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| What pleases parents? |
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| wired-up |
| 10/08/03 at 03:07:25 |
| Assalamuaalikum I was wondering what children do that can make parents overjoyed ? ;D Have you done anything for your mummy or daaddy and seen the happiness very obviously by their reaction/expression? Mummy /daddies on the board what have your children done as a kind gesture that just made your heart melt? Please share .:) Wassalaam |
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| Nomi |
| 10/08/03 at 03:40:39 |
| [slm] Me with my mother.... 1] By standing next to her and compare heights wearing this smiley => ;D 2] By acting dumb and speaking Punjabi :P 3] Asking her if there is any improvement in my bisup (sp?) muscle. anyone calling me a jerk will be hanged :P |
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| Kathy |
| 10/08/03 at 21:05:12 |
| [slm] Yesterday I had some minor surgery. It went kinda well, but I was still too weak to move from the couch. Ali called my hubby at work, the first time he has ever done this, and asked him to bring home dinner! About 30 minutes later he came out of the kitchen with mozzerella cheese and crackers, some Bugles and a kids juice box! Just the idea that he was thinking of me and got me all his favorite foods just tickled me! |
| 10/08/03 at 21:05:37 |
| Kathy |
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| jannah |
| 10/09/03 at 14:06:18 |
| [slm] I hope it went well Kathy and ur ok...inshaAllah. |
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| yumna |
| 10/09/03 at 14:44:11 |
| [slm]um parents i uess if i do reaaaalllly good in studies an uno inshallah do become a DOCTOR ...no a SURGEON ...no a heart surgeon successful one of Al shifa international then :-* :-) [wlm] |
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| sofia |
| 10/09/03 at 15:32:32 |
| As-salaamu 'alaykum wa rahmatullah, Masha'Allah, excellent topic. I can't answer you question, since I'm not a parent, but if I had to ask my parents, they'd prob say: -kids who willingly practice their deen from a young age on their own without having to be coerced by their parents (my Mom's impressed by the youth who come to the masjid with or without their parents); -being neat and punctual (my Mom's big on organization and punctuality); -completing some sort of education and having a stable job (for my Dad, at least - must be a dad-thing, stability); -not being an extravagant spender (my Mom's big on reducing waste and not spending frivolously). They're otherwise easy to please, masha'Allah. But mannn, what *really* gets my mom excited is when we try to speak fluent Urdu or Punjaabi (regardless of how badly), since it's unfortunately rare (speaking for myself, no pun intended). :) Here's a related article I had come across while searching for topics on Ihsaan, which includes honoring one's parents. http://www.islamicvoice.com/march.2002/living.htm Excerpt (have heard slightly different narrations, Allahu 'Alim): A person came to the Messenger of Allah and narrated, “O Messenger of Allah! I carried my mother on my back from Yemen for Hajj, performed Tawaf of the House, performed Sai between Safa and Marwah, stayed in Arafat, brought her to Muzdalifah, stoned the pillars in Mina. I did all this carrying her on my back, as she is too old even to move. Have I fulfilled my obligations to her?” The Prophet responded in the negative. The person wondered why. The Prophet responded, “Whatever she did when you were little, she did with a strong desire for you to live. Whatever you have done for her, you have done while desiring her death.” [quote]I hope it went well Kathy and ur ok...inshaAllah.[/quote] Yeah, insha'Allah. |
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| wired-up |
| 10/09/03 at 17:02:17 |
| Assalamualaikum :) Well I started this thread because I know that i'm a very bad kid.When I read of the high status Allah (swt) has bestowed on one's parents I really feel ashamed because i am soo totally lacking in fulfilling my duties towards them . When I was a kid and my folks didn't listen to my endless wishes I'd say to my parents,"You should thank Allah (swt) that he blessed you with children who are such goody2shoes ,who do well academically and stay away from trouble ."Stupid me didn't realise I was supposed to say "Alhamdullilah!I've been blessed with parents who neither beat me nor abuse me and always have my best interests in mind." So we do take our parents for granted .Atleast quite a lot of times honestly . Akhi nomi you are supposed to tell us what you DID for your ammi.Like bought her flowers ,or washed the dishes, or dusted the house or something like that .:) My mum would never believe that I actually grew taller than her ...she just couldn't believe it for the longest time.Then when we compared heights she was like ,"haan jee such mein!" :o.(oh really its true!) Sister Kathy Inshallah you are a-okay..Everyone knows Ali is a cutie-pie,Mashallah. He's just got the natural charm.:) Bigs$i$ Jannah are you trying to dodge the topic under discussion. ???(Oh maan!!!! I still owe you a HUGE JazaKhAllah Kheir for our Amazin'Race prize .It was Just super splendid!We all loved it tonnes !It sure was a long trek from California to Kuwait.) Yumna Inshallah you going to be a hi-fy heart surgeon at Shifa Intl.:) Sis Sophia my hindi/urdu isn't thaat bad but when I speak to my relatives back home all the incorrect/inappropriate words come out.i dunnow why? Maybe I should practice more.Maybe Akhi Bhaloo can give us all coaching? with notes? ::) I think my parents would pay me if i promised to stop whining ...lol...i think thats one thing i'd like to relieve them of ..my incessant moaning and whining..Inshallah.. ..Wassalam. ps:sorry for the long post. |
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| Caraj |
| 10/09/03 at 17:48:32 |
| I can think of so many things that pleased me about my children, things that touched my heart. I woke one morning and saw the time (late wondering why my alarm had not gone off) and hurried to wake my son, on the table was a note, mom I thought you might like to sleep in on your day off, I made my own breakfast, love ....... The little clay vase and the handprint in the clay I still have that they made me. (They are 24 and 25) I use to give my sons an allowance for extra chores, one week-end after getting his allowance one of my sons went off with his grandmother, I fully and totally expected this boy to buy a toy or candy as he sure earned it, he bought me a pair of earrings :o I was so shocked and touched, after all the things he mentioned he wanted to save money for and then to do that. Those 2 dollar earrings that quickly tarnished mean more to me than any expensive ones and I still have them after 15 years or more years ;) My daughter-in-laws have no idea how they please me, both of them. A mothers heart is filled with joy beyond belief when you can tell your adult childs spouse love them. My daughter-in-laws, both will have a certain smile toward their husbands, a certain look, a touch of the cheek, a hand to smooth out a hair on their head that is out of place, that wifely affection and preening that is so cute. In warms my heart and please me so to see both my daughter-in-laws show love and affection toward my sons in ways you would think no one noticed, when I am with them. Seeing my son pull his wife to him and making her sit on his lap so he can hug her, I am please to see my sons so affectionate with their wives :) One day years ago I had to sit instantly on the floor I was in so much pain out of the blue. I went to my bedroon and closed the door and fell to the floor. My son worried and asked to come in when I was taking so long. He was about 14 or 15. I finally let him in and he sat on the floor, asked if he should call an ambulance, I replied no and he just sat there and talked to me as I sat doubled over, rocking and hoping the pain would pass. (and it did) What compassion of a teen-ager. He was worried yet stayed calm and stayed by my side till it passed. Seeing my son hold his newborn daughter so tenderly and lovingly pleases me. Knowing this little girl will be raised with love. And the same love I see in his wifes eye toward him she shows when she holds her daughter. awwwwwwwwwwww, I am very blessed and many things my sons have done in their childhood and adulthood please me, guess I should go take them one at a time to dinner and tell them what I remembered and how much they mean to me :-* I got some awsome kids, Thank God for such precious gifts. |
| 10/09/03 at 17:53:32 |
| Caraj |
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| faith |
| 10/10/03 at 09:48:13 |
| [slm] For me, :) its making my mother happy with simple stuff, like driving her to the market, or getting groceries for her. and sometimes, to massage her to relief her aches. and, sometimes, out of the blue, buy her a dress or a scarf, for no special occasion. and sometimes, take her to the nursery, to shop for flowers for her garden. simple stuff, done out of the blue, and without reasons, are best in surprising them in a pleasing manner. [] :-) |
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| Fozia |
| 10/10/03 at 10:10:56 |
| [slm] Sr Azizah that just makes me :'( :'( :'( The nicest things I do for my parents are usually when they need something, I'm the first person my mother rings in an emergency, I've got bags of common sense me (in a dizzy sort of way :P). The nicest thing I've done for my mother that I remember (dunno if that's what my mother remembers) is rushing to my mother's house when she had flu and making her home made remedies to get well. A bit like she used to do when I was sick. Wassalaam |
| Parents in the Noble Quraan |
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| wired-up |
| 10/13/03 at 06:10:12 |
| Assalamualaikum Really wanted to share a few verses in the Quraan that speak of parents. :) In the Name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful: "Worship Allah and join not partners with Him and do good to parents..."(4:36) "They ask you what they should spend. Say: Whatever you spend that is good is for parents and kindred and orphans and those in want and for wayfarers. And whatever you do that is good,-Allah has its knowledge." (2:215) "And your Sustainer has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you are dutiful towards your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor. And lower to them the wing of submission and humility and say,"O My Sustainer! Bestow on them Your mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." (17:23-24) "And We have enjoined on Man (to be good and dutiful) to his parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship, Upon weakness and hardship and his weaning is in two-years. Show gratitude to Me and to your parents:To Me is is the Final destination."(31:14) "But if they strive with you to associate with Me that which you have no knowledge, then obey them not; Yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration). And follow the way of those who turn to Me. In the end the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth of all you did." (31:15) (Jesus said) "And He has made me kind to my mother and not overbearing nor miserable"(19:32) JazakahAllah Kheir for reading. :) Wasalaam |
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| Aabidah |
| 10/13/03 at 10:23:23 |
| [slm] As I read the posts of the gracious acts done by children towards their parents, it makes me think of the endless gracious acts done by our parents towards us. SubhanAllah, they have done so much for us and they still do a lot. By the Grace and Mercy of Allahu SubhanaHu Wata'ala, our parents gave us life, raised, fed, dressed and protected us from our infancy to the age of self-efficiency. No matter what age you are, our parents will continue thinking of us and have our best interests in mind. My extended family live back home, in Turkey, and when my mom doesn't call my grandfather back every 2 or 3 days to catch up, he will get worried and call repeated times to make sure everything is okay. MashaAllah, I dont think there is a greater sacrifice than what a parent makes. May Allahu SubhanaHu Wata'ala grant our parents health, long life, a sane mind, a heart full of Iman and may He grant our parents Jannah as their final abode. Ameen. [wlm] Betul |
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| jaihoon |
| 10/13/03 at 11:06:13 |
| [slm] - finally bringing home the the grocery items that she has been tellin me to buy for the past one week ::) makes my mom happy... :) |
| 10/13/03 at 11:08:24 |
| jaihoon |
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