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| [IGR] Infatuations and their realities |
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| Halima |
| 08/01/03 at 04:09:27 |
| Assalam Alaikum wa rahmat Allah wa barakaatuhu, The charm and the magnetic attraction which drives the two opposites toward each other, is known as an infatuation. It is solidly a factor that drives one either to good or to evil. But, there is such a thin line between the two. When Allah says not to sin, a Muslim would try his or her best to avert from it. But, what when one doesn’t have control in the matters of opposites? The world is indeed a hard place to be, if Islam is not followed by its strict abjurations. There is a great depth to the rules and regulations that Islam allows and forbids, which cannot be understood unless we pass through such tests. So, pray not to go against Islamic laws, if you are a Muslim, or you shall be bruised until Allah makes you know the truth, the demerits of going against that law. What is good and what is bad for us, is known best to the Almighty who created us. But we often try to prove our self smarter than that, and make our self fall into the pit, from where there’s no escape unless Allah Wills. Infatuations are more a name of expectations and desires and dreams. But when one comes on to the reality part of being practical, it fails. That is to say we are attracted to a thing unless we attain it. But the moment we get it, most magnetism dwindles off. What remain are the parts and roles to play-- to fulfill duties and to demand rights. If there are constant attempts on part of both genders to keep their duties to the mark, it implies that love exists. But the moment any breach of duties occur, implies that there is no love. So, to me, what I feel is that there is no such thing on earth as love between a man and a woman- but beneath the depth of it is some selfish expectation that one strives for. We are all craving and selfish for our individual needs, but lax in fulfilling the duties we are enjoined upon. And Allah is well aware of our instincts. So, Marriage in Islam is a bond of rights and duties on part of both, the husband and the wife. Each are allotted a set of rights and duties. And then, when these two things function in unison that would mean that there is something called a full fledged relationship, which should grow and find rest in each other. But, if there is a shrugging off on any one’s part to undertake those obligations, then it becomes a burden, ready to be dislodged. That is why in Islam, a relationship between a man and a woman: without any custom of declaration- where duties and rights are not involved is Haraam or strictly forbidden. The westerners call such relationships as freedom of living life to the fullest. But, Muslims on the other hand call that a bondage and sin, which will not be washed unless Allah accepts the repentance of sincere hearts. Juhi Suhel |
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