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| Q 4 sisters |
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| Anonymous |
| 05/22/03 at 01:14:53 |
| Salams..Q 4 sisters... Q1)Would you accept second or up to 4 wives for your husband if he wants mary? Q2) (4 sisters not married or divorced )Would you mary a muslim brother as 2th wives? |
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| Yasmeena |
| 05/22/03 at 01:31:59 |
| [slm] Q1 - I really don't know if I could accept a 2nd wife for my husband. I don't think I have the temperment to share my husband. Probably because I am so new to Islam. It would have to depend on a LOT of things. Do she and I have anything in common, what is her background, etc. I was raised that marriage is monogamous and that is pretty deeply ingrained. About the only way for me to be able to accept a 2nd wife for my husband would be for Allah ta 'ala to do a major reversal in my feelings. Q2 does not apply to me. [wlm] Yasmeena |
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| wardah |
| 05/22/03 at 06:30:52 |
[wlm] [quote]Would you accept second or up to 4 wives for your husband if he wants mary? [/quote] I think it would be really hard to accept that but the thing is that in islam polygamy is the husbands right providing that he treats them all equally. Theres always wisdom behind the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad [saw] even though sometimes we don't see it. I think it would be really hard to accept, having emotions of jealousy, and the like but eventually i probably would be able to accept it [quote] (4 sisters not married or divorced )Would you mary a muslim brother as 2th wives? [/quote] I think we should always look at the wives of the prophets as role models even though it would be difficult because of their extremely stong faith, and like mine compared to theirs is like a pea, but i'm still working on that. They were all married to the prophet [saw] and accepted the marriage straight away. If i were to reach the peak of imaan then i would be able to accept it without a doubt. I'm not saying that without strong faith you can't accept it but it would be much easier to accept it having stong faith in Allaah because then you can easily control your emotions and desires. soo..because i'm still working on my imaan i wouldn't get married as a second wife, over time i would. |
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| Kathy |
| 05/22/03 at 09:10:01 |
| [slm] If he was taking on a second wife to have more children, or a widow or a divorced lady I would have no problems with this. If he was marrying a "chickeepoo" my bunchies would be in an uproar... However, I would counsel him on this because my guess is that his intentions would not be correct, mid life crisis and all, and ask him to "cool" off for a month or two. There are too many who "jump before they look" or is it leap before they look?" |
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| sista |
| 05/23/03 at 04:14:59 |
| [slm] I wondered about this seriously recently - there are very few sisters whom I love enough to call my [i]friends[/i], although there are many I am very fond of. Were I happily married to a pious man (of course I'm thinking of one as near to the calibre of the companions as its possible to get ;D) and were a friend of mine to become widowed, say through a war, left alone, without family (this is not actually far from a real case I know) then would I love her enough to encourage my hubby to marry her, to give her security? Every female dreams of bearing children and seeing them grow strong; Islam has provided an honourable means of doing so, given the problem of surplus for us poor Venusians... I don't know, I figured it was all about seeing the bigger picture...but then, maybe I can say that 'cause I'm not the type who likes to hope too much (bar hope for Allah's mercy in the akhira, imaan boosters and all that) since half a person's dreams'll never be fulfilled. Maybe also 'cause I'm not married yet...though I might be soon inshallah ;) And I [i]sort of[/i] get the whole jealousy thing...sort of ::) [wlm] |
| 05/23/03 at 04:17:31 |
| sista |
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| Barr |
| 05/23/03 at 06:40:18 |
| [slm] warahmatullah :) [quote]given the problem of surplus for us poor Venusians... [/quote] The ratio of men and women are abt the same, generally throughout the world, except for a few areas (mostly due to wars etc) and exept for the aged population. Birthrates usually show, more or less, a balanced gender ratio too. However, I've yet to come across demographics on the ratio of Muslim men and women. I would not be surprised, if the demographics are similar to the international gender ratio. But Allahua'lam, it may just be skewed, due to a surge of new Muslim women, death of Muslim men etc. But I doubt it. If it is, I dont' think the ratio imbalance is extreme. U may want to check the UN website or this one http://www.un.org/Pubs/CyberSchoolBus/infonation/e_infonation.htm Allahua'lam :-) |
| 05/23/03 at 06:49:58 |
| Barr |
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