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| What I Want In a Man |
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| Kathy |
| 08/02/03 at 23:00:11 |
| What I Want in a Man, Original List 1. Handsome 2. Charming 3. Financially successful 4. A caring listener 5. Witty 6. In good shape 7. Dresses with style 8. Appreciates finer things 9. Full of thoughtful surprises 10. An imaginative, romantic lover What I Want in a Man Revised List (age 32) 1. Nice looking (prefer hair on his head) 2. Opens car doors, holds chairs 3. Has enough money for a nice dinner 4. Listens more than talks 5. Laughs at my jokes 6. Carries bags of groceries with ease 7. Owns at least one tie 8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal 9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries 10. Seeks romance at least once a week What I Want in a Man Revised List (age 42) 1. Not too ugly (bald head OK) 2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car 3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally 4. Nods head when I'm t alking 5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes 6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture 7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach 8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids 9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down 10. Shaves most weekends What I Want in a Man Revised List (age 52) 1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed 2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public 3. Doesn't borrow money too often 4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting 5. Doesn't retell the same joke too many times 6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends 7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear 8. Appreciates a good TV dinner 9. Remembers your name on occasion 10. Shaves some weekends What I Want in a Man Revised List (age 62) 1. Doesn't scare small children 2. Remembers where bathroom is 3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep 4. Only snores lightly when asleep 5. Remembers why he's laughing 6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself 7. Usually wears some clothes 8. Likes soft foods 9. Remembers where he left his teeth 10. Remembers that it's the weekend What I Want in a Man Revised List (age 72) 1. Breathing 2. Doesn't miss the toilet |
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| Sunnah_ |
| 08/03/03 at 02:14:20 |
| :D Great list sister! hahahahha! All of those = the perfect man..............where are you perfect men?!?!?!?!PLZ STEP FORWARD! haha I need a [] Sis in Islam Sunnah_ |
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| Nomi |
| 08/03/03 at 17:30:00 |
| [slm] [quote] Owns at least one tie [/quote] But why? and I dont like this smily...... but.... [quote author=Kathy link=board=sis;num=1059876012;start=0#0 date=08/02/03 at 23:00:11] 10. Shaves most weekends :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o 10. Shaves some weekends :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o [/quote] :o |
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| Kathy |
| 08/04/03 at 09:58:23 |
| [slm] I like them hairy! ;-) I did not make up this list... it was a copy and paste! However, I do like it when my hubby shaves the stuble around the neck and also the cheek area... neatening the beard up! |
| 08/04/03 at 09:58:52 |
| Kathy |
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| a_Silver_Rose |
| 08/04/03 at 22:38:10 |
| [slm] ok plz tell me this isn t true? |
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| Kathy |
| 08/05/03 at 09:04:14 |
| [wlm] I am afraid it is... Now that i have gone thru the "dating" and marriages during two different life ages, I found it remarkably accurate... which is why I found this so funny! Insha Allah, hope I am not looking again when I am in my 50's! Although.... |
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| Caraj |
| 08/05/03 at 11:23:40 |
| So what you're telling us Kathy is the older we get the lower our expectations are :o :o :o I'm with Silverose..............Tell me it ain't so ::) Hey, I did it right this time, I married a younger man ;D |
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| BroHanif |
| 08/05/03 at 12:24:20 |
| Salaams, Are sisters appreciative of their husbands or not ? Are you really ask yourself. Or do you indirectly have a go at him some of the time ? Salaams, Hanif p.s. my previous post was in err |
| NS |
| 08/06/03 at 17:37:11 |
| BroHanif |
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| muslimah853 |
| 08/05/03 at 12:56:45 |
| [slm] I disagree. There are ungrateful women, no doubt. But trust me, there are a bunch of ungrateful brothers too. You have women giving, giving, giving of themselves to their husbands, their children, his parents, and so forth only to be continuously taken for granted. How many stories have you heard about men leaving their wives for younger women after years of devoting their lives to them? How many brothers are there who treat their wives like domestic help? I could go on, but I won't. The problem of ingratitude is not limited to the fairer sex, sorry. |
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| shieldsoffaith |
| 08/06/03 at 11:20:06 |
| [slm] [slm] I disagree Brohanif. I am not married. I am divorced. However, If my man would move a mountain for me. I would definately be pleased. As a matter of fact, it doesn't take a mountain. Just a simple thought about my feelings. One of the things I did find pleasing about my husband was how he phoned the house everyday to see how things was going at home!!!! I loved it. So I am challenging the sisters that are married or have been married. What is it about your husband that you appreciate? salam |
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| Caraj |
| 08/06/03 at 16:16:29 |
| [quote author=shieldsoffaith link=board=sis;num=1059876012;start=0#9 date=08/06/03 at 11:20:06] [slm] [slm] So I am challenging the sisters that are married or have been married. What is it about your husband that you appreciate? salam [/quote] I would like to accept this challange. What I appreciate about my husband. 1) He is my best friend, being a best friend can be tough and takes hard work. I appreciate this. 2) He is totally devoted and commited to our marriage. Being a militaty wife is rough, I have many times wanted to give up. Not because I wished to seek another heck no ::) (shivers at the thought) But because I wanted to go off and be alone with no one) Anyway he calls (at $1. a minute ship to shore) and he meets me in email land each and every day for a half hour no matter what. I have run out of things to say but he refuses to run out. He is totally commited and devoted to me and our marriage, to keeping communication going no matter how mean, >:( fustrated and ornery I get :P ) 3) He makes me laugh and makes me feel very important and special by his words and actions. 4) He knows how to love like no other I have ever met before, without conditions, expectations, demands or nothing, HE JUST LOVES. 5) He's a great cook, I love his BBQ and stir frys. yummy :D 6) He appreciates me, (but then I should be appreciated I'm great :-/ ) 7) He is caring and affectionate. 8) He is a wonderful provider. He feels it is his job, (most modern day men don't feel that way) Not talking about Muslim men. 9) He would never strike me. (after what he saw me do to our 100 lb dog that made me mad who would ;D ) But seriously he would never. 10) He is blessed with a voice and will sing or read to me at night, hmmmmm (sigh) I appreciate his comforting and soothing voice. 11) Even though my sons are grown men and he is more a man that married their mother than a 'step father', he considers them his own and takes an active interest and part in their lives when he is home (racket ball and chess and fishing) and when not home he emails them, them and their wives. (Those are his daughters too) 12) Our soon to be born granddaughter, she to him is not his wifes grandchild that IS HIS GRANDDAUGHTER :-*, he is already in other countries buying her things and she isn't even born yet. In Singapore he bought her little pajamas :D I can go on but there are a few things I appreciate about my husband. |
| 08/06/03 at 16:26:33 |
| Caraj |
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| Trustsorthy |
| 08/06/03 at 17:07:31 |
| [slm] I disagree. It goes both ways Bro. If one does not appreciate the other then that's where problem lies. I can tell you loads of stories about men and women alike. My husband knows I appreciate him even though he has never moved a single mole hill. Ma-asalaama.... |
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| BroHanif |
| 08/06/03 at 17:29:47 |
| salaams, Azizah were't you a littel upset a few days ago about your husbands situation ??? As for sheildsoffaith, I'm sorry to hear about your divorce. I hope you do find a husband who takes you as you are. There are a few good bros around... Salaams Hanif |
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| Maliha |
| 08/06/03 at 17:43:10 |
| [slm] i adore me hubby :-* he cherishes me ;-) Alhamdullillah :) Bro Hanif jus' cuz Sis Azizah is going thru' a hard time with separation, which any of us would given that trial, does that make her ungrateful? hmmm... certain things are good reminders for us women, like that hadith about ungratefulness, it really propels me to want to be a good wifey..and if i do something wrong, i readily apologize...*But* what makes my job really, really easy is having the kind of hubby that really really appreciates the things that i do, and the person that I am. So it really works both ways. for men who complain about their wives "ungratefulness" they may have to do a little soul searching and see if maybe just maybe they are contributing to that self destructive cycle... *for more details please refer to the most eloquent post by bro Abu Hamza and Abdul Basir...somewhere on this board* :-[ me two cents:) sis,Maliha :-) [wlm] |
| 08/06/03 at 17:45:33 |
| Maliha |
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| shieldsoffaith |
| 08/06/03 at 17:54:17 |
| [slm] [slm] Thanks Brohanif. I am quite busy at this time in my life with my children. [wlm] [wlm] |
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| Caraj |
| 08/06/03 at 18:17:38 |
| [quote author=BroHanif link=board=sis;num=1059876012;start=0#12 date=08/06/03 at 17:29:47]salaams, Azizah were't you a littel upset a few days ago about your husbands situation ??? ][/quote] Ok Ok Ok ::) So you all caught me on a good day :P [quote author=Mystic link=board=sis;num=1059876012;start=0#13 date=08/06/03 at 17:43:10] [slm] Bro Hanif jus' cuz Sis Azizah is going thru' a hard time with separation, which any of us would given that trial, does that make her ungrateful? [wlm][/quote] Yeppers it is his being gone all the time that upsets and distances me. But I do appreciate him ........ When he's home ;D I also appreciate what he does when he is not home. But I would appreciate him a whole lot more ;D If he were home ;) Come on Sisters, what do you all appreciate about your husbands??? |
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| Lil_Sista |
| 08/07/03 at 06:10:46 |
| [slm] what i want in this guy(who's interested in me wallahu'alam)....... 1.isnt clumsy when talking to my dad. 2.doesnt think that im a perfect girl. 3.doesnt keep saying"u deserve someone better than me" 4.just goes with the flow. 5.doesnt push himself too hard 6.will say"yeah let everything flow,sister" ;D ;D ;D |
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| Sakinah |
| 08/21/03 at 00:00:41 |
| [slm] shieldsoffaith I'd also like 2 accept that challenge :) I appreciate EVERYTHING about my husband. ;D From the way he stops reading when I come in the room (even if it's just 2 smile at me ;D) to the way he sits down and talks 2 me if I unknowingly upset him. ??? I appreciate the way he will cut his conversations with brothers short so I'm not just standing around ::) I love the way he considers me even when I don't consider myself. :( I love is his energy and his compassion. The way he goes out of his way 2 teach people, and making sure that they understand even after he teaches. I love the fact that he is undemanding :o which in turn makes me want to do more for him. ;) I appreciate the E cards he sends me from across the room in the college library when we're both studying hard. :) I appreciate the different hats he wears at any given moment. Going from provider, to teacher, to my brother in Islam, when just being my friend would be enough:D I appreciate the way he calls when he thinks he's going 2 be late, so I won't stay up. And I appreciate the way his face lights up when he gets home and I'm reading a book while waiting. :) I'm going 2 stop here and call my husband. Because this list is making me think of how important it is 2 tell HIM how much I love him and appreciate him. :-[ :-* :-* :-* :-* |
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| a_lina |
| 08/21/03 at 00:39:03 |
| [slm] Sis. azizah, sis. mystic and sis. sakinah....Mashallah. Your posts are very touching. It is true, apprieciation goes both ways. May Allah Ta'ala grant all of us the ability to apprieciate our spouses. [slm] |
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| Lil_Sista |
| 08/21/03 at 05:10:42 |
| [slm] masha Allah.........i agree with iman......very touching! ohh this makes me wanna get married soon ;D insha Allah. peace out! |
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