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| Aadhil |
| 06/21/03 at 00:56:25 |
| [slm] All Just a thought. What age do you guys consider the minimum age requirement for marriage? I'm sure different cultures have different ages, but the problem now is that the Minimum age requirement is increasing, and to marry earlier than that is like committing a felony. :P So what do all u guys think??? ;-) 8) |
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| siddiqui |
| 06/21/03 at 01:25:32 |
| [slm] [quote]Minimum age requirement is increasing[/quote] Thirty,single and still going strong ;) who wants to be a felon any way :P [wlm] ;-) |
| 06/21/03 at 01:26:20 |
| siddiqui |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 06/21/03 at 01:46:06 |
| WalaikumSalaam Wa Rahmatullah It differs for every person. I dont know if it is actually the culture, because I know even American/white/nonmuslim girls who have gotten married at the age of 15, ect. Anyway my cousin got married at 16 and and my friend got married at 15 and Alhumdulilah both are very happy and have a child now. On the other hand my aunt got married for the first time when she was 50 and Alhumdulilah she is also very happy. |
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| Lil_Sista |
| 06/21/03 at 03:14:27 |
| [slm] :-) according to Rasulullah Muhammad [saw],men can get married at the age of 19'n women at the age of 16 rite? but i think there's no precise age to get married,as long as one is ready'n afraid of doing any haram things like zina,so marriage's recommended :) wallahu'alam bi showab. peace out! Ki Ki |
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| nouha |
| 06/21/03 at 12:33:42 |
| [slm] alhumdulilah Allah(SWT) made islam easy for us ...so there is no required age but there is a recommended age.. the reason why ppl (both muslims and nonmuslims) may be gettin married really late is because women are now very career oriented (not that there is a problem with that) and men feel that they have to have a car/house/phd (my personal opinion)... i think if parents were to step up and realize that its ok that a brother isnt a doctor/engineer/etc..., ppl would get married much younger... because what happens many times is that when two ppl want to get married and parents think they should finish school first and make money...it may cause the couple to do things they shouldnt have done... parents should play a role in supporting the couple until one they can step up and do it on their own inshallah... lol i think i got off topic a bit..but i hope u guys can see how what i said is somehow related.... :) wasalam nouha:) |
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| Yousef |
| 06/21/03 at 15:47:23 |
| Actually there is no age for marriage, if you are ready go for it ;D Aisha consumated her marriage at nine. |
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| tq |
| 06/22/03 at 20:07:31 |
| Assalamo elikuim I think for a man to get married there is a requirement that he should be able to support the wife financially also. Isnt there is a hadith saying that those who cannot financially support should fast ? Wasalam tq |
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| Yousef |
| 06/23/03 at 01:24:13 |
| The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and in guarding one’s chastity. And whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will be a shield for him.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1806; Muslim, 1400). Trust me, it is a Shield !!! |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 06/23/03 at 01:48:48 |
| [slm] In Qur'an it says: Marry those among you who are single, the virtuous ones among your slaves, male or female: Allah will give them means out of His grace: for Allah encompasseth all, and He knoweth all things. Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace.... (Translation of Qur'an 24:32-33) |
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| Nomi |
| 06/23/03 at 13:41:19 |
| [slm] [quote author=siddiqui link=board=bro;num=1056167786;start=0#1 date=06/21/03 at 01:25:32] [slm] Thirty,single and still going strong ;) who wants to be a felon any way :P [wlm] ;-)[/quote] Bro siddiqui this is for you: Get married yaar :) Asim Zafar. |
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| Rameeza |
| 06/23/03 at 13:55:15 |
| [slm] Marriage happens when Allah feels good and ready. I feel that all good things happen in time but society makes it difficult by scheduling such things etc. |
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| Nomi |
| 06/23/03 at 14:27:55 |
| [slm] [quote author=Rameeza link=board=bro;num=1056167786;start=0#10 date=06/23/03 at 13:55:15] [slm] Marriage happens when Allah feels good and ready. I feel that all good things happen in time but society makes it difficult by scheduling such things etc. [/quote] Plus "many" (not all) of us have this idealism stuck in our minds !!!! |
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| Caraj |
| 06/23/03 at 16:16:22 |
| I don't know if I should even tackle this post but what the heck. I think a specific or min ages is not as important as maturity level. I mean I know some men in their mid 20's and 30's and even 40's that can't hold down a job. Immature to the max. Yet (an not saying this cause they are mine) my sons own their own homes and work steady and one has even been on his same job 9 yrs (since he was 16) They both love and appreciate their wives. Yet a friend of mine has a son who has been through more jobs that his age (26) and at times comes home with three kids in tow. ::) My daughter-in-laws at 21 and 22 are much more mature and responsable than I was at that age. I cannot and will not judge and 1000 plus years ago things were done different in time and culture, but i wouldn't want a 9 yr old of mine getting married. I think it is maturity and not age though but if I had to say an age 16 and up for a girl and 20 and up for a boy. Is just my opinion, not meant to offend in any way |
| 06/23/03 at 16:19:41 |
| Caraj |
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| Nomi |
| 06/23/03 at 16:41:43 |
| [slm] [quote] I think it is maturity and not age though but if I had to say an age 16 and up for a girl and 20 and up for a boy. [/quote] But thats quite fine, i heard somewhere that this (around) is the age that salaaf also recommended !! or may be its some hadith, i dont really recall. Asim Zafar. |
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| muahmed |
| 06/23/03 at 16:55:57 |
| [slm] ;-) [quote author=Rameeza link=board=bro;num=1056167786;start=0#10 date=06/23/03 at 13:55:15] [slm] Marriage happens when Allah feels good and ready. [/quote] I would personally avoid such statements! Seems questionable at best for me. Maybe you meant: Marriage happens when Allah feels YOU are good and ready. |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 06/25/03 at 01:19:42 |
| [slm] [quote]Marriage happens when Allah feels YOU are good and ready. [/quote] how about just 'marriage happens when Allah (swt) wills. When it is your time for everything is already written... [quote]Aisha consumated her marriage at nine. [/quote] there is a difference of opinion on this. See: http://www.understanding-islam.com/related/text.asp?type=question&qid=375&sscatid=412 |
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| IMuslim_4Ever |
| 06/25/03 at 23:28:35 |
| [slm] certainly...you are right sis silverose... marriage happens at the same date written by Allah [swt]. there's three thing in Allah [swt]'s hand...birth, death, and marriage... (i think i worte it right...?) [wlm] P.S. in my opinion for girl 18-26 is good...boys 23-27.... just my thought...i think like my parents the guy should be a little bit older, may be like 2-4 years older. mostly cuz they kindda mature late...no offense to my brothers. |
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| Shakira |
| 06/26/03 at 08:32:36 |
| [slm] :) So its all about TAKDEER ....fate ....what age to marry too Allah swt has put out for you....age not in question I think.... ::) By the way Brother Siddiqui I am 27 and not yet married ::)Insha Allah hoping to very soon though :D [slm]Shakira ;) |
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