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| What if your wife? |
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| Caraj |
| 07/03/03 at 15:20:34 |
| I know I asked about honeymoon locations and such before but I was wondering, this is kind of different. What if your wife could read your mind, what type of: 1) Day and/or evening would she plan for you? (Could be at home or out or both) 2) What kind of week-end? 3) What kind of vacation? 4) If there was one thing you'd hope she could do or accomplish for you what would that be? (ie: cooking more, let you have a night out with the guys, no nag so much, be more supportive of your work, goals, rub your feet after a hard days work) I am going to do the same posts for the Sisters. I think it would be cool to see some of the ideas. REMEMBER, this is if you your wife could read your mind and come up with your ideal situations listed above. I think this could help sister know what a hubby might want but maybe doesn't say. :-[ |
| 07/03/03 at 15:21:40 |
| Caraj |
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| faisalsb |
| 07/07/03 at 07:19:00 |
| [slm] I think most important thing is wife must understand her husband well what he likes and what he doesn't like. I think if she can manage to do following things she would have the most satisfied husband: 1) Don't do and ask for the things what her husband doesn't like e.g. Asking for going out although he has just come back from office after tiring day, asking for some gift what she knows her husband can't afford, unnecessary talk when he expects silence etc 2) She must know what he wants and needs at what time e.g. He gets up in morning and leave for office without breakfast because bread is finished and all shops are closed in morning, he finds his shirt without button when he is already late from office, some of his colleagues tell him he is wearing different color socks etc 3) I think giving foot or body massage is romantic when husband has come back after very bussy day I think if wife is able to manage upper mentioned things then she would see it would be reciprocated by husband also (Although there is no guarantee ........;)) |
| 07/07/03 at 07:19:47 |
| faisalsb |
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| Kathy |
| 07/08/03 at 09:47:46 |
| [wlm] Ha Ha... you know you are in trouble when the Momma checks out your profile before she writes a rebuttal... [i]imagine my dismay when I see it wasn't written by a young teenager....[/i] :PEnlighten Me... [quote author=Faisal Siddique link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#1 date=07/07/03 at 07:19:00] Asking for going out although he has just come back from office after tiring day,[/quote] :-X"Please release me let me go..." Wonder if her husband has ever been locked up in a home with three sick kids...." My guess is he would flee, the moment his wife walked in the door. [quote]unnecessary talk when he expects silence[/quote] ;)if he expects silence.. then let her go out! ;) The wording of your sentance sends out so many red flags..... expects silence? enlighten me.... How would you feel if the opposite was written... "the wife expects silence from her husband"... doesn't sit well with you does it? [quote]She must know what he wants and needs at what time[/quote] Most wives are not mind readers.... much less have the ablility to fulfill his needs that she is not aware of... tsk tsk... that word "must" sends up the second red flag. [quote]He gets up in morning and leave for office without breakfast because bread is finished [/quote] :'(Oh boo hoo... You didn't get your breakfast this one time in a year. Hey be kind to her... have an orange instead! A piece of cheese.... Maybe she has a good reason! Consdering that there are enough ahadith about Prophet Muhammad [saw] not eating bread everyday... I think it won't kill you to skip a meal of bread. [quote]he finds his shirt without button when he is already late from office, [/quote] ::)Where oh where is that rolly face laughing on the floor in disbelief smiley? Like it is her fault that you popped a button and did not bring it to her attention until the moment you are walking out the door. No wife checks every button of every shirt... Shoot she is exhausted after sorting, destaining, washing, drying, ironing and putting it away... and now you expect her to check the conditions of the threads holding on your button? Come to think of it there are ahadith of the Prophet [saw] sewing... [quote]some of his colleagues tell him he is wearing different color socks[/quote] Do the husband's eyes not work? When he is getting dressed in the morning he does not see that he has a black and blue pair on? Grab another pair, don't put them on! [i]Momma is really resisting the urge to say...duh. [/i] How can a colleague tell from yards away and you can't from inches away? [quote]I think giving foot or body massage is romantic when husband has come back after very busy day[/quote] ;DTrue... especially when he gives her one first! |
| 07/08/03 at 09:59:55 |
| Kathy |
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| lucid9 |
| 07/08/03 at 10:42:56 |
| [quote author=Faisal Siddique link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#1 date=07/07/03 at 07:19:00] [slm] I think most important thing is wife must understand her husband well what he likes and what he doesn't like. I think if she can manage to do following things she would have the most satisfied husband: 1) Don't do and ask for the things what her husband doesn't like e.g. Asking for going out although he has just come back from office after tiring day, asking for some gift what she knows her husband can't afford, unnecessary talk when he expects silence etc 2) She must know what he wants and needs at what time e.g. He gets up in morning and leave for office without breakfast because bread is finished and all shops are closed in morning, he finds his shirt without button when he is already late from office, some of his colleagues tell him he is wearing different color socks etc 3) I think giving foot or body massage is romantic when husband has come back after very bussy day I think if wife is able to manage upper mentioned things then she would see it would be reciprocated by husband also (Although there is no guarantee ........;))[/quote] Any normal person reading the above will come the to following conclusion: metaphorically speaking, muslim men haven't made it very far up the evolutionary ladder. Muslim men (by and large) = Cave men |
| 07/08/03 at 10:54:14 |
| lucid9 |
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| Yousef |
| 07/08/03 at 10:59:32 |
| [quote]Muslim men (by and large) = Cave men[/quote] Don't blame it on Islaam !! |
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| Maliha |
| 07/08/03 at 11:14:47 |
| [slm] I think all y'all need to chill out..seriously. I mean what's wrong if a hubby wants a back rub from his wifey after he comes home from a looong day at work? what's wrong with a wife sewing his clothes, or cooking his fav meal, or create the type of environment in the home that makes him yearn to come back to her, and help create a beautiful, wonderful, nurturing nest that will rear the most loving of children and most affectionate of souls? That's considered cave like now? So what's the new age competitive, cold, accountant like type environment, the You-rub-mine-and-i-will-yours...no ME FIRST?!! NO ME!!! MEEEEEEEEE!!! and vice versa..the kind that the minute the hubby comes home, him and his wife argue over who had the TOUGHEST day, the kind that if it's not finances they fight over chores, and dishes, and who gets to Put the Kid to sleep..and the child sits in a corner and just wishes they would BOTH leave her alone..and she will be just fine going to bed by herself without hearing their screeching over her head? That's the kind of environment we yearn for? That's what the empty modern wife=hubby type relationship offers...go ahead run along Ms. 21st century woman, see how far ahead of your beautiful and noble identity you can outrun. I am sorry..call me traditional, backward, call me a cave woman (OMG!! Just this morning my bro called me Taliban cave woman :-) hahaha I loved it :P ) it seems the closer you try to imitate what Allah has writ for us, the more and more you "digressing" back into the stone age. well the stone age suits me fine, if it means i will have a tranquil and peaceful house, a loving warm and caring husband, the type of relationship where giving and taking is Never quantified, and love is available in abundance. And at the end of the day, I can rest peacefully knowing that every little deed i performed selflessly for him, and him for i, is written down in the precious scrolls as sadaqa. may it be accepted from all of us (amin). May be we can take a stab at the global "Ummah" issue by rectifying our own homes first. jus' me useless three cents. sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| Nomi |
| 07/08/03 at 11:53:57 |
| [slm] [quote author=Mystic link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#5 date=07/08/03 at 11:14:47] jus' me useless three cents. [/quote] aaa sis, i justed wanted to point out a typo.... jus' me useless three [million] cents. and if you could please delete that "useless" thingie.... lets see what have we got now "jus' me three million cents. "yep.... Perfect :) lucid9 bro you generalize too much ::) Asim Zafar. |
| 07/08/03 at 11:59:25 |
| Nomi |
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| Tesseract |
| 07/08/03 at 18:56:04 |
| Salaam, And the TO BE MATCH MAKER AWARD 2003 goes to sis. Maliha :) Nice post sis. Maliha. I think Momma Mod needs retirement :P [quote]lucid9 bro you generalize too much ::)[/quote] He is............err, I mean, she is, sister in disguise :P j/k But, whatever, I do not completely disagree with both bro. faisal and Momma Mod. Bro. faisal, I guess u are expecting a little too much from ur wife/to be wife. Momma Mod is good at reminding the sunnahs ;) Wassalam. |
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| Caraj |
| 07/08/03 at 19:55:05 |
| WHOA WHOA WHOA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I didn't mean to start a fight :o WOW :P Now folks don't go after mamma mod or my thread might get locked :( I do see two mind sets here. First, I did this thread cause sometimes we would love it if our spouses did something for us but we think they are mind readers and we hope and don't ask. I did this same post in the Cafe' hoping we could all learn from one another and then go test all the advice on our other halves ;) Second, Kathy you are always so cool and so fair (Yet passionate in your words) I like what you said but wonder if hubby ticked you off the night before your reply WOW :o Third and lastly, call me old fashioned but how a man goes out into the world reflects on what kind of wife he has, if he is skinny, starving and has ragged clothes that makes the wife look bad and makes others think she doesn't know how to cook and sew. HOWEVER :-[ I don't put on my husbands socks so if they are miss matched that is his fault. :P But seriously how a man goes out into the world each morning reflects his wife to an extent and visa versa. (ie: If a woman goes out not modestly dressed she shows no respect for her husband as well as herself.) Foot rubs, :D I have to give hubby one first cause if he gives one first it puts me the sleep :-/ As to expects silence, it is marriage and companionship not solitary confinement :P After all there is always the garage (hehe) |
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| Maliha |
| 07/08/03 at 20:46:49 |
| [slm] OMG what have i done? :o :o :o i have unintentionally formed an alliance with my virtual anti pda nemesis, :o and butted heads with my favorite momma mod :o Waah Waahhhhh :'( :'( :'( *sniff* *exits out quietly hoping no one noticed the tragic overflow words can create thru' unchecked mouths and non applied samt rules* |
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| Nomi |
| 07/08/03 at 20:53:40 |
| [slm] [quote author=Mystic link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#9 date=07/08/03 at 20:46:49] OMG what have i done? :o :o :o i have unintentionally formed an alliance with my virtual anti pda nemesis [/quote] Hey! she is the same girl !!! Man! i'm being too forgetful these days :P Asim Zafar. |
| 07/08/03 at 20:57:15 |
| Nomi |
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| Kathy |
| 07/08/03 at 21:27:37 |
| [slm] [quote]I mean what's wrong if a hubby wants a back rub from his wifey after he comes home from a looong day at work? what's wrong with a wife sewing his clothes, or cooking his fav meal, [/quote] Momma doesn't need retirement, but has met enough menor their wives to see a red flag pop up. For those of you new to the board. I am an ex- 60's gal. Now I am a wife. I do all the cooking, all the cleaning, all the sewing and all the backrubs. In fact I have no problem with it. It is my accepted role in our marriage. I am what you would consider the 'Leave it to Beaver' kind of wife. I like it this way and it works in our marriage. No, Mystic, there is nothing wrong with this. The umrage I was taking was with his tone of the letter. He expects silence, He expects her to be home for him, It is her fault if the bread is not ready, it is her fault that the button is not sewn on, it is her fault that he is wearing mismatched socks. :Poh please.... I am getting so tired of everyone blaming the other. The Muslims blame the west for its problems, this husband thinks the marriage will be perfect if [u]his[/u] needs are met. I see nothing in his comments about sharing in the responsibilities of problem solving if something goes wrong.. he just [u]Expects[/u] her to fix it. So if his button pops off... put on another shirt, point it out to his wife..or best yet.. it only takes seconds for a couple loops of thread. Too many momma boys are out there and I wasn't going to let this one slip by unanswered... :-) [quote]how a man goes out into the world reflects on what kind of wife he has, if he is skinny, starving and has ragged clothes that makes the wife look bad and makes others think she doesn't know how to cook and sew. [/quote] Ha Ha! This is true... but we are talking about a man who missed one meal, has one button missing and mismatched socks.... And looks this way because [u]he[/u] did not want to take the time to change his clothes. Anyone who has been married to a man who is not into fashion, or cares much whether his favorite shirt is ironed, knows that his appearance absolutely does not reflect her way of taking care of him. Sometimes I shudder when I watch my hubby walk out the door. Even tho he has 5 ironed shirts in the closet...inevitably he will wear the good ole' tired looking favorite one! [quote]and butted heads with my favorite momma mod [/quote] Mystic, remember when you were at my home for dinner and I forgot to give you a plate of food? :'(Do you really think I am an unsuitable host, or wife? Or was it a synapse collapse moment for me? 8) As I was washing dishes later I saw the plate of food sitting there... and wondered where it came from! :o So if the wife forgets the bread in the morning are you going to autimatically call her a 21st me me me wife? |
| 07/08/03 at 21:39:52 |
| Kathy |
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| Nomi |
| 07/08/03 at 21:35:16 |
| [slm] [quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#11 date=07/08/03 at 21:27:37] Too many momma boys are out there and I wasn't going to let this one slip by unanswered... :-)[/quote] was good and it helped maintaining the balance... |
| 07/08/03 at 21:37:36 |
| Nomi |
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| siddiqui |
| 07/08/03 at 21:39:50 |
| [slm] [quote]Too many momma boys are out there and I wasn't going to let this one slip by unanswered... [/quote] CHILL Momma MOD ! have a [] one me or if you prefer a Frappacino ( like me) thats okie too ;) [wlm] |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 07/08/03 at 21:58:17 |
| [quote]Any normal person reading the above will come the to following conclusion: metaphorically speaking, muslim men haven't made it very far up the evolutionary ladder. Muslim men (by and large) = Cave men [/quote] this is an insult to my to all my brothers in Islam. my dad, cousins, uncles, ect .. They are not cave men but respectable men so please watch what you say. |
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| muahmed |
| 07/08/03 at 22:24:45 |
| [slm] ;-) mashAllah the sisters are standing up for us! The funny part is all the brothers took that with the sort of resignation that makes one doubt if they even found that offensive. :D I won't be too surprised if the "cave men" term appealed to some brothers, who saw too much Flingstones in their childhood. |
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| Kathy |
| 07/08/03 at 22:46:28 |
| [quote author=siddiqui link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#13 date=07/08/03 at 21:39:50] CHILL Momma MOD ! [/quote] [wlm] ;)You must not be married... perhaps you have a sister? ;-)every hubby knows it is almost death to tell a woman to "chill" when she is on a rampage! :-/ |
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| Maliha |
| 07/08/03 at 23:57:42 |
| [slm] OMG!!! Kathy I know you don't think I think you are a bad hostess or 21 century woman or whatever :'( :'( :'( I don't know what's wrong with me:( i really do have a knack at making everyone I love mad at me:( and it's not enough that i'm the drama queen :'( :'( :'( *delicately steps off the soap box* *clear throat* anywho, listen I think we were looking at the same issue with different lenses...i just got a bit worried cuz i have been hearing it way too many times from my beloved sisters, and there is this unspoken stigma amongst Muslim women who should know better, who think that being a *good* wife, and *good* mother is anti thetical to progress/independence/community work/career/ etc... Sadly brothers as illustrated by Lucid and others, are thinking along the same way. Seriously it scared me cuz just this morning i got into a heated discussion with my little (not so little) brother, who was telling me that in this day and age a woman *HAS* to work, and its 17 Century mentality to stay home...All the points I tried to bring up about staying home, and the positive effects of that were thrown out the window. I was appalled :o becuz he actually said (don't know if he was just saying it to make me mad)...that he *expects* his wife to work. then he started making "cave like" noises (he is the comedian :P ) he goes..."yes, Jane I shall go hunting now..you Cook woman!" okay whatever...but the point is... Then.. anywayz..you know what happens... sigh. i need some sleeb... ::) sis, Maliha :-) [wlm] |
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| Caraj |
| 07/09/03 at 00:28:29 |
| [quote author=Kathy link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=15#16 date=07/08/03 at 22:46:28] ;-)every hubby knows it is almost death to tell a woman to "chill" when she is on a rampage! :-/ [/quote] hehe, this is to cool and more fun that going outside to tend to critters :-/ keep it coming folks, keep it coming I'm just sitting here at the pc with my diet sierra mist in hand and enjoying the show :P By the way Kathy you gave me a grrrrrrreat idea for a new post It is almost death to tell a woman ______ when she is _____ ;D Brothers take notes there will be a quiz in the morning hehe |
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| deenb4dunya |
| 07/09/03 at 02:23:28 |
| [quote]*exits out quietly hoping no one noticed the tragic overflow words can create thru' unchecked mouths and non applied samt rules* [/quote] :D --Deen |
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| Nomi |
| 07/09/03 at 06:20:10 |
| [slm] Alhamdolillah i try not to let those friends of mine who use the "cave word" (either for siss or bros) win such argument, these conversations with an "attitude" are sometimes required to talk some sense into some peeps, this also helps in winning the argument coz you can't quote Qur'an and hadith all the time and there are some arguments which better be won otherwise one feels like letting down the truth (when you know that the other person is thinking on wrong lines). and ofcourse we should be friendly with them, always......... [slm] Asim Zafar. |
| 07/09/03 at 06:27:37 |
| Nomi |
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| lucid9 |
| 07/09/03 at 09:09:56 |
| [slm] I think Momma Mod is extremely, extremely cool. And i think a_silverose is also vey wonderful, but she doesn't have to issue not so nice threats/ultimatums like: [quote author=a silverose link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=0#14 date=07/08/03 at 21:58:17] watch what you say.[/quote] I do watch what I say, and I very much stand by my cave man comment. If muslim men by and large had any self worth, and sense of fairness and justice then the muslim world would not look like something out Jurrasic Park. Remember "Innallaha la yughayiru ma bi qawmin hatta yughairu ma be anfusihim" (Allah doesn't change the state of a people until they change themselves). And also remember the hadith about muslims at later stages being like the "froth on the sea" -- innumerable but emasculated and powerless. Women are really not responsible for ensuring that muslims lands are well run and justly governed. Men are. The fact that they are not is a direct reflection of the uselessness of muslim men in general. Is this harsh. Of course. But look how these countries are governed. It is enough to bring any even keeled person to tears. Tha unjustice with which muslim men treat muslim women is a reflection of the injustice by which they rule muslim lands. The status and position of the weak (like women in particular) is an extremely useful barometer in measuring how even handed and just the people of a society are. And it it my very strong belief that until muslim men begin to treat muslim women with the kindness and justice that they themselves expect that the muslim world will forevever be in the doldrums, and be ravaged by famine, waste, and all manner of misery. Remember, that in the Prophet's final sermon -- the last words he spoke to his people, the Prophet chose to speak about the treatment of women. Why? Allah knows best, but it is straightforward to conclude that this was because misogyny was so common among the muslims even at that time, and that misogyny and the unfair treatment of women would be the Achilles heel of muslims in the future. And anybody who denies that it has been our Achilles heel is in deep denial. The Prophet [saw], Allah's beloved, the protector of the weak, and our example of justice and kindness said: [color=Red] O People, it is true that you have certain right with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you....Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. [/color] |
| 07/09/03 at 10:12:27 |
| lucid9 |
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| BrKhalid |
| 07/09/03 at 09:27:30 |
| Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) I haven't had to use my Moderator hat in so long I'm not sure where I've put it!! ;-) Just a note to keep it clean....no low punches...if I start a standing count, please go the the opposite cor....oops wrong scenario ;) Seriously there are important issues being discussed here so it'd be nice to keep it on the issues and let's not turn into something more personal. ;-) |
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| Caraj |
| 07/09/03 at 12:41:59 |
| [quote author=BrKhalid link=board=bro;num=1057256434;start=15#22 date=07/09/03 at 09:27:30]Asalaamu Alaikum ;-) Just a note to keep it clean....no low punches...if I start a standing count, please go the the opposite cor....oops wrong scenario ;) [/quote] BrKhalid you're funny :-/ :-/ :D :-/ :-/ Ok well I guess the main point of my post is shot but thats ok this is cool too. But I do stand by how I feel, the way a married man goes out in the world really does reflect on how well the wife takes care of him My daughter-in-law was actually shocked to hear I got up and started my husbands coffee and made his breakfast while he showered at 4 am. Yes you read that right 4 AM, he had to be to work by 6 am so he had to leave the house by 4:50 am. She even asked me not to tell my son I did that. She was actully worried he would throw it in her face and expect the same. As to the comment about expecting silence ....... maybe what was meant by that is after a hard day at work to come home to a complaining and fustrated wife and kids screaming and an unkept house and lots of noise is not cool. I know when I was married and the kids were home I heard many men say after work they come home to the wife fussing at them and shoving the kids and a chore list at them. The poor man could hardly get all the way in the door. So sisters, let him come home to a clean house, clean kids, dinner ready and the kids (plan ahead and tell the kids) doing a chore or an activity quietly. Give him a big hug, hand him something cool to drink, let him relax, let him have dinner AND THEN LET HIM HAVE IT :P 8) :-/ It is called strategic maneuvering 8) Get his guard and deffenses down :o Then go in for the kill :o ;D But seriously, the man has every right to come home to a mellow semi quiet house and time to unwind after work. Let him have his unwind time and his dinner and a few hugs before you complain about the local butcher, >:( what little Johnny did this afternoon >:( and how you have a head ache from it all. :( Ideas for keeping kids quiet when Dad first comes home: Can say when Dad comes in it is time to color a pretty piture for daddy and set a cooking timer for 15 to 20 minutes and tell the children when the timer goes off they can come give daddy a hug and a kiss and their picture for him, another day they can make something for Dad out of play doh or clay, Pick 2 or 3 days a week to do this and wait to see how hubby feels good coming home. :-* :-* :-* I use to have a saying and I meant it. 'I always want to worry every day that my husband will get a speeding ticket on the way home cause he can hardly wait to get home.' ;) Cause home is his refuge. Home is his happy and comfort zone. I'm serious I always tell young married girls this, make your home a place he always thinks of and a place he can hardly wait to get to. |
| 07/09/03 at 13:05:22 |
| Caraj |
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| siddiqui |
| 07/09/03 at 16:31:38 |
| [slm] [quote]You must not be married... [/quote] LOL u cant be sure can u ;) [quote]every hubby knows it is almost death to tell a woman to "chill" when she is on a rampage! [/quote] Poor hubby ,He has to face 'death ' so many times before death Just wondering if there is any lull in the storm (oops rampage) ;) or its just one continious hurricane ;) Me , now scared of becoming a hubby ;) Chilling out as a bachelor seems pretty cool as of now :P Phew this is a real hot summer :P Hey Momma Mod have another Frappacino on me yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm :P [wlm] |
| 07/09/03 at 16:48:51 |
| siddiqui |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 07/09/03 at 16:52:20 |
| [wlm] [quote]And i think a_silverose is also vey wonderful, but she doesn't have to issue not so nice threats/ultimatums like: on Jul 8th, 2003, 9:58pm, a silverose wrote:watch what you say. [/quote] ha funny so u want to make me look like the bad one huh. Did I say anything wrong? We all should watch what we say. The prophet (swt) told us to watch what we say does this mean he was threatening us! well you know if you got scared too bad soo sad. you and i both know it was no threat. so dont get all excited [quote] If muslim men by and large had any self worth, and sense of fairness and justice then the muslim world would not look like something out Jurrasic Park. [/quote] generalizing that most muslim men are cavemen is hurting and wrong in my opinion ! you very clearly insulted Brother Faisal Siddiqui and many other good brothers on this board. Men and woman are different and being at home is a big job ! At least these men do realize that. By the way the ' cave man 'comment that you have made is exactly what the anti islamicists say about muslim men. sad very sad. |
| 07/09/03 at 16:54:52 |
| a_Silver_Rose |
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| WhiteSomali |
| 07/09/03 at 17:18:50 |
| [slm] Hey nuh! Yuh know I dun like seein my bredaz and ma sistaz gettin all up n bout to fight like tis :'( Le's all try to relax and chill wit di harsh comments. There ain nuh need to get aggressive nah :) Sis Silverose, jazakAllah fi stickin up fi us ;D We all family by our Deen, righ? Bra Lucid, I haffi agree tat the cave man comment wasn' very good spirited nah. Langauge and tone like tat is neva neva ti way to solve conflicts and make thinz better. No offense bra, but yuh opinions sound like they came straight from the Western Media... no offense, dun take any please. Nah we all gon disagree, but le's disagree in a friendly manner? All fruits ripe! [wlm] |
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| BroHanif |
| 07/09/03 at 19:35:54 |
| Salaams, [quote]I am getting so tired of everyone blaming the other. The Muslims blame the west for its problems, this husband thinks the marriage will be perfect if his needs are met. I see nothing in his comments about sharing in the responsibilities of problem solving if something goes wrong.. he just Expects her to fix it. [/quote] Well said, I think you should become an agnoy aunt for the newbies who get married, give us all a bit of hikmah. Where would this board be without your wise advice on marrige and other topics. You truly are an asset. [quote]every hubby knows it is almost death to tell a woman to "chill" when she is on a rampage! [/quote] Nothing but the truth. You tell it as it should be said. I know a few more words that can send any wife red with anger as well. Salaams Hanif |
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