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The Torch has Been Passed
Kathy
06/03/03 at 08:47:37
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Is there a magic cutoff period when offspring become accountable for
their own actions? Is there a wonderful moment when
parents can become detached spectators in the lives of their children
and shrug, "It's their life," and feel nothing?

When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital corridor waiting for
doctors to put a few stitches in my son's head. I asked, "When do you stop worrying?" The nurse said, "When they get out of the accident stage." My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little chair in a classroom and
heard how one of my children talked incessantly,
disrupted the class, and was headed for a career making license plates.
As if to read my mind, a teacher said, "Don't worry,
they all go through this stage and then you can sit back, relax and
enjoy them." My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.

When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime waiting for the phone to
ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A
friend said, "They're trying to find themselves. Don't worry, in a few
years, you can stop worrying. They'll be adults." My
mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.

By the time I was 50, I was sick &tired of being vulnerable. I was
still worrying over my children, but there was a new wrinkle "there was nothing I could do about it. My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing. I continued to anguish over their failures, be tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in their disappointments.

My friends said that when my kids got married I could stop worrying and
lead my own life. I wanted to believe that, but I was haunted by my mother's warm smile and her occasional, "You look pale. Are you all right? Call me the minute you get home. Are you depressed about something?"

Can it be that parents are sentenced to a lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of human frailties and the fears of the unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue that elevates us to the highest form of life?

One of my children became quite irritable recently, saying to me, "Where were you? I've been calling for 3 days, and no one answered. I was worried."

I smiled a warm smile. The torch has been
passed.
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Re: The Torch has Been Passed
UmmWafi
06/03/03 at 11:14:25
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:'( :'( :'( :'( :'(waaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

I am either paranoid or I have a very severe case of mummycitis.  Everyday I feel as if my life is shortened considerably due to incessant worrying.  And my eldest is only 6+ !!!!!!!!

Sigh.......I think the Govt should set aside $10million every year for research and development work on easing mummy's worry  :-*

Wassalam


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