in marrying her. He did not do it directly ofcourse. Rather, he sent Dahlia a box of chocolates as a hint of his interest. She was not flattered to put it bluntly. In fact, she was in distress, for the man was the husband of a woman she knew named Maysoon. Dahlia and Maysoon were not close friends so to speak. They just knew each other from meeting here and there, but this marriage interest was enough to make Dahlia feel uncomfortable. Maysoon was a woman who came across quite smug to many women. You see, Maysoon had the kind of personality that could bring an eagle down from the sky just by looking at it. Without exception, she would compete with other women about everything and anything. There was no end to it. She was notorious for accusing others of being envious of her for supposedly having the good things in life, one of which was her marriage to a purportedly intelligent caring yet upright husband who would never enter into polygamy. Yet, there it was in front of Dahlia - the gift- the very thing that could bombshell Maysoon's world apart. Actually, Dahlia did not care much about the gift. But she came to a realization that what seemed to her to be quite trivial- the gift, could actually be the cause for another Muslim's misery. The box of chocolates may not even last a week, yet Maysoon's anguish (if this gift was to be discovered) could regrettably last a lifetime! "How could that be? How can a woman's world be crushed so easily?" Dahlia asked herself upon reflection. After a few weeks, Dahlia's iddah ended. The man finally proposed by sending a woman named Asma' to represent him for this purpose. However, Dahlia politely declined. She knew better than to enter into a polygamous marriage with a narcissistic co-wife. Furthermore, Dahlia had no plans of re-marrying after the death of her husband. She loved her husband very much, as he was a man who honored her until the day he died. She hoped to be married to him in jannah if their deeds were to be accepted by Allah (swt). She yearned to see her husband, and continued to mourn his death for a long time. In a pleading cry to Allah (swt), Dahlia would weep and supplicate to Allah (swt) every night asking for mercy. Dahlia was neither the sort of woman who would circulate stories about other families, nor have the corrupt intent to expose the marriage proposal to Maysoon. Dahlia simply kept silent. A month had passed when Dahlia was invited to a luncheon at a someone's house. It was quite a large gathering. Guests came from different communities. Many women were invited, including Asma' , the woman who was sent to Dahlia for the marriage proposal. Dahlia and Asma' were sitting side by side hob knobbing and eating with other women when they heard the doorbell ring. It was none other than Maysoon at the door. Much to Dahlia's surprise, Maysoon was also invited. Maysoon entered the door bodaciously. On a coat rack in the hall way, she hung her winter shawl inside-out making sure the label "Club Monaco" would easily jump out at anyone who took a glance at it. She slowly took off her spanking new high heeled shoes and said to the children playing in the hallway, "Don't step on these shoes mama, they are very expensive! I don't think your parents can afford to replace them." After hearing this, of course friends sitting across the room from each other broke eye contact for fear of being guilty of slandering. They lowered their gaze out of discomfort. Uneasiness filled the room as Maysoon sat on the floor to eat with the rest of the guests. A woman, kind enough to break the ice, informed everyone about the new Arabic classes downtown. "There are Arabic Classes now going on downtown for adults as well as the youth group." She generously said. The guests began to join into the conversation. Just as it was getting interesting, Maysoon could not help but make a comment. She had been withholding herself much too long. Maysoon ultimately received her turn to speak. Despite being off topic, she broadcasted her husband's popularity for his lectures at the new masjid. With faint sighs in the crowd, Maysoon continued singing her praises throughout lunch. She continued to blabber on about this or that and the other, constantly making a comeback to someone else's good news. Her good news was always the best news. Of course. In almost all gatherings of women, a certain topic is almost always brought up- that of polygamy. This luncheon was not an exception. Alas! someone brought it up. For Maysoon, this was like killing two birds with one stone. She felt it was the perfect opportunity to tell everyone why she was the envy of the world, and at the same time, do dawah to the supposedly less knowledgeable. How could Maysoon possibly let this opportunity pass her by? Not a chance. Not even halfway biting into her kufta, with Dahlia and Asma' sitting with her, Maysoon unleashed her itch to preach. From how to make the perfect miraculous tea, to what to do in the morning before the husband wakes up, to what kind of jilbabs she loves to wear, to the skirts she purchases and wears around the house, to the type of shampoo she uses to straighten her hair, she articulated it all in a condescending tone of voice. It was her way of letting any perceived "competitors" out there in the luncheon know she was "all that". After giving a tedious list of advice on how to keep the husband happy, Maysoon, in her tiresome gasp of breath, explained, "..I keep my husband very happy, mashAllah. I keep fit, try to look beautiful and mashallah, he would never look for a second wife or find one like me." …… All gazes at the luncheon fell to the floor. [color=Red]Our Gains:[/color] From this narrative, you and I are able to take the following benefits. [color=Green][size=3]It's All good![/size][/color] Everything - death, near perfection, embarrassment, putting your foot in your mouth- whatever it may be- happens by the will of Allah (swt). A Muslim obeys the commandments of Allah (swt) and accepts His will. This is one of the greatest indications of faith and piety in a Muslim. If something good happens, you praise Allah (swt) and become grateful to Allah (swt). If something tragic befalls you, you endure it with patience and strength. In other words, it's all good! The next step is to learn from these experiences. Allah (swt) says, [i]"Only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning." (39:10)[/i] You see this in the example of 'Asma bint Umays. Her first husband, Ja'far bin abi talib, died only to be followed by the death of her second husband, Abu Bakr al Siddiq. Thereafter followed the death of her son Muhammad bin Abi Bakr. [color=Green][size=3]Keepin' It On The Down Low[/size][/color] One of your most beautiful virtues as a Muslim is your noble ability to keep secrets. A person who does not know how to keep secrets is like a person who has a moving camera for her eyes and a megaphone for a mouth. A perfect example of the virtue of keeping secrets in the hadith reported in Fath al-Bari from Imam Bukhari about the marriage of Hafsah bint Umar to the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam). The hadith involves Uthman and Abu Bakr (radhi Allahu anhum) and their noble character of being discrete. Umar reported: "I met Uthman ibn Affan and offered him Hafsah's hand in marriage. I said, 'If you wish I will marry Hafsah to you.' He said, 'I will think about it.' A few days passed, then he met me and said, 'I think that I do not wish to get married just now.' Then I met Abu Bakr as-Siddiq and said, 'If you wish , I will marry Hafsah bint Umar to you.' Abu Bakr remained silent and made no reply to me, and I was more upset with him that with Uthman. A few days passed, then the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) asked for her hand, and I gave her to him in marriage. Abu Bakr met me and said, 'Perhaps you are angry with me when you offered me Hafsah's hand and I did not reply?' I said, 'Yes.' He said, 'Nothing kept me from answering you except the fact that I knew the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) had mentioned her and I could not disclose the secret of rasulullah. If he had decided not to marry her, then I would have married her.'" In "As-Seer" you also see the following quote about unnecessary speech by 'Ata bin Rabah who said "Those who were before you considered unnecessary speech as being other than what Allah (swt) has revealed, enjoining good, forbidding evil and talking about the matters that sustain your livelihood. Do you claim that there are not over you those (appointed angels) to watch you, Kiraman Katibun (honorable writers of deeds) not a word does he or she utter but there is a watcher by him ready? Do not any of you feel shy that when his record of deeds that he performed by day is opened, that it does not contain any of the matters of this Hereafter?" [color=Green][size=3]Someone Will Always Be Better Than You. Be Smart! Don't Sweat It.[/size][/color] Many times women fall into the trap of tirelessly competing for the most asinine things. But face it, no doubt someone will always come around to be better than you simply because Allah (swt) is complete in His creations. Allah (swt) says, [center][i]"See you not (O men) that Allah has subjected for you whatsoever is in the heavens and whatsoever is in the earth, and has completed and perfected His Graces upon you, (both) apparent (i.e Islamic Monotheism, and the lawful pleasures of this world, including health, good looks, etc.) and hidden [i.e. One's Faith in Allah (of Islamic Monotheism) knowledge, wisdom, guidance for doing righteous deeds, and also the pleasures and delights of the Hereafter in Paradise, etc.]?…."[/center][/i] 31:20 Someone will come around to receive more attention than you, be more beautiful, wear nicer clothes, have straighter or curlier hair, have bluer/ browner/ greener/ grayer/ purpler eyes, have a bigger house, live in a better neighborhood, know more parts of the Qur'an, have a better husband, or have more intelligent children than you. Even if you thought you resembled virgin from jannah, all of that beauty will wither away sooner than you can imagine. Your skin will become shriveled, the chin will droop, and the health problems of aging will eventually expose you through very embarrassing gastro-intestinal accidents. And yes, someone younger and fresher will come along to stomp on the self-deception you have cultivated all those years. That's just a fact of life, for perfection belongs only to Allah (swt). So, why sweat it? Allah (swt) said, [i][center]"And you will see the mountains and think them solid, but they shall pass away as the passing away of the clouds. The Work of Allah, Who perfected all things, verily! He is Well-Acquainted with what you do."[/center][/i] 27:88 Muhammad ibn al Hanfiyah said, "Every aspect with which one does not seek Allah's face alone is bound to diminish." (hilyatul awliya) You already know that everything that happens in life is by the will of Allah (swt), so there is no need to fill your heart with disdain at what others have that you do not have, or fill your heart with delight for what you think you have over others. It is a waste of time because you know that Allah (swt) can give and take all of it any time. [color=Green][size=3]It Is Never Enough[/size][/color] Among the best ways to remain content is to look at those below you and not those above you. The Prophet (saw) said, "Look at those who are below, not those above you; for this way, you will not belittle Allah's bounty on you." (Bukhari & Muslim) The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) likewise discouraged you from making a show of Allah's bounties upon you. A balance must be maintained between looking at those below you and your insecurities. To have people below you is not your objective. Your objective by this act of looking for your advantages over people is for you to remain content with what Allah (swt) has blessed you, not to fuel your arrogance and insecurity. [color=Red]The desire to be acknowledged[/color] When you become preoccupied with looking for your advantages over other people, you will consequently desire to confirm those advantages through acknowledgement from other people. After all, hypothetically speaking, what's the use of being busy digging for your advantages if no one else sees them but you? The preoccupation will eventually lose its meaning if it goes unnoticed. [color=Red]The desire to be known as the best[/color] The preoccupation of having to be the best indicates that you are subconsciously aware there is someone out there better than you. Thus, you not only exhibit the insecurity of its opposite- not being the best, but you desire to be "known" the best. Both of these combined harbor resentment and dissatisfaction with Allah (swt). This is why you have an insecurity of always letting other people know your advantages. Realistically, the best you can do as human being is try your hardest at something which benefits your akhirah, but Allah (swt) is the one who elevates the makam (station) of individuals and decides who is the best. It is a negative feedback cycle. "I have this over her. But darn! so and so has this over me… !" and on and on. It gets tiring. And pretty soon death will be knocking at your door, and all you achieved was filling your heart with discontentment. Be smart! Just live in the true worship of Allah (swt) focusing on tawheed, teaching Tawheed, and looking out for your deeds- what is between you and Allah (swt). From this we look at what Al Fudayl bin Iyad once said, "You will not fully control your heart, until and unless you become disinterested concerning whoever eats up this life!" Shamit bin Ajlan said "There are two types of people who are tormented in this life. A man who was given wealth and is busy with it, and a man who was deprived of this life's riches, so he follows its riches with his heart, and his inner self is nearing demise out of sorrow for his being deprived." [color=Green][size=3]There's Not Enough Room in the Heart[/size][/color] It is senseless to inhale and exhale day in a day out while your heart is filled with comparisons between you and other women. If you perform acts of worship while your heart is filled with feelings of resentment, envy and hatred, you are only performing outward superficial acts. The actions have no significant effect in purifying your soul. Rasulullah (saw) was quoted to have said: "Faith and envy do not go together in the heart of the believer." You would be amazed to find what a relief it is to just accept that someone, if not everyone, will always be better than you in the truest sense. Al Fudayl bin Iyad said, "In this life, the believer feels sadness and grief, directing his attention taking enough provision (for the after life). He who feels like, in this life, then his efforts will be directed at collecting what benefits him when he returns home; he does not compete with the residents of the area where he lives (referring to those who are content in this life), among whom he is a stranger. He lives in the midst of their might, but it does not grieve him that he is not mighty among them." (jami'ul ulum wal hikam) By "not grieving that you are not mighty among them", you will find that you can now begin to focus on your heart, your deeds, and your family's Islamic education without having to run after someone else's standards but Allah's. The pleasures of this fleeting life, no matter how wonderful they may be, are nothing compared to what Allah (swt) has in store for his believing slaves who are happy and humble with what Allah (swt) has given them. Allah (swt) says, [i][center]"Say: "Shall I inform you of things far better than those? For Al-Muttaqun (the pious - see V.2:2) there are Gardens (Paradise) with their Lord, underneath which rivers flow. Therein (is their) eternal (home) and Azwajun Mutahharatun (purified mates or wives) [i.e. they will have no menses, urine, or stool, etc.], And Allah will be pleased with them. And Allah is All-Seer of the (His) slaves."[/center][/i] 3:15 [size=3][color=Green]When Your Car Needs an Emissions Test[/size][/color] A person who shows off is like a car that spews out white smoke from the muffler and everyone around them ends up teary eyed, coughing and pinching their noses from the stench. You think you own a hot rod, but you actually drive a lemon. Everyone knows it but you. This is the essence of showing off. One of your attributes as a Muslim woman is understanding and acting upon the teachings of Islam in a state of humility. You neither have a superiority complex, nor an ounce of self-admiration. You neither broadcast nor tell people indirectly what you have been blessed with because any trace of desire to show off cancels out the good deeds. Allah (swt) says, [i]"And turn not your face away from men with pride, nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah likes not each arrogant boaster."[/i] 31:18 A Companion (radiAllaahu 'anh) said "I heard the Messenger of Allah say: "Shall I not tell you about the people of hell? Everyone who is harsh, proud, disdainful and arrogant." (Bukhari & Muslim) Allah (swt) says, [i]"O you who believe! Do not render in vain your Sadaqah (charity) by reminders of your generosity or by injury, like him who spends his wealth to be seen of men, and he does not believe in Allah, nor in the Last Day. His likeness is the likeness of a smooth rock on which is a little dust; on it falls heavy rain which leaves it bare. They are not able to do anything with what they have earned. And Allah does not guide the disbelieving people."[/i] 2:264 Allah (swt) says, [i]"Verily, the hypocrites seek to deceive Allah, but it is He Who deceives them. And when they stand up for As-Salat (the prayer), they stand with laziness and to be seen of men, and they do not remember Allah but little."[/i] 4:142 The Prophet (saw) said "Whoever makes a show of his good deeds so that people will respect him. Allah will show what is truly in his heart." (Bukhari & Muslim) [size=3][color=Green]Let Others Have the Spotlight[/size][/color] Sometimes when you are in the midst of a gathering, you hear a faint voice inside you saying "Look at me! I am special and my achievements are much better than everyone else's." This is from the shaytan. You may not be aware of it but when you listen to this voice you immediately want to turn the conversations back towards you, to the topic of "me". When you do this, you not only make people feel uneasy but you fall into the sin of showing off as described above. The Prophet (saw) said, "No one is humble for the sake of Allah but Allah will raise him in status." (Muslim) "Allah told me that you should be so humble towards one another that no one should boast to anyone else and no one should oppress anyone." (Muslim) The next time someone tells a story, instead of saying "You know what? I did the same thing.." or "Yeah, my husband (or child) does this too…" , let them have the spotlight and tell them "That's great! Please go on." You will find that the people around you will feel less competitive and will be at ease around you because you care, bringing about bonding between sisters in Islam. [size=3][color=Green]My Husband Will Never Look for Wife[/size][/color] Allah (azza wajal) said to the angels, [i]"Inform Me of the names of these things if you are truthful." The angels replied, "How perfect and free from imperfections you are! We have no knowledge except that which You have taught us. Indeed, You are the All-Knowing and the All Wise."[/i] 2:32 Here you see the humility of the angels before Allah (swt) acknowledging that they only know what Allah (swt) has told them. They do not claim to know what Allah has not given them knowledge of. Has Allah (swt) given us knowledge of the future? No. So, who are we to claim that we know our husbands could never think of taking on a co-wife? This knowledge is truly only with Allah (swt). Allah (swt) is the One who knows best. Only Allah (swt) knows who is to be born this second or die this second. Allah's knowledge is infinite and the moment we claim to know what Allah (swt) knows, then we are on the brink of following the footsteps of the Pharaoh who claimed to be an ilah (god), to know what Allah (swt) has knowledge of. The moment you think you are safe from your own words by attributing to yourself knowledge or predictions that only Allah (swt) knows, it follows that you will also be tested by your very own baseless claims. It was reported by al Fasai in Al Ma'rifah wat-tareekh that Al Qaasim ibn Muhammad said "By Allah, that a man should live in ignorance after having known the right of Allah upon him is better than that he should say something which he does not know." [size=3][color=Green]Setting Yourself Up for What is Best[/size][/color] For you as a woman it is extremely difficult to accept that your husband is actually capable of loving another woman, if not loving her more than you. The thought of him giving her the same attention, if not better than what he gives you, the fact that they laugh with each other, or that they share deep thoughts that you thought only belonged to you is certainly more than heartbreaking. Perhaps "heartbreaking" is an understatement. It is difficult for you as a woman to hold your emotions but sometimes it is the very thing that sets you up for the injury. Hera's a scenario to bring home the point. There was a woman who married right out of college to a man whom she thought was the man of her dreams. She had 8 children with him. For every child born, the more hours she put in working because she loved him so much she felt she had to bear the grunt of making ends meet with him. Emotionally driven. She began working from 3 am to 11 am in order to cook lunch for her children. Her husband then went to work at noon until evening. At one point, she decided to work more hours in order to help her husband buy a house. This was her life for 10 long years. By baby number 8, her husband had received a so-called promotion and began leaving for business trips. Despite this, she continued to work from 3 am to 11 am even until in her last days of pregnancy. Weeks after baby number 8 was born, she finds out her husband had married a second wife a year before and also had a new baby. Except in his second marriage, the second wife had been staying home all that time with all the responsibilities and duties of man being fulfilled by the husband while she (the first wife) had to work to make ends meet. What can a woman with 8 little children do? Not much. I mean, who can change the meaning of the word deception? No one. Nowhere does Allah (azza wajal) say that the husband can no longer have more than one wife because the first wife decides to help him out in his responsibilities. Therefore, in this situation, a woman cannot say to her husband "Oh I worked all those years to help you and you take on a second wife? How could you do this?!?" You have to look deeper and see that this woman set herself up for the worst physically and emotionally. Take a look at some reminders. First, an elder once said "Start off on the correct foot. Know your intention in the marriage is to please Allah (swt). Begin with the mahr which is his first responsibility." Meaning, from the very start men and women should know exactly what their duties are within the bounds of Allah's commandments. If the woman humiliates herself (all that that implies) even before she marries the man, who is to say she will be free from humiliating herself throughout the marriage? So long as a woman is married, it is the husband's responsibility before Allah (swt) to maintain her complete well-being and all that that implies. In the event she chooses to share any of his responsibilities, she must be prepared to accept the fact that her decision has no bearing whatsoever on what Allah (swt) has made permissible for her husband in the long run. Second, there are people who recognize Allah (swt) as the Creator, the Owner and the Sustainer of the universe, and yet love others more than Him. You must be aware of not falling into the same error. Allah (swt) says: [i][center]"There are men who take others besides Allah as equal with Him. They love them as much as they should love Allah. But the believers have more love for Allah." (Qur'an 2:165)[/center][/i] This ayah defines the third category of major shirk- the association in loving Allah (swt). Meaning, to love someone or something else more than or as much as one loves Allah (swt). Allah (swt) says: [i]"Do you see the one who is taking as his lord his own desires?"[/i] (Qur'an 25:43) Unfortunately for some women, they would follow their desires even when they lead to waiving their rights as a Muslim wife of being financially and physically maintained by her husband, under the assumption that their husbands would compromise their rights as well. At the end of the day, they look back and feel deceived for compromising and for wrongfully assuming. But in actuality they brought the wound upon themselves. There is a greater danger with desires. If you allow your desires to take over you it will lead you to disobeying Allah (swt). True, the husband is of utmost priority, and part of showing the love for Allah (swt) is love of the husband. But, the love for the husband should never be competing or in the same category as the love of Allah (swt), fear of Allah (swt), and hope in Allah (swt). That's a given. In light of this, it is certain that pain and suffering will occur when you make your husband the first and foremost priority in your heart side by side with Allah (azza wajal), when you disregard the fact that you should have neither associated in loving Allah (swt), nor put your love of someone else above the love of Allah's commandments. Therefore, loving Allah (swt) more than anything is a precondition for setting yourself up for what is best. The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: "There are three qualities whosoever has them will taste the sweetness of Iman: loving Allah and His Messenger above all else, loving someone solely for the sake of Allah, and hating to return to disbelief after Allah has rescued him from it, as much as he would hate being thrown into Hellfire." (Related by Al-Bukhari). Making Allah (swt) the focus of your married life, withholding your emotions and desires, guiding these towards the true worship of Allah (swt), will keep your married life from drowning in imagination, and instead keep it swimming in reality. (all names are fictional in "Chronicles of Al Fulanah") |
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| nouha |
| 05/21/03 at 19:34:56 |
| [slm] i really liked this... lots to learn about being pious and husbands asking their first wives about taking a second :P wasalam nouha:) |
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| Yasmeena |
| 05/22/03 at 18:15:07 |
| [slm] Thank you for this post. It was informative and interesting. It definately teaches a good moral - Don't get too proud of yourself or your situation/station in life. Yasmeena [wlm] |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 05/22/03 at 22:42:33 |
| [slm] Subhan'Allah! That is awesome! Jazak Allahu Kair Sister for posting it. I think men as well as woman should read this many timz as it has many lessons. Alhumdulilah. I think it takes true faith to be able to keep these kind of secrets. By keeping these secrets is what makes the ummah strong. May Allah (swt) help us all to be humble and fear Allah (swt) before talking about anyone or anything. ~~~~~~ [quote]Unfortunately for some women, they would follow their desires even when they lead to waiving their rights as a Muslim wife of being financially and physically maintained by her husband, under the assumption that their husbands would compromise their rights as well. At the end of the day, they look back and feel deceived for compromising and for wrongfully assuming. But in actuality they brought the wound upon themselves. There is a greater danger with desires. If you allow your desires to take over you it will lead you to disobeying Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala). True, the husband is of utmost priority, and part of showing the love for Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala) is love of the husband. But, the love for the husband should never be competing or in the same category as the love of Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala), fear of Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala), and hope in Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala). That's a given. In light of this, it is certain that pain and suffering will occur when you make your husband the first and foremost priority in your heart side by side with Allah (azza wajal), when you disregard the fact that you should have neither associated in loving Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala), nor put your love of someone else above the love of Allah's commandments. Therefore, loving Allah (SubHana Wa Ta`ala) more than anything is a precondition for setting yourself up for what is best. [/quote] so true... |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/24/03 at 11:38:24 |
| Salaam, “Many times women fall into the trap of tirelessly competing for the most asinine things.” I wonder – is it the same thing if someone tirelessly works towards something that they feel they can do well in order to please Allah? Sort of like trying to develop your talents to serve Him better… Moreover, is it wrong to [i]want[/i] to do that? (doesn’t everyone have [i]something[/i] they can do better than anyone else?) Maybe not I suppose. I don’t. WS |
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| Al-Basha |
| 05/24/03 at 15:14:30 |
| [slm] Superb article, masha Allah la qowita ila bilah. Captures the essence of arrogance in people these days, and the idea that deep down people are afraid of change. That hoity toity woman was so sure her husband wouldn't even think of marrying someone else. She indeed has a problem with the concept of change, which in turn means she could have a problem with that laws that Allah has placed in the universe. Entropy Yeah entropy, that's the 3rd (or was it the 2nd) law of thermodynamics. I've come to understand that we as Muslims must accept change because this is something from Allah. No one but Allah truly controls anything. wa Allahu A3laam |
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