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| Save A suicide candidate |
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| reliefchaser |
| 09/30/03 at 23:54:24 |
| Can/Will you please consider Hotel of Relief! - My Ultimate Resort? Live and Relieve !Share it ! Save A suicide candidate . Help turn misery,despair,deprivation, frustration,disappointment,darkness,... into Hope and Light Hi ! First, thank you for caring to log in to my page in the first place . That’s a good sign . At least of courtesy doing . Second, I’d like to assure you that I’m far from being a dishonest person , a liar, a scammer ,or the like . Actually, I suffered much , so much from my honesty . And that is a long story . This may be my last email in this life . I’m extremely fed up with my unbearable conditions that I’m seriously considering suicide . Yesterday’s afternoon , I went online searching for those best ways to commit it efficiently . I thought of writing this prior to that . Who cares ??? but I’m writing it anyways . I’m fully aware it’s no easy decision , but sometimes I’m so convinced it’s my only hope of relief . Last week(14Sept,03) I was completely blinded by my suffering, pain , anger, disappointment , frustration(you name it) that I was on the very very verge of committing it . I reached a hypnotic state of despair where suicide can be committed without any feeling of pain or regret ….cos you’re dopey by despair . I’ve never had any experience of sth enjoyable during my whole 35 years . I’m incredibly unfortunate , extremely unlucky and apparently(I mean obviously)doomed to failure and bad fate . This is not because of me , mind you ! …I’m a good person , well educated , well disciplined, well behaved , sapient, phlegmatic, persevering , and even fairly optimistic and resilient . It’s not a matter of patience and endurance at all . It’s about intolerable pain and its consequences on my physical,mental and psychic health . 35 years of disappointment on all levels started to ultimately and inevitably affect the strong man in me . It’s beyond me . My misery and deprivation have caused me suffer constant chronic severe headache and breath complications . Physicians could do nothing about it . They said it has all to do with my psyche and that I need to lighten up and cheer up . I can’t afford that . Constant brooding turns my mind dopey and narcotic most of the time . People in my case would take dope and resort to excessive drinking , pornography and stuff to diffuse depression . I don’t . It’s all a continuing series of unfortnate blows . I quit during my graduating year in protest against being wrongly accused of plagiarism by a hateful , selfish and envious prof . All the student community were astounded and attested to my honesty, intelligence, perseverance and academic excellence . The prof later took my fiance-to be, too . At work , my efforts and workoholism were never recognized ; worse, was schemed against and fired(for abstaining to assist in committing their fraud) . The hard gained savings with which I intended to buy my lodging , a car and get married were defrauded in an investment scam . I’m unemployed for three years now . I applied widely and incessantly , but to no avail . I’m suffering hair loss and teeth loss as a consequence of all this . The only hope that has kept alive so far is that poor girl who loves me so much and is counting on me desperately , unware of my circumstances . Worse, she lives out of my country . How in hell can I save our souls when I’m mired in poverty myself ??? My inability to save that girl is adding up to my suffering hugely . Can anybody help ???? I need some funds . I cant stand it anymore . I think of escaping to the other world where I will be completely detached from this world and unware of my fiance’s sufferings and impossible expectations . I seriously envisage resorting to that refuge . Any normal person in my situation would . I have no alternatives right now . Yet, yet , yet I I I still have a flickering so flickering tiny hope for a last chance of rekindling and rejuvenation before my final relapse in the dumps . This kinda request humbles one ‘s pride . Who cares about pride now ? What’s the use of it when the body and soul themselves can be part at any moment , it’s just a matter of time . I pledge your support . I don’t know whether I will wait till I get though . I love all . So_miserable@survivormail.com P.S. At doomsday,I will not forgive anyone who was able to help relieve and abstained from it . Failing ability,I sollicited that you link to this site(if you have a webpage) by adding this url at the bottom of your webpage or other directories . My sincere gratitude in advance . |
| Can’t help committing suicide? |
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| Anonymous |
| 09/30/03 at 22:43:33 |
| Salamu Alaikum, Hi everybody! I'm a muslim .I have always been .I'm so miserable, suffering incredible deprivation on all levels . I can't stand it anymore;it's just beyond me . Mired in disappointment,misery and affliction for two decades . Suicide is seen as my ultimate resort for relief . Just one more waiting chance for that last spark of light/hope that may or may not come.To know more about my story ,please do me the favor-may be the last one-of visiting my website here: [color=red] [ Website removed by Admin ] [/color] |
| 09/30/03 at 22:44:33 |
| Anonymous |
| Re: Can’t help committing suicide? |
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| jannah |
| 09/30/03 at 23:14:18 |
| [wlm] Suicide is haram in Islam. It is a major sin. The one who commits it will be doing that same action over and over again in the Hellfire forever. ie shooting themselves, falling, drowning etc. It has such a big punishment because it is such a big sin. Life is a gift and the one who throws it away is disgraceful. The relief from this world is temporary but the punishment is enternal. There are many people in the world who are suffering more than you and I are. You for example have internet to write to people and tell them about your suffering, there are others that don't even have that in the depths of their pain and injustice. Remember that this world is a test and it will be filled with pain and hardship. We were originally sent here to the earth as punishment, how can we expect jannah in the dunya!! There are many excellent resources that can help you. Check in your school and community, find people to talk to about your feelings of helplessness etc. It might be that you are severely clinically depressed and there are medications and help for illnesses like that. This was an excellent talk given by an Imam that I think may help you: http://www.jannah.org/jannahradio/StationOfSabr.ram |
| 09/30/03 at 23:17:47 |
| jannah |
| Re: Can’t help committing suicide? |
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| WhiteSomali |
| 10/01/03 at 00:36:59 |
| [wlm] Anon I'ma need to be blunt wif you. Suicide isn't an option for Muslims. A quick search on the internet is probably all you'd need to do to find multiple fatwas about it. Like Sis Jannah said, people who commit suicide are gon be commiting suicide forever in the Hellfire. So it doesn't matter how bad what you're going through is, because suicide isn't an escape, it's only gon make it worse. It's about the farthest thing from an ultimate source of relief you'll find. Salah is a better source of relief. It worked for me. It's working for hundreds of millions of Muslims worldwide and countless Muslims in the past. If you're not praying your five times daily, you should start doing so. If you are, start praying the 2 Sunnah before fajr, 4 before Dhuhr, 2 after Dhuhr, 2 after Maghrib and 2 after Isha plus Witr. Truss me, it'll help a LOT insha Allah. And remember that Allah will never burden a soul wit more than it can handle. Sometimes things get rough, even for long periods of times. But we don't really have any choice but to keep on pushing forward. You'll be in my duas. [slm] |
| Re: Save A suicide candidate |
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| Kathy |
| 10/01/03 at 08:11:53 |
| [slm] Does anyone have a good article i can send to someone who is in such deep dispair? If it is in Arabic it would even be better. |
| Re: Save A suicide candidate |
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| sofia |
| 10/01/03 at 11:24:36 |
| [slm] First, go to your local masjid. Go there for every prayer, as often as you possibly can (for males, at least). Tahajjud, even. Second, read as much Qur'aan as you can. It is a guidance and healing/shifaa' for the believers. [quote]I’m incredibly unfortunate , extremely unlucky and apparently(I mean obviously)doomed to failure and bad fate . This is not because of me , mind you ! …I’m a good person , well educated , well disciplined, well behaved , sapient, phlegmatic, persevering , and even fairly optimistic and resilient[/quote] Third, our complaints/needs should be directed to God. He is the one who Hears and Knows and Sees all things. Once we take our complaints (like "bad fate") to others, we are complaining against God. How can anyone not recognize any ni'ma/blessing from Him? And any tests that we are given are either a means of punishment and/or purification of our sins to get closer to Him. So have sabr/patience to gain the reward for your suffering, rather than let it go to waste with complaints. We know, as Muslims, that we are not given any burden more than we can bear, nor is Allah ever unjust, and with every hardship comes ease. Fourth, you may or may not need medication for your condition. There may be some physical/chemical imbalance that's leading to your depressed state, so get checked out. [quote]I will not forgive anyone who was able to help relieve and abstained from it.[/quote] Allah will have mercy on those who have mercy on others. Learn to forgive now, before the Day when we will *all* need forgiveness the most. Rely on Allah. May He make it easy for you and straighten your affairs, aameen. |
| 10/01/03 at 12:49:24 |
| sofia |
| Re: Save A suicide candidate |
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| faith |
| 10/02/03 at 03:27:31 |
| [slm] Brother, You have to turn and ask Allah to help you through your ordeal. Many verses in the qur'an explain the predicament of people in your situation. Those who are thinking of committing suicide are people in despair, who have lost the hope for God's Mercy. Remember, that Allah is most Just [al-Ad'l]. Allah have mentioned that He gives those to taste a little Hell on earth in order that they will remember Allah. It is time for you to reflect and evaluate yourself: why are the things going wrong in my life? Repent to Allah for all your wrong-doings, and pray for Allah to bestow His Mercy upon you. I have pasted many verses of the Qur'an that deals with despair, suicide, little hell on earth, and also what Allah has commanded us to do in order to obtain tranquility. Surah As-Sajdah: 32:21 And verily, We will make them [taste of the near torment /b] (i.e. the torment in the life of this world, i.e. disasters, calamities, etc.) prior to the supreme torment (in the Hereafter), in order that they may (repent and) return (i.e. accept Islam). Surah An-Nisa: 4:29 O you who believe! Eat not up your property among yourselves unjustly except it be a trade amongst you, by mutual consent. And do not kill yourselves (nor kill one another). Surely, Allah is Most Merciful to you. Surah Yusuf: 12:87 "O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yusuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve." Surah Ar-Rum: 30:36 And when We cause mankind to taste of mercy, they rejoice therein, but when some evil afflicts them because of (evil deeds and sins) that their (own) hands have sent forth, lo! They are in despair! Surah Az-Zumar: 39:53 Say: "O 'Ibadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. Lastly, this is the most beautiful verse to help us realise that Allah is Just and He will only test us with what we can bear. But Allah also commands us to ask from Him. Surah Al-Baqarah: 2:286 Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope. He gets reward for that (good) which he has earned, and he is punished for that (evil) which he has earned. (Pray:)"Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error, our Lord! Lay not on us a burden like that which You did lay on those before us (Jews and Christians); our Lord! Put not on us a burden greater than we have strength to bear. Pardon us and grant us Forgiveness. Have mercy on us. You are our Maula (Patron, Suppor-ter and Protector, etc.) and give us victory over the disbelieving people." Have hope in God's Mercy, brother Relief Chaser, and you will find His Mercy. Your life is precious. Live you life in accordance with what Allah has commanded us to, and you will find peace and happiness. |
| 10/02/03 at 03:32:01 |
| faith |
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