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| Brothers....would you...? |
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| Anonymous |
| 08/02/03 at 03:42:11 |
| Brothers...would you want to know your bride-to-be or wife's past (or bad things from her past I should say)? Would you rather not know? I read that you you shouldn't share bad pasts with eachother....what do u think brothers |
| Re: Brothers....would you...? |
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| faisalsb |
| 08/02/03 at 04:15:45 |
| [slm] Well it's very sensitive issue I don't know what's the sharia ruling on the issue but we are not supposed to reveal our sins which are concealed by Allah Subhan Wa Tallah. But in many cases both partners or either of them is interested about previous character of their going to be life partner and the other partner is even asked questions about it. I think if we are asked then we shouldn't lie particularly when our such words would be counted on us. And I don't think any relationship can be long lasting if that is based on false statements. I think Holy Prophet [saw] did marry the women whose back ground was not known and who accepted Islam just before marrying Holy Prophet [saw]. Nauzbilla ... I don't mean to show any kind of doubt about character of those Ummhatull momneen but the point what I am trying to make is Holy Prophet [saw] didn't investigate into their character or didn't show any kind of doubt. |
| Re: Brothers....would you...? |
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| Tesseract |
| 08/03/03 at 02:22:33 |
| Assalamu 'alaikum, [quote]Brothers...would you want to know your bride-to-be or wife's past (or bad things from her past I should say)? Would you rather not know? I read that you you shouldn't share bad pasts with eachother....what do u think brothers [/quote] This is quite a complicated issue. I think it varies from case to case. Depends on the individual u are getting married to. A brother in my community recently got married to a convert sister, but he found out 2 days later that she was suffering from a sexually transmitted disease (STD), on which he divorced her. Now, I don't know the details, and can't say who is right and who is wrong in this case, but as I said earlier, to look into someone's past, it depends on a person u are getting married to. If its a sister who is a born Muslimah, coming from a good religious family, I don't think I would be getting into details of her past, but if its a convert sister (specially recent convert), I probably may get into details to a certain extent. There is no guarantee for either cases for their pasts to be clean, but a little bit about the background details hint u at something. Allahu A'lam. My advice to u is to be sure before u get into this relationship if u have any doubts about anything. Its a lifetime issue, and I think a lot depends on the trust between husband and wife when it comes to marriage. Wassalam. |
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