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sabeena
09/06/03 at 06:13:41
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i have this friend who wants to start wearing the hijab. we r n da same class and have just started 'O' levels (high school), and r both 14 . this is in islamabad, in a 'rich kid' skool, which makes kids here all the more snobbish.

newayz, its not like she duznt have a lot of support, and she knows its fard. plus her mom and aunts do it.

the problem is, according to what she says, that since we have just started 'o' levels, she already  has a big load on her, and the girls in the other class (sections of the same grade) wont ever leave her alone if she does start (wearing the hijab) even though they too know that they have to do it.

the only other person who wears it is myself.

i dont think she is totally convinced that she has to do it.

if somebbody could provide some links to any sites or articles that they think r convincing that would b great. plz include ur own advice. i no im just going on and on but plz i need ur advice.

wasalaam

ps plz keep in mind our age and location.
Re: advise please
Nisa
09/06/03 at 07:55:30
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Sis, I came across this recently, inshaAllah it will help in convincing your friend  :-*  My own advise...gentle encouragement...the fact that the sister realizes the obligation of wearing hijaab is step one out the way.  After realization....we must intend to cover ourselves for the sake of pleasing Allah swt and forget what people think.  We are to account for our actions to Him alone, for He is our Judge, no-one else.


~*~*~*~*~*~Why Should I Wear Hijaab?~*~*~*~*~*~

This is a good question and there is a beautiful answer! Allah has commanded us with every action that is good for us and prohibited us from performing every action that is bad for us. Allah orders the Muslim woman to wear the hijaab when she steps out of the security of her home or when in the presence of strange men. So to wear the hijaab is a source of great good for you - the Muslim woman - for many reasons. Among them:

1. You please Allah. You are obeying the commands of your Lord when you wear the hijaab and you can expect great rewards in return.

2. It is Allah's protection of your natural beauty. You are too precious to be "on display" for each man to see.

3. It is Allah's preservation of your chastity.

4. Allah purifies your heart and mind through the hijaab.

5. Allah beautifies your inner and outer countenance with hijaab. Outwardly your hijaab reflects innocence, purity, modesty, shyness, serenity,  contentment and obedience to your Lord. Inwardly you cultivate the same.

6. Allah defines your femininity through the hijaab. You are a woman who  respects her womanhood. Allaah wants you to be respected by others, and for you to respect yourself.

7. Allah raises your dignity through the hijaab. When a strange man looks  at you, he respects you because he sees that you respect yourself.

8. Allah protects your honour 100% through your hijaab. Men do not gaze at you in a sensual way, they do not approach you in a sensual way, and neither do they speak to you in a sensual way. Rather, a man holds you in high esteem and that is just by one glance at you!

9. Allah gives you nobility through the hijaab. You are noble not degraded because you covered not naked.

10. Allah demonstrates your equality as a Muslim woman through the hijaab. Your Lord bestows upon you equal worth as your male counterpart, and gives you a host of beautiful rights and liberties. You express your acceptance of these unique rights by putting on the hijaab.

11. Alaah defines your role as a Muslim woman through the hijaab. You are a someone with important duties. You are a reflection of a woman of action not idle pursuits. You display your sense of direction and purpose through your hijaab. You are someone that people take seriously.

12. Allah expresses your independence through the hijaab. You are stating clearly that you are an obedient servant of the Greatest Master. You will obey no one else and follow no other way. You are not a slave to any man, nor a slave to any nation. You are free and independent from all man-made systems.

13. Allah gives you the freedom of movement and expression through the hijaab. You are able to move about and communicate without fear of harassment. Your hijaab gives you a unique confidence.

14. Allah wants others to treat you - a Muslim woman - with kindness. And the hijaab brings about the best treatment of men towards you.

15. Allah wants your beauty to be preserved and saved for just one man to enjoy - your husband.

16. Allah helps you to enjoy a successful marriage through wearing hijaab. Because you reserve your beauty for one man alone, your husband's love for you increases, he cherishes you more, he respects you more and he honours you more. So your hijaab contributes to a successful and lasting marriage relationship.

17. Allah brings about peace and stability in the society through the hijaab! Yes this is true! Men do not cause corruption by forming illegal relationships because you - the Muslim woman - calm their passions. When a man looks at you, he feels at ease, not tempted to fornicate.

So a Muslim woman in hijaab is dignified, not dishonoured, noble, not degraded, liberated, not subjugated, purified, not sullied, independent, not a slave, protected, not exposed, respected, not laughed at, confident, not insecure, obedient, not a sinner, a guarded pearl, not a prostitute.

Dear Muslim sister! Come towards the gates of Paradise with us! Fulfill your duties towards Allaah, put on your adornment - put on your hijaab, and race towards Jannah (Paradise) by doing all good actions. You should agree by now that wearing hijaab is extremely beneficial - it must be - because Allah only commands what is good. and believe me dear sister, it is good to obey the commands of your Lord.

"Their reward is with their Lord: Gardens of Eden underneath which rivers  flow wherein they will dwell for ever; Allah is pleased with them, and they are pleased with Him; this is (in store) for whoever fears his Lord."  [Sooratul-Bayyinah 98:8]

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Re: advise please
sabeena
09/07/03 at 06:49:50
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thank u sister that was beautiful. im going to send it to her now.

and is that thing 'women was made from the rib..' a hadith or somthing?

wasalaam

:-)


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