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What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Anonymous
08/07/03 at 03:39:11
salams, i'm a sister who just started wearing hijab recently, the thing is that
i don't feel like i love it or i'm comfortable with it.  i started wearing it because i
knew that as a muslimah it was fard and i did believe in it but i knew i wasn't ready at
the time but i didn't think that mattered really.  i've been wearing it for months now and
i'm still having these nagative feelings and sometimes i just feel like i want to stop
wearing it...i don't know what's wrong with me.. i feel like such a bad person because i'm
having all these bad feelings about something that Allah asked us to do.  i want to love
it and be happy with wearing it and i pray for that all the time but so far my feelings
haven't changed.  a lot of my friends have started to wear the hijab and i can see how
happy they are and how much they love it but i'm afraid that when they look at me they'll
see how unhappy i am on the inside.  i know this problem of mine is probably really silly
because i know not a lot of people feel the way i do, but if any of u sisters have some
advice for me i'd really love to hear it. i feel too ashamed to talk to anyone about this
but it really bothers me inside and i don't know what to do

Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Lil_Sista
08/07/03 at 04:45:38
[slm]

listen sis,such feeling is normal.it's just a phase that u should get through.i was like that when for the  1st time i wore it.i didnt feel comfy with it.it was like that i wanted to take it off.u know what,the shaytan'n friends are tempting 'n trying to change ur mind.this is their job.Allah is giving u a test if u can be patient'n strong-willed.u've already chose the best decision by wearing hijab(hang in there,sista!)just bear in mind that hijab is Allah's command'n He knows what is best for us.hijab is like a protection from any bad things around u.this is like a battle between u'n the shaytan'n im sure u wont let them win.surely,other hijabis were facing the same situation.it's not easy to do good deeds but anyway where there is a will there is a way.
think about it! Allah's with u'n He'll help u out of this hard situation insha Allah.nothing's imposibble for Him.

may Allah swt make it easy for u,my dear sis!(ameen)  :-) *hugz*

anyone, pls encourage'n support this sista!!!  

peace out!  :-)
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
sofia
08/07/03 at 13:30:14
As-salaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah,
Masha'Allah, mabrook on your decision to wear the hijaab. He will make it easier for you, trust me. If we have the right intentions (to please Him), and if we keep up with our other obligations to Him, etc, He will make it easier.
I don't have the exact Arabic in front of me right now, so I may edit this later. But here's a good du'aa. Make lots of du'aa, sister, and be around those who you would want to emulate. May Allah make it easy for you & others, aameen.

[i]Allahumma innee as-aluka fi'lal khayraat, wa tarkal munkaraat, wa Hubbal masaakeen. Wa an-taghfirlanaa, wa tar-Hamnaa. Wa idhaa aradta fitnatan fee qawmi, fatawaffanee ghayra maftunin. Allahumma as-aluka Hubbak, wa Hubba man yu-Hibbuk, wa Hubba kulli 'amalin yuqarribu ilaa Hubbik.[/i]

O Allah! Verily, I ask You to help me do what is good and leave what is bad, and to have love for the poor. And I ask You to forgive us and have mercy on us. And if You subject my people to trial, absolve me before afflicting me by it. O Allah! I ask You for Your love, and the love of those who love You, and for the love of every action that will draw me near to Your love. (Tirmidhee)
08/07/03 at 13:31:35
sofia
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Trustworthy
08/07/03 at 13:46:45
[slm]

Just keep pushing Sis and Allah (SWT) will make it easier for you, insha-Allah.  It should get easier since your freinds are hijabis.

The more you stay away from the hijab the more difficult it gets to putting it back on so please just try on pushing  yourself to wear it.  

Put your trust in Allah (SWT) and He'll (SWT) take care of the rest, insha-Allah.

Congratulations!  
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Ma-asalaama......
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Nistar
08/07/03 at 14:21:08
[slm]

I agree with Lil_sis...this could just be a phase.  I went through the same when I first put on hijab.  I didn't have any clothes that were modest and nicely fitting.  They weren't to tight.... they were toooooo baggy! I looked like a mis-matched and unkempt sack!  I had always taken care to look respectable, and once I put on hijab, I "felt" ugly.  I didn't really have friends or family to support me (ie: others who also kept hijab....and my mom certainly wasn't happy) -- I couldn't even borrow a stylish jilbab.

But like the rest of the advice you've received, I made dua'a, and kept with it.  Alhamdulillah, my inner hijab caught up with my outer hijab -- and I didn't care if I looked put together, or like a sack!  I was pleasing God, and that's all that mattered.

Peace,
Nistar
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Kathy
08/07/03 at 16:57:35
[slm]

I understand and have been there. many times. Especially during the summer!

Tell what makes you unhappy? Why does it bother you?

This is not something silly, most of us have all gone thru it.
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
shieldsoffaith
08/07/03 at 17:22:25
[slm]

Praying, Fasting, Belief, all were easy for me.

The hardest thing I ever did was wear hijab.

It will get easier sister.

[wlm]
Re: What's wrong with me? [on hijab]
Ruh
08/07/03 at 17:32:27
[slm] Sister

InshaAllah wearing the hijab will become easier for you!  I think most sisters have a difficult time at first wearing the hijab but do grow to love it; for some it does take more time than others.  For me personally, when I started, I did not like it at all and was even resentful towards it.   :o Ironically enough for me, it would take me longer to put on hijab than to do my hair!  But I felt like I had made a pledge with Allah (swt) and needed to stick with it; I did much du'aa and alhamdullilah I soon grew to love it.  InshaAllah you will too!!   :-* :-*

All the best!!

Wassalam
:-)


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