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| Dealing with Bosses |
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| faith |
| 10/18/03 at 10:16:11 |
| [slm] Let me start by saying that I am not here to fault other people, esp. my bosses, but I need to know how to deal with them in this situation. I work in finance and I report to the CFO. He is generally a good guy and a good sense of justice, and will speak out against what he considers wrong. I get along with him quite well, since I tend to agree on same issues, affecting the company. Its just that he disagrees on some strategies done by the CEO, which of course affects the finances, and generally, disapproves of the ways of the CEO which can be construed as greedy. Its just his (cfo) mannerisms that I think its a bit rough. He'll use bad words to express disapproval, which I tolerate, but he slanders/backbite about his boss (ceo) and make fun and in front of me. Sometimes, the things he says are true, and funny, and I forget (in that moment) and laugh along. At other times, my lips are :-X I am trying to Live Islam, and I know its wrong to even sit in the presence of those who are slandering/back biting/making fun of others, even if one is quiet, let alone, one who is actually doing the slandering/back biting/making fun. On the other hand, I don't wish to act "holier than thou" attitude, and give a lecture to my boss. So, how do I deal with this? |
| 10/18/03 at 10:18:49 |
| faith |
| Re: Dealing with Bosses |
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| Caraj |
| 10/18/03 at 12:12:12 |
| Not sure I should touch this subject as I am a big fan of self-emplyment as I have not the self disapline to put up with people who I am uncomfortable around. [s]start your own company[/s] You can express your being uncomfortable without being holier than thou and giving the lecture. Maybe say something like. Excuse me Sir, (he looks up) I know there are things the ceo does that you do not agree with but it puts me in an arkward situation when you speak so bluntly about him. Now I value your trust in me and I don't want you to feel arkward around me, but, can you be a little bit more careful how you phrase things in the future. 2nd idea, look real shocked next time and make a comment on how he could make a tree blush 3rd idea, everytime this happens excuse yourself, go to different area or maybe the rest room and say a little pray, take a deep breath and go back, if he continues do it again and again and again till he gets the point. HEY :-[ Do this during Ramadan and when he asks what you are doing tell him you made a desision that during Ramadan anytime someone curses you would say a little pray ;) tell him it is like a curse jar where people put a quarter in everytime they cursed but it is a pray/dua jar ;D I don't know if this helps as I am big on self employment and when people bug me or make me mad or feel arkward I stop selling to them and go and get 2 new customers to take their place and I am blunt and make no bones about it. Maybe some of the sisters or Bros on the board who work in the cooperate world can help better than I as I am a very blunt and to the point person and that is a nono in the coop world unless you own the company. Best wishes |
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| timbuktu |
| 10/18/03 at 18:33:30 |
| [slm] great ideas, particularly this one: [quote]3rd idea, everytime this happens excuse yourself, go to different area or maybe the rest room and say a little pray, take a deep breath and go back, if he continues do it again and again and again till he gets the point. HEY Do this during Ramadan and when he asks what you are doing tell him you made a desision that during Ramadan anytime someone curses you would say a little pray tell him it is like a curse jar where people put a quarter in everytime they cursed but it is a pray/dua jar[/quote] depending on the nature of the boss, he may accept your reaction to his bad-mouthing, or he may not. You do need to ask Allah (wt) for help, & help does come. |
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| faith |
| 10/19/03 at 10:00:44 |
| [slm] Sister Azizah, your ideas are really cute, I was ;D and laughing whilst reading your suggestions! (especially the 3rd one) I was just imagining myself dashing off to the washroom every time he curses and bad mouthes, and imagining the reactions from my boss, from perplexed at first, to being annoyed later. Btw, what do you mean by [quote]make a comment on how he could make a tree blush [/quote] ? I haven't heard that expression before. Thanks again sister Azizah and brother Timbuktu. Please pray for me to have the courage to do something about this (by trying out your suggestions first). :-) |
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| se7en |
| 10/19/03 at 16:53:38 |
salaam, just don't laugh at his jokes. most people tend to stop making jokes, feel a bit embarassed/sheepish if the other person doesn't find them funny. |
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