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| Wedding in July!!! HELP! |
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| Sohail |
| 06/01/03 at 12:56:24 |
| :-) [slm] [], I've been an observer and a member for a while but keep gettin my username kicked off Jannah cuz of changes....but any whoooo.../ I need some major help from all my fellow brethren and err..sisteren.. :) I am getting married this July....the sister is a jannah veteran.... ;D My thing is this....The parents talked and hooked it up all of a sudden....I found about 2 wks ago. Which as you can see does not give too much time for preparations. Since the Wife to be is in Houston....Weddin is gonna be in Houston...... I need help....Do any of you know any things i should make sure i do and not forget....My mom is involved, but i am the 1st outta the kids in my house to get married in the States,,,,My sis recently got married in India....n if anyone knows India...marriages are so much easier and everybody is experienced in them.....However here i wanna take an interest in my marriage and not leave out anything and regret not doing something.... I dunno do u guys have a checklist or referrals or ideas fro decorations, design....i dunno what im really lookin for ...but just some wedding prep advice....what gifts to give...whats expected....Im so excited....yet so overwhlemed at the same time.....Another thing do u guys have recommendations for Houston .......for anything .....stuff like photographers..videographers....all that jazzz.......Some have reservations about cultural stuff....but my parents want somethings to be like how they expect it....so ima bend a lil........anyways.......reallly appreciate your feedback,,,,,,,, Jazakallah... Sohail ;-) + :-) ;D |
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| Caraj |
| 06/01/03 at 14:58:21 |
| Congrats on the up coming wedding. Although I cannot offer any help/advice on the plans as I am not familar with islamic or indian weddings I do offer this advice, don't get to worrying to much Don't sweat the small stuff and enjoy each moment By the way are we allowed to know which jannah veteran it is :-[ hmmmm clues: Houston ??? family in India ??? jannah veteran ??? ::) |
| 06/01/03 at 15:00:31 |
| Caraj |
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| bhaloo |
| 06/01/03 at 16:22:40 |
| [slm] Congratulations, but shouldn't your post be combined with this one? http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=bebzi;action=display;num=1053908585 *cough* *cough*, hehehehe. :P Maybe the families could discuss what they would like and what their expectations are for the wedding? And insha'Allah we are expecting that both of you will continue to be valuable contributors to the board. :) BTW: If you ever have any problems logging in or account problems let me know I'll take care of it. |
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| SisterHania |
| 06/01/03 at 18:05:48 |
| [quote author=bhaloo link=board=madrasa;num=1054482984;start=0#2 date=06/01/03 at 16:22:40][slm] Congratulations, but shouldn't your post be combined with this one? http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=bebzi;action=display;num=1053908585 [/quote] Br. Bhaloo how naughty of you. But well done Columbo, good detective work, now I shall sneak a peak at both profiles because I am so nosey :) |
| 06/01/03 at 18:08:17 |
| SisterHania |
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| Caraj |
| 06/01/03 at 18:21:15 |
| Detective of the year award goes to....... drum roll..... bhaloo ;D I feel so silly now, but I missed that post :o Congrats again |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 06/01/03 at 19:14:41 |
| ok here are a few random thoughts and since i am not muslim these may or may not pertain to how things work out for you: 1 . the honeymoon, the guy is usually in charge of that one. Pick somewhere fun, but also somewhat relaxing. Before the wedding things are very hectic and it is tough to do things that strenuous on a honeymoon (besides there are some things you have to save your strengh for) Hawaii is a good place. Costa rica is great too but you would need to know some spanish. But go to a place that you can relax. 2. weddding gifts. It is the saddest day when you get this whole huge pile of gifts and not one is for you. you will get place settings and picture frames and your wife will ooh and awe with her mother and friends and you will be thinking...what is wrong with the kmart plasticware i have. and guys for future reference when you go to a wedding and you know the guy pretty good buy him a cooler. Any guy can always use another cooler and it will be one gift that will be opened where the guy will have an interest in. 3. just say yes to everything. trust me giving your opinion doesnt count, you are there to reaffirm her decisions on the wedding stuff. and it has to be a yes that actually sound like you are interested. A bored yes dear will be a sign that you are not cooperating. And this will be replayed over and over for several decades. Congrats and good luck. houston in mid summer? isnt it quite cool there in mid july with low humididty? |
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| siddiqui |
| 06/01/03 at 23:14:30 |
| [slm] [quote]as'salaamualaikum i will inshAllah be getting married this summer; on the 18th of july 2003. husband to be is in detroit, michigan (i live in houston, texas), so inshAllah i will be moving up there. your dua's would/are greatly appreciated. [/quote] A co incidence by any chance? ;) [wlm] |
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| Kathy |
| 06/02/03 at 06:15:35 |
| [slm] [quote]just say yes to everything. [/quote] Ha Ha! Good answer! [quote] giving your opinion doesnt count, you are there to reaffirm her decisions on the wedding stuff.[/quote] On the more serious side tho... When I got married the first time, I was a new Muslim, still dealing with the beliefs, pillars and society. I had yet, delve into the world of hadith and fatwas. Looking back, I wish my husband took more of a hands on approach to our wedding. I did and had a lot of things at my wedding that in retrospect... or rather now with more learning, I would not have done or would have done differently. Sometimes it makes me shudder. |
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| Mujahidah |
| 06/02/03 at 13:23:38 |
| AsA Mubarak, May Allah Ta'la bless u with a happy married life and lots of kids, Ameen ;D |
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| Asim |
| 06/02/03 at 13:40:12 |
| Assalaamu alaikum, Congratulations! Take it easy and enjoy the time left as a bachelor, hehehe. Okay, my advice is focus on the basics and leave the rest open. Set up the nikah ceremony and walima only. Prepare list of guests, look for venues, decide on imaams (talk to them asap), arrange food, prepare invitations, buy something decent to wear, buy gifts and other necessities. That is it! The rest will fall in place with time. Keep it simple, if you can (<--- it is kinda hard sometime! always err on the simpler, easier option). The memorable moments of such events are not the fancy food, dress, etc but the human touch and warmth in the event. Wasalaam. P.S. same advice to Sarah as well :) |
| 06/02/03 at 13:45:50 |
| Asim |
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| Sohail |
| 06/02/03 at 21:07:43 |
| Hey Salam All.... Thanks for your general advice...appreciate it....Is there anyone out there with some specific advice on stuff to do for a marriage...PLLLLZZZ...... BTW...who is this Sarah person.... :( ;)..... Thanks again for your kind words,,,,, ;D WS Sohail |
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| Kathy |
| 06/03/03 at 08:11:47 |
| show up.... :D What kind of advice are you looking for? Give us specific questions. |
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| Fozia |
| 06/03/03 at 11:51:13 |
| [slm] Don't know if you do this, but with us the first time a husband meets his wife he gives her a small gift usually a ring we call it moo dekhai. If you do this too don't forget it like my hubby did :'( [quote author=Kathy link=board=madrasa;num=1054482984;start=0#11 date=06/03/03 at 08:11:47]show up.... :D [/quote] Yep excellent advice. Wassalaam |
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| tq |
| 06/03/03 at 13:37:41 |
| Assalamo elikuim Yes that is true most grooms forget about the gift( moo dekhai). My sister-in-laws reminded(forced) my husband to buy. Me and my sister reminded our brother. I think guys dont think about these small things :) . Some ideas for that could be ring pendant bracelet bangles etc Wasalam tq |
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| boy |
| 06/03/03 at 23:22:00 |
| [quote author=Sohail link=board=madrasa;num=1054482984;start=0#10 date=06/02/03 at 21:07:43]Thanks for your general advice...appreciate it....Is there anyone out there with some specific advice on stuff to do for a marriage...PLLLLZZZ...... [/quote] yeah i have lots of advice. |
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