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07/08/03 at 17:12:19 |
In the name of Allah The Merciful The Compassionate Alsalam Alaikum wa Rahmatu Allahi wa BarakatuHu, May peace be upon you and Allah's Compassion and His blessings, {"(Allah is the One) that forgives sins, accepts repentance, is strict in punishment, and has a long reach. There is no god but He, to Him is the goal."} -------------------- Women (lecture by Maulana Ehsan part 2) for the audio: http://www.tabligh.com/ihsanw2.rm All Praises to Allah and peace on the honorable Messenger (May Allah's peace and blessings be upon him.) Just as men amongst the Muslims are responsible for the effort of the guidance of the entire humanity, the women amongst the Muslims are responsible for the effort of the guidance of the entire humanity. Understand, that the effort of prophet Muhammed (May Allah's peace and blessings be upon him), the effort for women, and to make effort for women, and to make effort for the effort of women is very important. The meanings of an hadith is that the uprightness and piety of a woman is heavier (on the scales of deeds on the day of judgment) than the piety of 70 men put together. And that the evil of an evil woman is equal to the evil of a thousand men put together. So the effort for the good of women brings greater benefit, and the effort to corrupt women brings greater devestation. Just like for men to increase their faith by making Dawah (call to Allah) on a daily basis, the women must also make Dawah (call to Allah) on a daily basis to increase their faith. The environment at home is the environment that the woman makes at home. The woman is usually at home, and the children have a greater love for the mother. The mother changes their clothes. She cooks for them nice cooked meals. In general the mothers are more tender, whereas the fathers are more stern. These kinds of attitudes is generally required for the correct upbringing of the children. One of the parents should be softhearted, and the other a little more stern. If both are too softhearted, the kids don't turn out good. If both are harsh and stern, then also the kids don't turn out good. In general, the father, he gives the orders: Why didn't you do this, and why didn't you do that. The mother shows love and affection and gives her child food and drink and things of pleasure. If the mother keeps telling her children, your father is always in the way of Allah, he doesn't take care of me or you, and if this is what the children hear all the time, the children will turn against the father. If the mother tells her children that your father is a good man, he goes in the way of Allah, and does the effort of the deen (Islam), and he is doing a good job, and doing good deeds, I should be doing this, and you should be doing this, the children will love their father. The biggest work for a muslim woman is to establish the environment of Iman (faith) inside her home. To establish the environment of Iman, it is not neccesary that the woman be a scholar, or be a graduate of a big Islamic school. Unlearned women can also establish the environment of Iman in the home. How to establish the Iman? Always talk about Iman. According to the level of the child, the mother can talk to her child about three things: 1. Everything that is visible outside, to the child, the mother should tell the children that all this is created by Allah. The sky, the moon, the stars, everything Allah has created. The mountains, the oceans the trees, everything on the land, are creations of Allah. The plane which just flew above us, the metal which the plane is made of, is created by Allah. The pilot that flies the plane, he is also created by Allah. The one that created it, is also the controller of it. A woman ought to say these things from her own tongue, and get the children to say the same thing from their tongues. 2. The second thing is the house and whatever is inside the home. The mother should always be mentioning that Allah gave those things. Allah has given us this house. Allah gave us these clothes. Allah has given us this food. Allah has given us this pen. What is apparent is that the father came from outside and put a Kufi (cap) on the child. The mother can ask the child, who gave you this cap? The child will say, father gave it to me. The mother should say, no, the father didn't give it, Allah gave it. The child may insist that the father gave it, but the mother must repeat it many times until it sinks in the heart of the child that Allah gave it. The dua (supplication) after eating is that we thank Allah who has fed us and given us drink. The parents did not feed us, Allah fed us. When we wake up from our sleep we say our dua, thanks to Allah who has awoken us after our sleep. It looks as if the parents have put the child to sleep, and awoken the child, but it is Allah who put the child to sleep and awoken the child. The mind and heart of the child should be cultivated to thinks in the child's very heart that Allah is the giver. The things the mother says, the father should say the same thing. The children, when they need something they run to the mother. When they go to their mother, the mother should tell the child to run to Allah for his needs. The child goes to the mother and says, I need a pen. The mother should say, Allah gave you an old pen, and Allah will give you a new pen as well. My dear son, make wudu (washing before prayer), pray the Salaat, and ask Allah for a new pen. The daughter may ask her mother, I need some new shoes. The mother can respond, Allah gave you your old shoes, and Allah will give you a new pair of shoes. Make wudu and pray Salaat, and ask Allah for a new pair of shoes. The mother should encourage her child to ask from Allah so much, the children learn to ask from Allah on their own. The children learn to ask from Allah for their needs, when they see that their parents also go to Allah for their needs. Those parents that teach their children to ask Allah for their needs, like food for example, those parents would have taught their children a lifelong lesson. In the home, if there is a 7 year old daughter, 5 year old son, and a 2 year old son. If the 2 year old has a fever. You come home, and you find the fever in your 2 year old, and become worried, what should I do. You say quickly get some money, take the son in the car and run to the doctor. The other childrens faith becomes affected. The children will think that when the father needed some help, that he ran to money. The children will think, that the parents are teaching us to ask from Allah, but when they themselves need some help they run to the money. The belief that the relief in money is the root of all evils. ---- |
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