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| getting philosophical |
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| brother |
| 07/06/03 at 03:13:00 |
| [slm] This might be a philosophical question but I am gonna throw it at you guys any ways. do you think alot of bros and sis's hide their real identities? why? and what would happen if they were more open about who they were. are you what you tell us who you are? are we afraid of something? please don't bounce the question back at me, InshAllah I'll compile my answer from the responses I get ;) jk salamz ;-) |
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| hanna |
| 07/06/03 at 04:48:26 |
| salam alikum hmm an interestin question ..well i guess its true wid some ppl to a certain extent ..u see when ur talkin to ppl u know ud never meet in life ..or anythiun ,..u dont think much b4 writin ...its different when u have to take care of what u say and do in a community .... its also that many ppl prolly dont wish to reveal a lot about who they are to strangers they dont know ... also ppl who are completely inexpressive in real life ...might be reely talkative on message boards and chats ..coz they are at ease and feel no one reely knows who they are so they can say whatever they want .... what happened wid me was that ..i wasnt very expressive or talkative ... and then came the net and message boards and chats ..and all that so well i started spendin soo much time opn the net ..coz i wud talk about almost everything and cyber ppl thought that i was a talkative and a fun to be person wid ...but the reality was that i was just the opposite .... so well i started developing 2 personalities ..one me in the real world and the other on cyber ..the cyber one was better ..... but then one day it seemed reely freaky that i was 2 persons ion one /.//so then i stopped postin stuff on message boards ..stopped chattin and all ...and i gave time to myself to choose one personality ......i alhamdollilah started improvin ...i started mixin more in the real world ..instead of gettin lost in the cyber world ......and after i was like ok i came bak :) wid the resoluytion that i wud treat the cyber world just as i treat ppl in real life ..that was to ensurre that i dont develop 2 me's again ./!! that was my explanation .. wassalam |
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| muahmed |
| 07/06/03 at 08:40:14 |
| [slm] ;-) 1. do you think alot of bros and sis's hide their real identities? [i]I don't but I would assume a lot of sisters do, and that is understandable.[/i] 2. why? [i] Not Applicable (N/A)[/i] 3. and what would happen if they were more open about who they were. [i] In my case, what would happen is whatever is happening right now. [/i] 4. are you what you tell us who you are? [i] I don't tell people who I am. I let them find out. [/i] 5. are we afraid of something? [i] Are you asking me (one who is reading the post) or are you asking yourself? [/i] |
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| Nomi |
| 07/06/03 at 17:53:10 |
| [slm] [quote author=hanna link=board=bebzi;num=1057471980;start=0#1 date=07/06/03 at 04:48:26] i was 2 persons ion one /.//so then i stopped postin stuff on message boards ..stopped chattin and all ...and i gave time to myself to choose one personality ......i alhamdollilah started improvin ...i started mixin more in the real world ..[/quote] Do not all of us have many identities? Our love for our mothers/fathers is different from our friend's and that is again different from your spouse's. We behave differently with kids, elders and hence behave differently on the internet as well... Is it bad to have a different identity on the internet? isn't it how things work all the time ?! Asim Zafar. |
| 07/06/03 at 18:29:13 |
| Nomi |
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| Nabila |
| 07/07/03 at 05:52:07 |
| [slm] I agree with Bro Nomi. If people had one identity for every situation and every person it would look very odd. Treating your grandparents the same as your friends, treating your friends the way you treat your grandparents; your friends would think you're dull, and your grandparents will think you're crazy :D With so many identities, is there really a 'real' one? Maybe the real one is simply the one they want to display most if not all the time... People may be afraid of embarrassment, of being hurt, it could anyone of a number of things. ma salaamah and take care |
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| A_Stranger |
| 07/07/03 at 07:29:33 |
| [wlm] re:sr. lady_murasaki_sa and br. nomi's posts but why does it have to be 2 (3..4..5..whatever..) different personalities? it can be one personality treating da mates and da grandparents differently cuz they understand that the two groups/pairs/whatever (friends & grandparents) will react differently in different situations, innit? if u study, in depth, someone's personality, u'll find they'll act differently with the grandparents and differently with the friends. IF, however, the grandparnts start joking about stuff [i]differently[/i], and they start wearin shades and speak in slang and dance at odd times...u'd start actin [i]differently[/i] towards 'em innit. and IF the friends started complainin about aches and pains, and felt ill all the time and slept for most of the day and started reminiscing old days...u'd start acting [i]differently[/i] towards 'em. this is the same personality we're talkin bout here... anyways...i don't think i'm makin any sense...best be off. wassalaamu 'alaykum. [size=1]btw...erm...nevermind.[/size] |
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| brother |
| 07/07/03 at 22:27:35 |
| hmmm interesting remarks. I think it depends on the individual, the upbringing may be as well. Someone very social I think is less likely to treat the cyber world different than the real world as apposed to someone who keeps it to himself. I kind of went through the same phases as the sister, but it is still hard to be the same in the real world and the cyber world. May be it's shyness. could be "fear of confrontation" or self consciousness or may be a bit of everything. ;-) |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/10/03 at 14:43:43 |
| [slm] You all have a point especially the Stranger there. It's one person and that person reacts to other different personalities or situations, it doesn't mean they have multiple personalities. It's who you are. You are who you are. If you're a liar, then you're a liar. If you're truthful then you're truthful. No one knows who you are except yourself. Now if you don't know who you are then why expect other people to know who you are. Know what I mean? Know who I am? I know who I am. I am Trustworthy and I stick by my name. I can keep secrets. People vent to me all the time. It's because they trust me. I know it's because I will forget what the secret was. My identity, well, some know me in here and some don't. The reason why I don't tell you my name is that I don't trust everyone I meet at first. But my personality stays. I may change it once in a while just because of my mood, but that's who I am. I'm sometimes shy and I will sometimes speak my mind, but I always give respect when it's due. And sometimes I ramble on and on and on and on and on...... Ma-asalaama......... |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/10/03 at 14:51:41 |
| [slm] I got some more ramblin' tod o so here goes... About the people of being who they are, here is a philosophical theory: "Change the name and it’s about you…that’s the story." But here's another idea I never could get. It's a 2 line story about me.... ‘You must sit down,’ says Love, ‘and taste my meat.’ So I did sit and eat…big mistake. Little did I know that it wasn’t a free meal. :o >:( ;D I'm done for now. Ma-asalaama..... |
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| Nomi |
| 07/10/03 at 16:23:27 |
| [slm] Thanks for these pointers to ponder on sis... |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/10/03 at 17:30:50 |
| [slm] You're talking to me right? If so...anytime, babe. Ma-asalaama..... |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/10/03 at 19:49:28 |
| [slm] Dohhhh! :'( Nomi's a brother. I didn't mean to call you Babe. Forgive me, I thought you were a sister. I meant to say, "Thank you, dear brother, kind sir." I got bored so I'm back for a little bit. Ma-asalaama.... |
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| Nomi |
| 07/10/03 at 20:05:48 |
| [slm] I was about to respond to that somewhat like this [quote author=Trustworthy link=board=bebzi;num=1057471980;start=0#10 date=07/10/03 at 17:30:50] You're talking to me right? If so...anytime, babe. [/quote] Oh.. you mean brother.. thats me sis :) but now i know that it was just a mistake so no offense taken sis Asim Zafar. |
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| Trustworthy |
| 07/10/03 at 21:36:32 |
| [slm] Whew! That was close. Thank you, dear brother, kind sir. I'm off for the night again. Peace out......Ma-asalaama..... |
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