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ml1066 |
08/09/03 at 09:27:20 |
salaam aleikum, i have a question reguarding a newly converted brother. Although he took shahada he still drinks alcohol and smokes. various people around him have tried talking to him but none of us seem to be able to get through to him. what would you advise for us to do? i know everyone has free will and can make his or her own choices but what is the point of converting if actions arent changed? ??? |
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Kathy |
08/09/03 at 10:59:07 |
[slm] Give him some time. I smoked a good couple of years after I became Muslim. It is an addiction and unless you have been there you have no idea the power it has over you. The most important thing now do do is make sure he believes in Allah swt, Muhammad [saw] being the last messenger. Make sure someone is teaching him to pray and giving charity. The rest will follow, insha Allah. I have assumed you have already told him that alcohol is forbidden. Just remember the first Muslims. Alcohol was not forbidden in the begining. I am just saying this to point out that every thing was presented slowly to new reverts. In the American society, generally,alcool is part of every social gathering. As well as family gatherings. As he weans himself off his old friends and surrounds himself with brothres it will happen, he will stop drinking. Never under estimate the power of a supportive group. On the other hand... is he an alcholic? Just be there to teach the tawheed, prayer and charity... usually we all come around... some a bit more slowly than others. |
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Nawawi |
08/09/03 at 22:25:29 |
The number one thing, is you don't want to harp on smoking and drinking to much around him. He probably already knows what is halaal and haraam. I would suggest, to get him interested in other aspects of the deen. Like memorizing Quran or learning about that shahaba, or find something he is interested in, and something that he can related, find something similar in the deen and get him doing that. encourage him to go to the masjid and halaqas. Most people know all the fiqh rules. But the problem people have is an Imaan issue. When your Imaan increases, in sha Allah without noticing it sometimes you leave the haraam. Get him interested in making salaat, reading quran, discuss other aspects of the deen. Usually if you get to one aspect of the deen, one thing will lead to another. And don't condemn him for smoking or drinking. I am sure you already told him it is haraam. You don't want to run him away from Islam. It is better to die a sinful Muslim then to die a kafir, perhaps Allah will forgive him and he will enter jannah. |
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