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what's wrong with me???
missy
08/22/03 at 00:09:14
[slm] everyone,


 I don't know what's going on right now...This morning I was so happy and knew Islam is the right religion, and way to live, and was so  :-* but now....I'm not so sure.. :( Me and my sister were talking, I didn't tell her I've become Muslim, but that I was questioning things, and now I have doubt about Islam. Has this happened to other people? I don't know what to do...I feel like crying  :'(  
 I know she really cares about me, and where I'll be spending eternity, and that's why she talks to me about this stuff. She told me 'how can you think of leaving Christianity after all God's done for you? You've seen Him work in your life, do you think He failed you? Just because you do good things doesn't mean you can go to Heaven.' And then I feel bad because I don't tell her much about Islam, but that's because she doesn't want to hear about it. She even said she doesn't want to know... :(
 Now I have all these different thoughts running through my head, like what if I'm wrong? But what if she's wrong? What's going to happen? Did I do the right thing?
It's really very upsetting for me....Maybe it's just that I'm new to Islam, and so my faith isn't as strong..I don't know what to do right now  :'(
Re: what's wrong with me???
WhiteSomali
08/22/03 at 01:01:34
[slm] sis

You should study Islam some more. The more you learn about Islam and the more your knowledge increases, the more steadfast your faith will be insha Allah. Specifically I think it'd be a good idea to study all the reasons why Jesus can't be God, why the Trinity can't exist, and therefor why Islam is the correct belief.

http://www.thetruereligion.org/christianity.htm

That should be a good place to start. They've rearranged that site since I last visited, I can't find my away around properly now ;D But that specific page has Muslim-Christian dialoges and other resources that I hope you'll find helpful.

May Allah guide you towards the truth. ;D
Take care sis.
[slm]
Re: what's wrong with me???
jannah
08/22/03 at 01:31:59
salam missy,

I don't know why it has to be a giving up of your values. Islam reveres Jesus as a respected prophet of God. He is not divine but he is a prophet and messenger of God and came with a good message. You're not "leaving christianity" in a sense, you are coming back to christianity's true message through Islam. God should always be there in your life regardless of you being christian or muslim, he hasn't "failed" you, you've always been just seeking God and trying to find the best way to live to fulfill his guidance. As for doing good deeds to go to Heaven, how else do u get there? Even in christianity it is important to do good deeds to be a good person.

I just think it's important to emphasize it's not like an either or, you're going to hell or i'm going to hell thing. i think each person should seek their own path to God with knowledge and learning and respect other's choices as well.
Re: what's wrong with me???
UmmWafi
08/22/03 at 01:52:59
[slm] Sis Missy

I have heard of such statements before. "Why do you do this when God ha given u so much?' "Why don't u do this when God has given u so much?'.  And yes usually guilt and fear will come.  But along the way, I have come to realise one simple thing.  Nothing we do or do not do change the way God is.  He is God.  He is Supreme.  His Supremeness is not affected by what we do.  It doesn't matter if there is only one person worshipping Him or if there are a million worshipping Him.  He is still Supreme.  One person doesn't make Him lesser neither do one million make him more.  U cannot improve on Perfection nor detract it.  That is why the concept of God-hood in Islam is beautiful.

Why then does He lay down all these Commands for us to obey ?  Not because He will feel Happy or Angry with us. Rather it is so that we will live ur lives in the best manner possible so that we can have peace and beauty on earth.  Islam requires you to fast.  Why ? So that you will have compassion and understanding in your heart.  When you have compassion, you learn to give instead of just take.  When you give, then you affect others positively and they in turn will continue his cycle of positivity.  So you see, don't just worship because of gratitude.  Yes we must feel gratitude.  But more importantly, we must worship becase we feel love for our Creator and we want to do everything we can for the one we Love.  We must want to do everything so that we can see Him in the Hereafter, in Jannah, Inshaa Allah.  But in order to love someone, we must know Him.  Ask yourself who you think you can know with the sincerest of your soul ? Allah or Jesus as God ? Asking what ifs question is very natural Missy, we all do it.  Maybe you can try to do this trick.  Ask yourself very sincerely, between the Holy Qur'an and the Bible, which do you trust with infallibility.

Last check, no one has yet managed to succeed in proving that the Qur'an is indeed the word of God.

My du'a for your inner peace and hidayah from Allah SWT, Ameen.

Wassalam
Re: what's wrong with me???
timbuktu
08/22/03 at 03:05:36
[slm] & may Allah (swt) guide you to the peace that comes with complete faith

[quote author=UmmWafi link=board=madrasa;num=1061521754;start=0#3 date=08/22/03 at 01:52:59] Last check, no one has yet managed to succeed in proving that the Qur'an is indeed the word of God.[/quote]

sister, surely you mean disproving
Re: what's wrong with me???
eleanor
08/22/03 at 08:42:14
[slm]

hang in there missy, I know where you are coming from. You have converted to Islam because you are sure that it is the truth. Just stick to this thought inside your head or saying it out loud to others. For me, accepting that Islam is the truth was the easiest part of converting. I had and am still having huge difficulties with fulfilling the other aspects of Islam. The aspects that make Islam a way of life and not just a religion.

One way or the other - if I continue to live like I lived before, or if I go the full way and become a fully fledged 24/7 practising Muslim (insha Allah) I know one thing; I can never, ever, ever go back to being a Christian and believing that Jesus is the Son of God. That has just died for me. And I think that the belief - La illaha illah Allah, Muhammadan Rasulullah counts for something too. If only for the peace of mind that you know the truth.

Wishing you all the best and keep posting :)
Re: what's wrong with me???
sofia
08/22/03 at 08:58:30
As-salaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah, Missy

In addition to all that God has done for you, He also helped you come into the religion of Islaam.  :)  
Alhamdulillah.

I've realized something that I don't often convey to non-Muslims, in trying to explain Islaam. And that is that it's the abrogater. Islaam includes all of the good, pure teachings of previous Divine teachings, and leaves the harmful and tainted aspects of them behind. So anyone who has been given true information about Islaam needs to understand that Islaam abrogates all previous religions. This was true of Christianity at the time of Isa/Jesus, alayhis salaam/upon him be peace. His teachings abrogated Judaism (as it existed prior to him). And so on. If Islaam is truly the Perfected Deen, as Allah indicates in the Qur'aan, then we have a duty to uphold His message, that will remain unchanged until the Day of Judgement. Going from Islaam to Christianity, in that sense, is like going backwards. Same as going from Christianity to Judaism. Which is why there are soooo many Christians who come into Islaam, and so few the other way around. Compare learned Christians and their change in belief to learned Muslims. There are [i]countless[/i] former Priests and Christian scholars who came into Islaam, because they understood Christianity, and they understood Islaam is its natural successor. We'd be hard-pressed to find an Imam or Muslim scholar who left Islaam for Christianity. The only ones I've heard of had faulty knowledge of Islaam.

Otherwise, know this, sis. Anyone who leaves their former beliefs for Islaam will be rewarded for what they did. And anyone who leaves a former Divine religion for its natural successor will be rewarded twice. The Qur'aan often talks about using logic and wisdom to realize that "the ways of our forefathers" are not necessarily the right ways. We are not blind followers. Islaam [i]is[/i] the thinking person's religion. You made a conscious choice. And the [i]right[/i] choice. :)

It is not easy to leave old traditions (that are mainly based on superstition and habit), and Islaam recognizes that. Born Muslims have to face a similar challenge, in rejecting customs that have crept their way into Islaam that are not part of Islaamic teachings. Sometimes, our own parents look at us funny!

Stay strong, sis. We're all here for you, insha'Allah. May Allah make it easy for you and keep you and us all steadfast in this deen, aameen. Also, try to keep company with some Muslims (while not rejecting your family). And read/study the Qu'raan whenever you can. Insha'Allah.
Re: what's wrong with me???
Fozia
08/22/03 at 11:43:54
[slm]

Dear Sis Missy (love the tag btw).
Everyone has given you really good advice, I've got more of a question for you, what made you revert in the first place??? I've a couple of really close friends who reverted and I know it's not a decision made on impulse, they researched and learnt more in a few years than most born muslims do in a life time....

As to the heaven and hell thingy. I don't recall where I read this but somewhere I did;
It is enscribed above Allahs throne 'My mercy overcomes my anger'...Think about it, I do frequently and fully intend to be holding onto this thought when I am about to meet my creator.


Love & Duaas
Re: what's wrong with me???
missy
08/22/03 at 12:04:46
[slm],

I feel much better today.  :)  I know I made the right decision in choosing Islam. And thank you all for the replies, I know I do need to read a little more than I have been.. :-[
I would never go back to being Christian, it doesn't make sense to me anymore at all, there's a book I'm reading, and it says 'how does the Creator become the creation?' and that's something that I remember and really keep in my mind when she's talking and I thought of trying to explain that to my sister last night, but I know she wouldn't listen..But today is much better.  Thank you again for the replies :)
Re: what's wrong with me???
Nomi
08/22/03 at 12:08:21
[slm] sis missy

I think you should make some practical Muslim friends to whom you can talk to about islaam, share your feelings and they'll keep sharing different aspects of religion with you which will inshAllah help you keep steadfast.

Bro WhiteSomali is himself a revert and i think he came up with a very good suggestion along with the others.

I'll pray in God for you inshAllah
Take good care sis
Your brother in islaam :)
Re: what's wrong with me???
missy
08/22/03 at 12:19:17
[quote]what made you revert in the first place I've a couple of really close friends who reverted and I know it's not a decision made on impulse, they researched and learnt more in a few years than most born muslims do in a life time.... [/quote]

[slm] Fozia,
 What made me revert in the first place was after a lot of research, reading, praying and talking with my fiance and 2 other muslim friends, I knew in my heart that it was the right path to follow. It made much more sense than Chritianity, and when I was a Christian I always felt like there was something missing, but now I don't. This is the first time since I reverted that I even thought of questioning it.

and [quote]love the tag btw[/quote]
what's a tag???
Re: what's wrong with me???
Fozia
08/22/03 at 12:41:39
[quote author=missy link=board=madrasa;num=1061521754;start=0#10 date=08/22/03 at 12:19:17]

 
what's a tag??? [/quote]

[slm]

The name 'Missy' I think it sounds really cute, I used to go to school with a girl called Mimi, but for some reason the geography teacher kept mistaking  her name for Missy.... This was years ago but your name/tag reminds me that's all...

Wasalaam


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