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The List: Revolutions
Al-Basha
05/28/03 at 18:03:14
[slm] Well this is a different type of list, brothers and sisters. See me and a very close bro friend of mine were chillin downtown once and decided to play a game ... I suggested to him that we each come up with the most romantic outings for our future wives (insha Allah). Suffice to say the ideas started off very simply with ... A walk on the beach  8) and then a walk on the beach at night   :P By the end of outing we had concoted very elaborate ideas So ... Before I share our ideas I want to see what the clever brothers of this forum will come up with. Sisters feel free to comment on the ideas, but so as not to ruin the contest (most brothers aren't very original i take it) please don't give any of the brothers any ideas until we get at least 20 or 30 posts. Oh and ideas like "taking my wife to Walmart for the day" do not count. Let's see what kind of a clever list we can come up with insha Allah  :-[
05/28/03 at 19:22:21
Al-Basha

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ltcorpest2
05/28/03 at 18:38:40
do day trips to home depot count as an outing?

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Al-Basha
05/28/03 at 19:23:18
No  ??? Come on bro , try and be a little more creative here ... [quote author=mike aka ltcorpest2 link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=0#1 date=05/28/03 at 18:38:40]do day trips to home depot count as an outing?[/quote]

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ltcorpest2
05/28/03 at 20:03:07
If you are a good planner you can fly somewhere.  We are about a 1.3 hrs from frisco in los angeles.  You can get a pretty cheap airfare maybe around $70 bucks or so and take a date to fishermans warf  So you can get away with a date for around $200.00 or so, probably way out of the range of college students, but it is very impressive when a girl gets on a plane for a date.     But after you are married 10 to 15 years and a couple of little ones,  Home Depot is not all that bad. It is not the most romantic, but I have taken a girl on a 1 day rafting trip,   very very fun.  Of course if she wears a hijab it would be a very tough day.

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jannah
05/29/03 at 01:42:25
This is an aside.. I'm not helping!!! :p [slm] [quote] Home Depot is not all that bad. [/quote] That's pathetic bro... Come on peeps.. wouldn't it be nice if Muslim couples had great relationships and the husbands did nice things for their wives??  <--- Revolution Indeed A list of nice gifts/things to do should be helpful for guys who are usually clueless... so i applaud this humanitarian effort to educate half of our civilization ;) ps if only brothers could learn... then they'd have sisters lined up to marry them :) pss albasha i think u should be the john grey of muslims and write that men are from marwa, women are from safa book :)
05/29/03 at 02:04:27
jannah

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Al-Basha
05/29/03 at 01:42:50
Whaaaaaaat, man home depot is not my idea of an outing, you have got to be kidding me. Drop the kids off over some place, or take them along too, figure it out thats all part of the idea. Fishermans wharf is "okay", but like where would you go eat? Gimme some details here bro. [quote author=mike aka ltcorpest2 link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=0#3 date=05/28/03 at 20:03:07]   But after you are married 10 to 15 years and a couple of little ones,  Home Depot is not all that bad. It is not the most romantic, but I have taken a girl on a 1 day rafting trip,   very very fun.  Of course if she wears a hijab it would be a very tough day. [/quote]

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Al-Basha
05/29/03 at 02:07:55
[slm] Brothers, this is real sad. I am SO disappointed in all y'all brothers out there, what's with you guys?  ::) Seems like I need to jumpstart your minds a little, Here's a "classic" one: You tell your wife that both of you are invited to your friends place or in-laws or parents or whatever, but you say that you should dress nicely coz some important ppl are gonna be there heh well reaaaaaally you're not invited anywhere nope you've made reservations for 2 at her most favorite restaurant  and specially request a nice quiet corner and a candlelit dinner  ;) Also to really add 'panache' (style) to that, have a whole bouquet of roses brought to the table while you excuse yourself to go answer a phone call or whatever. Ok so that was something real basic guys, come on work me with me here. I was thinking that this post was gonna be filled by brothers by the end of the day, I guess not ...

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Tesseract
05/29/03 at 03:34:27
Assalamu 'alaikum,           [quote]nope you've made reservations for 2 at her most favorite restaurant  and specially request a nice quiet corner and a candlelit dinner   Also to really add 'panache' (style) to that, have a whole bouquet of roses brought to the table while you excuse yourself to go answer a phone call or whatever. [/quote]               I guess I can never ever in my life understand the relation between romance and candlelit dinner in a nice quiet corner in a restaurant. U go to the restaurant to eat, not to have romance. I can't have romance in public. It simply distracts.              Now, romantic for me would be something like its only me and my wife sitting near a quiet lake, with long pine trees surrounding the lake somewhere high up in the partially snow-covered mountains, and the beauty and smell of blooming flowers of different colours around would add to the scene................................u know what I mean, right? Nature, have romance in a natural place, man, not a restaurant :). Wassalam.

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Nabila
05/29/03 at 04:53:53
[slm] After reading the replies, I have a sudden desire to remain single for the rest of my life. :D ma asalaamah and take care

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Maliha
05/29/03 at 08:37:43
[slm] Awwwwwww poor Bro Al Basha... When I saw this thread I thought..man! If we couldn't get [url=http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=archives;action=display;num=1047052763] Of Dreams and Romance[/url] to go anywhere and that was in the creative, imaginative, enriching folder *The Akhawat Cafe*...what hope do you have here??? I know a couple brother's versions of "revolutions": b)bhaloo: "errr...do you wanna go for driving lessons" :P c) Nomi: "NO PDA!!!!" :o :o :o d)Nightingale: "An evening of candlelit poetry session" 8) e)Bulwark of Islam: "I got you some JEEP TIRE SHOES!!!"  :-[ f)Abu Hamza: "errr a quiet night reviewing some hadiths...okay we can hold hands too...maybe???" g)Siddiqui: "can we go hang out with sh. Mukhtar...pleaaaaaseeeee ;D " h) Mike: *looking suspiciously* "can you handle camping?" i) mr_bean: "yes! feel free to load on the make up, better be in shape, and we shall gallantly ride into the sunset on my bicycle" :-* j) Abu Atheek: "would you like a ride on me micro van?"  ;-) k) Lightningatnite: "sooo..what would *you* like to do tonight?" *fingering the newest version of the Essential Rumi :) and the number one revolutionary on this board.... drum roll pleaaaaaaaaaseeee ;D Bro Hanif: "let's go pump some iron!"  "how much can you lift?" "I have a surprise hon.....cross country running!!!!"  :-[ you know that was tooo easy :P couldn't resist ;D forgive me if i managed to offend anyone..just me attempt at some early mornin' humor  ;) (not that my sense of humor is better at any other time ::) ) Sis, Maliha :-) [wlm]
05/29/03 at 15:29:42
Maliha

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Maliha
05/29/03 at 08:42:52
[slm] disclaimer for above: idea *borrowed* or a slight variation of Barrella's version 1 marital questions 8) [wlm]
05/29/03 at 08:43:43
Maliha

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Al-Basha
05/29/03 at 12:35:01
[slm] Umm that's why I said it was the most "basic" of plans bro. Lake sounds good, nice quiet natury type area. Good, yeah that's 'something' but it's only on the tip of the iceberg. Just wait till you hear what the bro I was with came up with  :P [quote author=Bulwark of Islam link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=0#8 date=05/29/03 at 03:34:27]Assalamu 'alaikum,                         I guess I can never ever in my life understand the relation between romance and candlelit dinner in a nice quiet corner in a restaurant. U go to the restaurant to eat, not to have romance. I can't have romance in public. It simply distracts.              Now, romantic for me would be something like its only me and my wife sitting near a quiet lake, with long pine trees surrounding the lake somewhere high up in the partially snow-covered mountains, and the beauty and smell of blooming flowers of different colours around would add to the scene................................u know what I mean, right? Nature, have romance in a natural place, man, not a restaurant :). Wassalam.[/quote]

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bhaloo
05/30/03 at 01:51:31
[slm] Very funny Maliha.  :P     There's probably a reason why the brothers haven't responded after seeing the welcome Mike received in this thread and Mr. Bean in the Akhwat cafe. :) ) Solution:  Brothers, use the anonymous posting feature to save yourself from any further embarassment.  ;)  hehehehhe   Besides, I thought the sisters weren't supposed to post till there were like 20 or so brother postings.

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siddiqui
05/31/03 at 02:38:38
[slm] Okie Basha " doing all the dishes for the next whole year  ;) " does that sound romantic enough  :-/ [wlm] btw some body whispers in my year the next year will always remain next  :-/

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Al-Basha
05/31/03 at 02:42:23
[slm] See, thats just nice bro, but not terribly romantic at all But umm you should be helping your wife with that stuff anyhow. And the last time I checked, dishwashers do exist in the 21st century ... [quote author=siddiqui link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=0#13 date=05/31/03 at 02:38:38] [slm] Okie Basha " doing all the dishes for the next whole year  ;) " does that sound romantic enough  :-/ [wlm] btw some body whispers in my year the next year will always remain next  :-/[/quote]

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Al-Basha
05/31/03 at 02:57:10
[slm] Ok how about sidetracking the "list" a bit, and coming up with a list of things you could get your wife, or sister or mom or daughter?  :-[ Like for example, last Eid i got my sister this teddy bear (actually it's a tiger) from this store called "Create your own Bear". It's a real nice store, you go in, pick an unstuffed "bear" and then have them stuff it for you. Then they ask you to hug it to make sure its nice a huggable (i have to admit it was kinda embarassing for me to do that in the store hehe) and then they give you some mini hearts to put inside the bear. Afterwards, you can go and get it some clothes and stuff. It's pretty neat and very affordable too for an Eid gift. Anyway keep in mind, that if you put the effort into going and looking for something (no a blender/toaster/kitchen machine does not count) than 9/10 your wife, sister,mother will love it insha Allah.

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jannah
05/31/03 at 02:59:58
Aside: [Albashaaaa pleeeeeease pleaaaaaaaaase write a book and start a traveling lecture workshop series... we could make it required attending for bros b4 marriage;)]

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siddiqui
05/31/03 at 03:00:32
[slm] Tulips Navy Blue cardigan fav music/book some say a diamond is for ever but it ssssssssoooooooooooooooo expensive i would rather settle for turquoise  :-/ [wlm]

Re: The List: Revolutions
siddiqui
05/31/03 at 03:01:39
[slm] <-------------------- how about the Moon (slightly eclipsed here though  :P) :-/ [wlm]
06/06/03 at 12:05:26
siddiqui

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siddiqui
05/31/03 at 03:09:49
[slm] once again boy i cant stop laughing hey Basha how does this sound when we get real old Inshallah Ill buy her a) the latest designer reading glasses frame so that she can enjoy her fav urdu book in style  ;) b) A real cool cashmere (kashmiri) shawl to keep her warm c) A rocker so that she can rock all her troubles away :-/ [wlm]

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Abu_Hamza
05/31/03 at 18:37:00
[slm] Hmm ... nice thread ... I think ;) Two drops from the ocean: A revolutionary outing: Plan a walk with your wife at night under the star-lit sky.  Before going out on the walk, however, hide a gift somewhere on the walkway.  Then take your wife out to the walk, and make her "discover" what awaits her. A revolutionary gift: A wrapped box of her favorite chocoloates ... With a pair of earings inside. Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah.
05/31/03 at 18:37:38
Abu_Hamza

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siddiqui
05/31/03 at 19:11:03
[slm] [quote]A revolutionary gift: A wrapped box of her favorite chocoloates ... With a pair of earings inside. [/quote] Just wondering if it is okie to eat those chocs and  leave the ear rings  ;) bro Hanif or one has to try and squeeze them in with the chocs :( [wlm] :-/

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Al-Basha
05/31/03 at 20:51:24
[slm] Masha Allah la qowita ila bilah 5  [] for this brother, for bodly posting a totally awesome idea. Heheh, I'm gonna add that to my list if you don't mind bro :) other brothers, I'm still waiting for your replies, I know you are out there and you guys know who you are. Sisters, comments on the posts made so far? [quote author=Abu_Hamza link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=15#20 date=05/31/03 at 18:37:00][slm] Hmm ... nice thread ... I think ;) Two drops from the ocean: A revolutionary outing: Plan a walk with your wife at night under the star-lit sky.  Before going out on the walk, however, hide a gift somewhere on the walkway.  Then take your wife out to the walk, and make her "discover" what awaits her. A revolutionary gift: A wrapped box of her favorite chocoloates ... With a pair of earings inside. Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah.[/quote]

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BroHanif
05/31/03 at 21:12:40
Salaams, [quote]But after you are married 10 to 15 years and a couple of little ones,  Home Depot is not all that bad. [/quote] I hear yah brother, I hear yah that is sound, sweet and romantic. One thing to note is you only hear Jannah and her team saying its not romantic because they are NOT married. Once they are I'm sure they will appreciate the time that they have and forget about going for long distance walks in the night under the moonlit stars. I mean people c'mon lets be real you have a couple of kids at home and what are you going to do just go out in the middle of the night in pjamas and sit near a waterfall under the moonlit sky ? Why whos gonna look after the kids ??? C'mon people. Why can't you be romantic as a family ? Why does everything have to circle around the man and wife ? [quote]nope you've made reservations for 2 at her most favorite restaurant  and specially request a nice quiet corner and a candlelit dinner  [/quote] What if she doesen't have a fav restaurant, and if the lights are low then you won't be able to see her. And why go eat out surely its better if the man makes it himself  i.e. home cooking?, Jam sandwiches or Tuna and Pasta anyone ?. [quote]    Now, romantic for me would be something like its only me and my wife sitting near a quiet lake, with long pine trees surrounding the lake somewhere high up in the partially snow-covered mountains, and the beauty and smell of blooming flowers of different colours around would add to the scene................................u know what I mean, right? [/quote] C'omn man where are your KIDS?. Its nice being on Mount Everest but its not the best place for the little ones. [quote]Bro Hanif: "let's go pump some iron!"  "how much can you lift?" "I have a surprise hon.....cross country running[/quote]. C'mon Sis you know thats partially true in wifeys current state *hint hint* Actually, walking is the most romantic action a family can do. It costs nx to nothing i.e. go to a park, can be done during suitable hours of the day, (no we are not vampires who go for walks in the middle of the night), anywhere in the world and above all the kids can be involved as well. [quote]Two drops from the ocean: [/quote] Does this mean we are expecting more from your vast ocean of romantic ideas, I hope so. [quote]Plan a walk with your wife at night under the star-lit sky.  Before going out on the walk, however, hide a gift somewhere on the walkway.  Then take your wife out to the walk, and make her "discover" what awaits her. [/quote] Well I guess bro you carry a torch with you on this walk as if the gift is  dark it won' show its true colours. But once again I ask you dear brother, where are the kids ?. [quote]A wrapped box of her favorite chocoloates ... With a pair of earings inside. [/quote] Hmmm, now if the kids are close by then won't that mean, little one eating the earings by mistake ?. Not quite sure about this one, I'd give her an apple, orange or mango its healthy, sweet and you can also throw in some couplets saying your the sweetist thing in your life, or I'm sweeter than the mango and I'm all for you blah blah blah etc etc. If any bros want some sweet couplets for their ladies let me know(sorry only married ones). Salaams Hanif (Han, just the wifeys man)
NS

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dhikr83
05/31/03 at 23:23:11
[slm] so far- the restaurant thing is cute- but abu hamza's walk - gets 4 stars :-X - even i was awwwing (not bad cowboy) and if u run out of ideas- go watch some chic flix ;) haha jk wsalaamio ~razia

what makes your woman happy
a_Silver_Rose
05/31/03 at 23:53:06
[slm] ok all the few ::) things posted were nice, but here is my idea that would make me go crrzzzzy..... :-* I am posting my idea with the permission of Brother Al BAsha so here goes :) surprises me with tickets to a cruise around the world. Now not just in an ordinary ship ..   where we can enjoy each others company and watch the beautiful scenery. and enjoy the different cultures and the beautiful places around the world.. hehe sis maliha help...but gosh it would be so exciting to do that... Addition: another thing I would love is going to the amusement park (bells, fair, ect) I think it woul dbe really nice to take your wife. ps he could add in a box of chocolates with the carnations if he wants too :P [color=Red]I edited my post because the other ideas were given to me by a sister and I realized nahh that didnt matter, but traveling the world on a ship I would love. And well maybe I could save up money and do that for him if thats what he likes :P Comments: I think the hot air baloon idea by (below this post) would be so nice and exciting mash'Allah and I give a plus to bro Abu Hamzas idea, also bros keep the ideas the girls posted in mind, insh'Allah :P[/color]
06/03/03 at 01:03:21
a_Silver_Rose

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faisalsb
06/01/03 at 02:18:23
[slm] Well the most romantic thing what I remember from my short married life was our honeymoon tour. It was offseason for travelling so the hotels where we stayed were all empty and we were the only guests there. So were the restaurants where ever we visited. It used to be the pin drop silence in big dinning hall and if either of us spoke it would be echoed back. So we felt like all those hotels, restuarants and other places were just to serve both of us. But honestly speaking I realised a bit late that it was romantic when a third person told me so after we were back home ......;)

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jannah
06/01/03 at 02:21:39
[slm] wow i am quite amazed.. abu hamza was the LAST person i'd ever thought would post in this thread... ma'shallah may Allah give you a pious lovely wife inshaAllah who enjoys nice surprises :) bro hanif true when u have kids u can't just leave them by the wayside.. but can't u include them in ur nice surprises, gifts etc?? as for the rest of the ikhwan who have no 'romantic, affectionate' ideas hmph..
06/01/03 at 02:23:17
jannah

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Nabila
06/01/03 at 13:27:57
[slm] You dont have to be glued to kids forever and ever (try telling my parents that! ;D) . And who was that dissing the darkness, saying you wont be able to see her or see the 'true' colors of the park?? Darkness is great  [] Brother Hanif you are beginning to sound suspiciously like an accountant or computer programmer, or some other deviant group  :D I have this weird feeling I've alienated most of the people on this board ;) Brother Hamza, the ladies are well impressed  :) Insha allaah you will get a pious wife who will make you as happy as you make her. ma asalaamah and take care

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sabri
06/01/03 at 18:53:56
[slm]   Ok how about this : Take her up in a hot air balloon (take gifts too). On a full moon night with a clear, starry sky. [wlm]
06/01/03 at 19:20:17
sabri

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ltcorpest2
06/01/03 at 19:35:03
Sabri,  that is a great idea...kinda.  You do hot air balooingi n in the early moring hours.  Hard landings at night.  since it is not an exact science coming down something about power lines and trees that you might be running into when you cant see them.  But i do like the idea though.

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sabri
06/01/03 at 19:38:48
[slm]   Maybe you could have a landing beacon or something. Or maybe a really long rope. [wlm]
06/01/03 at 19:44:26
sabri

Re: The List: Revolutions
onemuslimgirl
06/01/03 at 22:22:12
Al Basha, are you still available? ehhehehe  j/k

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Nomi
06/01/03 at 22:34:29
[slm] all i know i'm late, quite late :P.... had to go for that quick 1.5 day dawah/learning tour, am back now and the anti PDA campaign starts again :) .. heh j/k Bro Hanif: i just couldn't stop laughing after reading that post of yours [quote] I mean people c'mon lets be real you have a couple of kids at home and what are you going to do just go out in the middle of the night in pjamas and sit near a waterfall under the moonlit sky ? Why whos gonna look after the kids ??? C'mon people.   [/quote] you are kewl .. and for the kids ?! hm... how about dropping them at "Mystic's" :P .. and yea i'm anti PDA but does that mean that my wify would be unlucky !!, rest assured peeps i'm not gonna disappoint no one :) btw how much time do married people spend outside their homes ?! and if one loves his/her life partner at home then why would it ever be required to be a PDA, does that prove anything "who'll look after the kids"  :D Asim Zafar :) :) PS: Bro Hanif: with your permission, can i take my wife to that lake ? and oh, dont worry, the kids will join us too coz i aint a PDA ;)
06/01/03 at 22:40:51
Nomi

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Nomi
06/01/03 at 22:56:47
wanted to add something more, a question about mothers, sisters etc was put as well, well because i aint a PDA so i do most of my stuff at home :) .. i sometimes power-lift my mother (and she is heavvvvy :P) ... lifting her up and giving her a ride room-to-room is gr8 fun, specially when she laughs with that hidden fear and asks me to put her down... can think of ways for wify too coz i aint a PDA :) [slm]

Re: The List: Revolutions
Al-Basha
06/02/03 at 01:27:58
[slm] Just wanted to let the sisters know, feel free to post any ideas you have. Seems like a majority of the brothers have let me down *sigh*   So much for a revolutionary list.  ::) Here's another idea I came up with: For your wedding anniversary you have a limo pick your wife up and take her to the airport The two of you are going to Paris (wuhuuuuu) where once you get there you'll be sitting in a boat (for 2) rowing down la seine on a starry night while the violinists play a nice melody at the top of the bridge  ;D

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jannah
06/02/03 at 04:14:47
[wlm] Albasha I like your ideas.. but are they really doable/practical??? How about some smaller everyday type things... ie... i'm thinkin.... (warning: for ppl anti-pda close ur eyes) holding hands making tawaf lounging on the coach on a rainy sunday with him reading some spiritual/love poetry going for a walk around the neighborhood on a warm summer evening surprising her with a trinket (bracelet/ring) after coming home from a business trip bringing home some roses for no reason getting an oil change for her car ;) watching a girly 'chic flic' with her encouraging her in her hobbies telling her she looks beautiful in X color/dress etc ok i'm getting way too sappy here let me stop lol :)

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Nomi
06/02/03 at 06:14:01
[slm] all i am not anti to this stuff [i]Selective stuff[/i] holding hands making tawaf [i]that would be perfect :) [/i] going for a walk around the neighborhood on a warm summer evening surprising her with a trinket (bracelet/ring) after coming home from a business trip bringing home some roses for no reason getting an oil change for her car   encouraging her in her hobbies telling her she looks beautiful in X color/dress etc Bro Hanif, i hope i haven't disappointed you :) [quote] ok i'm getting way too sappy here let me stop lol [/quote] Sis Jannah: welcome to the anti-pda group :) :) Asim Zafar
06/02/03 at 14:52:49
jannah

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nouha
06/02/03 at 10:51:35
[slm] yeay i get to post romantic stuff..... :) 1) theres a beautiful lake here (grafton) where u can go boat riding... and so the couple can go all the way into the lake and enjoy their quite time together for as long as they want...(i think its 8/hour...but its worth it).. as for the kids... put them in another boat and tell them not to follow you...lol..jk 2) in amusement park..go on the ferris wheel and when ur all the way at the top, u can share the few seconds of romance together...if ur for PDA then u can show it all the way through the ride... as for the kids... put them in the other carrier thing.... ;) with these ideas, u can either surprise her/him with a gift... but sometimes just a surprise gesture or words of love can be very romantic :) sigh...lol wasalam nouha:)

serious list
Maliha
06/02/03 at 11:14:27
[slm] Okay now that i dropped kicked ya all to ze ground :) i can come up with some cutey sweety stuff for y'all poor wives  ::) (aside from Al Basha and Abu Hamza of course  :P ) yeah, bro Hanif and all feel free to drop ya kids at moi place :) [size=1] [s]Disclaimer: no lawsuits allowed when the babies turn into lil menaces upon return ;) [/s][/size] Okay so on to more important things: first Jannah your ideas ROCK!  esp. the hobby encouragement thang :) more cheap fun ideas 8) a)For those who have babies, take care of them, and give your wife A WHOLE DAY OFF to herself :) to do what her heart desires. b) Suprise her by cooking a meal or cleaning the house when she's not in and or when she's sleebing... really it does wonders to her heart :) c) give her a nice long Massage :) something to relax her muscles after a long day...in a dark, scented, candle lit room....and recite some beautiful ayahs from the Quran till she falls asleeb. (if you don't have a good voice, or recitation capacity, please turn on a Sh. Al Ghamdi CD...really excellent substitute :) ) d) Learn her little habits and nuances, so you can make subtle concessions for her...trust me, unlike y'all, we notice Everything 8) e) Call her in the middle of the day...just becuz. (my hubby alwayz does this..to the point i expect it..and yet it never fails to cheer me up  :-* ) more revolutionary ideas coming up soon...to a monitor near you :) courtesy of: ze mystique 8) Ps: before we got married..my hubby used to see this guy alwayz going to a gas station twice..once to clean his car, then his wifey's. or to get oil changes etc. he used to think "wow! how romantic!" i can't wait to get married just so i can do this :) (okay he is a practical romantic sorta guy  :-/ ) anywhooo, needless to say i never have to worry about car stuff now ;D [wlm]
06/02/03 at 14:12:06
Maliha

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siddiqui
06/02/03 at 12:00:45
[slm] [quote]getting an oil change for her car   [/quote] Dont Do it yourself !!!  :o you will end up all dirty and grimy and instead of a thank you all you will get is a look of disdain  :P and dont touch my curtains  ;D You might end up having an oil spill creating an envoirnmental hazard and beeing booked by the EPA/DEC  ;) The 8 $ jiffy lube place is worth it believe me [wlm] :-/
06/02/03 at 12:01:33
siddiqui

Re: The List: Revolutions
.sakeena.
06/02/03 at 12:33:27
[slm] ROAD TRIPS. yup. a road trip with no specific destination.... just you and your hubby, a few days to your selves, and nothing but the road ahead, a few thoughts, and the cool breeze brushing through the windows for company. bon voyage! [wlm]

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Al-Basha
06/02/03 at 14:56:44
[slm] [quote author=jannah link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=30#36 date=06/02/03 at 04:14:47][wlm] Albasha I like your ideas.. but are they really doable/practical??? How about some smaller everyday type things... ie... i'm thinkin.... [/quote] yes they are practical if you try and make them work :) Btw, I figure if the PDA isn't there then there's no point in even reading the List  :P Also you guys do know what's ironic about all of this right? Imagine this scenerio Wife 1: "My husband did the most romantic thing the other day" <insert something romantic taken from list> Wife 2: "whaaaaaaaat my husband did the same exact thing, your husband copied MY husband" :P So much for the element of surprise. I wonder if this could be pulled off by putting all the brothers on a rotating schedule, to make sure no two romantic events on the list coincide at the same time. Ok this is getting too complicated now  :D

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Sunnah
06/02/03 at 22:37:20
[slm] Very nice! and Romantic ideas are floating here. from me to help my fellow brothers, how about after finishing the fajar salath (dawn prayer), when outside is nice, calm, and little bit dark, both of you walk together holding hands? ?)  the weather itself is most of the time very romantic early in the morning. then you can come back home and drink tea together at the patio or outside, just relax and get ready for the hectic upcoming day... If you live by the ocean, how about doing the walk together by the shore every morning while the kids are still sleeping? its good exercise and romantic too... taking her to a rose garden and decorating her hair with roses...or from a park picking up wild flowers, decorating her hair (again) and dacing together (slow dance).  is that too romantic?   :P How about dancing in the rain? (my favorite, i do it alone for now...later who knows?) How about: Calling your wife from work everyday and telling her you love her. Everyday pray for her, for her good health... While you're away on a business trip, have a bouquet of flowers delivered to your wife? Forget the other stuff in your life. Today, focus only on your wife Or just simply Have some  [] [] [] [] [] WoW.... i think i got carried away!!!!!!! ma salaama
06/03/03 at 11:46:06
Sunnah

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Abu_Hamza
06/02/03 at 23:14:14
[slm] I want to remind here, myself and others, that the strongest, most powerful, and most everlasting Hubb [love] that one can have for anyone is [i]fillaah[/i] (i.e. for the sake of Allah).   When our hubb for a person is tied with (or preferrably *dependent upon*) Allah's hubb for him/her - because of the nearness of that person to the Rabb - *that* is when we truly feel that we can never love that person enough.  Because our love is not limited to that person alone - someone who is mortal and has a finite goodness in him/her - but it is connected to Him who knows no bounds, who is immortal, and who is the possessor of infinite goodness.  And thus we never cease to satisfy the other person, nor cease to be satisifed ourselves, as we express your hubb for them, because we express it not just to them, but through them to Him who created them and who loves those qualities of theirs which are the cause of our expression of love for that person. Wallahul musta'aan. Where is lightningatnite when you need him! Ma'as salaamah.

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nouha
06/03/03 at 00:30:44
[slm] that was beautiful AH...mashallah everyones ideas seem to be focused around flowers, water, mountains, basically nature... what if u live in the city..... esp large ones... where u hardly even see grass.... other than restaurants and those sort of things.. what else can u do...??? i was thinking maybe laser tag lol :) thats really fun or renting out a movie theater place for only you two and make it seem as if ur goin to the movies for the day..when u get there.. have them play your wedding videotape  :P..or anything else u want wasalam nouha:)

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Abu_Hamza
06/03/03 at 00:41:11
[quote author=nouha link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=45#45 date=06/03/03 at 00:30:44] what if u live in the city..... esp large ones... where u hardly even see grass.... other than restaurants and those sort of things.. what else can u do...???[/quote] sounds like houston  :'(

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Yousef
06/03/03 at 02:21:30
Whats PDA  ?

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Abu_Hamza
06/03/03 at 02:28:23
[slm] PDA = Public Displays of Affection Wassalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah P.S. Some people (coughXmystic&jannahXcough) just dont seem to understand that PDA = Public Displays of Affection, which is different from simply displaying affection!  And thus a person who is anti PDA is not necessarily against displaying affection to his/her spouse ::)

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Yousef
06/03/03 at 03:51:48
[slm] yeah...agree with you 1200% I have a problem with just DA  :( 'Display Affection'  :'( [wlm] ;-)

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Nomi
06/03/03 at 09:48:50
[slm] all [quote] and dacing together (slow dance) ??    is that too romantic??  hehehehe.  How about dancing in the rain? (my favorite, i do it alone for now...later who knows ) [/quote] i better not comment on this........ :( [i]....can some sister plz talk to her in pvt ?! [/i] as Aby_Hamza said in the original "PDA Thread" [quote] How we view things are often influenced by our environment, the society in which we were raised, and things that were ingrained into our psyche when we were very young.  Every child is born in a state of fitrah, but those around the child change his state to an unnatural one. Whenever we, as Muslims, look at any act, we cannot judge how virtuous or non-virtuous it is independent from the example of the Prophet (s.a.w.)  Because his example is influenced by the Divine, whereas our judgment is influenced by our personal biases which are limited in their wisdom and depth of perception. If we remove the Divine from the equation, no standard remains.  Things become blurry, and everyone is left to his/her own opinion.  What may seem modest to one person may not necessarily be considered modest to another.  Many good Christians wear loose, long skirts, with long sleeves, and refrain from dating and going to bars.  But their ankles, necks, chests and hair are often left exposed.  That may be modest to some people, but it would not be modest *enough* for a nun.   And what may be modest for a nun is not modest enough for a believer. If showing affection to one's spouse was indicative of love between two people, then nobody had more love for their wife than the Prophet (s.a.w.) had for Aisha.  Yet, there is not a single report where he held his arm over her shoulder, hugged her, or kissed her in public.  He kissed her at home in love, when Aisha recited a verse of poetry to him.  He played with her on the street, racing her to the house.  He walked with her on the streets of Madina, and even held her hand at one occasion if I'm not mistaken.   But there is no narration which shows him doing more than that with his wife in pubilc, nor is there an incident where he recommended his companions to do so.  Moreover, there is no report whatsoever that shows a companion, or the latter generations behaving this way with their spouse in public.   I would really like to know whether the hadith quoted above is authentic.  Obviously, I'm more interested in the "arm over the shoulder" part than the "holding hands" part.  If it's authentic, and assuming it's referring to a case where the couple is in public, then I would be the first one to practice it with my wife (one day, insha Allah )  If not, then ... a false hadith is a false hadith is a false hadith!   I like to keep it real   P.S.  al-'Ayn (the evil eye) is a very *real* concept. P.P.S. Hayaa was once a thing admired   [/quote] Bro Abu_Hamza: i'll not be myself when i say but.... you rock :) ... err.. did i put it right :P ... well bottom line is that he ROCKS :) :) . . . . On second thought.............. lemme comment....... Dancing.... ah, reminds me of the times of my "jahaleeyah" (need i say more... i guess yes...) so, now i repent for those times coz i was shallow enough to follow "bhaand marasees !" rather than the Prophet of islaam who never ever danced ! Asim Zafar [i]PS: Referred the thesaurus for the marasee equivalent of dancer but it gave all the "happy happy" words, so for those who dont know what a "marasee" is, its just that dancing is considered as bad in islaam as "st*** dancing" in other religions coz as a hadith says "Every religion has got a key value and key value of islaam is[/i] Hayaa
06/03/03 at 12:35:37
Nomi

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Sunnah
06/03/03 at 11:56:17
[quote author=Nomi link=board=bro;num=1054155794;start=45#50 date=06/03/03 at 09:48:50][slm] all i better not comment on this........ :( [i]....can some sister plz talk to her in pvt ?! [/i] Asim Zafar[/quote] [slm] Calm down brother Asim Zafar  :D :D :D :D   Is it wrong dancing (slow dancing with ur husband) with ur husband/wife? i don't know yet...all u need to do is let me know!  ofcourse i don't dance when ppl are there, but alone and especially when it rains! how can u not dance with nature  ???   Rain dance is the best !   8) May be its more of a girly thing to do though... Have some drink  ;-)  []  []  []  [] ma salaama

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Nomi
06/03/03 at 12:51:57
[slm] all, i'm fine sis :) just refer back to my post as i've modified it... erm... i think i better quote it here too [quote] On second thought.............. lemme comment....... Dancing.... ah, reminds me of the times of my "jahaleeyah" (need i say more... i guess yes...) so, now i repent for those times coz i was shallow enough to follow "bhaand marasees !" rather than the Prophet of islaam who never ever danced ! Asim Zafar [i]PS: Referred the thesaurus for the marasee equivalent of dancer but it gave all the "happy happy" words, so for those who dont know what a "marasee" is, its just that dancing is considered as bad in islaam as "st*** dancing" in other religions coz as a hadith says "Every religion has got a key value and key value of islaam is[/i] Hayaa [/quote]

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WhatDFish
06/03/03 at 13:30:07
DAs (im all for it) are fine but not when the P comes in! it makes one lesser of a man and lessens his muru'ah when he shows affection that goes beyond limits in public. one can show all his love for his wife when he is alone with her. hmm htere are lots of things a man can do for his wife, ive not run thru all the posts but what would be really nice is to book a place/ hotel /room whatever, that has access to a private beach when you and ur wife can spend time together alone. after `isha, lying on the sand, holding hands, staring into the sky with the beautiful stars and talking all night. and i dunno if this sounds crazy, how abt bungee jumping with ur spouse for i sure wouldnt dare do it alone! ;) . . . . . nah, unnecessary risk id say
06/03/03 at 13:30:59
WhatDFish

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tq
06/03/03 at 14:08:45
Assalamo elikuim I agree with Madina Wrestler. Once you have kids, things change (home depot is great - It can be fun for the couple who have been married for 5+ years to look at different model of garbage disposal or different models of kitchens,flooring etc :) ) Actually it shows that the guy is interested in home and is involved in everything not just being a provider. There should be two lists pre and post kids :)  I think most of the poster are either not married or dont have kids :) Some ideas 1) walking in park/downtown  day/night it doesnt matter as long both are in good mood :). Walking/hiking is something which whole family can enjoy(we try to do that atleast 4-5 times a week - Alhamdullah now kids have learned to walk without us screaming at them all time :) (dont touch this, dont walk too far from us, dont walk fast, dont walk slow,no I cannot carry you while climbing a hill :) )) 2)going for long drives. 3)calling each other at work/home. 4)Bringing flowers or chocolate once in a while( I am not very big on flowers but when I was newly married whenever we used to go out my husband used to buy me jasmine(motia) bracelets/bangles(my husband is the most nonPDA person in the world :) I have still remebered/cherished it  ) But to buy these you have to be in Pakistan :)    ) Wasalam tq

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se7en
06/03/03 at 14:44:35
as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, check out the PDA discussion here: http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=madrasa;action=display;num=1051203904 wasalaamu alaykum :-)

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BroHanif
06/03/03 at 19:19:41
Salaams 'lounging on the coach on a rainy sunday with him reading some spiritual/love poetry' Done, I've got to read now to both of my precious ladies, wife and daughter.Ever get tired of reading the alphabet and counting numbers book, never. 'going for a walk around the neighborhood on a warm summer evening' I also find going to the park enjoyable and mom and dad watch on ever grateful to Allah. 'surprising her with a trinket (bracelet/ring) after coming home from a business trip' Do this every time, little one loves it 'bringing home some roses for no reason' Flowers usually last two weeks for both of em 'getting an oil change for her car'   She has no car I drive em both whereever they want to go, I'm the  chaufer/mechanic/diy man/clown of the house. 'watching a girly 'chic flic' with her' hmmm, ever watched Shrek a thousand times... 'encouraging her in her hobbies' look after me and being there for little one is her hobby. 'telling her she looks beautiful in X color/dress etc' Always pleases her when I say this to both of em. I also have to buy the clothes as well. a)For those who have babies, take care of them, and give your wife A WHOLE DAY OFF to herself  to do what her heart desires. Saturdays are mine and little ones. b) Suprise her by cooking a meal or cleaning the house when she's not in and or when she's sleebing... really it does wonders to her heart   Do this all the time, wifey can't vaucm in present condition. c) give her a nice long Massage  something to relax her muscles after a long day...in a dark, scented, candle lit room....and recite some beautiful ayahs from the Quran till she falls asleeb. (if you don't have a good voice, or recitation capacity, please turn on a Sh. Al Ghamdi CD...really excellent substitute  ) Carrying both of them on my back and playing horsey is tough as it is. e) Call her in the middle of the day...just becuz. (my hubby alwayz does this..to the point i expect it..and yet it never fails to cheer me up   ) Went one further bought her a mobile so wherever they both go they are always in touch. [quote]Alhamdullah now kids have learned to walk without us screaming at them all time  (dont touch this, dont walk too far from us, dont walk fast, dont walk slow,no I cannot carry you while climbing a hill  [/quote] Wow, all I can say a pattern that carrys on thoughtout the world. As for carying em my word, thats a thread in itself!. [quote]I have a problem with just DA   'Display Affection'  [/quote] Why, become like the prophet of Allah  [saw] and display affection within the guidelines of Islam. Couple of things we do as family, Eat together from the same plate, Drink from the same cup. Laugh, sit and joke together everyday for at least an hour. Apart from work, mosque(dawah) and training we stick together everywhere, PDA is respected and Anti-PDA. Sometimes one needs to adjust for the sake of Allah. For example, if your wife is expecting and she's feeling sicky best thing that you can do is hold her arm and be supportive, it shows that you are loving and caring. The last thing that she would need is for the guy to walk ten steps ahead with the wife trailing. Salaams, Hanif
NS

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ltcorpest2
06/03/03 at 19:51:03
For those who have babies, take care of them, and give your wife A WHOLE DAY OFF to herself  to do what her heart desires.   Saturdays are mine and little ones. Hanif,  i can one up you on that one.  Gave my wife a long weekend, took a friday off and she flew out on a thursday to have a weekend with her girlfriends in phoenix at a fancy hotel.  Had the kids from thursday night to sunday afternoon and we had a great time, although we did one night at mcdonalds play place for 3 1/2 hrs.

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ltcorpest2
06/03/03 at 19:52:33
oh yeah, one more thing,  No dishes were left in the sink and washed the bed sheets and cleaned the bathroom when she was gone.

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Nomi
06/03/03 at 20:02:36
[slm] all [quote] Carrying both of them on my back and playing horsey is tough as it is. [/quote] hey thats me after.... erm..... lets say 7-8 years :) [quote] Couple of things we do as family, Eat together from the same plate, Drink from the same cup. Laugh, sit and joke together everyday for at least an hour. [/quote] Let me add first three in my TO DO list and about the fourth one.... dont u worry about that, me is good at that :) [quote] PDA is respected and Anti-PDA [/quote] yea we demand answers :P Asim Zafar

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Tesseract
06/04/03 at 13:54:36
Assalamu 'alaikum,         [quote]C'omn man where are your KIDS?. Its nice being on Mount Everest but its not the best place for the little ones. [/quote]              Yeah, that's a good question, where are my kids? Well, it takes time for kids to come, right? Maybe I'll have atleast 5-6 months after marriage to have that romance. But even when they are here, I think u can drop them once in a while at ur brothers'/cousin's/friend's and go out for an hour or 2.         [quote]ROAD TRIPS. yup. a road trip with no specific destination.... just you and your hubby, a few days to your selves, and nothing but the road ahead, a few thoughts, and the cool breeze brushing through the windows for company. bon voyage! [/quote]                Cool idea! I like this one:). But for some reason, most of the sisters don't like long drives, or they'll just fall asleep. I don't know why though? ::)          [quote]everyones ideas seem to be focused around flowers, water, mountains, basically nature...   what if u live in the city..... esp large ones... where u hardly even see grass.... other than restaurants and those sort of things.. what else can u do...[/quote]             That's what for u have weekends and Long drives  :P. Wassalam.

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Anonymous
06/04/03 at 14:56:50
Greetings, Here's what I would do.  I would take my habibty away to a tropical island. Once we arrive there at the hotel suite, I would give her a massage to relax.  Then from the fridge I would pull out some specially prepared dishes: fine imported belgian chocolates, fresh cut strawberries, non-alcoholic apple cider, and then proceed to feed her.  After that delicious appetizer, I'll turn on the inroom jacuzzi and allow her to relax in it for half an hour. Then after we change into something comfortable, we'll go for some snorkeling. After we're done, we'll walk along the beach near sunset time and watch the sun set.  We'll then head back to the hotel suite. The Desert Prince

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Nomi
06/04/03 at 16:39:30
[center][size=3]Time for me to get out of here... This thread is all yours[/size][/center] God !!!
06/04/03 at 16:41:37
Nomi

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Kathy
06/04/03 at 16:58:57
[slm] Did a guy really write this? If so- be brave and step out from behind the curtain....Mamma wants to get a good look at you! [quote]Greetings, Here's what I would do.  I would take my habibty away to a tropical island. Once we arrive there at the hotel suite, I would give her a massage to relax.  Then from the fridge I would pull out some specially prepared dishes: fine imported belgian chocolates, fresh cut strawberries, non-alcoholic apple cider, and then proceed to feed her.  After that delicious appetizer,  I'll turn on the inroom jacuzzi and allow her to relax in it for half an hour. Then after we change into something comfortable, we'll go for some snorkeling. After we're done, we'll walk along the beach near sunset time and watch the sun  set.  We'll then head back to the hotel suite. The Desert Prince [/quote]

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Tesseract
06/04/03 at 17:19:30
Salaam,         [quote]Greetings, Here's what I would do.  I would take my habibty away to a tropical island. Once we arrive there at the hotel suite, I would give her a massage to relax.  Then from the fridge I would pull out some specially prepared dishes: fine imported belgian chocolates, fresh cut strawberries, non-alcoholic apple cider, and then proceed to feed her.  After that delicious appetizer, I'll turn on the inroom jacuzzi and allow her to relax in it for half an hour. Then after we change into something comfortable, we'll go for some snorkeling. After we're done, we'll walk along the beach near sunset time and watch the sun set.  We'll then head back to the hotel suite. The Desert Prince [/quote]             Now, I think this is possible, but u sisters know what do u need to have for this to come true? There is a thing called "magic lamp", u rub it, a Jeenie comes out and says "What can I do for u today, my lady?" and then u can dream.................................................. :-/ :-/ :-/I can bet this is not a guy :D. Even if he is, bro. come out at ur own risk. :D            And look at Nomi, he's disappointed :P

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a_Silver_Rose
06/05/03 at 01:22:30
[slm] I agree with Brother Nomi. you people are scaring me and making me want to close my eyes. :-[ Mash'Allah very nice Uncle Hanif but im not sure about the horsie ride. My husband shouldnt carry me. im not a child :o :-[ Here are some outings that I think will be fun :) And some where the kids will enjoy, insh'Allah - take me to amusement parks/bells/fair, ect -horseback riding :) -ice-skating -mountain climbing (and everything you else you can do in big cities, donno cause i live in small city) -Egypt -the beach in Pakistan -skiing (cause i never been) I also thought bunjee jumping hmm but then I also thought the unecesary risk... I think it would be just nice to play games in the rain... ps I edited my first post, chek it out pss Brother Nomi earlier we had a short/informative discussion on dancing, chek it out here: http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=sis;action=display;num=1052089096 psss sister nouha and sunnah I love your ideas :) lazer tag would be so exciting...
06/05/03 at 01:29:41
a_Silver_Rose

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superFOB
06/05/03 at 03:29:35
[slm] I thought this list was supposed to be about romance, not erotica.  Where is the fitnah police?

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NinthMuharram
06/05/03 at 06:49:21
I told my husband abt this thread.He said.. if you wanna know whether it works or not, ask the wife!

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imaan
06/05/03 at 07:31:07
salaam all, well well well, we've got sum bright ideas running through this post- but one important factor to getting the mix just right.....its all psychology. every person is different, some people want overt attention and sum prefer covert attention. The aim is to make ure partner feel comfortable and wanted. with or without the fuss. so give things a try, if it dnt work try something else- life is all about learning. depending on my mood, my perfect day would change, on a busy day, the best surprise for me would be to whisked off to an isolated open space and just to be able to appreciate the vastness of Allahs creation with me soulmate wud b perfect.

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Savaira
06/05/03 at 10:35:54
[slm] Very interesting thread going on. Reminded me that once I had a very romantic mind :( For me romance is ..a single rose, doesn't have to be a whole dozen ..surprise me with any good surprise ..hear the words I love you, before drifting off to sleep at night. ..hold my hand, not even in public if thats too uncomfy but really, the brother was right about the kids. Once you have em, nice queit walks are history, it usually ends up with me constantly running after my son not to run his bike off the sidewalk. Or my 1 year old not wanting to sit in her stroller. If you have kids, park sounds good, and honestly, leaving them off somewhere so my husband and I can enjoy ourselves, usually ends up with wondering if the kids are ok, or if the little one has been put for her nap or not, or if my 4 year old ate anything or not, etc... But its nice to do something together as a family. Honestly, now a days even home depot sounds good :D All you single people out there, just dream away. :) [wlm]

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Nomi
06/05/03 at 11:33:06
[slm] Is escaping a solution ?! yea sometimes it is but NO, not for this one ... so lemme comment [quote] And look at Nomi, he's disappointed :P [/quote] erm.. not exactly disappointed but rather surprised. I tuned myself for reading modest posts on this board but at mIRC i used to be ready for everything and gave the crack-heads a good piece of my mind... i think i'll just have to retune myself !! Another reason i dint comment in my last post was that i thought i may offend him but now that you guys have already started spanking him so lemme just make hay while sun shines [quote] I thought this list was supposed to be about romance, not erotica.  Where is the fitnah police? [/quote] Its good that ppl have realized to put an end to it coz i think it was becomming a "sex education" thread and i realized that its not gonna be good the moment ppl stopped maintaining the level of modesty that should have been maintained. Having said that, i dont think "thats" what urged Mr. Smarty Pants to be shamelessly so open coz a lamer gotta do what a lamer gotta do [quote] pss Brother Nomi earlier we had a short/informative discussion on dancing, chek it out here: [/quote] With all due respect sis silverrose, there is a difference between fatwa and taqwa, i'm not saying that i'm sitting high in that but i think dances will only take me lower, same is true for others (i think) The Noble Qur'an says that the "Best example for you is in the Sunnah"... can anyone quote any incident where Prophet Muhammad [saw] or any of his wives [ra] danced ?! And i went through that thread too but again i think many people only make fool of themselves when they think that "nobody" (non mehram) is watching them when they are dancing and our segregated gathering are not *that* segregated, i hope i'm making sense. But if anyone wanna go by that fatwa (if that a true one, coz i've already seen a discrepancy in that) then i would like to be counted out for 1: I'll first have to confirm it. 2: Already have danced alot !!! its a downer for faith If anyone is interested then just give it a try right now, i mean try dancing but b4 you do that, check the level of your faith and do the same after you are done with dancing. Anybody knows what a "la-ya`nee" is ?! Asim Zafar PS: that discrepancy in that fatwa: [i]If dancing happens between women, then it is allowed unless this involves showing any of woman’s `Awrah – that is between the navel and knee[/i] "between navel and knee" !!.... i dont think so, i think a female's awrah is more than that infront of members of same gender and i think all madahab of Sunnah-wal-jamaah have got a consensus on that
06/05/03 at 11:42:20
Nomi

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Anonymous
06/06/03 at 04:44:26
Greetings, Someone had inquired about a day trip.  This depends on where one lives.  Some places have warm climates while others have cooler temperatures.  Some places are in the busy city, while others are in the quiet country.  One individual suggested a car wash or oil change.  While that is something nice, it is not something that can be shared with another.  I will now describe a typical day trip that one may be able to do regardless of where one lives.  The day would start off with breakfast in bed prepared by the man.  Most men do not realize how easy it is to make a meal, especially breakfast which requires very littler if any cooking.  It may consist of juice, fresh cut fruit, cereal, toast with butter and jam, and coffee.  But the woman will be very greatful for this small task done by her man.   After breakfast, the couple dress into some comfortable clothes, for their journey ahead will require much walking.  They then make their way to the shopping mall.   The purpose of this trip is to find an outfit for a romantic candlelight dinner.  The couple head to a popular clothing store and the woman tries on various dresses, skirts, and/or blouses.  The man must always compliment his wife as to how beautiful she looks in each outfit, and never admit to any fault she may have. i.e. the wife says: Do I look fat in this dress? husband responds: You are as radiant and beautiful as the starts on a cool summer night. if the husband does not like a dress he should respond with: i believe this other dress with these colors will look more beautiful on you. Once the couple has decided on the dress, they should then accessorise.  A matching purse, shoes, earrings, and necklace are all part of the dress and must be chosen carefully.   The husband should joke around with his wife through this whole experience.   During the mid afternoon, the couple should take a break from shopping and stop at a coffee shop and have some coffee and scones.  Here they can discuss the activities of the day and the wonderful bargains they found, and plan for the next few hours of shopping.  Once the shopping is done, the couple should make their way home and get ready for their romantic candlelight dinner.  And now our day trip comes to a close. The Desert Prince [Admin Note: Sorry Prince.. I slightly edited this for the sake of haya' among members of the board]

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Tesseract
06/06/03 at 05:09:10
[quote].   After breakfast, the couple dress into some comfortable clothes, for their   journey ahead will require much walking.  [/quote]            ummm..........Where is the Limousine ::) [quote][Admin Note: Sorry Prince.. I slightly edited this for the sake of haya' among members of the board] [/quote]            Fitnah police at work after a special call from superFOB [I think this guy is being paid by the sisters  :P, must be making good money ::)]

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Al-Basha
06/06/03 at 13:04:08
[slm] Hmm, this 'Desert Prince' personality is very intriguing, very intriguing indeed. Shopping with the wife, well I dunno about that I mean I have shopped with my mom and sis and hmmm, it's a real test of patience thats for sure  ;D Desert Prince how's about you shed off your MASK and let us know who you are? Can you at least PM me?

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Nomi
06/06/03 at 14:45:19
[slm] [quote] Desert Prince how's about you shed off your MASK and let us know who you are? [/quote] His first post started from the word "Greetings", his second post started from the word "Greetings" again. [insert the bulb smiley here] ..... erm... husn-e-zan .... okay i can do that ! [slm] Asim Zafar

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Sunnah
06/07/03 at 23:54:34
[slm] WoW!!!  Soooooooo ssssssssswwwwwwwweeeeeeeeeeetttttttttt!!!! Desert prince, r u married? ;)......j/k....heheheheh ma salaama

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jaihoon
06/08/03 at 07:46:14
[slm] While I wish not to enter the debates here, just wanted to have ur views on something. There is a saying of Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam implying 'mosques are the favorite places of Allah and markets are most hated ones". That said, how can a believin couple walkin hand in hand while shoppping consider it 'romantic'  ???

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Anonymous
06/08/03 at 08:48:53
[slm] One brother asked me to post here, so I said I would, Anonymous post that is.  ;)  How about going for a walk at night in the forest under the stars.  Afterwards for some real fun, go for some cow tipping!!!!  Then make your way to a basketball arena and catch a game of basketball. Wasalaam, Anonymous brother

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Nabila
06/08/03 at 09:13:04
[slm] Well, you could walk around hand inhand in a mosque, but I would have thought you'd be in everyone's way... ;D ma asalaamah and take care

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muahmed
06/08/03 at 11:08:15
[slm] ;-) Am I the only one who sees the utter uselessness of this entire thread? Romance is something very relative. What your wife would like depends on who your wife is. To have a set of things to do with her before you even know her is pretty inane. Also among some men are naturally romantics, and those who are not can't compete with them anyway. Planning this much ahead (if you are unmarried) isn't going to help. You should wait till you get married and know what kind of a person your wife is and act accordingly even if other girls may think thats totally unromantic. What works for your wife is what you should do.

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siddiqui
06/08/03 at 11:33:20
[slm] [quote] You should wait till you get married and know what kind of a person your wife is and act accordingly even if other girls may think thats totally unromantic. What works for your wife is what you should do. [/quote] I hear you and second you furthermore I might add that romance is a feeling given by Allah swt for a couple who love respect and understand each other It is so personal that I wouldnt share it with folks on a message board  :P though some might say thats so unromantic Huh! ;) [wlm] :-/
06/08/03 at 11:37:06
siddiqui

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a_Silver_Rose
06/08/03 at 14:48:51
[slm] I dont think that this post is entirely useless! Alhumdulilah this can help the men who are completely clueless on what to do with their wives and how to make them happy, insh'Allah. Alhumdulilah there are a variety of ideas so insh'Allah the men can try different things. Although I do agree that some stuff is personal and about slowly feeding her ect. paleeeeeeez keep it to yourself. some of us arent or havent been married ya know :P But Alhumdulilah Jannah is always good on keeping it to the modest level. [quote]There is a saying of Holy Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam implying 'mosques are the favorite places of Allah and markets are most hated ones". That said, how can a believin couple walkin hand in hand while shoppping consider it 'romantic' [/quote] hmm I dont think holding hands is necessarily romantic. It is act of love. And doesnt one get rewarded or is considered charity for any act of love one shows toward their spouse? Who says that you cant do a good thing while doing a bad thing? [color=Red](not that it is a good thing to hold hands in public, dont know if it is so up to the couple)[/color] Also I think we have to understand the reason of market places since there are many bad things going on in markets, but if you are going for necessary items then Alhumdulilah another good thing that you are going together!
06/11/03 at 02:18:27
a_Silver_Rose

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Anonymous
06/10/03 at 12:32:02
Salaam Alaykum, I havent gone through all the posts, so there is a high probability that I may repeat some stuff, but something romantic and extremely sweet in everyday life would be breakfast-in-bed, after my hubby knows that I have spent late hours trying to debug this particularly troublesome code, and I tend to oversleep. Never mind that he serves me over-cooked eggs, and burnt toast...its the thought that counts. Earlier in the days when I was in my final semester at undergrad school, I would come back from uni, and would have a lot of assignments to complete before deadlines. I used to go berserk with the amount of workload, and would have to stay up late hours to manage home and school. My hubby would keep me company by staying awake himself, even if it meant getting practically only a hour of sleep before heading off to his office. Occassionally, he would make me a cup of coffee just to keep me from dozing off, or would chip in an 'I know you can do it..', or, 'I am so proud of you.' And that would go millllles to encourage me, and made me feel so cared for. Hubby also MashahAllah has memorised a lot of chapters from the Quran something that I lag behind in. So, in the mornings, during breakfast, he helps me learn 1 or 2 ayaahs with meaning. He makes me recite them, and correct me when I go wrong. It is sweet, becuase he mekes a sincere effort to impart whatever knowledge he has to me, so that I become stronger spiritually. and InshahAllah both of us grow as Muslims.   These are things that occur on a day-to-day basis that really can win over a wife's heart, coz there is a subtle kind of concern in them. ONce in a while, a quiet stroll on the beach, or going to the parks with kids, says much about a husband's love and concern. Wassalam.

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Kathy
06/10/03 at 21:19:39
[slm][quote]Afterwards for some real fun, go for some cow tipping!!!!  [/quote] Bhaloos suggestion? Tomorrow i am going to take Maliha and Barr for some of this fun!

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BrKhalid
06/27/03 at 04:58:43
Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) All credit to Al Basha for trying to get the Bros in touch with their feminine side ;-) As for my two Euros worth of advice, try and put yourself in the shoes of your wife (maybe a bit tough if she wears high heels but I digress…… ;-) ) and try and anticipate what would really make her happy at any point in time. In needn’t be an expensive surprise but could just be a simple gesture or action. The fact that you took time out to think about her and her feelings is what makes her feel special. Remembrance is akin to love. May Allah grant us all the ability to remember Him and our spouses.

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AyeshaZ
06/28/03 at 23:51:14
[slm] ha ha very entertaining posts!!!  :-/ Alhamdullilah, it was sooo amazing.. I went  to a Deen Intensive in chicago last summer and there were many newly married couples that attended.. one in particular  :-X was our favorite!! Alhamdullilah, the sr and br were very cute together and in their breaks would talk and share notes etc.. Not that we were spying or stuff on them.. everyone just knew by the end of the DIP about the couple :).. There was this other one as well.. subhan'Allah **But going to Islamic Camps together!!
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