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Caraj
07/29/03 at 00:59:10
I don't think there is anything anyone can say about this. I guess i just once again need to vent.   :(

This long distance marriage thing is getting soooooo old. I feel bad cause after emailing 2 or 3 times a day back and forth for 7 months a person just runs out of things to say. The 'I miss you's' and 'I love you's' are getting trite, just words. I have at least 3 more months of this. We emailed about 1 1/2 years  before we met, then after married emailed while he was gone 6 months, and then a month here and a month there and now 7 months.
The words are becoming meaningless    :'( and i feel bad but that is how I feel. I don't even look forward to our 'computer dates' anymore, it is more  a chore.  Our 2 yr aniversary was last week. Of our 24 months of marriage we have only been together 7 or 8 of 24 of them.

He tries so hard to keep the lines of communication going even though he works 12 to 14 hrs a day 7 days a week.

I really shouldn't complain as I hear other wives say they hardly get emailed. Some once a week and others once a month.  We have daily pc dates and he calls 2 to 4 times a week. I am lucky but it is getting soooo old.

Any words of wisdom?  I know, I should stop whining   :'( But I am feeling my words to be losing their meaning. I feel guilty about that.
07/29/03 at 01:05:24
Caraj
Re: This is getting soooooo old
Trustworthy
07/29/03 at 16:40:15
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Just make a lot of duas sister and keep to your iman.  Log distant relationships makes seeing each other again exciting, nah?

Ma-asalaama....
Re: This is getting soooooo old
lala
07/29/03 at 22:50:53
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can you visit him?

-lala
07/29/03 at 22:51:42
lala
Re: This is getting soooooo old
salaampeaceshalom
08/01/03 at 09:04:51
Hi,

Have u actually told him how u feel and asked him how he feels? He may actually feel the same way, u never know, and if he does, it may make u feel less guilty for feeling this way (wow, how many fs did I use here? lol).

If u feel that ur words are losing their meaning, then maybe the two of u should cut down on how many times u communicate with each other.  Instead of emailing 2 or 3 times in a day, why dont u email once a day or even every other day?  That way maybe u'll find u still have stuff to say to each other, instead of 'running out of things to say'.  Ok so u know that ur 'lucky' than most other wives, but if u dont feel happy or feel that ur words are beginning to sound hollow or insincere to urself, then do something about it.  Tell ur hub u appreciate his efforts and his willingness to want to keep the communication going, but maybe it would be better if u contacted each other (insert ur own frequency here).  Oh btw, the same can apply to phone calls.  How bout one call a week, but if an emergency comes up, or either one of u feels like calling the other for whatever reason, then go ahead.

Ur not really whining  :), u just sound very frustrated with the situation between the two of u.  Hope my post has helped, if not, oh well, I tried  ;)

adios
08/01/03 at 09:07:37
salaampeaceshalom
Re: This is getting soooooo old
Ameeraana
08/04/03 at 13:30:59
 


 If it is getting like that then perhaps you should cut down your emails.  Let him know how you are feeling, because it has to be so hard to be apart that long!!  And, I know about the long distance stuff, and contacting everyday got boring for me also.  I just cut it down because then we missed each other even more by the time we got to speak.  But also, if your hubby just doesn't want to cut down on his emails, try to think about what if he stopped emailing you all the time and how you would really miss it.  

Ameera


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