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| Nisa |
| 08/16/03 at 14:38:57 |
| [slm] Pray you are all in the best of health and eeman, Ameen. With all the talk of weddings...I was thinking to myself..what would be the ideal gift for a new couple? For those who are already married, maybe you could share with us some of the gifts you received and recommend some of the best! I'd love to hear everyones opinion inshaAllah :) [wlm] |
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| missy |
| 08/16/03 at 14:57:05 |
| [slm] Nisa, Hmmm....I'm not married, yet :P but one thing I'm hoping for is bread machine. i think those are good gifts for weddings, especially if the wife is going to school or working and just doesn't have time for making homemade bread, or also if she's new to cooking. They maybe are a bit pricey, I think I've seen them start at $50 for the basic models, all the way up to $300 :o for the ones with all the fancy stuff on them. Or maybe pots and pans, cookbooks of countries the new couple is from, a set of silverware, (I like cooking, can you tell?) maybe a cute idea would be some seeds to plant a garden with but the end of summer's probablly not a good time for begining a garden... :-[ Though I don't know what kind of budget you're on, maybe a towl set, or sheets and a matching blanket... I remember my mom telling me that my dad's parents gave them a cow for their wedding present, along with a table. Maybe the table was so they'd have a place to sit at while they ate the cow later on! :D Just some of my idea's. |
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| faisalsb |
| 08/17/03 at 02:30:21 |
| [slm] :) Sister Missy that cow idea is unique and interesting one .......;) I think it's the feelings behind the gift instead of it's dollar value. All the gifts what we received on our marriage party were same like what sister missy talked about but I liked the flowers what we were given as gift. I particularly like red roses the most. The roses what I gave to my wife when she came from Pakistan are still there in the bedroom. She didn't through them instead let them get dried. I think flowers are more romantic for newly married couple instead of bread making machine aren't they? |
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| Kathy |
| 08/17/03 at 10:49:44 |
| [quote author=Faisal Siddique link=board=madrasa;num=1061055538;start=0#2 date=08/17/03 at 02:30:21] [slm] I think flowers are more romantic for newly married couple instead of bread making machine aren't they?[/quote] [slm] Yes, they are. If you are rich! Most couples need everything! I would much rather have had a bread machine than a dozen of red roses! My favorite gift was a beautiful, decorated Qur'an. The next was a very high quality food chopper...still going after 15 years! The next was a great vacume machine. Any kind of food serving ware is great too, the couple will most likely do alot of entertaining the first year. Platters, glasses, tea/coffee stuff. Even cookie/ dessert serving stuff. My hubby's favorite gift...was me! ;) ([i]So I have deluded myself into thinking![/i]) |
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| Fozia |
| 08/17/03 at 11:15:58 |
| [slm] I don't know if this is a tradition or whatever, but when girls marry usually the parents give her a quran and musallah as a gift (obviously it's different if the Lady in question is a revert and her parents may nto be muslim yet), and if one is back home they also include the entire bedroom furniture and a car and air conditioning unit... ::) But cookery ware, one can never have enough of, good quality pots and pans and crockery.... I still run out when my husband decides he just has to invite all his one million friends over *sigh* Wasalaam |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 08/17/03 at 13:40:15 |
| I am not sure, but i thought there was a topic like this one once before. My advice is a cooler. Every guy can always use another cooler and you can fill it up with [] [] [] and frisbees and oter fun stuff. I have done this several times and it has always been a hit. I don't know how other guys feel, but opening your wedding gifts is such a disappointing day. Here you have this room full of gifts and, at least in the USA, the wife invites her mom or sister and they all ohh and ahh about place settings, belgian waffel makers , bread makers, picture frames, picnic baskets etc. etc. If I only had one friend who gave me a cooler or a drill or anything that a guy can get excited about it would have made it so much better. |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 08/17/03 at 13:43:40 |
| in fact i just read the other replies and you can see a need for it, pots and pans or a food chopper vaccum cleaner? |
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| Fozia |
| 08/18/03 at 06:36:19 |
| [slm] Poor mike aka ltcorpest2, you know I think the reason you didn't get your drill is because, when one is invited to a wedding the last thing one thinks is, oooh let me get them a power tool. Perhaps you should have stipulated something on the invites, you know like some people say no box gifts, money only, power tools acceptable gifts .... We got money and jewlery mostly, my husband wasn't impressed either... But then I don't suppose I would have been too pleased with say a box cutter, or jigsaw... My husband won't let me drill holes into anything either :'( :'( Wasalaam |
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| Ruh |
| 08/18/03 at 13:05:13 |
| [slm] Over here, many ppl have a registry, so we just give items off of that. BUT a majority of those items are those that everyone is recommending: pots, pans, china, houseware, etc... It's just easier though to know the exact type of item they want! Or another trend here is that ppl are requesting "no boxed gifts" on their wedding cards, so ppl kinda have to give them cash. Interesting trend, but I guess this is easier for those couples who don't know where they will be settling, or for those that dont want to deal with exchanging/returning 20 toasters, 15 blenders, etc... ;) Another idea for a present could be to donate a certain amount to a charity in the couple's name. This way you and the couple could get some sawaab, and they could start off on the right foot! :-* :-* wassalam :-) |
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| Nisa |
| 08/18/03 at 13:20:00 |
| [quote]Another idea for a present could be to donate a certain amount to a charity in the couple's name. This way you and the couple could get some sawaab, and they could start off on the right foot! [/quote] What a simply excellent idea!!! :-X [slm] :-) |
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| AyeshaZ |
| 08/18/03 at 17:12:24 |
| [quote author=Kathy link=board=madrasa;num=1061055538;start=0#3 date=08/17/03 at 10:49:44] [slm] My hubby's favorite gift...was me! ;) ([i]So I have deluded myself into thinking![/i]) [/quote] ** :D he he this is adorable!!! ** |
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| muslimah853 |
| 08/18/03 at 21:14:34 |
| [slm] I've given Sh Hamza Yusuf's "Rights and Responsibilities of Marriage" CD set or Sh Abdullah Adhami's "Gender Relations" as wedding gifts. Or a teapot with two teacups :) Nothing more romantic than tea for two. I've also seen some really nice personalized gifts...a nice framed poster with artwork and the couple's first names and maybe the date they were married, I thought that was cool. I think one of the nicest things I ever saw from a couple...a friend of mine got married recently and on the invitation it said, "No gifts please, we would be honored by your presence." Masha'allah, I thought that was really special. And rare. Not that there's anything wrong with giving the new couple gifts mind you. It was just refreshing in the age when many people place overpriced gifts in their registries placing burdens on their wedding guests. |
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| ltcorpest2 |
| 08/18/03 at 22:10:06 |
| of course my favorite is when you go to return the gift and they won't give you any money because the item you recieved was a gift with purchase. |
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| se7en |
| 08/24/03 at 22:40:57 |
| as salaamu alaykum wa rahmatullah, My eldest brother gave one of his friends a hammer for their wedding :o (along with some other odd things).. he said he wanted to give them something useful.. and that out of all the wedding gifts the couple received, they're not going to remember who gave them which dish set, but they'll remember *his* gift because it was so "unique".. I think this goes to show that.. the women of the family should always choose the wedding gifts :P wasalaamu alaykum :) |
| 08/24/03 at 22:42:36 |
| se7en |
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| Maliha |
| 08/24/03 at 22:54:52 |
| [slm] Se7en that's sooo funny:) but he does have a point, we got sooo many dish sets...sigh.... out of a whole room with gifts, my hubby got one. Not even on the wedding day..but when we went to our honeymoon, one of our relatives gave him this yemeni wrap around that men wear. You shouldda seen the look on his face :o :o For me??!!! ;D ;D I was like awwwwwwwww... but really, i mean dish sets are kinda for guys too..i mean they do *eat* more :P hmm...depends on the couple..if they are "studious" kind i would get them books, CD sets lecture types, etc. you could always get them unique decoration for their home...yeah... anyway, sorry not much help here :-* [wlm] |
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| timbuktu |
| 08/24/03 at 23:08:32 |
| [quote author=se7en link=board=madrasa;num=1061055538;start=0#13 date=08/24/03 at 22:40:57] .......... My eldest brother gave one of his friends a hammer for their wedding :o (along with some other odd things).. he said he wanted to give them something useful .. and that out of all the wedding gifts the couple received, they're not going to remember who gave them which dish set, but they'll remember *his* gift because it was so "unique"..... I think this goes to show that.. the women of the family should always choose the wedding gifts :P ....... [/quote] standard gripe :) about practical vs. remembrance/ romantic. I let my wife chose because i would always buy something practical. actually, i have little say in most matters. :) [quote author=Nur_al_Layl link=board=madrasa;num=1061055538;start=0#14 date=08/24/03 at 22:54:52] ...... but he does have a point, we got sooo many dish sets...sigh ................ but really, i mean dish sets are kinda for guys too..i mean they do *eat* more :P [/quote] yes, i admit we men do eat too much. another difference betwn my wife & me. every two hours i have this energy gap, that i need to fill up. but we men can eat on the fly, & are not fussy about matching plates & cutlery etc., we are much more interested in the food than the paraphernalia. |
| 08/25/03 at 02:01:13 |
| timbuktu |
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