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| Soul Mate? |
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| wafa |
| 05/24/03 at 07:41:49 |
| [slm] Can someone tell me something about Islamic concept/status/details of soulmate? Is it right to refer here: "He created you from a single nafs, then from that nafs, He created its spouse." -Surah 39:6 |
| 05/24/03 at 07:42:53 |
| wafa |
| Re: Soul Mate? |
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| Barr |
| 05/24/03 at 10:27:07 |
| [wlm] warahmatullah :) Someone asked this in the old board. And below is my response :) Hope it helps, inshaAllah. click here for the old board's discussion >> [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/yabb/YaBB.pl/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa&action=display&num=5228] Is there such a thing as soul mates?[/url] Each of us is unique. We are made up of the jasad (body), ruh (spirit/soul), aql (intellect/mind), nafs (desires) and the qalb (heart). The qalb is the decision maker, that is influenced by our aql and nafs, which is then, manifested by the jasad and ruh. If our qalb is pure, brimming with iman, then, we would see things with the eye of our qalb, we would decide and discern which is haq (truth) and which is baatil (falsehood), and choose the right and guided choice, inshaALlah. But things are not so simple, in a human being… there would be conflicts and interaction between these factors before the heart makes the decision, and for the jasad and ruh to carry it out. As such, these factors that make us, come at different levels for each of us, we have our own thoughts and intelligence, our own behaviour, characteristics and peculiarities and our body shapes and sizes are different too. And so is the level and purity of our ruh would differ. For each of us, is our very own person. When 2 individuals get married, each with their own individuality and differences, and within them, the interaction between these factors… logic tells that things can get a bit chaotic. Yet, amidst all that, when Allah puts love in our hearts, with peace and tranquillity in our homes, that is when we’ll be able to see and feel the sign of Allah. [color=blue]“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity (sakinah) with them, and He has put love (mawaddah) and mercy (rahmah) between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.” Surah Ar-Rum:21 [/color] For marriage is not a union of just 2 bodies, but a union of 2 souls, each, a partner, comforter and supporter to another. When Allah mentioned, He puts mawaddah between us and our spouses, the mufasirun interpreted this to be love, with the element of intimate relations (sex) between a couple. For intimate relations help develop the love between 2 people bonded by marriage… for not only is it an action of 2 bodies, but also, a union of 2 souls… something that is spiritual as well. That is why, it is very important that the du’a is recited, and the adab of having intimate relations with our spouses are followed… the satisfaction and beauty felt between both would strengthen the love between those 2 souls.. such that as time passes, and if the feature of sex ceases to exist, what is left would still be love… but love that encompasses mercy and tenderness ie. rahmah. Mawaddah and Rahmah, of course, can co-exist in a couple… but this love is only given to those bound by the purity of marriage.. for there lies barakah (blessings). The growth of each of our ruhs in this union, drawing closer to each other and to the One that brought us together… would further fortify the love and tranquility between these 2 people. For, when there is a connection and bond of these 2 ruhs, and the joining of 2 hearts... then, it would be difficult for it to be separated easily… adjustments between eah other, challenges conquered together, and a life built together, would fuse these 2 souls… but it is something that needs a lot of hard work for both of them… so that this ni’mah would not be taken away, inshaAllah. Someone once told me… if we pay for peanuts, we’ll only get peanuts… but if we pay for gold… we’ll get gold… inshaAllah. And hence, to your question dear sister.. yes, I think there are soulmates for each of us…..inshaAllah. Sorry for the long answer.. but I just felt the need to share.. coz, I once did not see it that way… the tafsir of that ayat.. is so… subhanallah… I think only those who have gone through it would feel the a portion of the majestic signs of Allah, mashaAllah. While others... perhaps can only read about it... |
| Re: Soul Mate? |
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| Yasmeena |
| 05/24/03 at 11:56:03 |
| [slm] I just read the old discussion that Barr referred to. That one was interesting but a little confusing because of the different questions asked. There were good reasons for the responses of each of the posts to the question. My personal belief, and my beliefs are getting strengthened or refuted everyday with reading Islamic material, is that we do have soulmates. Sometimes we have to do a lot of searching for that "one" person where everything seems to fit perfectly. My hubby and I are what could be called "soul-mates", or have grown to be maybe. We ... fit? Where I am weak, he brings strength and visa versa, we ... complement, I guess is the term, eachother. Is that what the term means? Yasmeena [wlm] |
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| wafa |
| 05/25/03 at 08:21:26 |
| [slm] Barr I am really thankful to your thorough reply,but like Yasmeena, I,m also a bit confused,am I right to get it that according to quran husband and wife are infact soulmates coz they love eachother or say due to Allah,s grace and mercy,they develop better understanding and love between them and so they are soulmates too? I hope I,m right? I read somewhere that Ayah 39:6 is refering to Adam and Hawa infact. I think the base is human phychology that really matters in the case of soulmates.otherwise it would be very hard to get tranquility and sakeena for every single married person due to waswasa of Shytaan alrajeem? |
| 05/25/03 at 09:06:14 |
| wafa |
| Re: Soul Mate? |
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| Barr |
| 05/25/03 at 10:27:40 |
| [wlm] warahmatullah :) [quote]Where I am weak, he brings strength and visa versa, we ... complement, I guess is the term, eachother. Is that what the term means? [/quote] I think by the virtue of marriage, Allah has made us garments for one another (see surah Al-Baqarah 2: 187). That is to complement each other physically, emotionally and spiritually. [quote]according to quran husband and wife are infact soulmates coz they love eachother or say due to Allah,s grace and mercy,they develop better understanding and love between them and so they are soulmates too? I hope I,m right? [/quote] From my understanding, one journeys and grows to be the soulmates of each other, instead of an instant recognition, much romanticised by the media and prevailing culture. Of course, who our soulmates are, are one of those things already written down by Allah. Howoever, who they are, and how we would be able to recognise them, is via marriage, and a whole long process that we experience via marriage. If we are to look @ the process of how we decide a person to be our spouse, solatul istikharah is highly recommended. That is, we sought Allah's guidance. This process, in itself, is where an interaction of the ruh occurs. ie, between our ruh, his/her ruh and Allah. That is why, making du'a for other people, can increase the ukhuwah and love between us, because, there is an interaction of the ruh. Also, when we do solah together in jamaah, again, there would be an interaction of the ruh. Since, our final destination is in the hereafter, our marriage too, is not only for this world. Its for the hereafter. This long journey of discovering, development and bonding of 2 people, shaped in this world, would influence, the final outcome in the hereafter... whether our souls would be together in eternal bliss, or not. And whether, we are truly soulmates. [quote]I think the base is human phychology that really matters in the case of soulmates.otherwise it would be very hard to get tranquility and sakeena for every single married person due to waswasa of Shytaan alrajeem? [/quote] Not just human psychology, but intervention by Allah as well. That is why, we have to work hard and put in a lot of effort in our marriage. For Allah would not change the state of a person, till he changes himself. Just like other types of rizq, a blissfull marriage is rizq too, that ALlah has apportioned for us. Our responsibility is to put effort to find that rizq. And when we ponder on the dynamics and factors that make an insaan (human), then, forming a home that is full of sakinah, mawaddah and rahmah, is truly, a sign of Allah. For the challenges are great, and it is only by the mercy of Allah, that he puts love in our hearts. [color=blue][i]whose hearts He has brought together: [for] if you have expanded all that is on earth, you could not have brought their hearts together [by yourself]: but Allah did bring them together. Verily He is almighty, wise. Surah Al Anfal 8:63 .[/color][/i] Allahua'lam :-) |
| 05/25/03 at 10:32:03 |
| Barr |
| Re: Soul Mate? |
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| AbdulJalil |
| 05/25/03 at 15:42:20 |
| Assalamu Alaikum Some websites http://www.angelfire.com/al/islamicpsychology/introduction/spirits.html http://www.angelfire.com/al/islamicpsychology/introduction.html |
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