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what qualities do u look for in a wife?
Anonymous
06/08/03 at 08:51:24
so what qualities do yall think are most important? :)
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
a_Silver_Rose
06/09/03 at 18:21:27
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I thought this is fine, because it is from Qur'an and sunnah.

[center]Characteristics of a Pious Wife[/center]

A pious woman's priority is to seek the pleasure of Allah. She tries acquiring the qualities of a good wife by following the examples of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and obeying what is commanded in the Book of Allah. Complete obedience and adherence to the Sunnah of the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) and Quran is the best of a woman's qualities.


Examples:
A woman is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win. [Bukhari & Muslim]


Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in their husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husbands property, etc) [4:34]


An-Nasaii narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) was asked "Who are the best of women?" He replied, "The one who pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or money to what he dislikes."


Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, "If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors."



Reflect on:
If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in Paradise tells her: "Do not harm him, May Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will come to us." [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi]


If a man calls his wife to bed and she refuses till he slept while angry, then the Angels will curse her till the morning. [Muslim]


Allah does not look to the woman who does not appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her. [An-Nasaii].


A woman does not fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadan. [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]


Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii]


The Prophet(Sallallahu alaiyhi wassallam) said, "If I were to order anyone to bow down to other than Allah, I would order the wife to do so for her husband. By the One who owns the soul of Muhammad,if a wife does not fulfill her obligations towards her husband, then she will not have fulfilled her obligations towards Allah." [Ahmad]


source: www.everymuslim.com

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Jannah posted an awesome article on what qualites to look for a wife.

Here it is:

http://www.jannah.org/cgi-bin/madina/YaBB.pl?board=bro;action=display;num=1044611136
06/09/03 at 22:16:14
a_Silver_Rose
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
Abu_Hamza
06/09/03 at 20:05:36
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Haven't we discussed this like 10 billion times already??   ::)
06/09/03 at 20:06:05
Abu_Hamza
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
Yousef
06/09/03 at 21:14:45
Does that prevent us from discussing it again, you might have changed your views.
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
ltcorpest2
06/09/03 at 22:09:40
what views.  It is like the classic question when there is a lull in a male-  female discussion.  And the girl goes What are you thinking?  no matter what the answer is you (and it is most probably about either some game you wanted to watch, or something about cars or something that has nothing to do with her) were thing the wrong thing
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
Abu_Hamza
06/09/03 at 23:52:09
[quote author=mike aka ltcorpest2 link=board=bro;num=1055073084;start=0#4 date=06/09/03 at 22:09:40]what views.  It is like the classic question when there is a lull in a male-  female discussion.  And the girl goes What are you thinking?  no matter what the answer is you (and it is most probably about either some game you wanted to watch, or something about cars or something that has nothing to do with her) were thing the wrong thing[/quote]

Wise words from a married man :)
Re: what qualities do u look for in a wife?
faisalsb
06/10/03 at 01:34:03
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Well said brother Abu Hamza ...:)

What I often think about the issue is if there can be any woman better than Aisha (rau) and better man than Muhammad  [saw] on earth? Still we find she along with some other wives of Holy Prophet [saw] complained to Holy Prophet  [saw] about not fullfilling his obligations. That's the time when Holy Prophet  [saw] remained away for one month from his wives and latter gave them choice to choose between him [saw] and money.

Another incident is when one man went to Umar (rau) when he reached his home he heard voices of him and his wife they were fighting. So the man returned back. When Umar (rau) realised someone is outside he went out and called that guy and asked what he was doing there. The man said I came to you to complain about my wife who often fights with me but when I heard it's same situation with you also then I returned back since you can't solve your problem then how you would solve mine.

I don't want to spread hopelessness but the point what I am trying to make is apart from all those hadiths and verses of Quran still we should keep in our mind that all of us are human beings and we might not have all those qualities what Islam expects us to have, even though we wish to have them in our wives and ourselves.
06/10/03 at 01:36:50
faisalsb


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